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Propaniac posted:I'm just posting this because I'm curious whether other people find it as weird as I do. uh.... .....huh???
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InediblePenguin posted:a person of Scottish heritage is not committing cultural appropriation by wearing a kilt and everybody needs to stop policing other people's bodies and clothing when it doesn't harm anyone Actually a person of Scottish heritage wearing a kilt is appropriating English (colonizer) culture Tendales fucked around with this message at 03:39 on Mar 11, 2024 |
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Troublemaker posted:AITA for being truthful and admitting that I find my wife unattractive after her surgery? quote:She looks like the blue alien from The Fifth Element. fuckin lmao
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Tendales posted:Actually a person of Scottish heritage wearing a kilt is appropriating English (colonizer) culture there is a difference between "doing something that has roots in a different culture" and "committing cultural appropriation" which i intended to convey through my specific and purposeful choice of the phrase "committing cultural appropriation". you can't commit cultural appropriation by doing things your colonizers thought up. i understand that you are posting an attempt to draw attention to the fact that kilts aren't actually a medieval scottish cultural product but a 19th century english fancy, but words have meanings, i used a term of art on purpose, and calling literally every instance of cross-cultural behavior 'cultural appropriation' is dumbass poo poo that dumbasses do InediblePenguin fucked around with this message at 04:10 on Mar 11, 2024 |
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Loden Taylor posted:fuckin lmao I don't know what's wrong with that guy, the blue alien chick is smoking hot and can sing up a storm
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quantumwell posted:I don't know what's wrong with that guy, the blue alien chick is smoking hot and can sing up a storm You see them tentacles??
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Propaniac posted:I'm just posting this because I'm curious whether other people find it as weird as I do. In the first part. it sounds like the two of them have mismatch on how they treat OTC medicine which is pretty ordinary. Husband doesn't care much about best-by dates and probably just thinks of cold medicine as 'cold medicine'. Wife thinks best-by dates are strict expiration dates and is very particular about which medicine you use to treat which type of 'cold', also has a specific and different definition of 'common cold' than most people do (what people usually refer to as a 'common cold' is caused by a virus of some sort, but there's usually not a test for which specific one). Medicine best-by dates for OTC meds don't really mean much - they don't test 'when does this medicine stop being effective' but 'is the medicine still good after this amount of time?' for the amount of time they want to be able to put on the label. Some specialized medicines actually do go bad fairly quickly or need special handling, most just get somewhat weaker but don't stop working or become dangerous. She's got the narrow preferences on medicine, so should occasionally purge the medicine cabinet and should be specific if she's asking for medicine, since other people aren't going to make whatever distinction she is about what OTC medicines treat, this is a pretty normal relationship thing and no big deal. In the second part, it turns super weird, where it goes from 'husband offered to give me cold meds, wasn't as specific as I expected' to a big argument that somehow leads to 'I used to be a nice girl and now don't feel like I can accept human kindness anymore'. It's a ride from a sensible and probably common /r/relationships question to a really deep and unusual psychologcial issue.
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Shanghaied posted:AITA for not wanting to give my bsf my graduation dress on her birthday. This is something I'm seeing more and more of and people never seem to learn from it: buying things online that are poo poo. Someone at my cousin's wedding shower this weekend was talking about how they ordered four of the same dress from online and laid them out on a bed and chose to keep the one that had the fewest flaws with the sewing. Don't order things online unless you know the company and know what you're getting. It's a serious problem. axolotl farmer posted:Kilt with a jacket is on the same formality level as a suit and tie. quote:Last year, my husband “Barry” took our then-4-year-old daughter “Kayla” to the park. Kayla apparently threw a tantrum over not wanting to wear her mittens, and when my husband tried to calm her down, someone took notice, decided he was trying to abduct her, and called the police. That led to him being detained and separate questioning of both Kayla and Barry before the police decided that no, actually nothing was wrong and let him go. Some comments also: quote:So, I hate cops and would likely have PTSD from the encounter the LW's husband had with them. However, he is a father. He has a child he has to take care of, full stop. He can do it while getting therapy and feeling anxious and hating that feeling, but the idea that the solution is to just never take his own child anywhere alone and force his wife to keep an unsustainable schedule is not realistic. What would he do if he were a single father? What would a woman do if this happened to her? The idea that she would simply stop parenting alone outside the home would almost certainly not occur to her. So, sure, he deserves empathy, understanding, and therapy, but he still has to do his job as a parent. trickybiscuits fucked around with this message at 04:42 on Mar 11, 2024 |
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Oh hey, a story from a while back got an update. Update: 27f accused of babytrapping my fiance 28M when my tubes are tied? We broke up quote:Original post here, I also updated that one too.
