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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for not making board game nights in my store child-free? Also, Emma's parents are great: quote:Her parents actually don't mind at all. Her mother told me Emma is smart enough to know what words she should and shouldn't use herself regardless of other people's usage, and that alcohol isn't necessarily a bad thing as long as it's being drunk in moderation. quote:It was honestly a surprise to see how good she actually is. She's better than probably 90% of DMs I've seen, and that's saying a lot. I kind of expected her campaigns to be relatively child-like and innocent (because, well, she's 10), but they turned out to be full of political intrigue, betrayals, plot twists and genuine heartwarming moments.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Does it also serve another use as 'alcoholic-looking thing to hold for sober people'? Yes, especially college kids.
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Nov 9, 2023 15:46
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I’m a committed capitalist and make my money murdering orphans. I recently found out my uncle, a school teacher who has gone into debt buying school supplies for his students, volunteers at a soup kitchen in his spare time. I confronted him at my grandmother, his mother’s, funeral. I strongly believe that anyone who needs charity should instead die. AITA??
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Nov 9, 2023 15:47
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Magnus Manfist posted:Of all the things posted in this thread that didn't happen, that one didn't happen the most. yeah most of the socialists I know will take a wedding as a collectivist event and as such, enjoy the free meal lol
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Nov 9, 2023 15:54
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I like people who don't drink. Someone needs to be able to make that 3am White Castle run and it ain't gonna be me.
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Nov 9, 2023 16:15
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I was sober for a while last year to test if alcohol was causing me any health issues, and I decided to inform my friend groups via a Facebook post. I didn't give the reason, and I said in the post that it's nobody's business. I did this mainly in solidarity for some people I knew who decided to be sober and admitted they had some folks treat them really badly about it. I'm typically an oversharer and would be happy to tell people the honest truth, but I wanted to help normalize not having to explain why someone doesn't feel like drinking.
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Nov 9, 2023 16:19
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I am, by nature, a person who shares things. If you offer someone alcohol or other drugs or food or water or whatever and they say "No thanks." you let them know the offer stays open til it's not in case they change their mind and then move the gently caress on. You offer the shot before you pour it, basically.
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Nov 9, 2023 16:25
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I'm sober because I keep forgetting I have beer in the fridge
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Nov 9, 2023 16:28
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If I'm close friends with someone who went from being big on drinking to having 0 drinks I'd definitely at least ask, because as a friend I'd like to know what's going on with their life. That said I'd be happy with any answer, whether they just don't feel like it or are trying to cut calories or any other reason. And if it's a stranger or someone I don't know well I wouldn't even ask except maybe to inquire if they're going to have something non-alcoholic instead.
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Nov 9, 2023 16:29
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Digital Osmosis posted:I’m a committed capitalist and make my money murdering orphans. I recently found out my uncle, a school teacher who has gone into debt buying school supplies for his students, volunteers at a soup kitchen in his spare time. I confronted him at my grandmother, his mother’s, funeral. I strongly believe that anyone who needs charity should instead die. AITA?? Why are you perusing my inlaws Facebook?
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Nov 9, 2023 16:39
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AITA for wanting to be part of my boyfriend's birthday and making him feel like he no longer wants to celebrate it?quote:I (32F) met my boyfriend (30M) last August and we officially started dating 1 month later. Our relationship is going very well and I think we have good communication skills. Until now we have done a good job accommodating each other's needs. We like to express our dislikes and look for solutions together. And we are open to mutual suggestions on how to improve.
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Nov 9, 2023 16:45
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a lot of alcoholics-in-denial use others' drinking as justification for their own. If they only drink socially, they must not have a problem. But if they're the only one drinking in a social setting, all of a sudden they are forced to confront that, and some would much rather just confront the others for not drinking.
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Nov 9, 2023 16:54
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My motto is good friends don't let friends be sober.
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Nov 9, 2023 16:57
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kdrudy posted:Yea, totally know these people exist it's just so bizarre. I'm from a small farming town in Wisconsin and I have never drank and never gotten any push back that I can think of past an initial "Why?" sometimes. There's a big generational element in my experience, even out in the sticks I find it's mostly the 50-and-up crowd that gets really weird about the concept of not wanting to be shitfaced as much as possible.
