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Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Halloween Jack posted:

My (34/M) wife (34/F) insulted the engagement ring I got for her, so I hid it, how can I make her actually make it up to me for hurting my feelings?

quote:

She apologized, but it wasn�t a very heartfelt apology, and she is annoyed that I am still upset with her, which is ridiculous, since she hasn�t offered me anything to compensate (buying me something nice, letting me try something new in bed, etc�)

ew, gross

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# ? May 28, 2024 21:08

Big Bowie Bonanza: Dec 30, 2007; please tell me where i can date this cute boy

I can tell that marriage is gonna go places

# ? Jan 5, 2024 00:44

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

fuckin divorce court, hopefully

# ? Jan 5, 2024 00:46

Big Bowie Bonanza: Dec 30, 2007; please tell me where i can date this cute boy

Uhh babe you didn�t like my ring and didn�t apologize hard enough so you have to cuck me now

# ? Jan 5, 2024 00:50

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

Commenter posted:

You already posted this and deleted it because you got raked over the coals.

OP posted:

That's not what happened.

Ron Howard Voice: But that was what happened.

Foo Diddley posted:

ew, gross

I don't know what got OP's comments deleted: reposting an argument he already lost, or that comment.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 00:50

PokeJoe: Aug 24, 2004; hail cgatan

Sagebrush posted:

37/2 + 7 = 25.5. the judges have ruled it technically not gross but he's riding a fine line

I hate that this ancient goon "rule" is actually somewhat accurate, it's just so stupid

:negative:

# ? Jan 5, 2024 00:52

PokeJoe: Aug 24, 2004; hail cgatan

I find myself subconsciously doing it whenever I hear about weirdo celeb relationships like DiCaprio or Dane Cook

# ? Jan 5, 2024 00:52

mllaneza: Apr 28, 2007; Veteran, Bermuda Triangle Expeditionary Force, 1993-1952

Half plus 7 predates SA.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 00:57

PokeJoe: Aug 24, 2004; hail cgatan

Not for me it doesn't

# ? Jan 5, 2024 00:58

Coca Koala: Nov 28, 2005; ongoing nowhere; College Slice

Space Kablooey posted:

the midjourney interface has a feed of all images you generate, so if she spent long enough scrolling she would have seen them. Also the developers kinda make it hard for you to make naked pictures

there are models other than midjourney that don't have the same restrictions.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 01:13

Desert Bus: May 9, 2004; Take 1 tablet by mouth daily.

Sagebrush posted:

37/2 + 7 = 25.5. the judges have ruled it technically not gross but he's riding a fine line

This is a weird way to calculate Pi but i'm kind of into it?

# ? Jan 5, 2024 01:18

Shanghaied: Oct 12, 2004; BIG PAD

Halloween Jack posted:

My (34/M) wife (34/F) insulted the engagement ring I got for her, so I hid it, how can I make her actually make it up to me for hurting my feelings?

https://x.com/dril/status/754537489805828096?s=20

Lmao guy is definitely the rear end in a top hat.

Although it still amazes me how much we consider to be "tradition" is invented out of whole cloth by mid-century admen. Like a ring has to cost a certain number of months' salary, has to have a diamond, or that a married man wears a wedding ring at all (didn't even know about the last one until a few months ago, when some people noticed that Biden doesn't wear a ring. But no, wedding rings for men only became a thing well after WWII).

# ? Jan 5, 2024 01:37

Pigsfeet on Rye: Oct 22, 2008; I'm meat on the hoof

Kuros posted:

We got an update on dude with the random prosthetic leg:

OG post:

AITAH for telling my brother he cannot stay with me over Christmas if he brings his prosthetic leg?

Update:

UPDATE on my brother and "his" prosthetic leg.

TIL that prosthetic leg theft happens a lot

# ? Jan 5, 2024 01:48

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; Ultra Carp

Halloween Jack posted:

Ron Howard Voice: But that was what happened.

