WhatEvil posted:

Yeah I am not on meds. I have had improvements from self-treating with psychedelics which I've spoken about previously ITT. I'm no longer having 3-day panic attacks. I'm lucky also that I can afford talking therapy, which I am not currently using but am going to go back to soon.

cat botherer posted:

Anxiety meds are definitely worth trying, but their efficacy wears off pretty quick for a lot of people. Most of the time, therapy is what really can bring lasting improvements. Anxiety meds are better at delivery results quickly, which can be very important, even if the long-term efficacy is mediocre.

fuctifino posted:

The only pharm meds that have ever worked for my anxiety are benzos, and I've only ever taken them if I was in danger of a complete MH collapse and only for a max of 3 days at a time before then taking a few days off. Other than , nothing I've tried takes the edge off of my anxiety. Since having a weed prescription, I haven't felt a need to request any benzos from the GP though I've come close recently with the dead mum/oval office brother drama. 's efficacy can be maintained without increasing the dosage if you constantly switch strains

Miftan posted:

Ironically, the one person I know who tried weed for their anxiety has said it just makes it worse. Brains are weird.

fuctifino posted:

fuctifino posted:

But medicines are only a softner, and the triggers of anxiety need to be addressed head-on, at least from my own experience

Doctor_Fruitbat posted:

Lol, I just saw an ad reminding people to bring photo ID for the election on the 2nd May. Apparently no-one has told the electoral commission that they were planning to delay it.

Jaeluni Asjil posted:

I just noticed your av has gone?

fuctifino posted:

My anxiety went from 97% to <5% today after receiving her latest letter

fuctifino posted:

Thanks everyone. I think I've managed to nudge everything onto a comedy timeline, as I'm currently laughing at it all, and I never expected to be doing that

fuctifino posted:

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On the subject of personal anxiety, my recent few weeks of dealing with the death of my mum, interacting with my brother and being locked out of the estate was pushing me into dangerous MH territories, so I decided to tackle it head-on and I wrote an email to the solicitors who are dealing with her estate.

It turns out that my nephew was not the executor after all, but the solicitors. I let them know a brief overview of the drama and the fact that my brother has probably taken two car-loads of items from the house after staying there during her dying period, and for a week over Xmas. My nephew also has a key and was officially visiting the property once a week to collect and forward mail to the solicitors.

The culmination of dealing with my anxiety head-on is that they were both sent letters yesterday ordering them to return every item taken from the house, pointing out that it would be classed as theft if items are taken without being accounted for. I've told the solicitors I want no contact with either of them, and all communication will have to go through the solicitors. I've also told the solicitors that it would be impossible to meet with my brother or his son in person, which means every item in the house will have to be inventoried and there will be a professional in charge of deciding how items should be divided. I also stated that I do not trust that my brother or his son have keys to the house, nor do I trust the nephew doing the weekly inspection. So the locks are going to be changed, and a professional hired to inspect the property each week.

This is going to cost the estate a hell of a lot of money, which kind of sucks for my brother and his son. The solicitor kept stressing how expensive this would be, but it won't for me, as I'm getting a set amount (£25k) plus 1/3rd the value of the contents, but they are going to see their share go down by a significant amount. The cost of managing the estate will be taken off of the remainder after I'm given my share.

So every email I send to the solicitor will cost my brother and his son money. Every reply from her back to me will also cost them. I have lots of questions as I've not dealt with a dead mum before

My brother has also just lost his free Devon AirBNB

My anxiety went from 97% to <5% today after receiving her latest letter

Yeah, I got a weird chain of probations, followed by that ban, and followed by yet more probations after posting the first Gaza carpet bombing video. I paid $10 to rereg, and some nameless admin gifted me back platinum (thank you whoever you are!), but I had a bit of a bad taste about paying another $10 for an avatar, and I had no idea if Koos and co wanted to continue to be cunts.

fuctifino posted:

Thanks everyone. I think I've managed to nudge everything onto a comedy timeline, as I'm currently laughing at it all, and I never expected to be doing that

killerwhat posted:

I'm worried though, is your brother likely to kick off because of this?

