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mllaneza posted:Assigned at birth is the issue. Someone described as MTF is being described as having spent some part of their life as the "wrong" gender. Describing them as AMAB implies that society got it wrong, not that they were being the wrong gender. It's subtle. That seems pretty correct. Saying mtf or ftm also implicitly excludes nb people from gender and transgender spaces. Like my spouse was afab and is trans but certainly doesn't identify as a man, trans or otherwise. It's important to have terminology that welcomes people who looked at the existing gender binary in their culture and said "welp, not for me, but thanks".
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Most Power Alex posted:Animes is just a shortened form of animation, the Japanese use it to refer to all cartoons. Want to tell this guy that The Simpsons is the best anime. Shut your whore mouth! Bananas in Pajamas is the best anime! 
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:it's not really the kids that are the problem. I let my neighbors kids gently caress around in my front yard and a couple months later their parents decided that meant it was now common-law their property and put a fence around it while we were out. when that didn't fly they started doing poo poo like calling the cops to try to get em to come shoot our dog all the time, which also hasn't worked out for them so far but I kinda wish I'd chased off those kids to begin with Yikes. That sucks, man. They put a fence around YOUR yard? Did they intend to keep you out of it?
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that was the idea yeah there's a reason there's a recurring trend of stories just like that online, lotta people and apparently parents of small children in particular are fuckin psycho and if you let them touch your poo poo you're always running the risk they will decide that actually it is their poo poo that you are taking from them somehow, and devote their apparently limitless supply of free time to loving with you over it until one or both of you dies
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Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:
some people just like being lovely about trans women in particular.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:it's not really the kids that are the problem. I let my neighbors kids gently caress around in my front yard and a couple months later their parents decided that meant it was now common-law their property and put a fence around it while we were out. when that didn't fly they started doing poo poo like calling the cops to try to get em to come shoot our dog all the time, which also hasn't worked out for them so far but I kinda wish I'd chased off those kids to begin with I feel compelled to point out that your case does not seem to be a typical situation. While sometimes tensions can be smoothed over with a six pack of beer and a friendly hello, in your case I think more extreme measures may be necessary. your first step will be to establish air superiority . That will allow you to protect your ground assets such as your home, family, vehicles and pets. Aerial assets can also play a critical role in surveillance, alerting you to potential threats before they escalate. I want to stress at this point that you want your aerial assets to strictly obey the boundary lines between you and your neighbor's property. Once tensions have escalated to this level, an incursion into your neighbor's airspace, however unintentional, may be interpreted as an act of aggression.
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AITA for putting child-proof locks on the stove to stop my adult sister from using it?quote:I (f19) live with my stepsister Nicole (f20). We live together in a small two bedroom apartment whilst we both attend the same college. Our hometown is a small rural area that's around a 3 hour drive away. Yes, apparently Nicole is foiled by childproof locks. Commenters point out that this is incredibly concerning and a serious talk needs to be had about that with the parents as well as the setting poo poo on fire twice thing.
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DeeplyConcerned posted:I feel compelled to point out that your case does not seem to be a typical situation. While sometimes tensions can be smoothed over with a six pack of beer and a friendly hello, in your case I think more extreme measures may be necessary.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:it's not really the kids that are the problem. I let my neighbors kids gently caress around in my front yard and a couple months later their parents decided that meant it was now common-law their property and put a fence around it while we were out. when that didn't fly they started doing poo poo like calling the cops to try to get em to come shoot our dog all the time, which also hasn't worked out for them so far but I kinda wish I'd chased off those kids to begin with Splicer fucked around with this message at 10:36 on Mar 3, 2024 |
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Mar 3, 2024 10:34
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Runcible Cat posted:AITA for putting child-proof locks on the stove to stop my adult sister from using it? Yeah, this is either ADHD or something like it; I'm in a similar situation, except where OP's sister forgets if she's left the stove on, I tend to forget if I've turned it off, and it's become a somewhat regular ritual where I cook food, bring it to my table, then hurry back to the stove to check if it's off- and then do it again 5-10 minutes later 
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I've forgotten turn the frypan off twice in my life. With a good decade between each time. I am now insanely paranoid to the point I turn it off at the wall, remove the cord and hang it on a hook on the pantry door on the other side of the kitchen. And have a whole routine of physically pointing at the frypan and cord and saying, "frypan is unplugged. Cord is hung up. It's okay to leave." Yes, I do have OCD but this quirk I'm happy to keep because I don't want to burn my house down. How anyone can almost do that and not care is beyond me.
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I feel like all myself and my ADHD friends were the ones that figured out how to open child safe locks while they were still children tho
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Years ago, my father decided he was going to clean the deep fat fryer. The fat was kind of congealed, so he turned it on on low to melt. OK, fine. For some reason, he thought it was a good idea to do this in a sort of shed-area that is literally under the house. Then he went off and forgot about it. I found it several hours later as I was coming up the front steps, and only because I got a whiff of hot cooking oil and went to investigate.
