Durf posted:

If he still got a decent job without wasting time or money on a degree maybe he’s smarter than we think.

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Unfortunately I found that, that particular university wasn't right for me as their testing methods were not the best.

Troublemaker posted:

Real curious about this line. Hard to believe an entire university had the same standardized bad testing procedure instead of each professor having their own individual personal testing methods. Was the problem that they expected him to show up and take tests in person instead of saying, "hmm, no criminal record, you deserve a science degree!"?

FMguru posted:

OP said something like "they expected me to memorize a bunch of useless equations and stuff" so yeah.

Unfortunately, OP's account has been suspended, and the post and all his comments have been deleted, so we can no longer access his brilliant thoughts.

ApplesandOranges posted:

AITA for not telling my family that I transfered universities.

Durf posted:

Once he has his foot in the door no one will care if he has a degree as long as he can do the job. All future jobs will just look at past employment.

His sister is probably mad she’s spending 8 years to be a lab slave or get assaulted by people who don’t believe in germs.

Different era for sure, but for an example this dude faked his entire engineering background, got a job at Stanford, then became the second most powerful man behind Walt at Disney.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZSMVeypDWog

Pondex posted:

I just found out r/openmarriageregret is a real subreddit

Ghost Leviathan posted:

I'm not surprised in the slightest.

Durf posted:

If he still got a decent job without wasting time or money on a degree maybe he’s smarter than we think.

ApplesandOranges posted:

AITA for not telling my family that I transfered universities.

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

My parents gave me a large sum in first year to cover both tuition and living costs I had to pay the equivalent of the remaining tuition to the university i transferred to.

So I didn't keep any extra money. And because I didn't want my parents to know, I still had to pay living costs for 3 years after that as it had to seem like I was still studying even though I already got my degree within 2 months.

I did do some gig work like Uber during those 3 years though but it wasn't much. I got my IT job only after 3 years which is when I was originally supposed to graduate.

MagusofStars posted:

The fake university just so happened to cost exactly the three years' tuition he had sitting in his bank account? Wow, what a lucky coincidence that the numbers aligned so closely!

ApplesandOranges posted:

AITA for not telling my family that I transfered universities.

Brawnfire posted:

So check this out: eleven hundred dollars is exactly what I charge for acting classes!

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at least i was the first to post Olm Time tho

ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

oh did someone already post it? i'm 400 posts behind and wading through weird arguments about tents but thought it'd blow peoples' minds.

aita? someone else posted aita's from tumblr while i was busy with work and now i'm sad i can't be the one to post the juiciest one i've been following for days

ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

aita? someone else posted aita's from tumblr while i was busy with work and now i'm sad i can't be the one to post the juiciest one i've been following for days

Elblanco posted:

I think what's most baffling is he thinks this isn't a scam but a "modern online degree". Like this is the way thing will be soon. Reminds me of a book I read a decade ago claiming that MLMs were the future of business.

Troublemaker posted:

Real curious about this line. Hard to believe an entire university had the same standardized bad testing procedure instead of each professor having their own individual personal testing methods. Was the problem that they expected him to show up and take tests in person instead of saying, "hmm, no criminal record, you deserve a science degree!"?

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Dear Captain Awkward,

Four years ago I convinced my ex husband to have an open marriage. We are now officially divorced. Before we started the open marriage, I promised my ex we can start a family after we gave it a try. I still want to keep my promise and give him four children. That was the number he wanted. I wanted two, but I’m open to whatever he wants. I’m 34 and I want to do this as soon as possible. Now that he is single, I know he can find someone else. But I fear it will take him a lot longer finding anyone than just trying with me. I know he will be the best dad in the world and he deserves to have children of his own. I know with some certainty that he still wants to have children with me but he is still deeply hurt for what I dragged him through.

I don’t want to come off as if I’m manipulating him again. I don’t blame him, but I can’t wait for him to come around. I also plan to give up all parental rights to our four children. If my ex wants me to have no part in the children’s lives, I will stay away. If he wants me to pay child support, I’ll gladly do it. I need help to convince him to put up with me for another four more years and be at my side during the pregnancy.

