BrigadierSensible posted:

Even though she doesn't mention it explicitly, I would argue less Nazi, and more Elsa from Forzen vibes here.

Khanstant posted:

I feel like I'm owed some acid for having read all that.

Lemniscate Blue posted:

I wouldn't risk the bad trip.

FMguru posted:

Long story with lots of updates (you can read the whole thing in r/BestofRedditorUpdates if you like), but I just wanted to highlight a nice strong spine, worthy of Pete himself

Am I wrong that I broke up with him without warning

OP's boyfriend cheats on her, she finds out, and moves all her poo poo out of their apartment and leaves a note saying we're splitsville. Ex-BF eventually tracks her down to try to explain how what he did wasn't really cheating etc. etc. which resulted in this exchange:

Atta girl.

Updates are less cheerful, Ex-BF graduates to Stalker Ex-BF and eventually to Suicide Attempt Ex-BF, while their collective friend group naturally comes down hard on OP, saying it was a one time thing and why can't you forgive him and can't you see he's in love with you and so on. Sigh.

Also, LOL forever at "I didn't mean to cheat, it just happened, I wasn't in control". Sure, pal.

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My husband separated from his ex-wife six years ago as result of our affair, and we have been married for three years. There was period of estrangement from his kids (ages 22 to 28 now) around the breakup. After much abject apologizing, talking, accepting responsibility, and frankly extreme financial generosity on my husband’s part — well beyond what was legally required — they now are finally on a path to a better relationship.

As the mistress, I have been persona non grata from Day One. I accepted that both as a foreseeable consequence and as the better place for their anger than with their dad, so they could someday get on the path they now seem to be on. But as they repair their relationship and as I build very cordial relations with his extended family, who have been welcoming and gracious, I find myself unhappy with being the fall guy with his ex and kids. I exist and I no longer want to be treated as if I don’t.

His kids and ex explicitly excluded me from the kids’ high school and college graduations these past few years. That was fair, and I supported my husband as he attended. My husband has sought to introduce me to his kids several times, individually or as a group, but they have repeatedly refused, saying they are not ready. I am invited to my husband’s niece’s wedding next year — and we plan to go. However, his kids are close with her and will certainly attend. None of them has said anything to their dad yet about my being there, but it’s coming.
I don’t want to undo all the progress my husband has made, so I am prepared to bow out; he won’t go either, he says, in that case. But when will it end? Am I going to be The Mistress forever? Does adultery carry a life sentence? Appreciate any guidance about how to move forward or if we should just give up trying.


[quote]That’s a (vaguely disingenuous) rhetorical question, right, about the life sentence? Because you must already know it is, if the kids want it to be. They’re the jury. And they don’t have to be fair. They have incentive to be fair, sure, on several fronts.

First, it wouldn’t be healthy for them to resent you to their graves. General soul stuff.

Second, they either know their resentment is mostly misplaced, or they refuse to. You were right to volunteer as lightning rod to keep their electric rage off their dad — you owed them at least that — but that was an act of generosity, not logic. Their dad is the one who made and broke promises to Family 1.

Third, they risk overplaying their hand if they value the bond with their dad, since he’s already weighing boycotts if they keep insisting on leaving you out.

Again, you have little say here, so I’m saying most of this because I love the sound of my own typing. But there is one practical point: If your husband wants to, he can appeal (again) to the jury to grant you leniency. If you want to, you can ask him to do this. And if his kids want to, they can grant it. Or they can re-estrange their dad. That’s the cost-benefit analysis you and he need to do. You decided your priorities when you had the affair and reset them in the aftermath. Your frustration says they’re due for review — and that’s pretty much all you can do.[/quote

Arsenic Lupin posted:

He goes even farther in the comments.

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I (19m) work in a kitchen. One of my coworkers came up to me right after I turned the oven off for the night and asked if she could bake a potato. I told her it wasn't gonna cook in time since we closed in 10 minutes. I suggested she do it in the microwave instead. She told me microwaving food causes Alzheimer's and that we shouldn't even have one in the restaurant. I just let her use the oven so she'd leave me alone.

