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tinytort posted:It sounds like they just cope with lice, or at least like the adults are going "ehhh, lice happen, it's nothing to be embarrassed about or fuss over". Which is...weird, and also sounds like they might be the reason why the little sister's school has been struggling with a prolonged outbreak. My guess is that the school hasn't pinpointed this yet, or CPS would get called. wasn't there something on their main page once about how autistic people are nothing but a burden to their families? Not fleas. Fleas suck for everyone. I remember having to refuse to take in a guinea pig because the rescue foster home had fleas. I was assured that the piggie didn't have them, and that's because the woman knew fleas didn't jump from one cage to another. AITA for my reaction for the news of the new grandkid coming and telling them to get their poo poo together quote:My daughter recommended me to this Reddit area.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA because I (38F) don't want to take my stepson (9) on vacation? I really, really hope the wicked stepmother is projecting here. Otherwise I feel incredibly bad for that kid.
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I showed my autistic friend the original x-men movies and every time someone talks about curing autism she does a Sir Ian McKellen impression and says "they want to cure us. But I'm here to tell you We. Are. The Cure." and it makes me giggle every time Edit: I also say this about being queer
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA because I (38F) don't want to take my stepson (9) on vacation? Why is it so often the worst parents have so many kids?
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Mustang posted:Why is it so often the worst parents have so many kids? It's real easy to have a lot of kids if you don't give a poo poo about them in the slightest
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Mustang posted:Why is it so often the worst parents have so many kids? Huh, our marriage is breaking down. Let's have another kid to save it! Oh, that didn't work? Let's try again! Or maybe having a large number of children is a significant stresser, which causes someone to be a worse parent?
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# ? Jul 21, 2023 18:01 |
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Tobermory posted:I really, really hope the wicked stepmother is projecting here. Otherwise I feel incredibly bad for that kid. Husband is apparently fine with leaving his son behind, so I'm afraid that she's not.
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Mustang posted:Why is it so often the worst parents have so many kids? Maybe this next one will be more to my liking. I remember reading about a horrible woman and serial killer, Rosemary West. One of her surviving victims, her stepdaughter, wrote a book, and in it she described how Rosemary was the most doting mother on every new baby, up until it started to walk/have some independence. Then it was no longer a cuddly doll-toy, and she despised that. She had lots of children, why do you ask? And with most countries' histories of eugenics and controlling who has kids, it's hosed on both extremes.
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# ? Jul 21, 2023 18:09 |
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Mustang posted:Why is it so often the worst parents have so many kids? Because a lot of people are scared of facing themselves and putting in the work for self-actualization and so instead they use spitting out children as a constant distraction. This is also why these people get so thorny about childless adults, because they see someone doing the thing they thought was literally impossible, which is to be happy without children. They think being constantly busy with childcare will be what fulfills the hole within them, in part bc society probably consistently tells them this, and only once it's too late and they're being further ground down to dust by the mundane but unceasing realities of childcare, do they realize they've trapped themselves in labour, and won't be able to get to know themselves until they're old and all the kids are out of the house. You know - those people you meet who are abjectly lost when their kids leave home? Yeh, them. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 18:16 on Jul 21, 2023 |
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I once knew this woman could not loving stop having kids. I only ever really saw her parenting whichever was youngest at the time, leaving the rest to her oldest (a daughter, poor kid) and her nigh-silent husband. The middle kids always acted out like crazy, the youngest middle kid especially, since they'd just lost their mom's undivided attention. And the youngest was always just a little poo poo to an extreme, getting away with absolutely anything. I think I may have been the first person to discipline her youngest at the time in any way, and I was a teenager. And all I did was take a toy away that he was hitting another kid with. It was like she was addicted to having a small kid or something. She wasn't even one of the ones who treated their kid like a doll they could control, they just had to exist and be small and she was happy.
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# ? Jul 21, 2023 18:18 |
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Standard entitlement story, with a couple of funny bits. AITA for refusing to let me cousin move into my guest house? quote:For some background my parents have 3 kids I (28M) and my siblings (17M) and (15F) Good spine on OP, glad to see the whole rest of the family backing him.