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AITA for expressing discomfort about my wife and her friends pranking my mom on our wedding day?quote:My mom hasn't been the greatest in the past. She can be really rude and was catty. She didn't get off to a good start with my wife due to her own rude and self centered behavior, but I took my wife's side and laid down boundaries. My mom gets that she can't be rude these days. I fully get my wife will never like her, mom probably won't like her either, and we all just avoid each other for the most part. Don't get me wrong. It makes me sad as I used to be close to my family, but wife comes first.
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the holy poopacy posted:Yeah, I'm dying to know the name that is so stereotypically Arabic that it gets you flagged even with a fully Western last name that someone also thought would be a good name for a strip club. Scheherazade.
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quote:She looks like the blue alien from The Fifth Element. Loden Taylor posted:fuckin lmao
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AITA for leaving a dinner party after a girl sat on my husband's lap?quote:I am still so shook with everything so sorry for my rambling. My husband (Jake) and i have been married for 3 years and from the begining he was very close with his best friend's sister (cindy) (18f). Well my husband would often talk about her and tell how he had seen her grow up throughout the years. Cindy is always very bubbly and seems very fond of Jake as well. I remember when we were dating she would ask to come along on our dates a lot. I never really said anything as i liked spending time with her as well. She was like a little sister to me. When we announced our engagement she asked to my husband to "better not forget her" after being a married man and to still hang out with her. If Jack and Cindy weren't loving before, they definitely are now. He got all defensive and immediately went to "stay with his mom" and isn't responding to her texts and calls? Ooh yeah, I'd be checking in with anyone who stayed to find out exactly what went down after she walked out.
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Shanghaied posted:AITA for not wanting to give my bsf my graduation dress on her birthday. Yeah, Camilla isn't your friend. The kind of person who spends a week planning her birthday isn't going to somehow get to the point after the event has started and not have anything to wear without realising it. Her plan was to make you look like poo poo. Either as the person wearing lovely clothes when everyone else was dressed to the nines, or as the person who wouldn't give her literally the clothes off your back.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Oh hey, a story from a while back got an update. Megillah Gorilla posted:Scheherazade. A likely story (everyone groans at my bullshit)
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:In the first part. it sounds like the two of them have mismatch on how they treat OTC medicine which is pretty ordinary. Husband doesn't care much about best-by dates and probably just thinks of cold medicine as 'cold medicine'. Wife thinks best-by dates are strict expiration dates and is very particular about which medicine you use to treat which type of 'cold', also has a specific and different definition of 'common cold' than most people do (what people usually refer to as a 'common cold' is caused by a virus of some sort, but there's usually not a test for which specific one). Medicine best-by dates for OTC meds don't really mean much - they don't test 'when does this medicine stop being effective' but 'is the medicine still good after this amount of time?' for the amount of time they want to be able to put on the label. Some specialized medicines actually do go bad fairly quickly or need special handling, most just get somewhat weaker but don't stop working or become dangerous. She's got the narrow preferences on medicine, so should occasionally purge the medicine cabinet and should be specific if she's asking for medicine, since other people aren't going to make whatever distinction she is about what OTC medicines treat, this is a pretty normal relationship thing and no big deal. I always kinda wondered about a lot of medicine and expiration dates. Always seemed like sudafed was good for about 1 head cold and any leftovers were useless, while some advil is eternal.
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Very few things have expiration dates, including medication, rather having best by dates. Which only means they don't guarantee the quality or effectiveness of the product after that date, not that it has gone off.
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Megillah Gorilla posted:Scheherazade. Scheherazade is a Persian name, not Arabic.
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Kurieg posted:AITA for expressing discomfort about my wife and her friends pranking my mom on our wedding day? the one issue that what now?
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When life gives you Scheheraz...
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Don't underestimate the obnoxious American Scot - they get forgotten next to the obnoxious American Irish but they're just as obsessed with their family history. On this: Tartans, and "clan" tartans are made up marketting bullshit. Some Indian bloke decided to "officially" commission a tartan for Sikhs. So he paid a cloth manufacturer, paid the registration fee, and now every Singh in Punjab has a registered tartan.
