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I cook but I prefer human flesh. Deal breaker?
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Aug 8, 2023 20:21
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i get the no cooking bf if i had the money and the food near by to not to cook i wouldnt either. i just dont find it fun and im bad at it. i am poor in rural nc though so i do it.
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Aug 8, 2023 20:22
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Ominous Jazz posted:I flinched Everybody wants to be a gangster until it’s time to do gangster poo poo
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Aug 8, 2023 20:22
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DeeplyConcerned posted:I cook but I prefer human flesh. Deal breaker? I know a guy.
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Aug 8, 2023 20:24
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Foo Diddley posted:the fae got him on that camping trip and replaced him with a changeling I was thinking “vegetarian skinwalker.” So,same kind of mythological creature, just from different cultures. I just really get a kick out of the idea of a terrifying magical creature taking over her husband’s life, but improving theirs and their partners lives. I’m sure it’s been done before, multiple times, in recent media.
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Aug 8, 2023 20:25
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If you have the disposable income to make feeding you into someone else's problem then all the more power to you, but it's still a handy skill to have.
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Aug 8, 2023 20:25
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Ominous Jazz posted:I'm saying this as someone who only has really learned to cook for himself this year; it's an essential life skill. Its cheaper and healthier but it also makes you better at budgeting your time and money. It should be taught early like potty training but there's no shame in starting late. ...Yeah cooking never did that for me, it just made me eat less. Overall. Like "eating disorder" eat less. Actually, I guess that technically was better on my budget, but I don't think that's a recommended way to improve your finances. Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 20:30 on Aug 8, 2023 |
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Aug 8, 2023 20:26
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everyone should be able to cook basic meals, even if they don't want to
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Aug 8, 2023 20:33
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Hahaha, what the gently caress is going on? No cooking dude is just a lazy turd, if he refused to learn to do laundry, or shower, or wipe his rear end or any other common domestic activity it'd be the same thing. All the whataboutism about living in a tiny studio in Manila or whatever is absurd, if they lived in an urban culture where cooking for oneself is uncommon the OP would've mentioned it. And it's entirely unapplicable because they obviously have a loving kitchen, because she cooks in it. "My BF won't learn to cook because we don't have a kitchen" would be a pretty boring post. I've spent plenty of time living in military barracks where the only way to get food is the chow hall or eating out, and there's no reason to make a comparison between that lifestyle and the one the OP is obviously leading. Even most apartments in Tokyo have a sink with room for a hot plate and a rice cooker. Pirate Radar posted:Most bizarre thing here is just sitting down to eat a pot of rice. Doesn’t say he ate anything else. Just filling up with a huge amount of plain rice. My fiance does this when she's too tired to cook, just makes a pot of rice and puts soy sauce on it. It actually bugs me a lot because I put a lot of effort into making sure there's meals or leftovers that can be prepared/heated in <15 minutes. Info for the incredibly obtuse: we have a fully stocked kitchen.
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Aug 8, 2023 20:46
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DeeplyConcerned posted:I cook but I prefer human flesh. Deal breaker? Not if you throw in some Chianti and Fava beans
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Aug 8, 2023 20:47
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Elviscat posted:No cooking dude is just a lazy turd, if he refused to learn to do laundry, or shower, or wipe his rear end or any other common domestic activity it'd be the same thing. All the whataboutism about living in a tiny studio in Manila or whatever is absurd, if they lived in an urban culture where cooking for oneself is uncommon the OP would've mentioned it. And it's entirely unapplicable because they obviously have a loving kitchen, because she cooks in it. "My BF won't learn to cook because we don't have a kitchen" would be a pretty boring post. IMO people are allowed to be lazy in their personal life as long as they don't make it someone else's problem, and by her own version of the story he's got no expectation of her cooking for him if he doesn't want to, he's perfectly willing to spend the money and she speaks no concerns about his finances.
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Aug 8, 2023 20:59
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It’s interesting that he’s just straightforward about it and how it’s a dealbreaker for her. He doesn’t seem defensive, which would have suggested that his disinterest in cooking is down to not wanting to put in the effort or possibly that it digs at him that he doesn’t cook because (as this thread makes clear) not cooking or not cooking the right way or cooking too much can all diminish you as a person. Maybe it is the second thing though and he’s handled it by choosing to just disengage from the subject entirely, sort of a “the only winning move is not to play” approach, instead of letting it stress him out and make him behave poorly towards those around him?
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Aug 8, 2023 21:03
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the story with the grocery reimbursement makes me wonder if it is possible to survive exclusively on $7/pound sprouted organic brown rice and extra virgin olive oil e: y'know, boujee rice
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Aug 8, 2023 21:10
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Clark Nova posted:the story with the grocery reimbursement makes me wonder if it is possible to survive exclusively on $7/pound sprouted organic brown rice and extra virgin olive oil I want to know what vitamin deficiencies you'd develop on that, because there's gotta be a few...
