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trickybiscuits posted:This one is interesting for the combination of Missing Missing Reasons, spinelessness, and wishy-washy advice. Why would you agree to keep cooking?! 
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Man, talk about a total dick move by a parent toward their son. They’re getting savaged in the comments: AITA for forcing my son to sell the car he is inheriting? POO Mode Activated 💩 This didn’t happen yet but my whole family is fighting over this. I’ll try to make this as short as possible. My father passed away in December. He owned a classic car. I believe it’s a 50s Chevy bel air. My son (17) is the only grandson he had. I have one sister who has 2 daughters, and I have 2 daughters along with my son. So there are 5 grandkids in total. My dad was never much of a girls guy. He always got along with the boys more than the girls. Him and my son were very close. He has left the car to my son in his will. The rest of the grandkids got $4,000 each. The vehicle is valued at over $70,000. My sister is LIVID, I am very unhappy as well. It’s just blatantly unfair to his 4 other grandkids. I don’t understand the legality of the situation because it was left to him but he is currently underage. The car is currently held at my moms house. I don’t know how to force him to sell it, but I think that is what should happen and the money can be decided equally amongst the grandkids. The way it should be. My son is very upset about this, he says grandpa left him the car so it’s his car. I have money saved for his college, I am almost considering telling him that his college money will be divided up amongst his sisters and cousins if he refuses to sell the car.
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Jan 27, 2024 04:43
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Pomme de Terror posted:Why would you agree to keep cooking?! You expect him, a MAN??, to cook for his kids? I mean why else would he have a girlfriend if not to have her cook for him/them. No she can't meet them, or hang out with them. She isn't their real mother.
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Jan 27, 2024 04:48
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I can’t imagine how awkward it would feel to sit and eat a meal made by someone who’s been sent out of the room like that.
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Jan 27, 2024 05:03
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trickybiscuits posted:This one is interesting for the combination of Missing Missing Reasons, spinelessness, and wishy-washy advice. To be fair to Annie she straight up called out the Missing Missing Reasons, and it's hard to actually give out actual advice to something like that.
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Jan 27, 2024 05:07
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My tendency is to be confused here because if I wasn’t willing to be in the same room as someone for legit reasons I also wouldn’t want to eat food that they made.
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Jan 27, 2024 05:16
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Pirate Radar posted:My tendency is to be confused here because if I wasn’t willing to be in the same room as someone for legit reasons I also wouldn’t want to eat food that they made. But what if you hate them and you know that food is seasoned with their bitter tears?
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Jan 27, 2024 05:22
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Pirate Radar posted:My tendency is to be confused here because if I wasn’t willing to be in the same room as someone for legit reasons I also wouldn’t want to eat food that they made. what if you hate them because their cooking is irresistible, it haunts your thoughts and turns all lesser meals to ashes in your mouth, they have lured you to your ruination and now you can never lead a normal life again having once tasted that green bean casserole
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Jan 27, 2024 06:23
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the holy poopacy posted:I think the relationship's pretty much toast at this point, but before she calls it quits she should ask him about inserting a reciprocal clause requiring him to go down on her x times per week just to watch his reaction. He would be totally down for that because the goal is his legally enforced right to her body whether she feels like it or not 
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Jan 27, 2024 06:46
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I dunno about that, the kind of dudes who demand sex are almost always the same kind who find the very idea of cunnilingus to be repulsive. They want to get, they don't want to give. Basically the kind of dudes who don't deserve any sex at all, and should be ostracized.
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Jan 27, 2024 06:55
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Malachite_Dragon posted:I dunno about that, the kind of dudes who demand sex are almost always the same kind who find the very idea of cunnilingus to be repulsive. They want to get, they don't want to give. That's fair, I'm happy to concede that it could be one or the other extreme so long as we're agreed they should all be fired into the sun at everyone's nearest convenience.