As soon as she left I put her potato in the microwave so it would cook and then put it back in the oven after it was done. She took it home and ate it with no issues. Until the next day when she came up to me and started yelling about how if she gets Alzheimer's it's my fault. I don't even know how she found out or who told her. She basically cussed me out and is now refusing to talk to me, which in all honesty is fine by me.

I think what I did was completely harmless. I was doing her a favor, her potato wouldn't have cooked otherwise. So AITA?

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Our HOA owns a community pool and in fact it’s one of the reasons we moved here. Combined we have 7 kids, I have 3 from my first marriage and a step daughter from second that I’m still involved with and my now husband has 3 kids.

One of the issues is they will essentially shut down the pool for adults only or lap swim twice a day. It’s at 9am and 1am, both of which are the best times for us of use the pool. Yesterday I just had to get out of the house so just after 1 we went to the pool and it was empty. So I figured it would be no issue.

So the kids were playing and all of the sudden 4 four adults showed up and said they were training for a marathon but said they could make it work if they put the lane lines up and we stayed on the other half of the pool. I said that was fine. My kids invented this game where they were sliding across the lines and ended up doing a head on head smash with one of the adults—very frankly the adult was Not watching where they were going.

She started screaming at the kids and I’d had enough with no only these rude people but the entire HOA in general and I gave it back. The security guard had to come and kicked us out and I let him have it too but we left when he said he would call the police. Apparently word got around the gated community Facebook page and I’ve been arguing in there for the past several hours. The general consensus was I was in the wrong and I have “horrible” kids.

AITA?

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On Monday I (18 male) dropped off my car (2012 Ford Fusion SE) at the Ford dealership to replace an airbag after the airbag was recalled. I was told to expect a call later that day to pick it up once the maintenance was completed, I never received a call.

Today, after several days of no contact, I called and asked when I could expect my vehicle back, I was told by the secretary that my car had several more issues that they would have to fix, claiming the transmission was broken, the engine timing belt was “corroded” and that my exhaust was “clogged”.

When I asked about the airbag replacement I was told they “hadn’t gotten around to it”.

When I expressed a desire to take the vehicle home and have another shop give me a second opinion, the receptionist became aggressive and told me that the dealership would not let me take my car home because it was “unsafe” and that they were “legally required to possess the vehicle until it was roadworthy.”

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Contacted the police last night via the non-emergency line.

We met at the car dealership where the dealership fraudulently claimed that I had agreed to a trade in deal for a newer model Fusion and tried to push that narrative for five minutes before a mechanic came forward and told us that the car had been damaged by an employee who took the car to get lunch. Said employee ran into a curb and damaged the bumper, wheels, and some components on the bottom of the car

My parents and I had it towed to a local collision center for an estimate on repairs, but it is likely totaled.

We are pressing charges, and we spoke with a real lawyer on this matter last night.

Thanks for the support.

The Lone Badger posted:

I ain't reading all that.

Tom Tucker posted:

It’s all fun and games until you walk past a bakery and forget your spiderweb of lies and let the wrong word slip and have to start weeping in joy at your olfactory “miracle”

kimbo305 posted:

A tho OP might be, I could see them threading the needle and claiming they got a limited degree of smell back since Covid is varied enough with its symptomatology. Just gotta play that game forever with gaslighting the prior people in their life. Anyways I want to see that update.

ApplesandOranges posted:

AITA for lying to my bf about not being able to smell?

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This is a throwaway account. I (25F) met my boyfriend (24M) at a party right after the pandemic.

So, AITA for not telling my boyfriend of 3 years I haven't actually lost the ability to smell?

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Now everyone thinks I can't smell at all, honestly life is the same because you don't even use smell that much

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for bringing my kids to the community pool during “adult swim?”

Khanstant posted:

Honestly I don't give a poo poo if my potato gets alzheimers

Kitfox88 posted:

lmao she's getting destroyed in the comments

Hughlander posted:

Think the first was posted but not the update...

Car dealership will not return my car, claims I need to “buy a new one”.


Update: Car dealership will not return my car, claims I need to “buy a new one”.


God I hope the cop get it all in the report those guys are going to be turbofucked.

