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Lottery of Babylon: Apr 25, 2012; STRAIGHT TROPIN'

Redditors really mad the underage girl wasn't home alone during a home invasion.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 15:32

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# ? May 29, 2024 20:07

the holy poopacy: May 16, 2009; hey! check this out; Fun Shoe

mystes posted:

You cut out the best part where they decided that the 17 year old actually did the robbery herself, OP responded saying they have footage from a camera showing that she didn't, and people responded insisting that that just means she must have masterminded it and gotten other people to do it.

I would have assumed that if anyone got friends to rob the house clean it would have been the person sitting in jail for financial-related crimes who can't make bail.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 16:12

mystes: May 31, 2006

the holy poopacy posted:

I would have assumed that if anyone got friends to rob the house clean it would have been the person sitting in jail for financial-related crimes who can't make bail.

That is more reasonable than it being the OP's step sister I guess, but If it was the OP's mother wouldn't she just have asked the OP to get poo poo together and sell it or something?

However, there are a number of people in the thread who decided it was the OP's mother but the step-sister was in league with her which is even weirder

# ? Feb 12, 2024 16:17

Shanghaied: Oct 12, 2004; BIG PAD

mystes posted:

That is more reasonable than it being the OP's step sister I guess, but If it was the OP's mother wouldn't she just have asked the OP to get poo poo together and sell it or something?

However, there are a number of people in the thread who decided it was the OP's mother but the step-sister was in league with her which is even weirder

I'm guessing that reddit thinks that the mother and the sister faked the break-in so that the valuables couldn't be seized by the cops. But not really sure why they'd think that when good ol' regular break-ins are also a common thing.

But anyway, OP is not an rear end in a top hat for getting mad, you can get mad all you want, what you think in your head doesn't make you an rear end in a top hat. They are however an rear end in a top hat for calling out the sister on social media.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 16:40

big mean giraffe: Dec 13, 2003; Eat Shit and Die; Lipstick Apathy

Not telling anyone the house was completely unoccupied does in fact make the sister an rear end in a top hat, hope this helps

# ? Feb 12, 2024 16:45

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

Everyone sucks here.
They shouldn't have dumped this on the shoulders of a clearly unprepared and struggling teenager, but the teen just up and abandoning the place without so much as a text is not great either.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 16:52

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

AITA for divorcing my husband over a puzzle?

quote:

I (34F) and my husband (35F) have been married for 6 years now. We met when we were kids and grew up together in a small town. Everybody always knew that we were going to end up together. I have a hobby of doing puzzles and I would often encourage my husband to join me, expressing that it would make me happy if he took an interest in what I enjoy doing. However, when I told my husband this he just laughed and said he has better things to do than �care home activities.�

The comment always rubbed me the wrong way, but I know my husband can be insensitive to these things, so I never commented further on it. My husband and I are very different. While he prefers to go out hiking or to meet up with friends in his spare time, I would rather stay at home and read a book or cook or doing puzzles at home. While I wouldn�t call myself introverted, my husband often told me I should make greater effort to socialise more and get out.

Recently, this topic has been appearing more and more in our arguments so last week I asked him so much why it bothered him so much that I don�t like to go out as much as him and he told me it�s �a waste of a pretty face.� I told him I didn�t appreciate that comment and that he shouldn�t have married me if what I did in spare time was such a problem to him. He scoffed and told me that thought he shouldn�t have married me either. He then left the house and came back until night, when I was already in bed.

I have a rather extensive collection of puzzles that I collect and then display in my office room. When we got married, I agreed I would leave them in my office when they were finished and that he would never find the pieces lying another He often told me I was filling the house with �eyesores� and that he wanted to live in a home not a children�s playhouse.