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BrigadierSensible posted:Tartans, and "clan" tartans are made up marketting bullshit. broke: clan tartan, woke: clartan?
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Shanghaied posted:Scheherazade is a Persian name, not Arabic. True, but lol if you think OP or her perv of a father know that.
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The only kilt wearers I dont like are the ones who obviously want to wear a dress but aren't comfortable owning that desire and then try to rope you in too so they can push any followup introspection about themselves deep down.
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Here's a documentary on kilt-wearing to answer all y'alls questions. https://youtu.be/DsH8WAmQFno?si=ZDGHztkPFEs19r_0
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Rain Brain posted:Yeah... extra funny ("funny") because they could really make racism work for them in this case - a white guy who speaks fluent, colloquial, Urdu will always have a place at the NSA. He can also do well in sales if he wants to go this direction. A decent salesman who speaks Hindi (or Urdu for that matter) isn't super common and will be sought after by whatever company tries to do business in India.
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Work kilts have been reasonably popular over here (Sweden), especially with road and rail track maintenance crews. So much so that you can now get hi-viz/reflective variants. Makes sense I guess, must be better than broiling your balls every summer.
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Oh you're Scottish, me too what clan are you? Dude it's literally not been a thing since like the 17th century, clan wgaf.
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AITA for refusing to take care of a special needs child during my son’s birthday party?quote:Hello all, this has been weighing heavily on my mind lately. My son is in elementary school and one of his friends is special needs, we will call him Elliot. He’s a very sweet boy but needs extra help with a lot of things including using the restroom. I am very very close with his parents and they have been family friends for years. Our whole family hangs out (including grandparents) often. OP explains in a comment that the child in question is physiologically unable to urinate or defecate by himself without medical intervention. MIL and parents of the year here.
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Really glaring missing bit there about why the MIL didn't volunteer her 20 minutes. Unless im underestimating the effort required.
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TheDeadlyShoe posted:Really glaring missing bit there about why the MIL didn't volunteer her 20 minutes. Unless im underestimating the effort required. Probably just the usual boomer thing of wanting the praise for offering a favour/gift that was not theirs to give
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Not many people can pull off the kilt without becoming a kilt guy. And I feel for those guys because it's gotta be hard. People you know know that you're not a kilt guy, but as soon as you meet somebody new all they're gonna wanna talk about is the kilt. So you need another gimmick that's even more unusual, like carrying a bow and arrow with you everywhere or having an eagle companion. I'd like to think I'm the type of person that doesn't really care what you wear on your body. But I don't think I'd be able to resist taking the person aside privately and asking "yo how much more comfortable is that than pants/shorts"?
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TheDeadlyShoe posted:Really glaring missing bit there about why the MIL didn't volunteer her 20 minutes. Unless im underestimating the effort required. The way the OP described it, it's not a issue of wiping/cleaning, but rather it sounds like the kid requires some form of medical device (catheter/colostomy bag) to use the bathroom. MIL was not capable of helping, but she somehow thought the OP was, because the OP went to nursing school briefly at some point in the past, which you know, jfc.
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TheDeadlyShoe posted:Really glaring missing bit there about why the MIL didn't volunteer her 20 minutes. Unless im underestimating the effort required.
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DeeplyConcerned posted:
It's way, way more comfortable
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AITA for not wanting my exes step daughter around my horses?quote:I find the entire thing to be absurd. I (31F) have a daughter, Bonnie (13F) and a son, August (9M) with my ex Ralph (32M). Bonnie is not Ralph’s biological child, but was with me in the very beginning, when I was carrying her.
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Mx. posted:AITA for not wanting my exes step daughter around my horses? YTA for not understanding how punctuation works. And also having horses, I guess.
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The Diddler posted:YTA for not understanding how punctuation works. And also having horses, I guess. She can make up for this by killing the horses and giving the corpses to the ex's kid. Then no one's the rear end in a top hat.
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trickybiscuits posted:ACAb and it was probably a horrible situation, but as someone who's overcome severe anxiety because she had no other real choice, Jesus Christ. This pisses me off SO much because it shouldn't even be a "thing". Women rarely get harassed about kids being theirs but people feel the need to denigrate dads & call them "babysitters" or assume any kids around them aren't theirs/related. People need to mind their loving business & quit assuming the worst.
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Troublemaker posted:AITA for being truthful and admitting that I find my wife unattractive after her surgery? r/relationships: She looks like the blue alien from The Fifth Element.
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