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Nov 9, 2023 17:01
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you have to remember that they did live watching their parents do the Mad Men poo poo of cocktails every night. A lot of them thought when they got old enough, it would be 'their turn' to be the drunkards. Ofc many others said no we shouldn't continue this trend and that's how society changed; so the ones who didn't are the ones left sticking out and it makes them even more upset that their favorite pastime is considered unhealthy to indulge in to that amount. C'maaahn, everyone used to drink! Loosen up!!!
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Nov 9, 2023 17:05
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I was once judged for drinking a beer in a hostel at 3pm, it was very strange.
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Issaries posted:AITA for wanting to be part of my boyfriend's birthday and making him feel like he no longer wants to celebrate it? Assuming this was written recently, they met last August and started dating last September, so it's been over a year? So bf is doing a birthday dinner with his friends, that OP (supposed girlfriend) is not invited to? And also a family dinner the next day, where his girlfriend of 1 year is also not invited to? And his compromise is to come by after he's celebrated with his friends, either for a booty call, or just a drunken overnight? Or maybe even a pre-game nooner? I mean, she's the side chick, right?
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I assumed it was this past August and they just phrased it poorly. Folks were talking about the short timescale in the comments, and I didn't see anyone get corrected.
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Nov 9, 2023 17:19
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I believe the OP clarified that they started dating in 23, so about 2 months.
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OK, so fine, it hasn't been a long time. And that would maybe explain not bringing her around to meet the family just yet. That's OK. Probably not a side chick then. Having her not show up to the friends party is still weird. The only way I see that being less weird is if this is at a restaurant and they specifically reserved it for X people, and OP makes it X +1, and it's too short notice to change plans. That being said, nobody seems like a clear rear end in a top hat here. OP asked BF about his birthday plans. BF says something to the effect of "I'm working on my birthday, and after work I'm meeting up with friends for dinner. The weekend around my birthday, I'm celebrating with my family. We can do something some other day around my birthday, just the two of us." That's a reasonable compromise, unless, again, he's keeping her from the friend group for some reason. The other offered compromises of him spending the night with her or coming by for the afternoon are either fine or skeevy depending on if he's implying that he's there just for sex. If he's saying we can spend time together as a couple on my birthday, but my open spots are my lunch break or after my other plans, that's OK. OP reads a little clingy for not being involved on his "special day" specifically. It's either do something on his exact birthday day, or nothing. And the "if it's important to him, then it's important to me" mindset seems a bit strong given that this is a few months in to a new relationship of two people who are in their 30s. That reads a bit more like someone who is 15-20, and this is their first relationship, and everything in their life has to revolve around the other person. CzarChasm fucked around with this message at 17:51 on Nov 9, 2023 |
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CzarChasm posted:OK, so fine, it hasn't been a long time. And that would maybe explain not bringing her around to meet the family just yet. That's OK. Probably not a side chick then. Also, it's HIS birthday and they've known each other for 2 months. And he was initially "oh she doesn't like her birthday, I don't want to rub my birthday in her face if she doesn't like birthdays at all." And she's guilting him about it? Like, I don't care about my birthday in the slightest, but I've resigned myself to the fact that my parents use it as an excuse to get together and my wife wants to make a big deal about it. So I just do what they want and then take a day off after to just vibe alone doing what I want. My wife's birthday was 2 weeks after we met, guess what I did for her birthday? We went on a fancy date the week after and I have her flowers because if it wasn't going to turn into a long term relationship it would've been crazy to force myself into her family and friends and make it about me.
