ApplesandOranges posted:AITA for gifting my twins differently on their birthdays? Guessing his daughter's "lack of interests" is more about him not giving a poo poo about her interests or finding them not worth his time. God forbid she likes girly things like shopping or makeup instead of taking an explicit interest in cars.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 17:47 |
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ApplesandOranges posted:AITA for gifting my twins differently on their birthdays? Holy favoritism, Batman! "She's into shopping and fashion." Then talk to her mother?? If you don't want to learn about her hobbies? Or talk to her directly? You *involved* your son in his gift purchase, but didn't involve your daughter at all for hers! I guarantee this rear end in a top hat could have gotten her something more personal at the very least if he spent more than 5 seconds talking to her. Hell, if he really didn't know much about his daughter's interests, he could have even offered to take her to the mall for a little shopping spree for her gift. Make a budget, so she knows what she can work with, and then all the effort is on her and you just have to follow behind and, yknow, spend time with your kid. Also, he's an idiot for spending that much on a car for an 18-year-old. I have a ton of issues with the way my father parented (namely: he didn't), but I did agree with his thoughts on cars for under-25s: You're not buying them a car, you're buying them a bumper car. Don't spend more than like 2 grand if you can manage it. (EDIT: granted, this was over 10 years ago, inflation would probably change this budget) If the son really likes doing work on cars, then an older car is actually better, because he'll get a lot of opportunity for learning how to do little repairs himself (
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 17:51 |
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Crocobile posted:AITA for getting mad at a woman after she accused me of sexually harassing her? Isn't this a fetish thing? There was a guy who used to constantly post similar AITA's about how he'd gained a ton of weight (normally blamed on COVID / working from home) and had to wear his old clothes that didn't fit him anymore. The stories usually involved him being scolded or accosted by coworkers or boss about his cartoonishly tight and ill-fitting clothes and his insistence that there was simply nothing else he could do except keep wearing them for reasons I can't remember.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 17:54 |
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AITA for telling my daughter not to spend money on her classroom because it makes the rest of us look bad?quote:I'm a first grade teacher and my daughter is a preschool teacher. She's a second year teacher. She was a teaching assistant for a year while she got the credits required to teach. Her school opened a second location with one classroom and she currently runs the location from 12-6:30 every day. you know those teachers who, decades after you've left school, you still remember and think back fondly on? yeah, well OP ain't one of 'em
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 17:55 |
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Sagebrush posted:Just out of curiosity cowslips warren -- this is not meant to be a dig -- how many hours a day do you spend on r/relationships and aita? Actually not much, maybe total 30 minutes a day because if I can't find a good story on the first page or so, usually just close Reddit down. Honestly usually takes the most time to format the post on my phone. I remember a while ago when I worked in a copy center, we had a teacher from a school that pretty much had extremely low income and homeless children. We just happened to find a bunch of colored paper stock that we didn't really need anymore or didn't use much of and that ended up making it into one of her boxes. She was a little confused saying her order shouldn't have been three boxes but turns out there was a lot of paper we could toss. I do like the fact that the private school teacher is the one saying you shouldn't spend a whole lot of money when private schools as far as I know are never free. AITA for telling my niece she’ll have to move out if she’s not my nanny anymore? quote:I’m a single mom to 2 kids (8 & 6). I work as a nurse. 3 days a week, I work 12 hour shifts (12 pm-12 am). After my husband passed, I needed a nanny to tend to my kids from the time they got off school (3 pm) onwards. I decided a live-in was the best choice. I have one guest bedroom. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 18:06 on Oct 10, 2023 |
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for telling my daughter not to spend money on her classroom because it makes the rest of us look bad? OP is right, you should never put your own income into your job. And that's creating an expectation for other people at that school to spend their own hard earned money making up for funding deficiency.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:03 |
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Stop doing this thing that's simultaneously useless but also so impressive that it puts everyone else to shame! So how much of this is just mom being pissed that the poors are getting nice things?