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Aug 8, 2023 21:12
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Midnight Voyager posted:I want to know what vitamin deficiencies you'd develop on that, because there's gotta be a few... When my husband and I moved in together, we were both enthusiastic cooks. I do supper once a week or so, but I find it exhausting; he does the majority because (A) he is the best and I don't deserve him and (B) he finds it soothing. I say all this to highlight that I've never been in the poster's situation. That said, if I were in a live-in relationship with a hypothetical different person, I'd expect them to learn one emergency meal. Boxed mac n' cheese. Opening a jar of tomato sauce and making pasta. Tuna salad. That way, if an unplanned emergency did hit, I wouldn't have to be in charge of figuring out what to eat even if I was sick. Pandemic notwithstanding, you can't Doordash for weeks on end. OP just has to decide whether it's a dealbreaker, and to break up if it is. Partner sees no reason to change.
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Aug 8, 2023 21:19
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Funny enough you would probably escape beriberi specifically because the question specifically posited BROWN rice, white rice is where you get beriberi.
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Aug 8, 2023 21:21
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Beriberi. To be fair, when people say "I don't cook", they often MEAN "I can mix stuff and stick a box in the microwave." That tends to be what I mean. I'm not going to be able to grill you a steak, but come on, I'm not useless. If you have to learn to cook boxed mac n cheese, I don't know what to tell you. Looking back, she does mention doordashing when she was sick, but was that just to make sure the food for her was good? What does he actually normally eat? Is it premade stuff he bought at the store, is it boxed stuff? How are they defining "he doesn't cook"? Ah I finally found it. He does takeout. That's not ideal, but she also mentions that he apparently covered 80% of the rent in exchange for his last roommate cooking. That's not a bad deal. He certainly seems willing and able to pay for the service. Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 21:29 on Aug 8, 2023 |
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Aug 8, 2023 21:25
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Whatever happened to "forbidden meats" guy? Did he die in Chinese prison?
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Aug 8, 2023 21:29
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I mean, taking the story at it's word, this first came to a head when he got takeout instead of cooking something like she asked when she was sick. The sort of really REALLY basic cooking people are talking about here is evidently something she already believes he is capable of doing. He just has zero interest in doing so under any circumstances where there is an alternative, and in the modern world if you make even mildly decent money, there is ALWAYS an alternative.
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Aug 8, 2023 21:33
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maybe he's afraid of cooking because he accidentally dunked his twig and berries in hot fry grease as a child. you're all minimizing a man's trauma
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Aug 8, 2023 21:34
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There are a bunch of ways in which "a guy categorically chooses not to cook" can be problematic. Usually, those come from expectations that someone else will do the cooking. The fact that women do a bunch of uncompensated domestic labor is a huge problem in our society. But in the case as presented, that's not an issue. He's not asking or expecting her to cook for him. Financially, eating take out all the time can be an issue. OP didn't mention whether it hurt their finances or not. Depends on his salary and other expenses. We can assume either way on this one, but we don't know whether they're financially safe despite all the takeout food, or not. Healthiness is another thing where we can make assumptions. She doesn't say what he's ordering. Maybe he's getting salads, maybe he's getting triple cheeseburgers. So we can assume he's putting them in financial jeopardy and getting fat, or we can assume he's making $150k and ordering salads or whatever, and everything in between. The story as presented does not indicate that in this instance, the guy's refusal to cook comes with any concrete harm to the OP or her lifestyle. That actually kind of makes me think it might be bait, because of the differing assumptions we can (and seem to) make about the situation. If we assume everything in his favor (he's got plenty of disposable income, he's ordering healthy stuff, he's capable of pouring himself a bowl of cereal, making a sandwich, or microwaving premade meals) then whatever, and it's weird that she cares that much. If we assume everything against him (blowing up the budget, ordering fatty stuff, never even seen the inside of the kitchen cabinets) then she should have left him well before it got to the proposal stage. I agree it's weird to not even be able to cook a few simple things. But weird doesn't necessarily mean bad and wrong.
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Aug 8, 2023 21:42
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Clark Nova posted:maybe he's afraid of cooking because he accidentally dunked his twig and berries in hot fry grease as a child. you're all minimizing a man's trauma Sitting to pee on the hot plate toilet.
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Aug 8, 2023 21:44
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Midnight Voyager posted:...Yeah cooking never did that for me, it just made me eat less. Overall. Like "eating disorder" eat less. Yeah I'm the same way. I'm actually fine at cooking, I can follow a recipe, I was taught the basics as a kid, I have some staple meals I can make. But for whatever reason the whole process just doesn't appeal to me at all, so a lot of times if the only options are "cook" or "don't eat", I'll just like house a bag of chips or something. Honestly I think it's living alone, cooking just for myself isn't enjoyable for me. I'll make an effort if somebody else is involved. I mean, I agree that "I will never cook anything" is kind of a weird hill to die on, but whatever, he was honest with her about it from the beginning. I don't think it's misogyny or performative helplessness or the other stuff we see a lot here. Dude just has zero interest in cooking.
