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Neito posted:I worked helpdesk at my school when I was a student, and every so often we'd get a parent like this. By law we're extremely limited in what we can give third parties (and parents are, by definition, a third party) and some parents just were not having that. Never had anyone show up at the physical desk itself, but there were multiple parents very, very mad that I wouldn't give them access to their kid's grades, email address, financial aid info, etc. I also worked the IT helpdesk in college, and yes. This happened. So often. They'd want the password, or access to grades, or their schedule, or some other information. Whether I could even access it myself or not. I would just tell them that their child was an adult*, and as such I was not legally allowed to do so and would lose my job and face charges if I did. If they continued to ask, I would say "I'm sorry I cannot help you further, have a nice day" and hang up. My boss was in the next room during normal "business" hours (I worked nights/weekends a lot), and she never once had an issue with me hanging up on them. After dealing with my grandmother being invasive in a similar way, it felt SO GOOD to just be able to tell these parents to gently caress off, even if I couldn't say that literally. As for the Spanish class name discussion, my class in high school also did the whole "use a Spanish name" but it was 100% "pick your own" and meant to make the class more fun (I guess, that teacher never had a problem if a student didn't want to participate in it) and the order of selection was drawn randomly, but I also never had a guy in my classes take the name Nacho. None of this happened in college Spanish. I have no clue if the French class did the same thing. I did have a classmate in Spanish II that refused to call me by my given name OR the Spanish one and insisted on my surname despite me refusing to answer to it. Just call people what they ask you to. It's not that loving hard.
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Barudak posted:El Hombre Lobo tiene nardos!!!! Not gonna lie, the Dr. Who thing flew over my head, partly because I've never watched the show but mostly because Matt Lucas gives me visceral creeps. Has he been milkshake ducked yet?
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 15:10 |
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Having trouble saying someone's name is an entirely different beast than "No, Imma call you Pablo now, deal with it", which is what the teacher was doing
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I honestly don’t care about page snipes, please don’t beat yourselves up over it. The top post of every page doesn’t need to have a new story, you still posted content.
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blatman posted:if you're holding her hand then whos across the room with the catchers mitt??? The obstetrician, obviously
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Baron Zephyrus posted:I also worked the IT helpdesk in college, and yes. This happened. So often. They'd want the password, or access to grades, or their schedule, or some other information. Whether I could even access it myself or not. I would just tell them that their child was an adult*, and as such I was not legally allowed to do so and would lose my job and face charges if I did. If they continued to ask, I would say "I'm sorry I cannot help you further, have a nice day" and hang up. A lot of ours were parents calling in for password resets for their kids, often with the kid's right there. I could always tell those were going to be the ones that would have the roughest time, cus they can't handle simple things on their own.
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 15:30 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for not letting my boyfriend get a paternity test? Gee I dunno, maybe it's because the friends aren't trying to casually drop in a notification that their life partner will have to live their entire relationship under presumed assumption of infidelity, but who can say, really
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Malachite_Dragon posted:It's a dumb practice. I don't give a poo poo what the spanish version of my name is- It's not my goddamn name, and if you call me that I'm not answering it. It's a case by case basis, if my name sounds cooler in certain languages I'm taking it.
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Charles Leclerc posted:My (24F) boyfriend (29M) came prematurely during sex; he left embarrassed then said it was because he is uncertain about us
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for trying to talk to my son? Untraceable Jimmy must be related to Dignified Pete somehow
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 16:06 |
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AITA for saying hello to my 8th grade crush when I saw her at the grocery store?quote:When I was in 8th grade we had to do square dancing for PE and I danced with this girl names Vanessa. I don’t remember the dance but we had to hold hands and I fell head over heels in love with her. She was really out of my league so I never had the courage to approach her but I used to have vivid fantasies about dating her, marrying her and having a life with her. She moved the first yeah in high school so I thought I’d never see her again.
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 16:09 |
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OceanCyclone posted:AITA for saying hello to my 8th grade crush when I saw her at the grocery store? I'm absolutely shocked she actually gave him her number, probably felt too scared to not. Incredible that had he been a normal human being it seems like she would have at least been interested in catching up more, but he went and unloaded the crazy clip in the middle of Safeway.
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 16:19 |
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The amount of cringe in that one, I was debating on posting it or not. AITAH for removing my daughter from her bed at 3 am? quote:My (34f) daughter (7) has been having a sleep regression issue for the last 6 ish months. Basically she gets up 2-5 times a night. Almost every single time she tells my husband and I that she wants us to physically tuck her back in. She shares a room with two of her three siblings (not ideal and will be changing)
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OceanCyclone posted:AITA for saying hello to my 8th grade crush when I saw her at the grocery store? "God, all I did was say hello, it's not like I unloaded this weird tractor trailer's worth of feelings at her and then told her I've been thinking about the kids I'd have with a girl I haven't seen since she was like 14."