That night after he left, I redid one of my favourite puzzles to seek comfort from its familiarity. It was a gift from a friend that has moved away a few years ago. It was a beautiful custom made puzzle, and it meant the world to me. The picture that puzzle creates is one of me and my friend at our graduation. It�s a big puzzle comprising about 200+ pieces, so I didn�t finish it that day and I went to bed, leaving the pieces scattered over our dining table.

When I woke the next morning to finish the puzzle, it was no longer on the table where I had left it. It wasn�t in our bedroom; it wasn�t in my office, none of my collection was. I finally went to the kitchen to ask my husband if he�d seen my puzzle collection. He looked at me and with a smug little smirk and told me he had to put them all �where they belong.� I immediately knew that he had thrown them into the trash. It was Friday morning, and that�s when the trash was taken away. So I knew I had lost them forever.

I didn�t waste time shouting at him. I just went to my room and packed my essentials before taking a taxi to my mom�s place. He didn�t stop me from leaving. He didn�t ask where I was going.

I told my mom what had happened, and she told me I could stay at her place however long I need until I figured out what my next steps were going to be. I consulted my friends about the matter and they told me that my husband had been asking everyone where I was and had been telling them to keep their silences about his inquiries. They advised to look into divorce with my husband and if that wasn�t an option I will take then we should try couples counselling.

My husband realised I was serious and so he started spamming my phone calls and messages, telling me I was being �rash and unreasonable� and that no normal human should care that much about a �glorified piece of plastic.� I had not yet replied to any of his messages. Some of my friends also could not understand why the puzzles hold such value to me. But for me, that has just given me more of an incentive to remove him from my life permanently.

2 days ago, I told him I was going to mourn those puzzles more than I would ever mourn our relationship. Many people are telling me I�m making a mistake in seeking divorce so quickly and that I�ll regret my decision. But this whole experience has taught me I hate my husband, and that I was right to cheat on him on him with my friend that moved away.

So, am I the rear end in a top hat?

Edit: I cheated at the very beginning of our relationship when I was about 22. We were on break so I took this to mean we could see other people but he made sure to bring it up every time we argued. That final state should�ve been more like �I�ve finally realised I wasn�t in the wrong� Because even he slept with other women while in this break and he made that abundantly clear to me. However, he said that it wasn�t okay for me to do it because it tarnishes my worth

Edit 2: I�m so thankful for all the support I�ve received in this post, you guys really helped me make a decision on what my next actions should be. Despite how my post portrays him, I don�t believe my husband to be an abusive man. The post is not an overview of our marriage, just one specific day that happened to be a breaking point for me. A lot of people have said that me and my husband don�t seem to be compatible and I have also come to realise this. I think we worked better as friends than as a married couple and I wish him all the best in life.

Secondly, many people have said I stopped posting and replying once �the truth came out�. My husband throughout our marriage has never once downloaded Reddit telling me that it�s for �chronically online nerds� so I think the chances of him downloading Reddit and seeing this post is very slim. It has come to my attention that someone has been messaging people telling them that I was unfaithful throughout our entire marriage which is very untrue because both me and my husband to my knowledge have been loyal to each other full the 6 years we have been married. The person posting in the comments claiming to be my husband is an internet troll and probably found our names by looking at my previous comments and posts which have now been set to private. Once again thank you for all the support and advice. I don�t know how to express my gratitude.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 16:52

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Malachite_Dragon posted:

Everyone sucks here.
They shouldn't have dumped this on the shoulders of a clearly unprepared and struggling teenager, but the teen just up and abandoning the place without so much as a text is not great either.

I don't think she was trying to abandon the place, I think she was trying to go somewhere she'd be taken care of and not be alone. I agree the responsible thing would have been for her to tell her dad and stepsister she was staying with her boyfriend (and presumably boyfriend's family), and maybe they could have worked something out with her regularly checking on the property, but it sounds like she really got left in the lurch and didn't want people yelling at her or trying to order her back to an empty house she couldn't handle.