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Jan 27, 2024 07:27
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Silly Newbie posted:That's fair, I'm happy to concede that it could be one or the other extreme so long as we're agreed they should all be fired into the sun at everyone's nearest convenience. Oh yeah, I'm not suggesting she should take him up on the deal. I'd just be morbidly curious to find out which flavor of awful he is before ditching him.
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Jan 27, 2024 07:31
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:Man, talk about a total dick move by a parent toward their son. They’re getting savaged in the comments: It's pretty clear in this case the granddad just didn't have that much cash to give. I get that the shares aren't equal, but it seems like granddad had an emotional attachment to the car and wanted to pass it on to his grandson. Forcing the kid to sell is like pissing on his own dad's memory while at the same time burning his relationship with his son. Also, ianal but I am executing an estate and the dad in this case doesn't have a leg to stand on legally. And if he's the executor he can get in serious trouble for breaching his fiduciary duty to the estate.
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Jan 27, 2024 08:29
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Oh, on that topic Executor of Estate, wanting to invest/safe guard in Precious Metals for beneficiary. quote:My Dad recently passed in 2023. I am the named Executor, and have an Estate Account set up with local Credit Union. I understand that I have a Fiduciary responsibility for his Assets, for the beneficiary (my mom). His 401k and Roth is with Vanguard. To my knowledge, they do not have a Precious Metals fund and that is a bit concerning. I would like to protect what he has to a degree by having some PM's in his portfolio. What is the best way for me to go about doing this, legally? Can I "cash" out his accounts with Vanguard to the Estate Account, and buy some Physical PM's from there? Of course I have and would keep impeccable records of every dime spent. Am I able to "rollover" his Retirement accounts to another brokerage in the Estate's name, that would allow me to invest in a Gold fund, for example?
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Jan 27, 2024 08:34
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Were all the responses calling him an idiot?
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Jan 27, 2024 08:42
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Josef bugman posted:Were all the responses calling him an idiot? Some other poster posted:As the executor, you're not there to be the portfolio manager or to play junior Warren Buffett. It's a short-term job. You're there to get the paperwork done, get the debts paid, get the final tax return filed, and get the beneficiary her money as quickly as humanly possible. Do not start speculating in the market. That would be a violation of your fiduciary duty. The OP posted:I hear exactly what you are saying. A lot can happen in a year’s time. I would hardly call it speculating, when most asset managers would probably suggest 10% for PMs. It’s there for insurance, which I am trying to provide. Speculating in stocks is the furthest thing I am trying to do, for the record.
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Jan 27, 2024 08:52
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Man, those estate lawyers are a waste of money! Just ask Reddit for advice! What's the worst that could happen?
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Jan 27, 2024 09:17
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DeeplyConcerned posted:It's pretty clear in this case the granddad just didn't have that much cash to give. I get that the shares aren't equal, but it seems like granddad had an emotional attachment to the car and wanted to pass it on to his grandson. Forcing the kid to sell is like pissing on his own dad's memory while at the same time burning his relationship with his son. It comes out later that the grandfather specifically carved out maintenance for the car in his will to make it viable. This is clearly someone who cares more about the money than the object. Legally she probably can't make him sell it, but she can withhold the college fund. But then she should consider if 3/5 of $70k is worth curbstomping the relationship with her son. wheatpuppy posted:But what if you hate them and you know that food is seasoned with their bitter tears? Is spit seasoning too?
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Jan 27, 2024 09:18
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Pirate Radar posted:Oh, on that topic OP: "Hey Reddit, I'm trying to steal my mom's money so I can use it for TOTALLY SAFE speculation that for whatever reason I can't talk to her about to get her consent on, so should I just fake her signature or what?" Reddit: "Don't do that it's illegal." OP: "But I really want to!"
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Jan 27, 2024 09:47
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lol if grandfather gave the grandson the car and maintenance money and the 4 grandaughters got less than half of the value of that combined then gramps is the rear end in a top hat.