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 16:22 |
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quote:I saw my girl cousin later last night and showed her because I don’t want Vanessa to get the wrong idea—I’m just a normal guy. I was thinking about maybe just stopping in at her work and explaining things again. I think she has the right idea already
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 16:22 |
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quote:I was so stoked that I went into telling her how much I was in love with her but too afraid to approach and she always seemed so sweet and she was still beautiful. I said that my silly school boy had dreams of marrying her and having kids and I even had the names picked out. i think i sprained something cringing at this
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OceanCyclone posted:AITA for saying hello to my 8th grade crush when I saw her at the grocery store? Absolute best case this guy is going to wind up in prison for violating a restraining order in the near future.
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Cowslips Warren posted:The amount of cringe in that one, I was debating on posting it or not. I dunno if there's some missing reasons here or something, but it seems off. I'm not a parent, but seven seems old enough to expect a child to be able to put themselves to bed, right?
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Neito posted:I dunno if there's some missing reasons here or something, but it seems off. I'm not a parent, but seven seems old enough to expect a child to be able to put themselves to bed, right? Usually but my kid really couldn't at 7 (he's ok now). COVID sorta messed a bunch of childhoods right up.
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In related creepo news AITA for trying to find a date after my school said to stop quote:Last semester, before this one started, I did admittedly do quite a bit of searching. I asked out a bunch of grad students (I’m 25 so I want older students). Truth is, I’ve never had any experience and I’m still a virgin, which apparently is a huge turn-off for women my age.
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Foo Diddley posted:i don't think it's a thing outside of language classes, no If I took a course in French today, would I be Soldats devant le canon (soldiers in front of cannons)
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sephiRoth IRA posted:In related creepo news Really curious what exactly he is doing. Did he set up a table in the quad with a sign that says "I want to date you, change my mind" or is it something even creepier?
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 16:43 |
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I know I'm a bit biased because my friend has a 4-year-old. Constantly refers to her as the baby, and said baby has a bedtime routine that lasts about an hour with cuddles and several books being read and singing, and then sometimes the kid decide she wants more attention. So she'll get out of bed and get the whole thing on a smaller scale, but this can repeat for a good hour or two every night. Most kids hate bedtime and love attention. At 7 though, dad is clearly going for good cop/bad cop poo poo.
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Malachite_Dragon posted:Having trouble saying someone's name is an entirely different beast than "No, Imma call you Pablo now, deal with it", which is what the teacher was doing If every kid in the class had a Spanish name for class, while I guess technically you are allowed to insist you’re the one kid that doesn’t apply to, you are just insisting on being the weird kid who can’t enjoy basic classroom practices that probably have been in place for years. It’s just weird to make that big of a deal out of something that I’m 99% certain is just boring pedagogical practice. Edit: It’s like you’re volunteering to be the kid whose parents wouldn’t sign the permission sheet to watch the movie in class because it has magic in it or something.
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wheatpuppy posted:Really curious what exactly he is doing. Did he set up a table in the quad with a sign that says "I want to date you, change my mind" or is it something even creepier? Given that it was bad enough to motivate a school administrator to actually do something, it was probably wicked bad, like cornering a girl and demanding a date or full on sexual assault
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OceanCyclone posted:She looked exactly the same and I had to say hello. Looked exactly the same as she did in 8th grade according to this guy, who is by implication at least a high school graduate if not a college graduate and talks nonstop about how beautiful she is. loving yikes.
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Cythereal posted:Looked exactly the same as she did in 8th grade according to this guy, who is by implication at least a high school graduate if not a college graduate and talks nonstop about how beautiful she is. My read of that was he was absolutely facebook stalking her and didn't wanna admit it.
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Mx. posted:My (26F) husband (33M) uses the same mop water for weeks, and refuses to stop. Empty the mop bucket after every time you use it. Sometimes, empty it before you are done with the whole floor because it's already dirty and the water coming out of the mop is dark and then you're just moving around dirt. Holy poo poo, empty the mop bucket.