I don't know what got OP's comments deleted: reposting an argument he already lost, or that comment.

quote:

Commenter posted:

You already posted this and deleted it because you got raked over the coals.

Big Bowie Bonanza posted:

I can tell that marriage is gonna go places

the ring cycle

# ? Jan 5, 2024 02:08

trickybiscuits: Jan 13, 2008; yospos

bucksmash posted:

laughing at their spouse's obvious distress

Ugh I'm flashing back again to the friend I justed posted about dumping a few months ago. They did that. Not like major stuff but like once I was driving the two of us to dinner and they had me stop so they could pick something up from a store and directed me to park under a sign that said "No Parking" (or maybe it was a fire hydrant) and kept telling me I didn't ned to pull up to the spot in front of the car in front of me. I should have driven away and left them. What a dick. (eta that my car registration was expired at the time and I was visibly worried)

Midnight Voyager posted:

He posted his fleet, and it cost at least a down payment on a house. It's over 60 ships, and that doesn't count physical merch (which at least MOSTLY exists) or any other crap they make up to add onto things, like virtual land grants.

drat, so close to understanding and yet so far, one might say lightyears away

# ? Jan 5, 2024 02:15

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

Halloween Jack posted:

My (34/M) wife (34/F) insulted the engagement ring I got for her, so I hid it, how can I make her actually make it up to me for hurting my feelings?

AITAH for telling my husband I'm jealous of future SIL's engagement ring

quote:

My BIL (husband's brother) just got engaged. My husband and I have been married for eight years. Before he proposed, he basically said you can either have a really nice ring or the down payment on a house. I went with the house (which I don't regret at all, with the market the way it is now), and I have a perfectly adequate ring that I also love.

I was fawning over her ring when we were in the car on the way home from seeing them and said something like "oh my gosh I'm so jealous" and my husband got very upset. I tried to calm him down. Like I'm also jealous of rich people with 5 houses and a private jet but that doesn't mean I expect my husband to provide me with five houses and a private jet, it's just a feeling. I'm also jealous of our dog who gets to nap all day and never worry about anything. I explained all this to him and he was still mad and said I shouldn't have said anything and it makes him feel like he can't provide for me.

I apologized but a few days later I can tell he's still smarting over the remark. Its actually getting kind of annoying. I tried to bring it up again and he said I just need to leave it alone and then added in "I'm entitled to my feelings just like you're entitled to your jealousy".

Honestly it just seems stupid to me. AITA?

# ? Jan 5, 2024 03:24

Space Kablooey: May 6, 2009

Coca Koala posted:

there are models other than midjourney that don't have the same restrictions.

i dont care about what the other models do because op was snooping around on midjourney

Space Kablooey fucked around with this message at 04:14 on Jan 5, 2024

# ? Jan 5, 2024 04:12

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

My wife (36F) wants to divorce me (35M) to marry her ex (40M)

quote:

I'm honestly completely broken. Short backstory: My wife met and started dating this man 16 years ago when she was an undergrad student and he was a grad student / working professional. We're American, he's Qatari. They dated for 6 years. When he turned 30, his family demanded that he returns to Qatar and gets married. His family was willing to accept my wife as the daughter-in-law (even though their 6-year relationship was considered illicit by them 'cause Islam), with certain conditions: she gives up her career and life in the US, converts to Islam and lives with them for 1 year to learn their customs. wife wasn't willing to accept, the man wasn't willing to be disowned by his family (lots of money involved). So they ended their relationship amicably. He got married the following year to a woman his parents chose, and has 2 kids now.

My wife and I started dating around the time they broke up. I should've seen the warning signs back then, but I didn't, 'cause I was trying to be "open-minded". She never broke contact with him, we attended his wedding together, and he attended ours. I thought it was just another case of exes who had a chill breakup and continue to be friends, even though I felt weird. I felt we never fully emotionally connected. We don't have kids because she has always said she wasn't ready, but now I know it's because she never wanted to be "tied down" to me.