Really, most of the things she'd need to have done to make sure the house didn't look abandoned (check it was locked up regularly, take care of mail, etc) are things she could do while staying with another family, and I'm kind of surprised that wasn't the first step her family went for.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:04

mystes: May 31, 2006

big mean giraffe posted:

Not telling anyone the house was completely unoccupied does in fact make the sister an rear end in a top hat, hope this helps

If she had told the OP (her presumably soon to be ex-stepsister) or her father whose away on a military deployment how do you think that would have changed anything or helped?

I guess if she was an adult and felt safe doing that, she should have at least maybe arranged to go back and check on the house once a week but I'm not sure it would have stopped the house from being burglarized.

I do think she should have told the OP and her father where she was going, though, but more for her own safety rather than that of the house.

mystes fucked around with this message at 17:07 on Feb 12, 2024

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:04

Shanghaied: Oct 12, 2004; BIG PAD

Halloween Jack posted:

It’s a big puzzle comprising about 200+ pieces

200 pieces is big? What are you, a child? 1000 pieces minimum or GTFO. Surprised that OP doesn't set higher standards for herself.

Also, just divorce his rear end, husband sounds like a dickhead.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:06

keep punching joe: Jan 22, 2006; Die Satan!

Halloween Jack posted:

AITA for divorcing my husband over a puzzle?

The only puzzle here is why this man still breathes.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:06

AceClown: Sep 11, 2005

I mean, in the spirit of making poo poo up I can't verify it's entirely possible she messaged her dad who could have said "eh I'm divorcing samantha bankman-fried anyway so who gives a gently caress what you do with the house"

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:07

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

AITA for giving away my daughter's friend's last chicken tender?

quote:

My husband(41) and I(40) have five daughters; Avery(13), Bella(7), Cassie(6), Daria(4), and Emily(1.5). The three middle girls are good friends with an autistic girl, Jenny(6), who regularly comes over to play with them. We�ve also included Jenny in plenty of family outings, ranging from the beach to bowling to amusement parks. Jenny�s mom has done the same for my girls, only she takes them with her one at a time as she�s also autistic and not used to caring for multiple children since Jenny�s an only child.

We had Jenny over for a sleepover this weekend and took her out for lunch. Jenny and Daria ordered the same meal; chicken tenders and french fries, and I noticed that Daria finished her chicken before eating her fries, and Jenny ate all but one before moving on to her fries. About halfway through the meal, Avery had to go to the bathroom and offered to take the younger kids with her if they needed to go. Bella, Cassie, Daria, and Jenny went to the bathroom with Avery while my husband and I stayed at the table with Emily. While the older girls were gone, I saw Jenny still hadn�t eaten her last chicken tender and, assuming she wasn�t going to eat it, gave it to Emily, who ate a little more than half of it before her sisters and Jenny returned. After sitting down, Jenny noticed her chicken was gone and asked what happened to it. I told her, �You weren�t eating it, so Emily ate it.� She said she was �saving it for last� and looked like she was about to have a meltdown (which I still have yet to deal with in public), so I took the little piece of chicken Emily didn�t eat and gave it back to her, but she refused to eat it because it had �baby germs� on it.

When Jenny�s mom came to pick her up later that day, she told her mother about it. Her mom called me inconsiderate and said I should�ve waited for her to return and asked her before giving it away and told me that she often saves certain foods for last too (must be an autistic thing) before having Jenny say goodbye to my girls and leaving.

My husband and I talked about this and he said he agrees with Jenny�s mom�s point about asking her first, I think she overreacted, and the kids haven�t brought it up. Now that the weekend�s over, my husband suggested I take this to Reddit for an unbiased opinion, so here I am.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:10

big mean giraffe: Dec 13, 2003; Eat Shit and Die; Lipstick Apathy

mystes posted:

If she had told the OP (her presumably soon to be ex-stepsister) or her father whose away on a military deployment how do you think that would have changed anything or helped?