NotJustANumber99 posted:

Seems a bit of an oversight to have the will written up to his benefit but not name themselves as the executors?

fuctifino posted:

It's even doubly weirder that both my mum and my brother stated that the nephew was the executor. Mum wrote it in her final text to me last summer (which I didn't read until a couple of weeks after her death). I can only guess that she hosed up. She was very ill at the time of rewriting and undergoing chemotherapy.

I've not seen the will, and probably wont until it's uploaded to the gov probate website, but the solicitors seem adamant that they are the executors, and I'm more inclined to believe them than a dead mum and a lying brother. Other than that, it's a mystery.

Just Another Lurker posted:

That was some form of malicious compliance i think and i greatly approve of it.

WhatEvil posted:

Have you ever suffered from mental illness?

Jaeluni Asjil posted:

If you're a beneficiary, surely the solicitors can show you the Will?

Failed Imagineer posted:

I don't really buy any arguments to the contrary as anything more than an abdication of personal responsibility. Like it or not we're all down here in the gutter with our broken brains and bodies trying to get by, so actively making life worse for others is the point where I simply say "your problems are a reason, but not an excuse". You may disagree, I don't really mind, there's no need for us to have consensus here and I doubt it makes much practical difference to how either of us inhabit the world.

Wachter posted:

Everybody shut the hell up about workplace drama and mental health and deal with some REAL issues for a change - I'm convinced that Tangfastics have become substantially less tangfastic

MeinPanzer posted:

I agree. The older I get, the more aware I am of the different ways in which people handle mental health issues, and especially how they get used to excuse bad behaviour. A lot of people frankly get away with being lovely and selfish by appealing to more common mental health issues like anxiety and ADHD.

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Data shows 14 of 25 blocks built by development arm of Rydon have issues and only two have had repairs completed

More than half of the residential blocks built by the company responsible for installing the deadly cladding on Grenfell Tower have “life-critical” fire safety issues, it can be revealed.

Government figures analysed by the Guardian show the development arm of Rydon, the company that installed the flammable cladding which was the primary cause of the spreading fire that killed 72 Grenfell residents, has built 25 residential blocks across England and 14 have been found to have issues.

The data, newly published by the Department of Levelling Up, Housing and Communities, shows the country’s biggest property development firms are responsible for building at least 1,325 buildings above 11 metres that have been deemed unsafe.

The total bill for fixing these blocks is estimated at more than £2.7bn – an average of just over £2m per building...

fuctifino posted:

‘Life-critical’ fire issues found in 56% of Grenfell cladder’s residential blocks

Jaeluni Asjil posted:

I have an acquaintance who was diagnosed with autism in her late 40s and suddenly changed her public "compliant with social norms" personality to being obnoxiously rude, loudly stating she didn't care about peoples' holidays, problems etc to their face in the pub (things she wouldn't have dreamed of saying 2 weeks earlier) and every couple of sentences saying "I've been diagnosed with autism". So she did know how "to behave in company" but decided to become completely obnoxious when she got this diagnosis as if it excused everything.

Jaeluni Asjil posted:

I have an acquaintance who was diagnosed with autism in her late 40s and suddenly changed her public "compliant with social norms" personality to being obnoxiously rude, loudly stating she didn't care about peoples' holidays, problems etc to their face in the pub (things she wouldn't have dreamed of saying 2 weeks earlier) and every couple of sentences saying "I've been diagnosed with autism".

Failed Imagineer posted:

I don't really buy any arguments to the contrary as anything more than an abdication of personal responsibility. Like it or not we're all down here in the gutter with our broken brains and bodies trying to get by, so actively making life worse for others is the point where I simply say "your problems are a reason, but not an excuse". You may disagree, I don't really mind, there's no need for us to have consensus here and I doubt it makes much practical difference to how either of us inhabit the world.