This Monday she sat me down and told me she wants a divorce, and wants it as quick as possible. Says she will allow me to keep everything during the assets split, she doesn't want or need anything, she just wants this marriage to be over. Told me I was just her rebound, and she has never stopped loving her ex. Says she regrets not being bold 10 years ago when she could've married him. Told me she regrets how much she used me and how much this hurts. "But your ex is married" - her response? That's not an issue in Qatar. She apparently already discussed this with him, his wife and his parents. His parents don't have any conditions anymore since the son has done his "duty" (have a Qatari wife and especially offspring). The wife was aware that their marriage wasn't one out of love, so she has no issues with a co-wife. I tried to reason with her, but she's dying on this hill. Told me she's rather be this man's 2nd than my 1st.

What should I do? Should I just let her go? Should I try to reason with her more? And if yes, how? How could I even get through to her? Honestly, I don't even know what advice I'm looking for.

Do you want to get trafficked?!?! Because that's how you get trafficked!

# ? Jan 5, 2024 04:18

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Hughlander posted:

My wife (36F) wants to divorce me (35M) to marry her ex (40M)

Do you want to get trafficked?!?! Because that's how you get trafficked!

Even if that ends without trafficking, I'm sure she'll have a FANTASTIC time being "the wife that doesn't count because he has a Good Wife and Good Kids" in Qatar.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 04:30

shame on an IGA: Apr 8, 2005

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for calling my sister thin skinned after she told our parents� employees that they shouldn�t comment on her life choices because they didn�t go to college?

quote:
Admittedly my parents favored me (18m) because I�m neurotypical while disliking my sister Katie (23f). She asked to go to therapy as a child but wasn�t able to, and ended up getting on Medicaid and seeking one after moving out. She was diagnosed with schizophrenia and PTSD and was diagnosed with autism as a child.

I moved out at 18 and go to a HYPMS school, and I had a girlfriend in high school, went to a lot of parties and did summer internships and ECs. Katie didn�t do much long term planning in high school apart from taking AP classes and working at our parents� store to build savings. Katie dropped out of college at 18 because she couldn�t afford tuition, and she went to community college and transferred to a UC school. She is going to be 24 when she graduates because she was working and attending school part time.

She didn�t do normal teen things and she is kind of naive because she doesn�t drink, didn�t get a boyfriend until she was 21 and barely goes to parties. She came to visit and stopped by the store to catch up with former coworkers. Some of them tease her about not being as �worldly� as them and talk about the parties they went to in HS, which she is sensitive about. Basically she was talking about how she�s going to get a steady job with benefits as a paraprofessional next year while getting her masters in education. She said now she can relax and has money to go out on weekends.

They were teasing her saying she missed out on the carefree years of teen/early adult life and now it�s all downhill from here etc. She has hang ups about age because of an event that happened when she was younger. They were generally more settled down in life (kids, full time jobs etc) at her age so they were kind of teasing her for being behind. One of them said that it�ll be hard to find someone as she gets older and pointed out that she easily got attention when she was younger and found a long term boyfriend and had 2 kids with him, but had a hard time getting dates after she broke up with him at 25 until she met her now husband.

She said �I�m not you, you don�t know how my life has been and until you get your degree in psychology please don�t comment on my life choices.� As we were going home I pointed out that they seemed hurt by that comment and that she was showing off that she went to college and flaunting her privilege since it�s the one thing she has over them. I said that she needs to stop being thin skinned and laugh off the teasing.

Wicked Them Beats posted:

Loser: my sister, who worked her way through college, is pursuing her M.Ed. and is on her way to a steady career at a young age, all while overcoming abuse and neglect from me and my parents

Cool people: grown adults who brag about how their greatest accomplishment in life was that wicked rager they went to when they were 17

Elviscat posted:

How's he going to (presumably) Stanford, and moved out of the house, and apparently not working, while she's struggling to afford school, and is excited about doing a very hard job for like $45k/yr in California?

