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FMguru posted:Strong spine for a 16 year old. quote:He looked quite shocked and asked me if I'm choosing my dog over him. I told him yes. Should have added "Unlike you, that dog's been there for me in the past four years."
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Hughlander posted:I'm going to assume that as long as the kids are paying for him the government won't do anything, the moment he's homeless he'll be arrested and deported for the Visa overstay. No one will want to put him up in detention. Nah see I assume some border patrol guy will see a screen saying both deport and don’t allow to exit at the same time and they will kick it all the way up to the high court as people avoid making a decision.
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Trimson Grondag 3 posted:Good chance this dude is going to end up in immigration detention (prison) while the government departments argue about whether the DPO takes precedence over a visa overstay or not. Nah I think this covers it: (2) Subject to subsection (3), a departure prohibition order remains in force unless and until revoked under section 14T or set aside by a court. (3) A departure prohibition order made in respect of a person shall be taken, by virtue of this subsection, not to be in force in respect of the person during any period during which an order is in force under the Migration Act 1958 for the deportation of the person. Deportation trumps the liability.
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Trimson Grondag 3 posted:Nah see I assume some border patrol guy will see a screen saying both deport and don’t allow to exit at the same time and they will kick it all the way up to the high court as people avoid making a decision. "If we deport him we're not allowing him to exit."
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There was that weird immigration thing in Canada a couple years back, where Chelsea Manning was trying to get asylum in Canada. The government said that if she lost the hearing, they were going to deport her. But she was attending the hearing online from the States. So the government argued that she needed to physically go to Canada, so that if she lost the hearing they could kick her out -- because they wanted to kick her out of the country, and they couldn't kick her out if she wasn't actually there. The judge laughed and told the government to gently caress off, then denied her asylum claim anyway.
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Here's a nicely-developing spine: AITAH for cutting my dad and step mom out of our lives and soon sister (no updates) quote:I, 27m and my wife 26f, recently cut my dad and step mom out of our lives due to some things being said. They moved us back to where I grew up after not being able to afford where we were living previous. After the 1st month of living with them and finding work they started to grow bitter towards us. I told them my wife will not work while our daughter is growing up, she is now 11months old, and can start working after our daughter starts school. To have extra money I found a 2nd job to work 2 days a week, it's more like a hobby that pays me since it's something I truly have a passion for. While living with my dad and step mom though my wife would get told she's either paying to much attention or not enough attention to our daughter regardless of any situation. On top of that my wife was not allowed contact naps with our daughter and missed out in our daughter's last true deep contact nap period when she was 4months old. After about 3 months i had enough saved to buy a car and get a place to rent (which i did both) but after i told my dad and step mom this they were both upset and started berating us saying we will not make it on our own (this was now 7months ago). Only time i messed up was when i doubled up some bills with our rent but my bills have never been late and they are paid every single month. I have been told that I am a constant liar, my wife will never change her ways, my daughter is under developed due to being taken care of by a SAH and we got tired of it so we cut them off when we moved out. After cutting them off my step mom has made it a goal to text/call us both 8+ times a week. Since we are not responding she decided to come to our house while my wife and I were out getting groceries. When she didn't get a response from our door she knocked on our neighbors door (we live in a triplex type house) and started to interrogate her asking why she didn't know where we were and why we didn't check in/out with her. My wife and I talked to people to work on our marriage and found out it was my dad and step mom putting stuff in our heads and making us turn on each other. After cutting them out and realizing it all we have had a great marriage again. As for my younger sister she got engaged and I didn't congratulate her due to her being tied in with my dad and step mom so much. I didn't want to bring the issues in on her. Well when I did congratulate her she called me and started berating me saying I have 2 options: make up with my dad and step mom or not attend her wedding. I will not be attending her wedding. AITAH or did we do the right thing? What awful people. Not sure what was my favorite detail - the infant being underdeveloped because the mom is a stay-at-home, or the stepmom demanding that the neighbors report to her on what OP and his family were doing. Some details from OP in comments: quote:Forgot main thing that drove the final blow to the nail. When i went to my dad's birthday (my wife and daughter stayed home not feeling good) I was told that they didn't want me there but wanted my daughter instead. Everything else in the post prior to my step mom showing up added to the nail being driven before we called it.
