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AITA for telling my wife (35) to stop sharing remodeling ideas with mequote:Today, I told my wife (35) to stop sharing remodeling ideas with me because it stresses me out. She loves looking at instagram and youtube videos of pretty looking homes and I do appreciate that she loves sharing them with me too. I don't particularly enjoy them, but I can appreciate good, clean looking designs and so have been enjoying them with her over the years. Ignoring everything else, a 1300sqft home is too small for a couple with a newborn? So small they buy a second house and rent out the first one? What the gently caress?
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Mar 1, 2024 20:42
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Shanghaied posted:lmao who was that bipolar goon who was gonna walk from California to Florida pushing a cart to raise awareness for bipolar disorder, and Texas goons were telling him "there're no sidewalks in Texas, you're gonna die" lol? Muerte, a true goon hero in his failure 
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Mar 1, 2024 20:43
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I remember there being an old AITA where someone had people keep doing that to the plants she grew at her own house, and other people could not understand why it was a bad thing.
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Mar 1, 2024 20:43
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Captain Hygiene posted:I thought it was kinda funny because we had a similar question back around Christmas, about clipping fir trees to make wreaths. It didn't get much discussion, but I'm against them. One leaf from a tree isn't really anything, but once you get bigger than that, just knock it off. It's property that somebody else puts work into, and the "teehee, nobody will mind, actually I'm doing a good thing" attitude runs me the wrong way. 1. A tree/bush has a natural shape, or is pruned to have an elegant shape. If you cut off growing tips, you may change the direction that branch grows, permanently, unless you know what you're doing. This: "One time I saw Lily snap a branch, which shocked me. You really have to put a lot of effort into snapping off a branch; that seemed a bit extreme to me" is a significant change to the plant. I'm betting she tore the bark. 2. Cutting somebody else's plants is a great way to spread disease; it also opens up the plant's sap to insects. People who are serious about gardening wipe their shears with bleach every time they move from one plant to another. 3. It's not yours. That peony in the public garden is there for hundreds of people to see. If you take a cutting, you're making it less beautiful, and putting your own pleasure ahead of the pleasure of everybody else in the park.
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Mar 1, 2024 20:44
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Shanghaied posted:lmao who was that bipolar goon who was gonna walk from California to Florida pushing a cart to raise awareness for bipolar disorder, and Texas goons were telling him "there're no sidewalks in Texas, you're gonna die" lol? That sounds like a plan a bipolar person in their manic phase would think up for sure
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Mar 1, 2024 20:45
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Captain Hygiene posted:This week: You be the judge: should my girlfriend stop snipping plants in the park? quote:Lily and I love going to gardens and parks, but she takes cuttings off any plant she fancies. When we’re out on a walk, I feel awkward when she leans over to take a clipping. If I saw someone else doing it, I would be quite shocked. I don’t want to be the kind of person who cuts things off plants in the park. I respect rules and I like to follow them. The only way to live all together in society is to follow the rules, but Lily is the opposite and makes up her own. That's a pretty big difference in personal values and attitude. But that's why we date before making things serious. OP should reflect on how he feels about this and whether he wants this relationship to be long term quote:We are having a baby in a month and have to decide how we are going to raise it. Lmao 
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Mar 1, 2024 20:46
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Shanghaied posted:lmao who was that bipolar goon who was gonna walk from California to Florida pushing a cart to raise awareness for bipolar disorder, and Texas goons were telling him "there're no sidewalks in Texas, you're gonna die" lol? muerte's death march it was a ton of bad ideas but the most concerning was he was on prescription lithium and just planned to get 3 months at once and hope it didn't run out before he could get a refill.
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Mar 1, 2024 20:51
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pentyne posted:muerte's death march Thank you! I'm also very happy about the way the whole saga ended - extremely funnily but without the harmless weirdo protagonist getting seriously hurt.
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Mar 1, 2024 20:56
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Magic Hate Ball posted:AITA for telling my wife (35) to stop sharing remodeling ideas with me quote:a home that is a little dated (built in 2000s). Home ownership is expensive, and to be honest, there's no way around having to do various repairs/remodels, and yeah, that poo poo can be pricey. But hey, wife can't hold down a steady job and lives life based on instagram, time to have a baby!