'Cause I'm guessing it's the parents going "boys go to school and get jobs, girls don't need education to find a husband" and giving their son a full ride and their daughter PTSD and jack poo poo else.

OP doesn't seem to do anything wrong in his story, but he comes across as the smarmiest little poo poo.

Mx. posted:

"she missed out on the carefree years of teen/early adult life" you mean when she was begging her parents to take her to the doctor because she was suffering from schizophrenia or no

very disappointed nobody posted the OP's self-killshot in the reddit comments of this one

OP posted:

The employees are in their 30s and 40s and they care a lot about high school and parties and dating and stuff.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 04:49

Coca Koala: Nov 28, 2005; ongoing nowhere; College Slice

Space Kablooey posted:

i dont care about what the other models do because op was snooping around on midjourney

That makes a lot of sense because as we all know, it�s impossible to use more than one model and so if OP has audited this guy�s midjourney usage it is strictly impossible that he could have ever used any other models to generate nudes of the ex girlfriend he is obsessed with, thank you for reminding me that we can disregard every other model because you can only use one, i had forgotten that fact.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 05:16

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for telling my husband to apologize for invading our daughter's privacy after he saw something he didn't like on her phone and took it away?

quote:

I (36f) have a daughter "Stacy" (17f), and two days, my husband "Josh" (38m) had borrowed her phone to send a text to my MIL since his phone had died.

From what he told me, after Josh had texted his mother, he had opened Chrome on Stacy's phone, and saw a website called Archive of Our Own on one of the tabs.

There was a story about a character sexually assaulting another character from one of Stacy's favorite shows in graphic detail. It disgusted my husband so much that he stormed into Stacy's bedroom, confronting her with it, and began yelling at her for reading it.

Stacy cried because he called her disgusting during it, and then Josh took the phone back to our bedroom, where he stayed in for most of the day.

When I came home from work, Josh told me what happened and demanded we punish our daughter by taking her phone away from her for the next two weeks and send her to therapy.

I said no to all of it, and asked Josh why he was snooping through Stacy's phone in the first place. He couldn't come up with answer.

I told him that there's much worse things Stacy could be doing than just reading about something so dark, that he invaded our daughter's privacy, and hurt Stacy's feelings by calling her disgusting.

I took her phone out of our bedroom and gave it back to Stacy. I then told Josh that he should apologize for invading Stacy's privacy and calling her disgusting.

Josh has since then apologized for calling our daughter disgusting but hasn't apologized for snooping, and refuses to do so. He says I'm being an rear end for expecting him to.

In the comments the story was for House of Dragons
"I just used her computer to text my mother, opened chrome, checked visited sites, guessed her password, went through the liked stories, read it enough to know the entire plot, it was a simple mistake!"

# ? Jan 5, 2024 05:19

Space Kablooey: May 6, 2009

Coca Koala posted:

That makes a lot of sense because as we all know, it’s impossible to use more than one model and so if OP has audited this guy’s midjourney usage it is strictly impossible that he could have ever used any other models to generate nudes of the ex girlfriend he is obsessed with, thank you for reminding me that we can disregard every other model because you can only use one, i had forgotten that fact.

If he's so smart then why is he not keeping the non porn collection in the other service?

Also what does it matter? He's clearly not over the dead ex whether she's clothed or not.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 05:29

Big Bowie Bonanza: Dec 30, 2007; please tell me where i can date this cute boy

I was assigned my AI like a Hogwarts house

# ? Jan 5, 2024 05:32

SulfurMonoxideCute: Feb 9, 2008; I was under direct orders not to die
🐵❌💀

Hmm, yes, coercing and guilting someone into doing sexual things they don't want to do is totally healthy and normal behavior. Not a form of sexual assault in any way.

Also, "I'm so jealous" is a compliment that people use all the time and there's zero hidden meaning or serious intent behind it. I'm loving autistic and even I know that.