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Mx. posted:maybe kid you just had bad vibes my piss is beginning to fizz again
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FMguru posted:What's the relationship between "I enjoy people-watching" and "I am a leering creeper"? 98%? 99%? More? The post is obviously fake, but I think plenty of people enjoy people-watching in a non-creepy way. Like sitting at an outdoor cafe and watching the world go by is a perfectly normal thing to do and is people-watching even if not everybody calls it that.
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My boyfriend says he loves me even though he is cheating.quote:My boyfriend (M28) and I (F27) are together for 2,5 years. At the beginning it was going well, he was faithful but around 1.5 years ago he started talking about having threesome, being attracted to other girls. Later I caught him on dating apps several times but he said he just needed diversity and didn’t care about any of the girls he was seeing there. He said it was important for him to stay attracted to me and that he was always this way. He says he really loves me, we have good regular sex. But every time I’m gone for a trip he goes on hinge to meet girls. I don’t mind the physical part, Im afraid of him getting emotional with them. I asked him to always do it with protection, not to develop lasting connections, not to bring them home (we live together) and to be transparent. However, he is still doing it and doesn’t let the girls know that he is in relationship and every time I find out he says that he would rather not tell it because he doesn’t want to make me feel bad and cannot be successful with other girls if he tells them he is taken. At this point I’m about to go mad, how can I be sure he is not into them personally. I can only be attracted to someone if I’m in love with the person and cannot understand this behavior. Can it really be that he loves me if he is constantly trying to get laid with other girls? Boy golly, I wish I had a magical dick like this guy.
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Human Tornada posted:The post is obviously fake, but I think plenty of people enjoy people-watching in a non-creepy way. Like sitting at an outdoor cafe and watching the world go by is a perfectly normal thing to do and is people-watching even if not everybody calls it that. people watching is great, and this thread is just a weird version of people watching lol
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Looking around at the world and enjoying the weird behaviour of other humans is great. Sitting in the corner and perving on the lithe bodies of women half your age on the other hand is not cool.
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I'm still stuck on accordion dude. I've been a musician for more than thirty years and in my experience the only non-professionals who name their instruments are crusty, insufferable boomers. The musician is always a dude and the instrument is always a chick, and the whole thing is aggressively heteronormative at best and wildly misogynistic at worst. Just absolutely massive "I love a gal who will shut up and do what I tell her" energy across the board from most of these people. Tl;dr: stop naming your tools after women, it's weird af.
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Theophany posted:My boyfriend says he loves me even though he is cheating. WHY is she still with this guy?
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Cloacamazing! posted:WHY is she still with this guy? I think Theophany is saying magic penis.
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Theophany posted:My boyfriend says he loves me even though he is cheating. Self-esteem this low is rare, jesus
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Josef bugman posted:I think Theophany is saying magic penis. I'm sure she can get a better one off Amazon for twenty bucks!
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Slate.com advice, it's Drew Afualo writing the column quote:I ended things with my partner recently—we’d been together for a little over a year. I kept noticing toxic behavior over and over again, which were: a lack of trust, trying to catch me in lies that didn’t exist, keeping a close eye on my location constantly, asking where I was/who I was with every time we were apart, and making unsolicited and sometimes hurtful comments about my appearance. I would bring those things up occasionally, but the sense he didn’t trust me was always there. I love this person, and the decision to end things was challenging because we do have a very strong bond. In the time we took apart, which was only two days, we both realized we didn’t want to give up on things. We reconciled, and I promised to work on my own part of the dynamic (fear of being hurt, better communication, etc.). eta FMguru posted:Strong spine for a 16 year old. I thought adamantium was fictional, then I saw this kid's spine trickybiscuits fucked around with this message at 14:28 on Oct 27, 2023 |
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AITA for going to a wedding my entire family is boycotting?quote:I have several sisters and this situation involves 2 of them. Our oldest sister (April) was dating Jack for 2 years while they were in college. She was a year ahead of him and when she graduate, she got a job offer in another state. She didn’t want a long distance relationship so she broke up with him before moving. The entire time they dated, we only met him twice so when they broke up, our family completely forgot about him. AITA giving heirloom necklace to my stepdaughter quote:I have a stepdaughter Leah (20) and a biological daughter Sienna (16). I've been in Leah's life since she was 9. While her biological mother is in her life, in practise I'm her mum. While it was initially rough (she was not happy about her dad dating ), she quickly calmed down and accepted us. She's still a cheeky smart arse, but we're all close and she definitely loves us. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 14:54 on Oct 27, 2023 |