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Aug 8, 2023 21:56
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Hellblazer187 posted:The story as presented does not indicate that in this instance, the guy's refusal to cook comes with any concrete harm to the OP or her lifestyle. That actually kind of makes me think it might be bait, because of the differing assumptions we can (and seem to) make about the situation. A decent amount of this she does answer in the comments, so doubt it's bait for that reason specifically (and to be honest a post that came with all the little bits and pieces pre-answered would be MORE suspect, in my opinion.)
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Aug 8, 2023 22:00
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Captain Yossarian posted:Whatever happened to "forbidden meats" guy? Did he die in Chinese prison? He got busted trying to eat a panda so he's probably well on his way to that now
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Aug 8, 2023 22:06
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there's a lot more people than you'd think who'd happily pop a 2000kcal pill each morning and just never eat.
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Aug 8, 2023 22:07
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haveblue posted:He got busted trying to eat a panda so he's probably well on his way to that now Lol I forgot about the Panda part. Thank you
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Aug 8, 2023 22:16
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AITA for telling my mom that I don’t give a f*ck about my autistic brother?quote:My (16F) parents didn’t have much time for me after my brother (9M) was born and it got even worse after he was diagnosed with autism when he was 3. My dad is rarely home and my mom is always busy with my brother so neither of them have time for me. There's a lot of YTA telling her she needs to grow up, she needs to help her parents, and personally, i agree she shouldn't have said that in front of her brother, I also understand she has been neglected in his suffering for quite a long time so I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt that she doesn't act like that usually. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 22:31 on Aug 8, 2023 |
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Aug 8, 2023 22:29
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for telling my mom that I don’t give a f*ck about my autistic brother? Estranged Parent Speedrun, Any %
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Aug 8, 2023 22:33
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Pirate Radar posted:Most bizarre thing here is just sitting down to eat a pot of rice. Doesn’t say he ate anything else. Just filling up with a huge amount of plain rice. To be fair, rice is delicious. Don't know if I'd 'just' eat a whole pot of it, though.
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Aug 8, 2023 22:47
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ApplesandOranges posted:To be fair, rice is delicious. Don't know if I'd 'just' eat a whole pot of it, though. The amount of rice consumed in Asian restaurants is borderline insane
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Aug 8, 2023 22:56
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quantumwell posted:The amount of rice consumed in Asian restaurants is borderline insane You mean perfectly normal. I had a roommate who found it bizarre when I had rice with potatoes, like it's some cardinal sin to have two carbs.
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Aug 8, 2023 23:00
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The rear end in a top hat is the HR department here. Let the man eat his fancy rice. What the extra $5 is going to bankrupt you? That’s a well run companyApplesandOranges posted:You mean perfectly normal. Peruvian spotted
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Aug 8, 2023 23:00
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Elviscat posted:
Sounds like you need to talk. Doesn't seem like a big deal though as long as food doesn't go to waste. Just let a tired person eat what they want.
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Aug 8, 2023 23:02
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BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:The rear end in a top hat is the HR department here. Let the man eat his fancy rice. What the extra $5 is going to bankrupt you? That’s a well run company He could easily be eating $100+ a month and they probably budget expecting like $20 (actually, probably expecting $0 from most people because they figure only a few employees are going to bother cooking and eating semi-healthy and submitting expenses for reimbursement.) Which, eh, he's maybe milking them for $0.50 an hour, it's a dick move to just kill the benefit permanently. the holy poopacy fucked around with this message at 16:03 on Aug 9, 2023 |
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Aug 8, 2023 23:07
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Sierra Nevadan posted:Sounds like you need to talk. Doesn't seem like a big deal though as long as food doesn't go to waste. Just let a tired person eat what they want.
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Aug 8, 2023 23:42
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My (36f) husband (40m) suddenly changed for the better two years ago, but no one shares my concerns that about how odd it is that he dramatically became a different person overnight because all his changes were positive Never see a Gainz Goblin post on their own before
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Aug 8, 2023 23:43
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Hattie Masters posted:Wait poo poo weren't you the one who said their friend dated David Aurini? Or am I thinking of another goon who's friend dated a turbofash Yeah, it was Davis. He wasn't openly fash back then, just an edgelord and obnoxious prick. His WW2 paraphernalia wasn't even Axis stuff at the time. Guess that poo poo was either hidden or purchased later. And then years later, I saw the hbomberguy video making fun of the plastic skull posted on these very forums and it was a very "Wow, but also, not that surprised" kind of moment.
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Aug 8, 2023 23:47
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AceClown posted:there's a lot more people than you'd think who'd happily pop a 2000kcal pill each morning and just never eat. There are times I wish Bachelor Chow existed. Not an everyday thing, just an option.
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My (36f) husband (40m) suddenly changed for the better two years ago, but no one shares my concerns that about how odd it is that he dramatically became a different person overnight because all his changes were positive I'd suspect this was viral marketing if the miracle cure was anything other than a fungus that grows in cow turds
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