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Some people just find the concept of consequences to their actions foreign and drift through life vaguely on vibes.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Some people just find the concept of consequences to their actions foreign and drift through life vaguely on vibes.
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I think my ”husband’s” mistress thinks he is richer than he actually is. My best friend thinks I am a douche because I am keeping silent quote:Husband in “” because we are not married legally. Throwaway. Please let me vent here! Update; no surprises: quote:I did it. I had a showdown with my former best friend via text and I confronted her about her nonexistent support when I went to her with my woes. I told her that she concentrated on the wrong issue. She should have been my shoulder to cry in. She should have shown up with wine, ice cream and a shovel but instead, she called me a bigger douche than my husband. She tried to gaslight me and I realized that she’s always been a good gaslighter so I interrupted her before she made me out to be the villain. I asked her bluntly, was (her husband’s name) married when you started sleeping together? You told us that he was married before, we all knew that but we all were under the impression that he was married and divorced before you two met but was he still married? Is that why you related to the mistress and felt sympathy for her? Because you were her? She didn’t answer me until next day to call me a bitter and jealous bitch. Wow!
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I haven’t had a good night sleep a whole year since I cheated on my wife quote:I(m40) cheated on my wife (f40) and she found out about it. She wanted a divorce at first but I begged her to stay. She is the love of my life and I can’t live without her. I cheated on her because I was selfish and so stupid. After a few months of therapy and counseling, she took me back but she said that cheating wasn’t an achievement. I wasn’t someone special to find someone to sleep with me, and the girl wasn’t special for “stealing” a married man and she will prove that to me. She will cheat on me and I will never find out if she didn’t want me to. It could come when I am at my happiest and most smug self. Anytime she would be late at work or have a girls night out. Or visit her mother or take an extra long workout session at the gym. Every time I will see her smile and content I will never know why. Anytime I touched her I would never know who touched her before me. Every time she turned me down I wouldn’t know if it was because she really was tired or just satisfied. I will never know how, when or where. I will never known with whom. Maybe someone very random, older, younger, more handsome. Maybe someone close to me. That or I could just leave her. 
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Runcible Cat posted:I think my ”husband’s” mistress thinks he is richer than he actually is. My best friend thinks I am a douche because I am keeping silent Pete got a new vertebra today and has no idea why
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Runcible Cat posted:I haven’t had a good night sleep a whole year since I cheated on my wife lmao
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Runcible Cat posted:I haven’t had a good night sleep a whole year since I cheated on my wife hahahaha
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Runcible Cat posted:I haven’t had a good night sleep a whole year since I cheated on my wife Oooofffft. I like her.
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That's right cheater time to enter the hell of your own making. H-e-double hockey sticks! May cause insomnia.
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I’ve been dealing with some personal poo poo so I apologize for not dealing with this immediately. I know sometimes it can be difficult to identify transphobic bait stories, that’s understandable. But the correct choice is to listen to the posters in this thread that are telling you that what you posted is indeed bait, especially when many of them are trans, non-binary, etc. themselves, and perhaps edit it out. The incorrect choice is to insist everyone else is wrong and it’s not that big of a deal and who cares? EDIT: Also, please PM me and/or use the Report button when poo poo goes down. If I’m unavailable at least one of the other IKs or mods can step in. Pope Corky the IX fucked around with this message at 13:02 on Mar 3, 2024 |
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Saint Isaias Boner posted:some people just like being lovely about trans women in particular. And pitting trans women and trans men against each other. It sucks. (I'm a trans man and have not found the "equipment" mismatch to be a problem when playing TTRPGs with trans women. Or anyone, really.)
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Pope Corky the IX posted:the correct choice is to listen to the posters in this thread that are telling you that what you posted is indeed bait, especially when many of them are trans, non-binary, etc. themselves, and perhaps edit it out. The incorrect choice is to insist everyone else is wrong and it’s not that big of a deal and who cares?  mycelia posted:And pitting trans women and trans men against each other. It sucks. (I'm a trans man and have not found the "equipment" mismatch to be a problem when playing TTRPGs with trans women. Or anyone, really.) I know it's beating a bait horse at this point but I just like talking about dnd. The only time someone is bad for a group is a playstyle sorta mismatch. Like that guy I played with a few times that only wanted to try and be funny every turn like "haha i throw poop" he wouldn't drop the disruptive stuff so we stopped inviting him. Or the time someone brought their gf to play for a few weeks and she clearly didn't want to be there at all, wouldn't listen or pay attention every single turn. She just stopped showing up eventually. Some groups like to get into character and be serious, some are laid back and more of an excuse to eat chips and drink with friends. Some are small some are big some are just full. There's a group for everybody but beyond that sorta thing I can't imagine a reason to exclude someone. Certainly not genitals.