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Jan 27, 2024 09:49
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idiotsavant posted:lol if grandfather gave the grandson the car and maintenance money and the 4 grandaughters got less than half of the value of that combined then gramps is the rear end in a top hat. If the grandson turned around and sold it, sure, but that doesn’t seem to be the case here. The 1950s Chevy is probably less valuable in practical terms than a $5k car today, and some speculative value to a collector isn’t relevant if he keeps it. Not really that different than a piece of jewelry or something that has sentimental value even if technically the market value makes the inheritance “unfair”.
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Jan 27, 2024 09:56
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I mean, are people required to parcel out their estate equally? I thought it was always understood that if someone has a closer relationship with a person, they might get more in the will, such as preferential treatment in terms of receiving sentimental objects of value yes. You could absolutely argue that grandpa is an rear end in a top hat for clearly choosing to spend more time getting to know his grandson than his granddaughters, but by the point of the will it shouldn't be surprising how that's all lining up. He loved his grandson especially and had a soft spot and he showed that preferential treatment in death the same as he did in life. Making the kid sell the car won't undo grandpa's sins. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 10:09 on Jan 27, 2024 |
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Jan 27, 2024 10:02
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I mean if the situation was reversed and the single granddaughter got the inherited wedding band valued at $70k and the 4 grandsons all got $16k combined it would still be tremendously unfair, sentimental value or not. The estimated value is absolutely relevant - would you say the same thing for, say, a childhood home? edit: grandpa can give whatever he wants to whomever he wants in his will. Absent any other factors, though, he's an rear end in a top hat for giving one grandkid something worth a pile of money and the other grandkids like a fifth of that value combined idiotsavant fucked around with this message at 10:08 on Jan 27, 2024 |
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Jan 27, 2024 10:04
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idiotsavant posted:lol if grandfather gave the grandson the car and maintenance money and the 4 grandaughters got less than half of the value of that combined then gramps is the rear end in a top hat. No, his wife is still alive and part of the will was paying the person who was previously taking care of it to continue to do so.
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Jan 27, 2024 10:06
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idiotsavant posted:edit: grandpa can give whatever he wants to whomever he wants in his will. Absent any other factors, though, he's an rear end in a top hat for giving one grandkid something worth a pile of money and the other grandkids like a fifth of that value combined Oh agreed - the 'he's a boys guy' stuff sounds like he never even tried to know his granddaughters. Also lol simultaneous edits
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Jan 27, 2024 10:11
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Hughlander posted:No, his wife is still alive and part of the will was paying the person who was previously taking care of it to continue to do so. i mean that's still money, though. Maybe the grandson doesn't get $100/mo or whatever the amount is that the mechanic is paid, but he's getting an extra $XXX per year in car care. it's still just as unfair
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Jan 27, 2024 10:11
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idiotsavant posted:I mean if the situation was reversed and the single granddaughter got the inherited wedding band valued at $70k and the 4 grandsons all got $16k combined it would still be tremendously unfair, sentimental value or not. The estimated value is absolutely relevant - would you say the same thing for, say, a childhood home? Would it? Hypothetical grandma doesn't want the family heirloom sold off and only has so much money. What's the alternative here?
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Jan 27, 2024 10:19
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If an old dude loved their old car, he probably planned for the car's welfare first, and wasn't going to give it to a group of people or his adult kid that can't even definitively state the make/model of his prized possession(and would cash it out without consideration of the sentiment). He'd likely give it to the family member he thought would appreciate the car for being more than just a ride, or maybe the person who shared some positive experiences regarding the car, or possibly the only person he thought wouldn't scrap it immediately. And the rest of the cash is possibly just what he had left. It's not his responsibility to equitably disperse his cash value on expiry, it's their responsibility to either respect the wishes of the person they ostensibly cared about, or respect the legality of the agreement and quit trying to treat it like a shareholder dispersement. :/ Kid probably will still have to get a daily driver as well at some point. RubberBands Hurt fucked around with this message at 10:26 on Jan 27, 2024 |
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Jan 27, 2024 10:24
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This sequel to Gran Turismo sucks
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Jan 27, 2024 10:49
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Grandpa could have solved this problem by simply being richer
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Jan 27, 2024 11:41
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Pirate Radar posted:Grandpa could have solved this problem by simply being richer Or having only one grandchild.
