FMguru posted:

AITA for RSVPing no to my sister's wedding?

OP should go, wear a white (or red) dress, get lovely drunk, loudly complain about everything, openly hit on the groom, try to drag as many groomsmen off for quickies as possible, photobomb every picture, have a screaming meltdown during the bride's reception speech, and connive to send the tiered cake tumbling to the ground before it is served.

Alternatively, OP should shrug and say she'll try and make it to her sister's next wedding. Be sure to always refer to your new brother-in-law as your sister's "first husband".

Foo Diddley posted:

Jakabite posted:

Look at moneybags over here with a shower big enough to get a chair in!!!!

trickybiscuits posted:

Dear Abby: Grandparents denied access to grandson due to baseless accusations

What a hosed-up situation on multiple levels.

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Quackles posted:

Solution = shower chair. Sit while you shower.

Quackles posted:

It's a chair made to be waterproof and fit in a shower, even a standing-only one.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

We’ve gone from shower beer to shower chair, we’re getting old.

Jakabite posted:

No because I don’t want to sit in a chair, I want to sit in a big goddamn lounger or lie on a sofa.

I appreciate the suggestion tho

Jakabite posted:

No because I don’t want to sit in a chair, I want to sit in a big goddamn lounger or lie on a sofa.

Captain Hygiene posted:

Well that just sounds like it's gonna get all gross and terrible the moment you turn on the water

AKA Pseudonym posted:

Low water pressure, not drops of water moving in slowmo while she moves into their path like Bizzaro Neo

Coca Koala posted:

It matters in cases of emergency - if your partner is hospitalized and incapacitated, for example, family is usually the prime choice to make decisions on their behalf. Your spouse is family, legally speaking, while your boyfriend of 14 years is not. Same thing if your partner dies without a will - their assets will go to their family, where spouse has a rank and “person they dated for a very long time” does not.

Those are all scenarios you can avoid with proper planning (by naming power of attorney, by writing a will, etc) but those plans add entanglements that need to be unwound if the relationship ends and generally when somebody says that they’ve been dating for 14 years but aren’t married yet, they’re not forgetting to mention that they have PoA and wills set up etc.

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I (F, 30) went on a 5 day vacation recently, and asked my friend, Anna (30), if she could stay at my place to take care of my cat and dog while I'm away. We've known each other for 20 years, and she lived here in the past when she had nowhere else to go, so I trusted her.

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She said yes immediately, and in return I told her she can use my card to order takeout, so she doesn't have to cook. She ordered expensive, full-course dinners every day, but I didn't mention that, because I didn't set a limit, so I guess that's on me. I decided to let that go, and just enjoy my vacation.

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However, when I got home, I noticed that she basically emptied my fridge and pantry, and also my shampoo, conditioner, hair mask, lotion, shower gel, skincare, etc. I don't even know how is that possible to use up almost the full bottles in just 5 days, they last me months sometimes. On top of that she left dirty mugs in the sink, the countertops were covered in stains, the bathtub was dirty, my wardrobe was a mess, some of my makeup items were missing and there were even dirty shoeprints on my rugs.

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When we met a few days later, I told her that I'm grateful for the petsitting, but I was kinda surprised by the mess and how she used up almost all my products. She jokingly said she couldn't afford vacation this summer, so this was her vacation. When I said that her "vacation" costed me a month's salary plus 2 days of cleaning, Anna started raising her voice, and went off on me about how I can't expect free labour from her, she has better things to do and I'm an AH for hurting her by choosing money over our friendship.

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I was kinda shocked because when we discussed her stay, she didn't even want me to pay for her food, but now I'm suddenly "a greedy c**t who envies some skincare from her best friend". I didn't say anything, just left.

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I haven't spoken to her since then, but I know she's trash talking me to her other friends, who all seem to think I'm the AH. I feel tired of her behaviour and how she's acting after I was by her side even when her own family went nc with her. I know friends are way more important, but unfortunately I don't sweat money, and Anna has a habit of trying to spend mine which I don't appreciate. My sister says I overreacted and it's petty to cut Anna out of my life over money issues. So reddit, AITA?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

We’ve gone from shower beer to shower chair, we’re getting old.