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AITA for only marrying my girlfriend for sex/intimacy?quote:Me (27M) and my girlfriend (26F) had been dating since we were 22 and 23. We moved in together in our own apartment after a year of dating, though, everytime I tried to have intimacy with her, she'd only say that we should wait until marriage. I was obviously okay, but now, I'm getting impatient. She'd only kiss me, hug me, and cuddle. Nothing more than that. But lately now, my hormones has been going up, more than usual. Masturbating obviously didn't help. But again, everytime I tried having sex with her, she'd push me away and decline. I was frustrated at this point, so one day, I'd just buy a ring and immediately go home and go up to her as she was cooking, I went down on my knees and proposed to her. She screamed and jumped in excitement and joy, screaming yes. I was quite happy to see her joy of course. But we got married after 2-3 months of engagement, and we shared our first night together blissfully. It feels as if I've finally fulfilled my dreams and desires, yet I can't help but feel a bit ashamed and guilty of marrying her, thinking I only married her for my sexual desires. AITA for refusing to change my daughter's clothes at a birthday party? quote:I (34F) have two kids (8M & 4F). My daughter's name is Aurora. My husband (36M) and I chose that name because it was slightly similar to my late FIL's, and worked well with our last names. It had nothing to do with the princess from Sleeping Beauty. In spite of that, we've had fun with that movie in the past, and ever since my daughter realized that she shared names with a Disney character, Princess Aurora has been her favorite. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 18:14 on Nov 9, 2023 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for only marrying my girlfriend for sex/intimacy? You're an rear end in a top hat, and she's a weirdo.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for only marrying my girlfriend for sex/intimacy? Why the gently caress would you buy the car without taking it for a test drive? Religion really was the greatest form of mind control invented.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for only marrying my girlfriend for sex/intimacy? Congratulations on an old timey marriage! I hope the sex doesn't get old too quick! Hopefully they pop out a few kids before that happens!
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Grey Cat posted:You're an rear end in a top hat, and she's a weirdo. At least they (still) seem relatively happy with each other? So as long as they keep themselves out of the dating pool it's fine. That said I definitely have doubts as to whether a marriage like that will last. Every couple should have sex & also live with each other before marriage because those are very easy ways to see if you're incompatible. e: Then again, not having sex did not seem compatible with OP's beliefs and instead of finding a new girl he got married...
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Nov 9, 2023 18:24
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living together and not having sex for 3 years wow
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Grey Cat posted:You're an rear end in a top hat, and she's a weirdo. eh, not the first person to start a relationship because they want sex/intimacy. Obviously if it doesn't work out and need to break up it is a bit more laborious but not the end of the world unless living somewhere without no-fault divorce.
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Now I'm just thinking about that awful and awkward video where the two virgins marry and they kiss for the first time ever at the altar.
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Batterypowered7 posted:Now I'm just thinking about that awful and awkward video where the two virgins marry and they kiss for the first time ever at the altar.  Now a palate cleanser: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2p1-9MipLEw
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Electric Wrigglies posted:eh, not the first person to start a relationship because they want sex/intimacy. Obviously if it doesn't work out and need to break up it is a bit more laborious but not the end of the world unless living somewhere without no-fault divorce. I think that's the key difference there, starting a relationship for sex and getting married only for sex. If it works out, great, if it doesn't, good luck explaining that one to your wife. "I'll be real, I only wanted some butt."
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DandyLion posted:
This guy's head looks like a Gushers commercial.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Does it also serve another use as 'alcoholic-looking thing to hold for sober people'? Seltzer is also popular with recovering alcoholics. It's bitter and fizzy so it can help kind of scratch a similar itch. Liquid Death is a popular choice in that community, as far as I've seen.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for refusing to change my daughter's clothes at a birthday party? NTA. The invite didn't say anything like "Come in costume, but not Princess Aurora. That one's reserved." Only slightly surprised that party mom didn't do something like pour punch on the little girl forcing the clothing change. Also, gently caress you in principal for hiring a professional photographer for a 4 year old's birthday party.
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AITA for telling some people looking for a coworker why he was fired?quote:I got a new job recently and because they hired me, they were able to fire someone doing crimes against the company that they had been unable to replace. He grabbed and shook a female coworker of mine (on camera, in front of others) and threatened her, causing the shifts to be rotated to keep her away from him, stole hundreds of dollars worth of product, and was hateful to the company's customers, talking rudely or outright ignoring them to their faces when they were asking for help.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for refusing to change my daughter's clothes at a birthday party? It's really funny yet also loving sad that adults can be so much less mature than their own kids. I used to see it all the time when I worked at a zoo gift shop. Parents would be melting down over something stupid that their kid was completely unfazed by, to the point the kid was trying to calm down the parent and clearly embarrassed to be in public with them.
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ChickenOfTomorrow posted:AITA for telling some people looking for a coworker why he was fired? Is the boyfriend the guy that got fired?
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Either that or he’s given women a good shake in the past when they don’t do what he wants.
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he's just extremely pissed off that another man might experience consequences for assaulting a woman, that shouldn't reflect on his character at all
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Just think back to the reactions from plenty of men when #MeToo first hit.
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