Cowslips Warren posted:

How fast are you driving when you hit the curb to cost that much damage?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

1am is one of the best times for her to use the pool with her kids?

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Yesterday was the perfect example. I was with my fiancé and I was driving my car. I told him that I had a headache and was super tired as we were driving home. He then starts pestering me when I’m driving, like a child. I literally felt like I was babysitting someone’s annoying kid. He was grabbing my right hand, so I was driving with my left and he didn’t let it go for me to use while taking a turn at all. Then once I snatched my arm back and slapped him out of putting us in danger, he then starts flicking my windshield wipers to drag across my dry windshield. I kept turning them off and he kept reaching over and turning them back on. I was absolutely livid. I JUST changed my wiper blades out because of bad smearing issues. JUST a couple weeks ago. I spent like $35 each on these blades and it totaled to $70 something dollars. I don’t have the money to be dishing out on more blades after I just bought me some that should do me just fine for a long time.

Regardless, I was livid that he kept pestering me. When I got back into my car today, I turned my vehicle on. Next thing you know, my wiper blades start streaking and dragging back and forth across my windshield on full whack. He set my wiper settings to the fastest setting before he got out of my car. I am loving tired of his poo poo! I get back in my car tonight and spray my windshield to get rid of dirt. The water is smearing in my vision. Again. After I just replaced my old ones and spent my money on these.

I sent him a video of my wipers streaking and beading the water all in my vision, clearly, and he says “I didn’t ruin them. They probably just need to be cleaned.” Right. Maybe I’m completely overreacting, but I’m raged right now because he didn’t listen to me and most of all I feel like he had no respect for my belongings or my wishes when I tell him to stop.

Advice?

TL;DR: I just bought new wiper blades for $75 total. Pretty expensive blades since I had the money for them. Fiancé started pestering me in the car like a child. Was happily distracting me while I was driving and kept turning on my windshield wipers on full whack onto my dry windshield. I said stop. I JUST bought these to replace my old ones. JUST. Get back in my car today, wipers start dragging across my windshield on full whack. He changed the setting before he got out of my car. Now my wiper blades are smearing all over my windshield and I CAN’T AFFORD to buy more. He says that he didn’t ruin them. They “just need to be cleaned!”. It’s like raising a child. Maybe I’m overreacting, but I hate when people ruin my stuff. Advice?

Ghost Leviathan posted:

This is someone who does not have a habit of making good decisions, and very little concept of the idea of responsibility and consequences.

Cowslips Warren posted:

How fast are you driving when you hit the curb to cost that much damage?

Bonster posted:

1pm.

Although a 1 am swim would really open up the lanes!

Evil Willow posted:

One of the issues is they will essentially shut down the pool for adults only or lap swim twice a day. It’s at 9am and 1am, both of which are the best times for us of use the pool.

Charles Leclerc posted:

It's doable, I did a lot of damage to an old car at single digit speed after sliding on black ice into a curb. Even so, I would expect it to be company policy at any reputable garage that customer vehicles are not to be used as loaners by employees.

The Bramble posted:

Fiances “pranks” are costing me. (M25) (F25)

My advice is do not date fae, imps, or other minor demons.

John Wick of Dogs posted:

Running brand new wipers dry is not going to gently caress them up after what sounds like less than a few minutes. Sounds like they were lovely wipers. But dump that boyfriend in the ocean, what an idiot.

John Wick of Dogs posted:

Running brand new wipers dry is not going to gently caress them up after what sounds like less than a few minutes. Sounds like they were lovely wipers. But dump that boyfriend in the ocean, what an idiot.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

BrigadierSensible posted:

Even though she doesn't mention it explicitly, I would argue less Nazi, and more Elsa from Forzen vibes here.

Bonster posted:

Ooooh! My brain filled in what made sense instead of what was written.

Cowslips Warren posted:

I mean officially? Yeah. In reality?

Reminds me of all the car washes I see where there are huge signs about the hand-washing, that the shop is not responsible for anything you leave in the vehicle. Oh, so your employees are just gonna dig through all my poo poo to steal?

haveblue posted:

That post was deleted for describing a violent encounter, lol