The tricky part is I’m still in the polyamory lifestyle. I know he still wants to have children with me, but he’ll never ask me. And in his mind it’s probably too soon to be bringing up such a crazy idea. I know this plan sounds very selfish of me and it may seem like another attempt to manipulate him or keep him in my life. I genuinely do want to give my ex husband children. Doing this for my ex is very important to me. I want to make amends for being a terrible wife and ruining our marriage by giving him the only thing I can give him and the only thing he may still want from me. Failure to do this will leave a rot in my soul for the rest of my life.

DL

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You write a snappy email subject line (preserved as post title) and I could not look away from the rest of your email. Yes, I’m trying to dig up something nice to say so that you’ll have at least one good memory of our time together before we dive in.

I’m going to say this as gently as I can: It is time to leave your ex-husband alone. You’re divorced. Outside of any ongoing legal and financial settlements dictated by the courts, there’s a big fat zero in the column of the ledger where all the promises you made each other before and during the marriage used to be. Even in lasting marriages children are not bargaining chips, consolation prizes, or debts owed, so whether he wanted four and you were willing to compromise with two doesn’t matter anymore because it’s done. Your rotting soul is not your ex’s problem and his future dating prospects and reproductive plans are not your business, not anymore. Let him go. Let him go be sad, if that’s what’s happening. His sadness about what might have been is not an excuse for you to avoid dealing with your own grief, and it’s not your job to interpret his unspoken needs (if it ever was). Leave that man alone.

You write “I know this plan sounds very selfish of me and it may seem like another attempt to manipulate him or keep him in my life.” “I don’t want to come off as if I’m manipulating him again.”

You can stop sounding selfish and seeming manipulative with this one weird trick: Don’t be either of those things. Learn from the last time (“another…”, “…again”), let this email to me be a fever dream you had when you were in a very bad place, and then don’t manipulate your ex to stay in your life just long enough to take care of you through four pregnancies in four years (!!!!) while you continue to date other people (sure, why not) at which time you will “gladly” (checks notes) abandon a newborn and a stack of toddlers to his care while you go on your merry way. (You do realize that once upon a time he wanted to both have and raise babies *together* and not just have you be an egg donor/surrogate, right?) The problem here isn’t that it’s “in his mind it’s way too soon to bring up such a crazy idea.” The problem is that every single part of your plan on its own is the worst plan I’ve ever heard, and together they form a bullshit Voltron worthy of its own wing in the International Shitshow Museum. And while we’re here, there is a word for “convincing” that keeps going after one party opts out, and that word is “coercion.” It has no business anywhere near the process of making babies, including accidentally-on-purpose-which-this-would-definitely-be if you were to have a little unprotected ex-sex for old time’s sake because you “forgot” to use protection. Leave. That. Man. Alone.

If I have any encouragement to offer it’s that you will probably not flail like this forever, you will probably not feel this level of grief and FOMO forever, and your soul is probably not going to rot and fall off permanently. But you will not feel better until you stop pretending that this terrible baby-trap-and-release program is just some fleeting generous favor you are doing for your ex’s sake vs. one last desperate attempt to hold on for dear life because you’re not ready to let go.

Like this guy, that probably means finding a therapist and starting a lot of sentences with “I decided_____” until you can be honest with yourself, come back to reality, and own your choices for what they are. You wanted to be polyamorous and you wanted to be married to that guy, so you chose to try to open up the marriage. After trying things your way, your ex decided that he would rather be single. That was the risk you took, and these are the consequences. You can’t have “both/and” when the other party votes “neither.” Now you’re free to do whatever you want. Please grant your ex that same freedom and go find people who don’t require convincing about the stuff that will make you happiest.

ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

oh did someone already post it? i'm 400 posts behind and wading through weird arguments about tents but thought it'd blow peoples' minds. edited it down to just the diagrams (tbh I love that tumblr posters got together on discord to diagram it and come up with discussion questions)

aita? someone else posted aita's from tumblr while i was busy with work and now i'm sad i can't be the one to post the juiciest one i've been following for days

limp_cheese posted:

I'm partial to r/relationships: worthy of its own wing in the International Shitshow Museum.

Space Kablooey posted:

r/relationships: Your rotting soul is not your ex’s problem

Everett False posted:

Captain Awkward posted:

Even in lasting marriages children are not bargaining chips, consolation prizes, or debts owed,