SulfurMonoxideCute fucked around with this message at 05:43 on Jan 5, 2024

# ? Jan 5, 2024 05:33

Nebrilos: Oct 9, 2012

Hughlander posted:

AITA for telling my husband to apologize for invading our daughter's privacy after he saw something he didn't like on her phone and took it away?

In the comments the story was for House of Dragons
"I just used her computer to text my mother, opened chrome, checked visited sites, guessed her password, went through the liked stories, read it enough to know the entire plot, it was a simple mistake!"

If there was a trigger warning on the story, he wouldn't have needed to read the whole thing to know what was in it.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 05:42

wheatpuppy: Apr 25, 2008; YOU HAVE MY POST!

Nebrilos posted:

If there was a trigger warning on the story, he wouldn't have needed to read the whole thing to know what was in it.

Plot twist: dad wrote that story and now is upset to find his daughter has read his spank fantasies.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 05:48

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

FAFO, pre-teen edition:

AITA for giving my children permission to defend themselves and ruining my brother's visit? (self.AITAH)

quote:

My brother has two stepkids (10,8) that are absolute brats. He is infatuated with their mother though so he will not discipline them. It's fine because we do not see them much.

Over the holidays he came over with his family and the kids were horrible. My daughter 11, and my son 10, wanted nothing to do with them. I gave them permission to go to their rooms and lock the doors to keep the peace.

My brother and his wife starter bitching because my kids were being bad hosts. I said that I wasn't going to make my children unhappy to appease his.

Eventually my kids did come out to try and play together again. His kids stated pushing my son around. He told them to stop but they wouldn't. My daughter told them to stop bugging her brother but they wouldn't. They came to us and told us what was going on. My brother called them tattle takes and told them to just go play and deal with it themselves. I asked him if that's what he really wanted. He said yes let kids be kids. I took him to my daughter's room and pointed out that she had multiple belts and trophies from martial arts. Then I showed him my son's room, same thing.

Then I went back to the living room and told my kids, in front of him and his wife that they had my permission to defend themselves. He immediately called his kids over and told them to behave. Their mom was not pleased. She said that her kids were just having fun. I said that my kids idea of fun was probably a little more violent than hers.

Long story short they behaved for about ten minutes and then they decided to test my kids.

One black eye and an arm bar later his kids are sitting on the couch while my brother and his wife yell at me for raising brutes. For the record each of his kids, although younger, are bigger than my daughter. And they had had multiple warnings to play nice.

So currently there is a huge family fight because I let my kids beat up his innocent angels. Unfortunately for him most of the people that have met his kids are asking what they did to provoke mine.

My mom says that I should not have told my kids to defend themselves. I told her that she was welcome to host any and all gatherings that involved those brats. Last time they were there they destroyed a stuffed animal that had the cremains of her last dog. She doesn't like having them in her house either.

LOL

Also, WTF with that last detail?

# ? Jan 5, 2024 05:56

Troublemaker: Mar 12, 2007

wheatpuppy posted:

Plot twist: dad wrote that story and now is upset to find his daughter has read his spank fantasies.

Well, he did take the phone into his bedroom for the rest of the day, so there was definitely some spankin' going on.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 06:00

DreamingofRoses: Jun 27, 2013; Nap Ghost

FMguru posted:

FAFO, pre-teen edition:

AITA for giving my children permission to defend themselves and ruining my brother's visit? (self.AITAH)

LOL

Also, WTF with that last detail?

You can get a memorial stuffed animal of a pet that passes. Basically they destroyed a pet urn in fuzzy form.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 06:08

edgeman83: Jul 13, 2003

Troublemaker posted:

Well, he did take the phone into his bedroom for the rest of the day, so there was definitely some spankin' going on.

Man, I don't know what, in a horrible way, I want to be true: that he wrote it and that is how he knew what it was or that he took the phone because he wanted to keep reading it.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 06:32

Kitfox88: Aug 21, 2007; Anybody lose their glasses?