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Jan 27, 2024 11:46
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OP could have also just shut the gently caress up about it. There's no law that says you have to broadcast the will publicly. My step grandfather came into my life when I was eight was probably very wealthy and he had a similar car. We were reasonably close. When he died he left me $5k. I don't know what happened to the car. Maybe it was sold to add to the estate (of which I presume most of it went to my grandma.) Maybe it was given to another grandkid. It's none of my business what he did with his money. It's also in my best interest for it to be none of my business. Let's say I got a door prize and his real grandkids got their college paid in full or something. I'm glad I don't know and I'm glad that no one told me. All knowing about it would do is sour a relationship at the very end.
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Jan 27, 2024 11:54
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RubberBands Hurt posted:quit trying to treat it like a shareholder dispersement. Pretty much. Grandpa liked his car and wanted someone in the family to continue enjoying it. He left it to the person who would fulfill that wish. Yes it's technically "unfair" on a crass financial level but welcome to reality! Sometimes there's only one of a thing, so only one person can have it, and the intact artifact has special value beyond what you can hock it for on craigslist. There could easily be other factors involved that aren't described. Like maybe the boy spent every summer working with Grandpa on the car and the girls barely ever saw him. But ultimately it doesn't matter. Grandpa wants the kid to have his car. Nobody else wants the car, they want money. There isn't any more money in Grandpa's estate. There's a car. I suppose if he wanted to be "fair" he could have put in a clause like "if you ever sell the car, I want you to split the money from the sale evenly with my other grandchildren." But I'm not sure if that's enforceable, and good lord, can you imagine the pressure the kid would get? Every family get together "when are you going to sell the car? When are you going to sell the car? You know I want to go to Italy and by not selling the car you're preventing me from living my dreams" on and on. Grandpa did it correctly.
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Jan 27, 2024 11:55
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My (22m) pregnant fiance 21(F) is crying herself to sleep again because of me.quote:So, I'm gonna preface everything with I'm a security officer, and supervisor with some pretty hosed up hours, I don't get off until 0000-0200 and don't get to sleep until 0400. One morning I had gone to bed at about 4:00, my pregnant fiance tried to wake me up at about 8:00 she was talking to me and pushing me, in my sleep I was unaware of this, I called her the B word in my sleep, laid down again snoozing. This was probably about a week ago. (The name calling is not at all intentional, nor do I believe that she is a B word.) Help me Reddit I don’t mean to call my girlfriend a bitch and also I can’t stop doing it.
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Jan 27, 2024 13:05
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Well if he's asleep he really can't help it, unless he gets hypnotherapy or something?
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Jan 27, 2024 13:08
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John Wick of Dogs posted:Well if he's asleep he really can't help it, unless he gets hypnotherapy or something? Hypnosis is fake, friend.
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Jan 27, 2024 13:11
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The Bramble posted:My (22m) pregnant fiance 21(F) is crying herself to sleep again because of me. Big oof
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Jan 27, 2024 13:13
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Space Kablooey posted:Big oof Yeah, engaged and pregnant in less than a year? I am sure all their relationship decisions were measured and well-thought-out. J/k, for all he knows she really is a bitch. She certainly seems to struggle with the concept of letting him sleep a full 8 hours.
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Jan 27, 2024 13:21
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Yeah, why DOES she need to wake him up at 8 am in the first place, unless there's an emergency? Especially since he's working the night shift or something, so his work hopefully starts late enough that he can get enough sleep and then handle whatever daily tasks need to be handled.
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Well apparently she was waking him up for sex
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