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# ? Jul 21, 2023 18:21 |
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They clearly thought they were finally getting their mooching kid out of their house lol they're so upset to learn they're still holding the bag on that
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# ? Jul 21, 2023 18:45 |
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tinytort posted:Getting rid of, and preventing, fleas has been a thing civilization has been focused on since basically forever. The usual response to "gently caress, minimal effort didn't work" wasn't "well, guess we're just stuck like this", it was "gently caress it, kill them with fire if we have to" "Bugg Destroyers to His Majesty"
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StrangersInTheNight posted:They clearly thought they were finally getting their mooching kid out of their house lol they're so upset to learn they're still holding the bag on that
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Hellblazer187 posted:No-present uncle was fine. Weddings are dumb and should be illegal. I doubt I'll ever go to one again in my life. Nah, they're fun, you just need better friends.
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# ? Jul 21, 2023 19:46 |
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Presenting: a very, very stupid family AITA for trying to help my sister who loses her keys all the time but my idea backfired horribly? quote:Hello AITA. First time posting and I’m using a burn account because in light of the situation it feels like the safest thing to do.
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hm i wonder what these random keys open, guess i'll never kn-- *flips keyfob over* oh
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My (22F) brothers (16M) girlfriend keeps eating my food when she comes over, while I am at work, I told him not to bring her over anymore and he insulted me, should I kick him out?quote:So, I'm a black woman. 22 years old. I live with my younger, 16 year old brother. Tree... Law? My boyfriend and I (27m & 27f) might break up over a tree. quote:I own my own house. I lived here 3 years by myself, got it by myself, did renovations by myself, etc. I’m very particular about my living space and it being respected in general. We’ve been dating for almost two years.
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Mustang posted:Why is it so often the worst parents have so many kids? Part of what got me was not only the stepson's poo poo treatment, but this line in particular: quote:She also says that I'm being a hypocrite taking my son, but I think that's totally different because my son DOESN'T HAVE ANOTHER PARENT. I'm all he's got. So is she actively sabotaging her current husband from being a father-figure to her son? Just overall a weirdly defensive & overprotective attitude, I feel bad for ALL the kids in this situation
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# ? Jul 21, 2023 20:42 |
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As a scatter-brained idiot, I understand absentmindedly setting your keys down somewhere stupid after you get home. But what are you doing with your keys to repeatedly lose them while you're out? If you're not putting them in a pocket or a bag, what are you doing with them?
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My boyfriend and I (27m & 27f) might break up over a tree. I'm always astounded reading stories like this that the OP ends with "how do I work this out?" or "how can I move past this?" you don't! or, rather, why would you want to? time to
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:Tree... Law? As goes the tree, so goes the boyfriend.
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AKA Pseudonym posted:As a scatter-brained idiot, I understand absentmindedly setting your keys down somewhere stupid after you get home. But what are you doing with your keys to repeatedly lose them while you're out? If you're not putting them in a pocket or a bag, what are you doing with them? Just the normal things that you'd do with your keys, such as poking fruit to determine ripeness, or whenever you pass a mirror pulling out your keys to admire yourself while holding them and thinking "hey check out that cool person, they look really great holding those keys!" and then pretending the keys are a laser blaster while making funny noises with your mouth
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If you don't pull out your keys and carefully set them on the ground before tying your shoes, can you claim to be truly alive?
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:Tree... Law? Plant him in the trees place. Maybe about 6 feet down?
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Pirate Radar posted:I SAID I L~What a fool belieeeeeeeeeves, he seeeeees, no wise man has the power~ Michael McDonald crooning is hell to some, but heaven to me lmao
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AKA Pseudonym posted:As a scatter-brained idiot, I understand absentmindedly setting your keys down somewhere stupid after you get home. But what are you doing with your keys to repeatedly lose them while you're out? If you're not putting them in a pocket or a bag, what are you doing with them? -remove keys since they’re blocking you from getting to your wallet -put keys down on the counter -pay for whatever -put wallet back in pocket -forget about keys The other option is that she just carries her keys in her hands all the time, so the instant she has to pick up anything, she sets them down wherever.
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Tobermory posted:Presenting: a very, very stupid family She should actually do this, like little kids who have strings on their mittens.
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AKA Pseudonym posted:As a scatter-brained idiot, I understand absentmindedly setting your keys down somewhere stupid after you get home. But what are you doing with your keys to repeatedly lose them while you're out? If you're not putting them in a pocket or a bag, what are you doing with them? I can't tell you how many people will come over to my place and toss their keys on the little table by the front door. And then proceed to look in their bag or pockets when they're about to leave before remembering that they did what they always do. What makes it even more goddamn strange is that I live in NYC and most of them don't have a vehicle, so why do you have your keys out in the first place?