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Mar 1, 2024 21:00
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Magic Hate Ball posted:AITA for telling my wife (35) to stop sharing remodeling ideas with me
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Mar 1, 2024 21:04
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:maybe things are different in england or wherever the parks actually have gardeners and a limited supply of greenery and aren't just an undeveloped stretch of woods for people to dump bodies in but, lmao Yes, most urban areas in the UK have areas of greenery that are managed by the local authority. They provide an important service in hosting local day drinking communities, elaborate child killing machines disguised as playgrounds and typically sport a fine crop of needles whenever the economy takes another turn for the worse. They're already crap because they're held in common and the UK is basically a failed state, but most of my countrymen's' response to this will be, rightly, that Lily is making it worse.
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Mar 1, 2024 21:04
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Magic Hate Ball posted:AITA for telling my wife (35) to stop sharing remodeling ideas with me quote:Woof I feel terrible I made it seem like she had an idle mind. She's far from it - between the need to take time of to care for our newborn, and how she's always looking to improve herself and learn new things, she's far from idle. Her inability to keep a job was in part due to her switching interests often, but mostly due to things beyond her control - like terrible management, having a child (which set her back way more than one might have initially thought).
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Mar 1, 2024 21:09
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Shanghaied posted:Thank you! Unlike that Goon that snuck into some country overseas. Somewhere in the Middle East, maybe?
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Mar 1, 2024 21:10
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Batterypowered7 posted:Unlike that Goon that snuck into some country overseas. Somewhere in the Middle East, maybe? Caro ended up fine after some time spent in a Syrian prison. We got him back and i'm sure the money from his lawsuit against Syria will come in any day now. 
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Mar 1, 2024 21:14
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Yeah no, Caro's story gets dark fast.
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Mar 1, 2024 21:15
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Desert Bus posted:Caro ended up fine after some time spent in a Syrian prison. We got him back and i'm sure the money from his lawsuit against Syria will come in any day now. I think he already got the money, or some of it. It was paid out via a fund that collects proceeds from Syrian sanctions.
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Mar 1, 2024 21:17
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Shanghaied posted:Yeah no, Caro's story gets dark fast. Honestly I was just glad to hear he was alive after all that. Guy has some issues but no one deserves what he ended up going through. pentyne posted:I think he already got the money, or some of it. It was paid out via a fund that collects proceeds from Syrian sanctions. This is good news, hopefully he's been spending it on psychologists.
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Mar 1, 2024 21:17
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Magic Hate Ball posted:AITA for telling my wife (35) to stop sharing remodeling ideas with me absolutely unhinged behavior. they spent $27,000 on remodeling their house just to turn around and completely empty their savings to move into a different one?! what the gently caress her parents offering to just give them tens of thousands of dollars to enable this makes me wonder if she just has no concept of what poo poo costs
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Mar 1, 2024 21:21
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So I get the whole "the park is for everyone so be nice to the plants" thing, but that guy is a loving geek and I want to give him a wedgie. Like I don't even care that he's probably right, I hate his whole wanting to bootlick society thing. I bet he looks and acts like Carlton from Fresh Prince.
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Mar 1, 2024 21:25
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Captain Hygiene posted:Lol, I followed Jorts on twitter for so long that I forgot there was a reddit tie-in way back when. I just want to say that I wish I had known about this account sooner:  
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Mar 1, 2024 21:29
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aardwolf posted:I just want to say that I wish I had known about this account sooner: This is amazing 
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Mar 1, 2024 21:58
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Wasn't their some minor twitter drama because the person running that account gave a person poo poo for complaining about their instacart shopper and it turns out said complainer had a disability or something. Or was that someone else?
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Mar 1, 2024 22:24
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metachronos posted:Wasn't their some minor twitter drama because the person running that account gave a person poo poo for complaining about their instacart shopper and it turns out said complainer had a disability or something. Or was that someone else? Ugh. Yeah, that was them. Disability discourse on Twitter is a nightmare zone. My 2c as a disabled person: the Jorts account runner was kind of a jerk about the whole thing, but not so much that it ruins my enjoyment of their content in general.