DreamingofRoses posted:

You can get a memorial stuffed animal of a pet that passes. Basically they destroyed a pet urn in fuzzy form.

Yeah it's just a mildly weirder form of those nice little boxes with a stamp of the pets paw and a picture.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 06:59

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

Seems like there's been an uptick in Pete-like stories recently. Here's another one.

AIW for going out to dinner with a coworker?

quote:

(F26) have been with my boyfriend (M28) for two years. Our relationship was great until a few days ago when I think I might have unintentionally caused a crack in it. To make a long story short, I have a couple of coworkers with whom I go for coffee after work, sometimes all together and sometimes with one or two, depending on their availability. The last few times, I ended up going for coffee with a male coworker, and a few days ago, we went to dinner together. He also asked me to go out to dinner later this week, but I'm unsure if I'll go. EDIT: I'm not going.

After informing my boyfriend about where I was, he noticeably withdrew and adopted a distant, chilly attitude. Despite my efforts to offer reassurance, his response was silence, which deeply unsettles me. Over the past few days, our conversations, although ongoing, have felt devoid of warmth and genuine connection. I'm increasingly concerned that his lack of trust in me has cast doubt on the strength of our relationship, leading me to fear the possibility of a breakup.

Until now, he has always respected my independence without imposing any restrictions, indicating a strong level of trust. However, recent changes in his behavior suggest a shift in this trust. I'm uncertain about the best course of action moving forward, as I don't want to inadvertently intensify the tension by pressuring him.

EDIT: I spoke to him and explained that I had no bad intentions. I apologized, and he asked if I didn't see the problem in what I did. I acknowledged the issue and reiterated my apology, promising to make it up to him. He then mentioned he would be visiting his parents for two days and wouldn't be home. I informed him I had been invited to another dinner but decided not to attend. He didn't respond verbally, but his facial expression indicated he didn't care.

EDIT 2: I will update the post in a few days after he comes back, I would like to talk to him again. I was invited by his sister to their parents house. I will go tomorrow and I will talk to him.

quote:

On her talk with her BF

I yelled at him because he was ignoring me. I then explained everything and he asked me if I saw the problem in my actions. I said yes. He then asked if I would be okay if he went out with other girl and I said no. To which he then replied by asking why did I do it? I didn't have the answer because I was expecting a normal dinner, casual hang out but it turned out that wasnt it. He kept staring at me without saying anything. I asked him what can I do to make this right. He told me to ask a guy I went out to a dinner for advice. I was crying during all this and begged him to think things through and he said that he already made up his mind. I asked him to tell me but he didn't. He only said that he might talk to me again after he comes back, if he deems it necessary.

Describing her BF

He doesn't forgive those who hurt him or those closest to him. He will turn a blind eye in certain situations and when people were unintentionally hurt. The thing about him is that most people I know (certain people around us, friends, family, coworkers, etc.) highly respect him and see him as somewhat distant and cold person but fair and brutally honest. He is a boring in a way that he is not really the most easy going person around, he is always dead serious and rarely laughs. It takes a lot of time for him to get comfortable around people and after he does he is a little bit more relaxed but still on guard. He is always relaxed around his parents or sister and she always makes him laugh which I never noticed till now. He always encouraged me to meet new people and to be around people, I guess he wanted me not be like him but I went to far and now he is gone. It's not that he doesn't like people or hates being around them, it is more like he is not available to everyone and he has a group of people he hangs around with and that is it....
He isn't that type of person, though. He doesn't wander around other women, and if they talk to him, he says that he is in a relationship. He respects everyone and gives everyone a chance. He also trusts everyone because he finds it easier than wondering if someone will backstab or betray him. Once they do, he removes them permanently from his life, and he doesn't care about reasons. I think he might remove me as well. I messed up so bad.