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Gross, if someone put their keys where I put my keys I'd hand them back immediately.
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That is an amazing number of times to lose your keys. At that point you got something going on mentally. either bog standard ADHD or something wild like a brain tumor that makes your brain not able to see your car keys because they're important and the part of your brain that stores important things got squished. I saw a thing once about a brain injury that makes you unable to see your left side. Like they just don't brush that side of their teeth, can't shave that side of their face, can't see it in a mirror. Of course, the dumbest option is that she has some kind of helplessness fetish or something. Like that woman with 0 hygiene and it turned out she had a fetish for being dirty and wanted her BF to clean her. Whatever she's got going on, if losing your keys that many times can't motivate you to fix it, getting your car stolen a few times probably won't do it either. A Moose fucked around with this message at 21:37 on Jul 21, 2023 |
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AITA for buying my son a car but not my daughter?quote:I (47m) made the same promise to my two kids, Ronan (21) and Lana (18). I told them that if they graduated highschool with above a 3.5 gpa I would buy them a new car in addition to a graduation gift.
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ad090 posted:AITA for buying my son a car but not my daughter? Hmm it's almost like tying rewards to outcomes instead of effort is... bad? I mean at no point does it sound like she was unmotivated.
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ad090 posted:AITA for buying my son a car but not my daughter? At first I thought the girl had failed some classes or did something horrible at school, but she just got B's and was still active in several clubs according to the dad in the comments. It was misogyny all along!
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hm i wonder if anything was happening in the last few years that might have made sports and extracurriculars and volunteer work harder to do
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Rescue Toaster posted:Hmm it's almost like tying rewards to outcomes instead of effort is... bad? I mean at no point does it sound like she was unmotivated. Haven’t heard this, is there any specific reason? I have always heard that the best goals are specific and outcome based.
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ad090 posted:AITA for buying my son a car but not my daughter? my grandpa did this poo poo. he promised all the grand children he would give us 10$/a and 5$/b 1$/c then when i got straight as instead of ponying up the 70 bucks he was like sorry i payed for your older cousin who got straight cs now i dont wanna pay for you. basically the same thing he was like ill buy you a cheap used beater car and teach you to drive if you do good in your first two years of hs. meaning you did bs or better. older cousin got it again and i didnt. atleast my woman hating grandpa still gave the girl the car / money and didnt give me the dude the car. whats ops excuse? yeah i know she didnt make it but honestly it sounds like she was set up to fail because you dont just not know your kids academic prowess. i love my neice but shes a dumb gently caress she would never get a 3.5 in hs.
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He's certainly TA, but "I'll buy you a new car if you get a 3.5 GPA" should not be interpreted as "I'll buy you a new car if you get a 3.5 GPA, less than a 3.5 GPA gets you a used car". My (46F) husband (50M) has a porn collection of one of his students quote:Both my husband and I teach at the same University within the same department. Because of this, we have a lot of overlap with students we both teach. One of these students is a girl I'll call Kate. Kate is nice, smart, and very pretty, but not someone I think about a lot. I knew she was also in some of my husband's courses, but we never really spoke about her. Just a normal student, I guess. DeadMansSuspenders fucked around with this message at 22:45 on Jul 21, 2023 |
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MagusofStars posted:The one thing I can think of is that she does keep the keys in her pocket, but has her wallet in the same pocket, so the events go like this: A friend of mine had a bundle of keychains all looped together in a Gordian Knot of keys, airport-grade keychains and lanyards. It was maybe a couple of pounds of metal and plastic so big that she always carried them in her hand. Maybe this person is like that, but I can’t imagine forgetting to pick up her keywad after setting it down anywhere.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Haven’t heard this, is there any specific reason? I have always heard that the best goals are specific and outcome based. Effort to result ratio is going to vary wildly between people. For instance, one kid can barely study and get A+s while another might have to burn the midnight oil just to get Bs and Cs. The problem is that this results in the first kid not knowing how to actually study and then drowning once they get to university once rote memorization no longer works. Also, it's important to scale goals according to the individual; someone who can easily ace academically is just gonna easily pass a 3.5 GPA, which means it's barely a reward for good work. If someone is putting in actual effort and getting spit in return, then why bother even trying. There are gonna be times when obviously you need to get the goal done and good effort and well wishes aren't gonna mean diddly, but in this context it's important to reward effort spent.
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