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Mar 1, 2024 22:41
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metachronos posted:Wasn't their some minor twitter drama because the person running that account gave a person poo poo for complaining about their instacart shopper and it turns out said complainer had a disability or something. Or was that someone else? You're in a coma and this is a message from your loved ones please wake up
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Mar 1, 2024 22:42
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Farg posted:You're in a coma and this is a message from your loved ones please wake up fuuuck it's not working 
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Mar 1, 2024 22:57
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mycelia posted:Ugh. Yeah, that was them. Disability discourse on Twitter is a nightmare zone. My 2c as a disabled person: the Jorts account runner was kind of a jerk about the whole thing, but not so much that it ruins my enjoyment of their content in general. Yeah I have spastic diplegia CP and I use instacart because hauling all that stuff into my apt is pain in the dick, and I still feel weirdly guilty about propagating gig economy bullshit so I just try to be polite, rate them 5 stars even if they gently caress up, and leave a fat tip.
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Mar 1, 2024 22:59
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I can't believe OP is passing up the deal of a lifetime like this! AITAH for refusing to look after my parents when they get older quote:My parents have been very vocal their entire lives that their money is theirs to do with as they please, they will not help their children if they financially struggle, and if there is nothing left for us in the will when they pass, well, tough poo poo. FMguru fucked around with this message at 23:02 on Mar 1, 2024 |
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Mar 1, 2024 23:00
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metachronos posted:Wasn't their some minor twitter drama because the person running that account gave a person poo poo for complaining about their instacart shopper and it turns out said complainer had a disability or something. Or was that someone else? The person in question was posting about how they drove to the grocery store themselves to find and yell at their instacart shopper for taking too long
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Mar 1, 2024 23:06
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FMguru posted:I can't believe OP is passing up the deal of a lifetime like this! i think theoretically that's the sort of thing that could be negotiated: have the parents set up a trust, transfer (most of?) their assets into it, designate the caretaker child as beneficiary of the trust, designate a trustee to verify that the caretaker is executing their duties faithfully and to manage the trust so that there's something left for the caretaker, etc etc i'm sure there's steps i'm missing that said, i'm sure the parents in this scenario would be dead-set against any such plan ("why don't you trust us? this is family we should be able to work it out without getting others involved"  ), and even if it worked i'm sure it would incur drama with the other siblings when suddenly one of them got more than the others
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Mar 1, 2024 23:15
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Batterypowered7 posted:She never turned in a rental application so her coming in and getting a tour was the only time we ever interacted. ngl giving someone a massive fake name and interacting with them long enough that they have to figure out how to address you sounds like fun if you like annoying people.
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Mar 1, 2024 23:41
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Farmer Crack-rear end posted:i think theoretically that's the sort of thing that could be negotiated: have the parents set up a trust, transfer (most of?) their assets into it, designate the caretaker child as beneficiary of the trust, designate a trustee to verify that the caretaker is executing their duties faithfully and to manage the trust so that there's something left for the caretaker, etc etc i'm sure there's steps i'm missing The whole point of the arrangement is that they'd be paying her wildly less than another CNA, and conversely she'd be making a fraction of what she would be caring for some other selfish boomer she doesn't appear to have a particularly good relationship with. It's one thing if everyone involved has a really close bond and money is no object etc. etc. but then it wouldn't be getting submitted to the wisdom of Reddit a lot of lovely old people just take for granted that a reverse-mortgaged mcmansion an hour from Peoria and 18 years of memories of resentful pseudo-parenting is an irresistible enticement for any prospective caretaker and when the time comes they've left nothing else to bargain with
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Mar 1, 2024 23:46
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metachronos posted:Yeah I have spastic diplegia CP and I use instacart because hauling all that stuff into my apt is pain in the dick, and I still feel weirdly guilty about propagating gig economy bullshit so I just try to be polite, rate them 5 stars even if they gently caress up, and leave a fat tip. I was There for that drama and (IIRC) it was about a woman who went to the store where her Instacart shopper was and saw them standing in the aisle marking everything as unavailable despite it very clearly being on the shelves. I think that’s where Jorts’ account runner said she should stop using Instacart John Wick of Dogs posted:The person in question was posting about how they drove to the grocery store themselves to find and yell at their instacart shopper for taking too long Not quite. DreamingofRoses fucked around with this message at 00:05 on Mar 2, 2024 |
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Mar 2, 2024 00:01
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There's an excellent chance that at least one of OP's parents winds up needing specialized nursing or even "memory care" (aka dementia) institutions. There comes a point where a single person flat-out cannot care for a severely mentally or physically disabled person, CNA or not. And at that point the theoretical inheritance -- if they're even managing their finances well enough to have one -- disappears into health-care costs.