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:06 |
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for telling my daughter not to spend money on her classroom because it makes the rest of us look bad? Eh, the daughter's heart is in the right place and she is doing what is best for the kids, but teachers should not have to pay for this kind of stuff out of their own pocket, and by doing so, she is giving the administration someone to point at and say "She buys her own classroom supplies, why can't you be more like her?" as they continue to cut funding.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:07 |
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John Wick of Dogs posted:OP is right, you should never put your own income into your job. And that's creating an expectation for other people at that school to spend their own hard earned money making up for funding deficiency. It's dumb and bad, but 99% of that poo poo is tax deductible for teachers. I wrote off pretty much everything I bought for my first classroom.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:08 |
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Modal Auxiliary posted:It's dumb and bad, but 99% of that poo poo is tax deductible for teachers. I wrote off pretty much everything I bought for my first classroom. Used to be, now capped at $300 Edit: had to look it up and it’s actually been increased from $250 so yay? This fuckin’ country best bale fucked around with this message at 18:18 on Oct 10, 2023 |
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AITA for leaning on my daughter for emotional support whilst she was on her honeymoon?quote:6 months prior to my (62F) daughter (32F)getting married, my husband(64M) of 40 years left me to pursue a life of alcoholism. This left me emotionally distraught, and she was the only person with whom I could share my heartbreak, and lean on for support. She lived close by with her fiancée and I was able to go round to their house on a daily basis to air my latest grievances and let her know what her father had been up to. It was a much needed cathartic experience for me, and one on which my mental health depended.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:15 |
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Crocobile posted:AITA for getting mad at a woman after she accused me of sexually harassing her? Elastic waist jeans are a lifehack. Like, for real. If your shirt is untucked, they're like 85% as comfortable as pajamas but you don't look like you're going to the grocery store in pajamas.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:17 |
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Baron Zephyrus posted:Also, he's an idiot for spending that much on a car for an 18-year-old. I have a ton of issues with the way my father parented (namely: he didn't), but I did agree with his thoughts on cars for under-25s: You're not buying them a car, you're buying them a bumper car. Don't spend more than like 2 grand if you can manage it. (EDIT: granted, this was over 10 years ago, inflation would probably change this budget) If the son really likes doing work on cars, then an older car is actually better, because he'll get a lot of opportunity for learning how to do little repairs himself ( You really haven't looked in a long time. $10k basically gets you a decent 10+ year old car now. You aren't getting anything that actually runs and/or passes whatever local inspection is required for $2k.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:17 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for leaning on my daughter for emotional support whilst she was on her honeymoon? That someone is a therapist you loving idiot.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:19 |
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The_Franz posted:You really haven't looked in a long time. $10k basically gets you a decent 10+ year old car now. You aren't getting anything that actually runs and/or passes whatever local inspection is required for $2k. I just bought a spotless 2008 Subaru with 80k miles and it ran me around $11k. I'd be amazed if you could get a street-legal vehicle for under $5k in the US nowadays.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:24 |
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quote:EDIT: when you've dedicated 30+ years of your life to raising your children you don't always have an extensive support network. My daughter is my best friend and the only person I can trust to understand how I'm feeling. There is a lot of missing info here, such as why the alcoholic ex-husband was invited to the wedding (and didn't even cause problems).
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:25 |
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Kenshin posted:There is a lot of missing info here, such as why the alcoholic ex-husband was invited to the wedding (and didn't even cause problems). my guess is that he stopped drinking the minute that he escaped OP
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for leaning on my daughter for emotional support whilst she was on her honeymoon? How many phone calls a day is “a few”, jesus christ
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Modal Auxiliary posted:I just bought a spotless 2008 Subaru with 80k miles and it ran me around $11k. I'd be amazed if you could get a street-legal vehicle for under $5k in the US nowadays. I was looking at used cars last year and anything under $5k was either 20+ years old or had 200k miles. I guess you could buy one of those if you were desperate but I doubt it'd hold out for very long, and good luck getting it to pass smog.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:32 |
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Modal Auxiliary posted:It's dumb and bad, but 99% of that poo poo is tax deductible for teachers. I wrote off pretty much everything I bought for my first classroom. Yeah but tax deductible doesn't mean free. Most teachers would likely be at a 22% marginal rate. So for every dollar of school supplies, they save less than a quarter on taxes. So it's still more than 75c of their own money.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:33 |
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John Wick of Dogs posted:OP is right, you should never put your own income into your job. And that's creating an expectation for other people at that school to spend their own hard earned money making up for funding deficiency. "The world shouldn't be like that" is all very well, but we're looking at the world as it is. And "you're making the rest of us look bad" is incorrect; society is making them look bad, and they're blaming the teacher who tries to help.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:34 |
The_Franz posted:Eh, the daughter's heart is in the right place and she is doing what is best for the kids, but teachers should not have to pay for this kind of stuff out of their own pocket, and by doing so, she is giving the administration someone to point at and say "She buys her own classroom supplies, why can't you be more like her?" as they continue to cut funding. Oh yeah right as if by depriving the kids of this stuff she wants them to have, would ever encourage them to increase budgets. Also telling people how they should and shouldn't spend their money is a big can of worms that goes nowhere. Cause if we are playing telling people what they shouldn't spend money on "things to make their classroom better" is not on my list and if it is, so low not worth bringing up even in context.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:37 |
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Raising children has made me become much less of a hermit. I have to interact with lots of neighborhood children and their parents on a daily basis. It's actually pretty nice. Walking the kids to school and back home is the highlight of my day.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 18:41 |
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Xun posted:I mean he did gently caress up thee and thou, unforgivable really Not only that, forms ending on "-est" are 2nd person singular, not 1st person. Somehow I have always detested people who attempt to actually speak Shakespearean / Original King James Bible English (same for people who do the equivalent thing in Dutch) because it kind of feels like part of the whole cargo culting "being a man of culture" in the same category as wearing fedoras, and I'm even more dismayed when they completely flub it like this goober did. It's like you've smugly shat yourself and the poo poo didn't even come out right.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 19:15 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for leaning on my daughter for emotional support whilst she was on her honeymoon? ... Of course it's emotional incest.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 19:18 |
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My [42 M] wife [28F] has banned by children [11M, 10F, 8M] from my first marriage from our house because they refuse to call her "Mommy" or "Mom." This is a deep situation with no easy solution.quote:Before the inevitable comes...I know I screwed up a lot and now a lot of people are paying the price for my mistakes. What I am trying to do now is damage control for the past and try to create a workable future for all involved. r/relationships: Well, because I am a piece of human garbage with no character,
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 19:27 |
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If you're really a national level award-winning tradesman it can't be that hard to find a new job, right? Which means you can solve the wife situation on the way out too. As for the new kids though, uhhh good luck buddy.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for leaning on my daughter for emotional support whilst she was on her honeymoon? That's an option!?! I didn't even know that was an option!