On if the coworker knew she had a boyfriend and if the boyfriend meet OOP's coworkers

He knew I had a BF, but he didn't care. I wanted to introduce him to my colleagues but I never got the chance.

Update from the next day:

quote:

Following some advice from some of you, I wasted no time and did everything I could to speak with him as soon as possible. When he didn't respond, I reached out to his sister, asking if she could ask him to speak to me. She agreed.

With his sister's approval, I went to their parents' house hoping to fix the mess I had created. I spoke to him in front of his sister and mom as his father was not home. I apologized for everything, went into detail, and handed him my phone to see the messages for himself. He took my phone, read the messages, but all he did was laugh. He laughed in my face and said, "This is the guy? Really? You could've at least gone out with someone better.I continued to apologize, asking what I could do to make things right, to make him believe me. He said he heard my words, but my actions spoke otherwise. He questioned what my apology changed, pointing out that I hadn't been honest until now. I insisted on my honesty, but he refused to change his mind.

He asked me if Im going to second dinner, I said no. He asked why not? You were perfectly fine going on the first, why not go to the second. He knew you had a boyfried so did you, but you didnt care. He told me that Im a free woman and that I can do whatever I want. I was crying but he didn't care. He thanked me for good memories and wished me all the best. I told him that I didnt come to his parents house for nothing. He told me that he spent two years with me for nothing. He then asked me to leave which I did. As I was leaving he told me that after he (coworker) has had his fun, he will discard me, and I will be left with a broken heart, weeping and ashamed. No man wants a woman who gives up her boyfriend or husband so easily.

I also received another message from a coworker. He asked if we are going to another dinner. As some of you guys said, he is indeed there and offering a shoulder to cry on. I didn't respond. I'm devastated, but I deserved it.

quote:

OOP on her intent going to dinner with her coworker and her exbf's feelings

Nothing. I just went out like you usually would, without thinking about it...
I'm not really into him but he is handsome if I can say so. His issue wasn't dinner it was me not telling him about it until later. He doesn't know the guy, I didn't tell him about the dinner and my emotions got the better of me and I said a lot of stuff I shouldnt have said. My ex takes these things super seriously, to him loyalty and duty are their own rewards. He isnt immautre like some of the people here think, he is hardened person and like I said he removes people from his life without second thought. I dont know why is he like this but its who he is. He probably went through a lot in the past but he never talked about it with me. I never pushed the issue. If he has a problem he will close himself off. He never speaks about it, he sorts it out himself. He isnt a loner, he just doesnt talk much and sticks to himself most of the time. That is why he comes as cold and distant person. He is really difficult to read. We never had any problems before this and even those we had we easily solved by a talking about it. To clarify, any problems regarding relationship we solved as a team, anything else I wouldnt even know about it, he would rarely if ever mention it.

OOP on hopefully seeing her ex again

It does indeed look bad, and even if he believed me, a seed of doubt would be planted in his head. Maybe after things cool off a bit, I could invite him to talk. If anything, I would like to smooth things out as much as I can because I do not want it to end this way. I would like a proper closure without any resentments or hatred towards the other person, I think he at least deserves that much.

On way her Ex spoke to her & the coworker

I'm disappointed in myself. I think he only talked to me because his sister persuaded him to do so. I didn't respond to a coworker's messages. I don't want to. One female coworker reached out to me because she is aware of the situation. She told me that she never liked the guy I went out to dinner with. She thinks he is a creep.

Long, but worth reading if only for your increasing astonishment at OP's obliviousness and her choosing at every step to dig the hole she is in even deeper.

FMguru fucked around with this message at 07:08 on Jan 5, 2024

# ? Jan 5, 2024 07:04

wheatpuppy: Apr 25, 2008; YOU HAVE MY POST!

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OOP on her intent going to dinner with her coworker and her exbf's feelings

Nothing. I just went out like you usually would, without thinking about it...