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ChickenOfTomorrow posted:Accordion tax Modal Auxiliary posted:I'm still stuck on accordion dude. I've been a musician for more than thirty years and in my experience the only non-professionals who name their instruments are crusty, insufferable boomers. The musician is always a dude and the instrument is always a chick, and the whole thing is aggressively heteronormative at best and wildly misogynistic at worst. Just absolutely massive "I love a gal who will shut up and do what I tell her" energy across the board from most of these people. I reject this notion; this is anecdotal on your end, and I'm gonna post my own anecdotes in contrast. I was in band for 8 years (4 of elementary/middle school, 4 of high school) and the high school years included marching band (and a short stint in jazz band). It was not uncommon to name your instrument and refer to it with the appropriate pronouns. (i.e. "Did you see where I put Frank down?" "He's by the speakers") This wasn't isolated to just my school's band, either. We talked to other schools' marching bands during football season, they all did the same thing. We competed in marching band competitions throughout the surrounding counties (including the county where my best friends' school was) and they all did the same, too. This was also in the 00s, I still had slowass dial-up internet, and I grew up in cornland. Things were slow to change and there was certainly a lot of heteronormativity and misogyny in a lot of the area's "culture" (for lack of a better word). But this was surprisingly gender-agnostic. I also understand that we were minors, but if a bunch of kids are doing this in a gender-agnostic manner, then surely it would continue on into adulthood as gender-agnostic if any of them chose to do so? For what it's worth, my family also names our cars, and refer to them as she or he (I always refer to my cars as she, but my mom calls her car he), as a sort of superstition of treating your vehicle like a living thing. You take good care of your car, and be gentle and respectful to your car, and your car will always see you safely home. And, to my family's credit, even when my car has had engine trouble on the road, it's always gotten me safely home or to an open mechanic to be fixed. Never been stranded in 15 years, and I've done a few dumb things before. I've known several friends throughout the years that also do this. There has also never been a solid rule for genders of either the musician or their instrument (or the car equivalents). I am AFAB and have been attracted to both men and women, and all my instruments (and cars) have been considered "she" to me. My mom considers her cars "he" (as did my college roommate, also a woman). Our tuba player called all his instruments "he." My best friend has used "he" and "she" for instruments and cars about evenly. It was most certainly *not* misogynistic in our band or in my family/friend groups. Most in both were women, and used male and female names and pronouns pretty evenly. I can see how some people would do so, but it is most certainly *not* universal. Nor am I a boomer in either the literal or metaphorical sense. People just like giving beloved tools/possessions names, and names often have pronouns attached. There's a joke that humans will pack-bond with anything. And musicians spend a lot of time with their instruments, and learning their individual one's quirks (I still remember the way my flute behaved), and this rings especially true with cars. Both are also often pretty expensive purchases. Nothing malicious is generally intended, though I understand being wary. Quackles posted:To get him out of her house. Understandable. Baron Zephyrus fucked around with this message at 15:16 on Oct 27, 2023 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for going to a wedding my entire family is boycotting? This sounds like some bro code bullshit but I guess it's sis code?
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Modal Auxiliary posted:I'm still stuck on accordion dude. I've been a musician for more than thirty years and in my experience the only non-professionals who name their instruments are crusty, insufferable boomers. The musician is always a dude and the instrument is always a chick, and the whole thing is aggressively heteronormative at best and wildly misogynistic at worst. Just absolutely massive "I love a gal who will shut up and do what I tell her" energy across the board from most of these people. honestly sounds like you need to hang around cooler musicians
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Baron Zephyrus posted:I reject this notion; this is anecdotal on your end, and I'm gonna post my own anecdotes in contrast. I support this. My call my current car Grimlock, my last car was Hope. Don't let people tell you naming inanimate objects makes you a bigot, that's bonkers without context. If I have my hammer my wife's name because it's the only way I can get nailed, then yes, that's lovely. But naming my sick Tuba Brunhilde, because she got them pipes, isn't a problem
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Modal Auxiliary posted:I'm still stuck on accordion dude. I've been a musician for more than thirty years and in my experience the only non-professionals who name their instruments are crusty, insufferable boomers. The musician is always a dude and the instrument is always a chick, and the whole thing is aggressively heteronormative at best and wildly misogynistic at worst. Just absolutely massive "I love a gal who will shut up and do what I tell her" energy across the board from most of these people. this is a weird post. I've met plenty of people, all genders/sexes and lackthereof, naming instruments.
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I can accept it, but I don't get it personally. I hate naming things, half the reason I don't have kids is so I don't have to come up with names for them!