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 16:50 |
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p sure the guy who's regularly leaving the floors sticky knows full well that he's doing it wrong
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# ? Sep 22, 2023 16:54 |
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Cythereal posted:Looked exactly the same as she did in 8th grade according to this guy, who is by implication at least a high school graduate if not a college graduate and talks nonstop about how beautiful she is. I know, right? Coincidentally, another bizarre one that felt off in similar (but weirder) way: AITA for telling a coworker she looks like Linda Blair? quote:I can't believe I'm typing this, but 2 weeks ago a new girl started at work. She’s nice and seems chill. I only work with her 2 days a week so we don’t interact much. When I first met her and we were introducing ourselves, I said “wow, you look so much like Linda Blair!” (I said this enthusiastically and as a compliment since I’m a fan and The Exorcist is my favorite movie). She looked confused and asked me who that was so I told her it was the actress from The Exorcist. She chuckled and nodded like “ahh, I see” and said she’s never been told that before. Nothing to indicate to me that what I said bothered her. Judged to have no assholes present. But personally, I'd be completely weirded out by OP's obsession with "not the possessed version, the beautiful young child actress version, totally normal!!!"
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selec posted:When I was in high school Spanish we all picked either a Spanish name or the Spanish version of our existing name. HMMMMMM. "In America, this is very normal." Seriously, I find this quite weird. I've studied 6 foreign languages in a formal classroom context and no teacher did this. Ever. Midnight Voyager posted:I mean, that was one example. In a dub of the luchador movie Neutron the Atomic Superman vs. the Death Robots, they change the three lead guys's names from Carlos, Jaime, and Mario to Charles, James, and Mark. It's always super bizarre to see. I think I can understand a guy being named Mario. Then again, English speaking cultures do it, too*, so perhaps that's why your Spanish teachers did this. The crowd who was saying "just call people by their actual" name clearly hasn't seen English-speakers (or French-speakers) struggle to pronounce my first name. Even when I tell them how to do it, most of them still gently caress it up, even though all the individual phonemes of my name exist in English. So to those who really struggle, I will offer them to call me by my [language]-equivalent. * e.g. with names from Antiquity, like, what's so hard about Marcus Antonius that he has to be 'Mark Anthony' instead?
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Mx. posted:My (26F) husband (33M) uses the same mop water for weeks, and refuses to stop. Honestly I'm impressed with her restraint because if I was married to somebody who did this I would probably just divorce them immediately the first time it happened. Although I have a bit of a thing about cleaning practices anyway, I used to get in prolonged arguments with my ex because he sucked at washing dishes yet also refused to use a dishwasher. With poo poo like that, I feel like it's always less about the cleaning and more about a control issue/unwillingness to admit being wrong about anything. I'm glad I live alone now. On sleep regression kid, I think sometimes kids are just weird about that. I was a super anxious kid and was extremely afraid of the dark, I really don't know why looking back on it, I think I just had an overactive imagination. So I was a bad sleeper and I'm sure it was a huge pain in the rear end for my parents. I don't think the mom's reaction was out of line if this has been going on for a while and is also interrupting sleep for the other kids.
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Imagine nurturing a middle-school crush for so long that you've convinced yourself it's the love of the ages and not a hormone-fueled infatuation for someone you interacted with for ten minutes in PE class.
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Pope Hilarius II posted:"In America, this is very normal." I dunno, but they started a German program years later, second language program we ever had, and they did it for that too. It makes sense to me: you’re doing a bit of immersion, and language isn’t just about learning different words and syntax, the best language classes, especially for high school or younger, are also communicating cultural information. If this sounds hippie-dippy to people I dunno what to say. Maybe we had a teacher who just really leaned into it, but it made sense to us, and this was in the context of a small midwestern town of like 3000 people that was 30-40% Latino when I was growing up and is now like 65% Latino and just does full bilingual education for k12. You can’t really not lean into the cultural side of language learning in an environment like that if you want to do anything resembling a decent job.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I know, right? Coincidentally, another bizarre one that felt off in similar (but weirder) way:
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hey baby, you ever seen taxi driver? 'cuz
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Neito posted:I dunno if there's some missing reasons here or something, but it seems off. I'm not a parent, but seven seems old enough to expect a child to be able to put themselves to bed, right? (as an example, I have a six year old who is sleeping great now, but early this year she was sleeping poorly and having bizarre and excessive 2am meltdowns, along with some excessive daytime meltdowns. many sleepless nights, long conversations, and visits to professionals later, it turned out that she had ADHD. Her emotional dysregulation and disrupted sleeping were part of that, and understanding that my kid couldn't calm herself down was a key realization for me and my wife.)
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Pope Hilarius II posted:"In America, this is very normal." Its not that crazy, when learning english in school we also had "english" versions of names. Except for those who had no english equivalent, than its just normal name with english accent
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Foo Diddley posted:hey baby, you ever seen taxi driver? 'cuz I get that a lot. About the taxi, I mean.
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Modal Auxiliary posted:Not gonna lie, the Dr. Who thing flew over my head, partly because I've never watched the show but mostly because Matt Lucas gives me visceral creeps. Has he been milkshake ducked yet? Well, there are the multiple instances of blackface.
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