WTF does that even mean? It honestly sounds like she planned to just nonchalantly cheat.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 07:10

the holy poopacy: May 16, 2009; hey! check this out; Fun Shoe

wheatpuppy posted:

WTF does that even mean? It honestly sounds like she planned to just nonchalantly cheat.

I just assumed she meant just going to meet a friend for dinner, she specifically said elsewhere that she was expecting this to be a casual hang out situation.

She seems incredibly oblivious but dude is pretty weird and a pale shadow of Pete.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 07:22

idiotsavant: Jun 4, 2000

yeah dude sounds like a total weirdo but it also feels like there might be some missing reasons on her part

# ? Jan 5, 2024 07:38

Cloacamazing!: Apr 18, 2018; Too cute to be evil

Hughlander posted:

AITA for telling my husband to apologize for invading our daughter's privacy after he saw something he didn't like on her phone and took it away?

In the comments the story was for House of Dragons

Plot Twist: She was actually just reading a transcript of the regular show.

# ? Jan 5, 2024 07:39

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

idiotsavant posted:

yeah dude sounds like a total weirdo but it also feels like there might be some missing reasons on her part

The story she tells has some significant gaps that only get hinted at in her responses to comments ("I yelled at him because he was ignoring me." "my emotions got the better of me and I said a lot of stuff I shouldnt have said." - the yelling and the stuff she shouldn't have said don't appear anywhere in her original story)

# ? Jan 5, 2024 07:43

A Wizard of Goatse: Dec 14, 2014

Gradually discovering update by update that my flinty, hardened cool lone wolf OC ex-boyfriend is incredibly strong and brave and respected by everyone around him and has a powerful code of honor and two katanas

A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 07:49 on Jan 5, 2024

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# ? May 28, 2024 21:08

Sagebrush: Feb 26, 2012

Acknowledgement: this is only her side of the story and of course she's going to write it to make herself totally innocent. It's always possible that she's leaving out the part where they've been text flirting for three months and they felt each other up a little at the end of the night but NO MORE yada yada.

But we can only take her at her word, because otherwise these discussions are meaningless. So in the presented scenario -- going out to dinner with someone is absolutely not a romantic or sexual thing unless you choose to make it one. I have gone to dinner with married coworkers without their spouse present many times, e.g. when we're both attending the same conference, or in thanks for a favor they did me. Absolutely platonic. This could have been the same situation but her boyfriend is acting like she hosed the dude. Why does he jump there? Does he believe men and women can't be platonic friends, or that eating a meal with someone is automatically romantic?

He's also a weirdo: "He doesn't wander around other women, and if they talk to him, he says that he is in a relationship." Why? Does he think they're all just sluts and temptresses who are automatically going to try to gently caress him?

"He also trusts everyone because he finds it easier than wondering if someone will backstab or betray him. Once they do, he removes them permanently from his life, and he doesn't care about reasons." This is toddler level thinking. Everyone is automatically good until they do something I don't like and then they're bad forever? Grow up.

"somewhat distant and cold person but fair and brutally honest." I have never in my entire life met anyone who described themselves as "brutally honest" who was brutally honest in complimenting other people. It's always an excuse for them to be an rear end in a top hat and get away with it because "it's just the truth, you can't be mad at me for telling the truth!" Seriously grow the gently caress up.

"He questioned what my apology changed, pointing out that I hadn't been honest until now. I insisted on my honesty, but he refused to change his mind." Where did she lie? She went out to dinner and told her boyfriend where she was. He considers that dishonest because he imagines she's cheating. It's his hang-up.

"He asked me if Im going to second dinner, I said no. He asked why not? You were perfectly fine going on the first, why not go to the second. He knew you had a boyfried so did you, but you didnt care." As noted I have gone to dinner with married colleagues plenty of times, knowing full well that they are in a relationship, and it's not an issue because neither of us are trying to gently caress each other! What a goddamn child.

She's lucky to be rid of the guy.

Sagebrush fucked around with this message at 07:53 on Jan 5, 2024

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