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Runcible Cat posted:I haven’t had a good night sleep a whole year since I cheated on my wife Y'know what? She's drinking from the same poison chalice. She should just dump the fuckwit and move on with her life, because "reconciling" while spewing poison into her own relationship sounds utterly miserable. I'm sure that impressive little speech felt good to deliver, and he richly deserves the bad feelings and all, but why does she want to stay in a relationship with rot like that at its core? Move on and be free, lady.
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Silly Newbie posted:That seems pretty correct. Saying mtf or ftm also implicitly excludes nb people from gender and transgender spaces. Like my spouse was afab and is trans but certainly doesn't identify as a man, trans or otherwise. It's important to have terminology that welcomes people who looked at the existing gender binary in their culture and said "welp, not for me, but thanks". Also with regard to how this originally came up, there seemvto be lots of trans zoomers using this type of abbreviation in posts in the subs people are reposting here, so while I can't know if the posts are real, I'm not sure I would assume a post is fake just because someone is usually these abbreviations to refer to themself even if other trans people dislike these abbreviations. mystes fucked around with this message at 14:16 on Mar 3, 2024 |
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mystes posted:I think nonbinary people who want to use that type of three letter abbreviation use mtx or ftx so while it may be bad terminology for other philosophical reasons I don't think it's correct to say that it excludes nonbinary people. I would also agree just because you don't like a certain pronoun formula doesn't mean a post is fake on its own. Plenty of other things in a post in addition to can definitely make it suspect though. Before the dnd post there was an ftx (i think) post by a zoomer that didn't seem fake and more just... a 14yo that was very much a teen drama situation. But that post caused a lot of issues. The dnd one on the other hand isn't suspect on its own because they say mtf but because of the entire rest of the post.
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling someone a show wasn't actually anime? This would never have happened if the superior "Japanimation" had stuck instead of anime.
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Runcible Cat posted:AITA for putting child-proof locks on the stove to stop my adult sister from using it? Maybe she’s a seal and has flippers for hands
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Runcible Cat posted:AITA for putting child-proof locks on the stove to stop my adult sister from using it? There she goes, ol' Two-Fires Nicole. Legend says she can't open the simplest of locks.
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It's alarming that she apparently isn't concerned that she's almost caused fires. I've forgotten that I had stuff cooking a few times when I was younger but I learned from that. She needs to be careful about setting a timer and/or staying in the kitchen if she's prone to that.
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Can't open a childproof lock? Wouldn't that mean this person can't take their own medicine? That doesn't sound like someone who should be living unassisted in the first place. E: This also reminds me that my grandma and grandpa lived with us for a while and had to have child locks on the stove nobs so grandma wouldn't burn the house down. Grey Cat fucked around with this message at 16:45 on Mar 3, 2024 |
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big mean giraffe posted:There is a pretty big difference between catching reruns on a channel full of oldies and binging something on a streaming service, sharing YouTube clips or compilations etc This is huge. The ability to access cultural media from ages ago has completely changed in our lifetime. We very rarely watch live TV in our house when we can pull shows off the DVR or streaming services. We've had to explain why Star Trek seasons start with a recap of the season we just watched to our son. They don't have summer break re-runs anymore, and why would they? Seasons aren't "seasons" anymore. They are now basically just chapters in the show's story. CommissarMega posted:I've actually forgotten how long I've been on this hellsite. Points at 2001 reg date.  Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:Also, no disasters on this page, I'm going to be the change. Who wants some Do they roll the dice with their penises or something? What happens if one of the other trans folk get bottom surgery?
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mystes posted:It's alarming that she apparently isn't concerned that she's almost caused fires. I've forgotten that I had stuff cooking a few times when I was younger but I learned from that. She needs to be careful about setting a timer and/or staying in the kitchen if she's prone to that. I get the feeling that this girl isn't the sharpest pencil at the community college.
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I once left my girlfriend's house in the middle of the night because I couldn't get it out of my head that I had left the stove on at my place and it was surely on fire by now. I had turned it off, though.
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DangerDongs posted:I get the feeling that this girl isn't the sharpest pencil at the community college.
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To be fair, I guess, OP's sister is 20. A lot of young people are just extremely nonchalant about the potential consequences of their actions, right up to the point said consequences hit them in the face. "You don't understand, if I don't pass this course then I won't have enough credits to stay in student housing!!!" "No I understand completely, I just can't give you a pass when you got 30% on the exam. It's just not a thing that I can do."
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Shanghaied posted:To be fair, I guess, OP's sister is 20. A lot of young people are just extremely nonchalant about the potential consequences of their actions, right up to the point said consequences hit them in the face. yeah but what 20 year old can’t figure out a child lock
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mystes posted:It's not a community college I don't think the girl who is incapable of cracking child-locks is going to Yale, unless there is a big surprise twist that there is a physical issue with her. If this is the case, childproofing the stove is kind of messed up, even if necessary for self-survival. I say this as someone who went to community college. The price of admission was a pulse and a yes/no question if we could open childproof locks. They didn't even check to make sure if you actually answered truthfully.
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