AKA Pseudonym posted:

Low water pressure, not drops of water moving in slowmo while she moves into their path like Bizzaro Neo

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for choosing money over a friendship?

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and also my shampoo, conditioner, hair mask, lotion, shower gel, skincare, etc. I don't even know how is that possible to use up almost the full bottles in just 5 days, they last me months sometimes.

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now I'm suddenly "a greedy c**t who envies some skincare from her best friend".

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling my sister her son is only special to her

Foo Diddley posted:

lol she totally emptied all this poo poo into ziplock bags to take home with her

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I (14 F) NEVER want to babysit this family of 5 again. (Btw they are also my next door neighbors). Earlier this morning, I received a text from the Mom (probably in her 30’s). She has 3 kids with her husband (also probably in his 30’s). The 2 oldest kids are twins (5F and 5M). They also have a baby (M 2-3). The text I received from the mom was her asking me if I’m free for 2 hours to watch the TWINS. She said the twins and did NOT mention anyone else. I said yes and when it was time I walked next door and into their backyard where they told me to go.

As I opened the gate, a mother and 2 kids walked in behind me. Weird I thought but at first shrugged it off, until I saw a bounce house blown up, and an outdoor table set with a bucket of forks, knifes, spoons, and an ice cream station. They were having a party. And wanted ME, just ME nobody else, to watch over the kids. The kids started to pile in with more and more moms with their kids. In the end, around 15 kids were there, from the ages of 1 YEAR OLD, to 6 YEARS OLD. Very young.

I have babysat kids around those ages before, but 2 at a time. Not 15. I was completely shocked. And the mom was so casual about it. Not anything like, oh sorry, I forgot to mention. Nothing. When I was out of the 6 moms sight, I quickly texted my mom to vent and explain how many kids I was watching. My mom could here and see all the kids from next door. I then went back to watching the kids as they played on the bounce house, shoved each other, ate pizza, make ice cream, and keep playing. I ended up staying a bit over the time she asked as well, because not everyone was gone yet. Also, tomorrow is the first day of school.

I just feel like I just waisted the last HOURS of my summer. I had no plans today, except to go to the mall and get my nails done, and I finished that before I babysat, but I would’ve much rather sat on my couch while watching some tv. Instead, I watched 15 kids, and got paid 30 dollars. I don’t usually care about how much or little I get paid when babysitting, but I was disappointed.

I usually charge 13 dollars per hour, which my mom says isn’t a lot, and whenever I tell people they say to raise my rates. I don’t care, because I enjoy hanging out and watching kids. But when I charge 13 dollars an hour, that for 1-4 kids. Not 15. I get it I got paid 15 dollars an hour, but I was watching 15 kids, I was expecting more. And when I told my mom when I got home, she thought I deserved ATLEAST 50 if not more. Also, I’m on my period and have cramps, it was painful to be standing for all that time that I was, and this is one of the first times I’ve had cramps, I’m not used to it. So I wasted the last hours of my summer, and did that in pain. The Mom asked me if I would ever do something like this again, and I said yes to be polite, but honestly, I don’t ever want to babysit this family again, no matter how many kids I’m babysitting. So, AITA for not wanting to babysit this family ever again?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

We’ve gone from shower beer to shower chair, we’re getting old.

Cowslips Warren posted:

added spacing. When I worked as a birthday balloon twister ages before Covid, this happened to me once. Never again.

AITA for NEVER wanting to babysit this family again

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling my sister her son is only special to her

AITA: Suprised husband at airport with kids after being away for almost 4 days.

trickybiscuits posted:

…A lot of older guys want a young, cute-ish woman to be their little audience to their not-that-great stories...

haveblue posted:

1 minder for 15 kids is a ratio bad enough that it's an outright safety hazard

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I27f am a 5th grade teacher. This is my first year teaching. Yesterday, one of my students came up to me and asked me if I had any pads or if she could go to the clinic. I had some of my own, so I gave her one, told her to let me know if she needed anymore, and went on with my day. She sounded like she had done this before, and she didn’t ask questions so I guess I just didn’t think to ask questions either because she knew what she needed. That evening I got an email from said students mom, stating that their daughter got their first period in my class, and wanted to know why I didn’t call home. I responded apologizing, saying I was unaware it was her first. This morning I woke up to another email saying my apology was not accepted, and that I was extremely unprofessional, and that it is my job to notify parents about these things and not give out my personal products.