Yes they could have possibly called or even hired someone to house sit until someone else could be home.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:11

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for giving away my daughter's friend's last chicken tender?

And besides, Jenny was gone at the time. How was I to know she would even return?

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:13

the holy poopacy: May 16, 2009; hey! check this out; Fun Shoe

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for giving away my daughter's friend's last chicken tender?

Small stakes, but yeah, no poo poo you're an rear end in a top hat. Jenny's neurodivergence doesn't really have anything to do with it either (if anything, I thought that eating each component of the meal separately and completely before touching any others was the stereotypically autistic habit, not jumping around between different foods.)

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:15

AceClown: Sep 11, 2005

ahh yes, middle to late teens, that demographic well known for making rational decisions based on facts in times of crisis and upheaval

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:15

Deformed Church: May 12, 2012; 5'5", IQ 81

Shanghaied posted:

200 pieces is big? What are you, a child? 1000 pieces minimum or GTFO. Surprised that OP doesn't set higher standards for herself.

Also, just divorce his rear end, husband sounds like a dickhead.

Maybe it's a physically large puzzle with a small number of relatively large pieces?

Alternatively, I can't believe any self jigsawhead isn't more specific about how many pieces their favourite puzzle is. I'll allow some rounding because some shapes/dimensions don't lend themselves to big round numbers but "about 200+" is the sign of someone who doesn't take their puzzles seriously, and thus is TA.

ESH because he's a worthless excuse for a husband and she's a casual.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:16

big mean giraffe: Dec 13, 2003; Eat Shit and Die; Lipstick Apathy

AceClown posted:

ahh yes, middle to late teens, that demographic well known for making rational decisions based on facts in times of crisis and upheaval

It's AITA not Am I The Rational Decision Maker Based On Facts In Times Of Crisis And Upheaval

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:17

Shanghaied: Oct 12, 2004; BIG PAD

Lmao "the kids haven't brought it up" lol, except you know, the girl whose food you've taken.

Also I'm not even sure it's an autism thing, I'm not autistic but definitely remember eating the "boring" bits first and saving the "good" bits of food for last when I was little. Kids are weird with food.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:17

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

Deformed Church posted:

Maybe it's a physically large puzzle with a small number of relatively large pieces?

It says "custom made", if that means "handmade" then it probably has larger pieces than mass produced puzzles

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:18

mystes: May 31, 2006

big mean giraffe posted:

Yes they could have possibly called or even hired someone to house sit until someone else could be home.

The father was out of the country, the mother was in jail, and the OP was at college, and from the post it seems like none of those people could apparently bother to even ask whether the OP's sister in law who had just turned 17 felt comfortable/safe staying at the house alone.

If they cared about that, their first concern might have been to get someone to, you know, look after the OP's sister in law even if the house wasn't going to be burgled.

So yes, in theory they could have hired someone to house sit, but no, I don't think they were actually going to do that, maybe not because they're inherently assholes, but because they had far more pressing poo poo to be worrying about.

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for giving away my daughter's friend's last chicken tender?

If it was their own kid and they thought they were done eating it, they still probably should have apologized if they did it without asking and it turned out the kid was still eating it.

Since it's not even their own kid they shouldn't have done it without asking, and they definitely shouldn't be an rear end in a top hat and act like the kid is wrong to be unhappy about it as it sounds like here.

mystes fucked around with this message at 17:26 on Feb 12, 2024

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:19

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

Shanghaied posted:

Kids are weird with food.

My sister once lost her loving mind because my mother took all the cereal boxes that were almost empty and put them all together in one of those Tupperware cereal containers.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:20

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

Were they all the same cereal? Because if they weren't I agree with your sister

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:21

InediblePenguin: Sep 27, 2004; I'm strong. And a giant penguin. Please don't eat me. No, really. Don't try.