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Mar 2, 2024 00:28
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Another small update from the guy whose fiancee who unilaterally declared a six-week "break" while walking into the airport for a six-week European vacation. tl;dr - she called in her parents as flying monkeys, OP still isn't having it Am I wrong for canceling our wedding?' quote:Spoke with her parents last night. Woke me up they must have forgotten about the time difference between coasts. They offered to pay for couples therapy to help us work through this rough patch as her mother called it. Told them no thank you. She ended our relationship.
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Mar 2, 2024 01:04
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Part of me is morbidly curious as to exactly how many dudes she sees as an acceptable number to gently caress on her tour of Europe. And would her flying monkeys still be on her side after finding out. E: if she struck out entirely that would also be hilarious
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Mar 2, 2024 01:11
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mycelia posted:Ugh. Yeah, that was them. Disability discourse on Twitter is a nightmare zone. My 2c as a disabled person: the Jorts account runner was kind of a jerk about the whole thing, but not so much that it ruins my enjoyment of their content in general. My favorite is when perfectly able-bodied people try to use disabled people as a cudgel against ever doing literally anything to make it easier for people to get around without needing a car to do so Oddly enough, they never seem to acknowledge the existence of people whose disabilities makes it difficult, expensive, or impossible to drive 
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Mar 2, 2024 01:13
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What I don't get about the "on a break" homegirl is like... ok, she could have just not given him a heads up she was about to mega-cheat on him, and went around europe for six weeks having a grand old time. But part of her plan seemed to have been the blocking his rear end that whole time? I guess so he couldn't argue with her and she could present him with some bullshit justifications when she came back? But If I was in a relationship where I was ready to marry someone and they flat out said "hey we're just not gonna talk for the next 1.5 months" then I would also take that as a break-up cue.
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Mar 2, 2024 01:18
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Kurieg posted:if she struck out entirely that would also be hilarious I'm guessing it was this-- she went there hoping to be swept away by a handsome and rich man, got nothing but the type of gross dudes that are all over waiting for stupid tourist women, then decided she'd settle for the guy at home.
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Mar 2, 2024 01:28
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From every angle the entire euro trip break seems like a test, either her deciding to test the waters or testing him to see if he would cheat, or even seeing if he'd chase her into the airport for some grand romantic proclamation of love. Just the absolute dumbest 90s Cosmo dating advice school of thought.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:There's an excellent chance that at least one of OP's parents winds up needing specialized nursing or even "memory care" (aka dementia) institutions. There comes a point where a single person flat-out cannot care for a severely mentally or physically disabled person, CNA or not. And at that point the theoretical inheritance -- if they're even managing their finances well enough to have one -- disappears into health-care costs. When my mother suddenly went into decline her medical plan sent social workers and nurses to check on her but getting her into any type of facility would be a years-long wait unless you were willing to pay a fortune which Mom didn't have. The State can assist given enough notice but you have to be pretty much penniless but you are allowed to have a home. It was made clear to us that if we went that route the house would be gone to pay the State back. We ended up hiring 24/7 nurses at the end since even with several adults trying to help take care of Mom it still wasn't enough. Mom wanted to die at home so the money we spent was well worth it for her and us as your sanity starts going down the drain watching a loved one deteriorate.
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