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 19:37 |
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dumb as soup and very "country" hot i fuckin hate this guy
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 19:38 |
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Hughlander posted:That's an option!?! I didn't even know that was an option! it's like dedicating your life to the sea, only you don't need a boat and you don't need to go anywhere welcome aboard, matey
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 19:40 |
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Cythereal posted:My [42 M] wife [28F] has banned by children [11M, 10F, 8M] from my first marriage from our house because they refuse to call her "Mommy" or "Mom." This is a deep situation with no easy solution. the update for that is loving wild quote:UPDATE (was originally deleted; got this through Reveddit) Sounds like whatever lovely situations this dude ends up in are fully deserved. Wild that the guy bragging about making $200k a year is apparently thrown into debt from eating out too much but I would assume he got taken to the cleaners for child support. Also aren't there chronic substance abuse problems for most people working those oil/gas jobs? I always see it mentioned as one of those HS degree make 6 figs buy your own house but then there's a ton of negative circumstances that go along with it.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 19:54 |
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ApplesandOranges posted:AITA for gifting my twins differently on their birthdays? I know we've kind of moved on from this, but it's just sitting in my mind because does OP know what a car is for?? Like, maybe your son does want a car thats nice to look at and fun to work on and just drive about, but what your kids actually want/need is long term independent transport, and you've give one of them the endless opportunities that affords, and you've given the other one nice handbag. Presumably because you don't think of the girl child as a whole individual person because you're a fuckhead.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 20:00 |
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Doing some quick math based on both posts: He said he was married to his first wife for just over 10 years. His daughter is 10, and is the middle kid. He met his second wife about six years ago, and they've had two kids since (well first one wasn't his). Good thing he's making 200k a year because raising five kids in LA (assuming child support for the first three) cannot be cheap.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 20:06 |
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ApplesandOranges posted:Good thing he's making 200k a year because raising five kids in LA (assuming child support for the first three) cannot be cheap. Louisiana, not Los Angeles. We can assume the gators will get one or two by the time they grow up.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 20:08 |
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"typical North LA rooster strutting" makes a lot more sense now
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ApplesandOranges posted:Doing some quick math based on both posts: I think it's Louisiana, not Los Angeles
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 20:10 |
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This is what happens when you let your country use the same abbreviations for multiple places to live.
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 20:12 |
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no he's talking about all the roughneck jobs in los angeles
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Foo Diddley posted:"typical North LA rooster strutting" makes a lot more sense now Texans have a very short list of states we can look down on and LA is one of em so I can't make heads or tails of what a north LA rooster is compared to a south-LA chicken. Is north Louisiana where the swamps stop or something, in my mind the whole place is a below sea level bog world. Had some family do oil work, seems cursed to me. The 3 uncles who did it definitely seemed to have more money than my dad, but they also had Problems and one of ems dead now, not directly to the oil gig but during one of his short breaks from the rig trying to see his daughter. Seems like a miserable lifestyle aside from the money, which I have to assume is vastly underpaying and overworking these workers anyhow, even if it's more money than I'll ever earn in a year. I ate my lunch too fast and felt sleepy and took a nap, that's enough work hardship for the week for me. Khanstant fucked around with this message at 20:30 on Oct 10, 2023 |
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# ? Oct 10, 2023 20:25 |
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pentyne posted:Sounds like whatever lovely situations this dude ends up in are fully deserved. Wild that the guy bragging about making $200k a year is apparently thrown into debt from eating out too much but I would assume he got taken to the cleaners for child support. I don't know how true this is of the Louisiana oil industry in particular but a lot of those jobs aren't 100% stable either. Being the boss's son in law (and apparently an actual good worker besides) means he doesn't have to worry about layoffs but I'm guessing a certain percentage of that 200k comes from overtime and bonuses that you might not get in lean years. If your income is subject to periodic dips and you keep up the same spending habits regardless you can gently caress up your finances pretty good.
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