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I believe the phenomenon Modal Auxiliary describes does exist, but I am lucky enough to be able to avoid people who behave like that
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Ravus Ursus posted:I support this. Your car shouldn't be Grimlock unless you drive a Truckasaurus!
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BATS FLY AT MOON posted:Naming your things is fine; getting mad enough about other people not immediately knowing the name and sex of your musical instrument to put a pronoun sticker on the case makes you insufferable. no fun allowed.png
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Captain Hygiene posted:I can accept it, but I don't get it personally. I hate naming things, half the reason I don't have kids is so I don't have to come up with names for them! I've found Steve is a good name to inanimate objects that have some kind of 'nagging' function or sometimes make annoying noises because shouting "Shut the gently caress up, Steve!" seems more cathartic than other names.
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My car's named Bela, after the creator in the wheel of time series
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Captain Hygiene posted:I can accept it, but I don't get it personally. I hate naming things, half the reason I don't have kids is so I don't have to come up with names for them! To be fair, from what we've seen from Reddit threads, naming your kid can start world war III in your family. Good line: Reddit: quote:"I’m just wondering what some impartial observers think" AITA for 'stealing' from my 17 year old stepdaughter? quote:I 46 M have been married to my wife Amanda 41 F for 6 years. When Amanda and I met She had two children from a previous relationship Chloe 17F and Marcus 15 M. Despite their father being absent, the children have never viewed me as a parental figure which does not bother me as although I love their mother, I don't see them as my children or feel any love for them. They're good kids, just not mine.
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My car is named Tony Pepperony, and that one fitting for cleaning the carbonation stones on my fermenters is named Jeff.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I can accept it, but I don't get it personally. I hate naming things, half the reason I don't have kids is so I don't have to come up with names for them! Understandable! Names are hard! I actually don't want kids in part because I'd be saddling a whole-rear end *person* with a name that they may end up hating or might end up a bad meme. I pity all the kids named Karen just before that one took off. I do enjoy naming things and pets, because they don't really care what you call them. So if it's cringey, it's still harmless. And I will spend hours picking a name in character creation. I'm still deciding on a name for my current car, trying to decide by Christmas. As for the pronoun sticker itself, maybe the OP could use a "Hello my name is" sticker instead? That's a bit less confusing and more likely to be immediately understandable. Cthulu Carl posted:I've found Steve is a good name to inanimate objects that have some kind of 'nagging' function or sometimes make annoying noises because shouting "Shut the gently caress up, Steve!" seems more cathartic than other names. I'm pretty sure this is why servers sometimes have names. You can stab a rubber duck with a knife if you get mad enough. Server admins don't have that ability, so they have to find catharsis somewhere.
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I think the she/her accordion is hilarious, personally. That's exactly my sense of humour. For the record, my car is named Jenny. Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for people-watching inside a cafeteria? Talk about burying the lede. I love people-watching, and was completely prepared to be on this guy's side over a harmless hobby, but dang this guy is just out here openly leering at young women. gently caress him.
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Modal Auxiliary posted:I'm still stuck on accordion dude. I've been a musician for more than thirty years and in my experience the only non-professionals who name their instruments are crusty, insufferable boomers. The musician is always a dude and the instrument is always a chick, and the whole thing is aggressively heteronormative at best and wildly misogynistic at worst. Just absolutely massive "I love a gal who will shut up and do what I tell her" energy across the board from most of these people. To be fair, the accordion person is trans, so I don't think this is the issue here.
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Cthulu Carl posted:I've found Steve is a good name to inanimate objects that have some kind of 'nagging' function or sometimes make annoying noises because shouting "Shut the gently caress up, Steve!" seems more cathartic than other names. I used to nanny for a family who named their dog Steve, this works great for living things too. Magic Hate Ball posted:To be fair, the accordion person is trans, so I don't think this is the issue here. That makes it even weirder imo, but I'll readily concede that the whole thing is a pretty irrational pet peeve of mine to begin with. I've just had too many interactions that start with some dude hoisting a tweed hardshell case and saying "You guys wanna meet Lucille?" and end with "I'm not a _______, but...“. As the band goon earlier mentioned though, it's pretty context-specific and I saw it almost exclusively in blues/funk jam contexts, which I think attract a pretty traditional demo to begin with. None of my metal and punk bandmates ever named anything, although one of my bandmates used to call my Tele "The Twang Machine" all the time. Modal Auxiliary fucked around with this message at 16:58 on Oct 27, 2023 |
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