Aita?

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I (23 M) have been dating my current girlfriend (21 F) for the past 18 months, and throughout our entire relationship she has been aware I’m a huge PlayStation fanboy. I grew up playing on my PS2, have always loved their exclusive games, and constantly play my PS4 at our apartment even today.

I made my love for these games and consoles exceedingly clear to her and occasionally talk her ear off about them. Unfortunately, due to financial circumstances, I have been unable to purchase a PlayStation 5, despite wanting one since release. Despite my financial circumstances; however, I have always spent a lot of money on birthday and valentine gifts for my girlfriend as I place high importance on gift giving and receiving as a love language.

Last year for my birthday my girlfriend only took me out for dinner, and while I was disappointed, at the time she was unemployed so I was satisfied with my gift. This year, though, she has a full-time job so my expectations were higher, especially after she asked me outright what I wanted. I explained to her that, unsurprisingly, I wanted a PlayStation 5 and that it would make my year. She told me she’d see what she could do.

My birthday was last week and when I got home I was eagerly anticipating my PlayStation 5 to be waiting for me. My girlfriend called me to our room and told me she had made us dinner reservations at my favorite restaurant. While I was slightly disappointed that this might be my only gift, I was still holding out hope that she’d surprise me with the PlayStation when we got back home.

When we got home; however, instead she gave me a handmade photo album binder with all of her favorite pictures of me and her together that must’ve cost less than $40 to make. I was extremely and visibly disappointed and asked her what happened to the PlayStation? She asked me if that was seriously all I had to say and then asked me if I didn’t care at all about the effort she put in for my gift. I told her I didn’t care about photos that I could just look at on my phone, and that I didn’t understand why she couldn’t have just bought me the PS5. She called me an ungrateful rear end in a top hat and left to a friends house. I have texted her multiple times since explaining that I’ve never had a problem spending upwards of $500 on a gift for her and that gifts are important to me but she hasn’t responded.

Am I the rear end in a top hat for being disappointed?

Update: I woke up this morning to a “we’re through” text from my gold digger of an ex girlfriend. You guys have been nothing but extremely pressed towards me, but I now understand I should only be looking for relationships with people who can match the type of gifts and money I put in. Took y’all’s advice and bought myself the PlayStation, and so far it’s already better than my girlfriend! Thank y’all for the opinions.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for being disappointed in a birthday gift from my girlfriend?

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for being disappointed in a birthday gift from my girlfriend?

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for being disappointed in a birthday gift from my girlfriend?
Unfortunately, due to financial circumstances, I have been unable to purchase a PlayStation 5, despite wanting one since release. (...) I’ve never had a problem spending upwards of $500 on a gift for her.

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Back when my sister was pregnant with her daughter she asked me if I would paint the nursery for her. She wanted this really detailed job done and wanted her daughter's name, Melody, painted on the wall. I wasn't sure about it because my sister is known to take advantage of me being her older brother. But I ultimately agreed because I figured I would just set boundaries. She was impossible to work with, pushed my boundaries, and I was working on it a lot longer than intended because of how much she wanted done and how detailed she was about everything. It took 2 weeks of me doing a few hours every day for her to be okay with it. I told her I was done and said she'd need to find someone else for the next kid if she has one.

My niece was born a week ago and my sister changed her mind about the name because she said it was too similar to my daughter's name. So she decided on the name Birdie for her daughter. Cool. She told me I'd need to fix the name in the nursery and I told her no, she'll have to find someone else to fix the name in the nursery because I won't be doing that again. She said it will look off if done by someone else and I told her it was not my problem.

She yelled at me and then she tried to get my wife to change my mind. My wife told her where to go and said she had taken up so much of my time on the nursery anyway that she was rude to demand more. I was pissed when my sister went to my wife behind my back. I was so drat proud of my wife for not letting my sister make those demands.

My sister told me I'm being a dick and her daughter doesn't deserve for me to be petty over our issues.

AITA?

MagusofStars posted:

AITA for refusing to repaint my niece's nursery?