The husband calls the puzzles "glorified plastic." I think the puzzles are not jigsaw because jigsaw puzzles would be "cardboard junk" or "glorified posters" or something. Also a whole collection of these can be displayed in an office? Jigsaw puzzles come together into fairly large pieces usually, hard to display very many in an office. I was thinking the puzzles (she never says they're jigsaws) were actually gunpla or something, and then she claims one makes a picture of her friend and her, and that dashed that theory

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:22

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

haveblue posted:

Were they all the same cereal? Because if they weren't I agree with your sister

It was like regular Cheerios, Lucky Charms, Frosted Flakes, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, etc.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:23

Tomfoolery: Oct 8, 2004

InediblePenguin posted:

The husband calls the puzzles "glorified plastic." I think the puzzles are not jigsaw because jigsaw puzzles would be "cardboard junk" or "glorified posters" or something. Also a whole collection of these can be displayed in an office? Jigsaw puzzles come together into fairly large pieces usually, hard to display very many in an office. I was thinking the puzzles (she never says they're jigsaws) were actually gunplay or something, and then she claims one makes a picture of her friend and her, and that dashed that theory

An alternate possibility is that she has absolute poo poo taste in jigsaw puzzles, and her husband calls her puzzles a waste of time because he only works on 1,000 piece wood carved puzzles

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:24

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

Pope Corky the IX posted:

It was like regular Cheerios, Lucky Charms, Frosted Flakes, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, etc.

Yep, that's insane. I'm losing my mind too here.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:24

keep punching joe: Jan 22, 2006; Die Satan!

Wait is eating everything on the plate one item at a time an autism thing? I always go for veg first (because they suck), then the main bit, then potatoes/fries last.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:25

mystes: May 31, 2006

Pope Corky the IX posted:

It was like regular Cheerios, Lucky Charms, Frosted Flakes, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, etc.

wtf

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:25

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

Pope Corky the IX posted:

It was like regular Cheerios, Lucky Charms, Frosted Flakes, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, etc.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:25

DeeplyConcerned: Apr 29, 2008; I can fit 3 whole bud light cans now, ask me how!

quote:

I just went to my room and packed my essentials before taking a taxi to my mom�s place

Wasting precious moments that could've been saved had she already had a go bag prepped and ready for action.

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:26

mystes: May 31, 2006

DeeplyConcerned posted:

Wasting precious moments that could've been saved had she already had a go bag prepped and ready for action.

why is this a meme in this thread lol

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:27

Ulthar: Aug 14, 2007; My parents are deeaaaaaaad!!!

Pope Corky the IX posted:

It was like regular Cheerios, Lucky Charms, Frosted Flakes, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, etc.

Out of all the stories you�ve shared this is the craziest one

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:30

big mean giraffe: Dec 13, 2003; Eat Shit and Die; Lipstick Apathy

keep punching joe posted:

Wait is eating everything on the plate one item at a time an autism thing? I always go for veg first (because they suck), then the main bit, then potatoes/fries last.

No lots of non ND people do that too. The smart play though is doing fries first because they're most time-dependent for best flavor and texture

Pope Corky the IX posted:

It was like regular Cheerios, Lucky Charms, Frosted Flakes, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, etc.

Straight to jail

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:31

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

mystes posted:

why is this a meme in this thread lol

Started here and triggered a huge heated argument for some reason

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:35

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

Pope Corky the IX posted:

It was like regular Cheerios, Lucky Charms, Frosted Flakes, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, etc.

This is worse than the story when op took her boyfriend's different varieties of rice and mixed them into a single container

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:36

Shanghaied: Oct 12, 2004; BIG PAD

Tomfoolery posted:

An alternate possibility is that she has absolute poo poo taste in jigsaw puzzles, and her husband calls her puzzles a waste of time because he only works on 1,000 piece wood carved puzzles

Yeah no I see where the husband is coming from.

"Look, look, I finished the green one!"

"Sweetie, you're 34, you're wasting your time with this plastic garbage."

# ? Feb 12, 2024 17:38