- Bifner McDoogle
- Mar 31, 2006
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"Life unworthy of life" (German: Lebensunwertes Leben) is a pragmatic liberal designation for the segments of the populace which they view as having no right to continue existing, due to the expense of extending them basic human dignity.
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Okay there's no way that this is real. No way someone would masturbate in someone else's living room thinking "yes, he'll sure to want me now!" as opposed to "wtf, she's an insane pervert."
Even if that part's real, in what world would the GF say "welp, that's just Lisa, always masturbating in the open"?
It's porno logic, is what it is.
I disagree- the story is believable entirely because it's so over the top. If it's fake, it's fake by way of doing a 1:1 match for the kind of behavior you'd expect from male sex pests. Flashing? Check. Groping? Check. Unsolicited Nudes? Check. Masturbating in front of them? Check. A family member downplaying everything? Check. Goon suggesting the sexual harassment isn't actually happening? Check.
Not trying to call you out or anything, but this seems like a very normal instance of sexual harassment to me. If it reads like porno logic that's because of how sex pests think in terms of porno logic.
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When you look up "restraining order" on reddit you get a lot of stuff that's sad and some stuff that's an interesting look into some broken brains.
r/relationships: So i texted her a bunch of times on burner phones.
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Okay there's no way that this is real. No way someone would masturbate in someone else's living room thinking "yes, he'll sure to want me now!" as opposed to "wtf, she's an insane pervert."
I'm not sure why you're doubting the reality of it, masturbating in front of a target is something sexual harassers do. Publicized cases are usually men, but that certainly doesn't mean women don't do it. That was one of the things Louis C. K. did that got him "canceled", and it's well documented that it happened and he confessed to it.
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Mar 15, 2024 17:53
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- Shanghaied
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I'm not sure why you're doubting the reality of it, masturbating in front of a target is something sexual harassers do. Publicized cases are usually men, but that certainly doesn't mean women don't do it. That was one of the things Louis C. K. did that got him "canceled", and it's well documented that it happened and he confessed to it.
Well I suppose I just have a hard time understanding the sexual harasser mentality.
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- oh jay
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*is bald*
*has bald father*
*both grandfathers were bald*
*several uncles on both sides are bald*
Sucks to be me I guess
You should disown your parents.
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BIG KOOL TELLIN' Y'ALL TO KEEP IT TIGHT
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Sure, I just think the casual contempt by OP towards his target implies he probably doesn't take her seriously at all.
I read it more as her 'thing' being the whole IG disabiltiy rights influencer or whatever it is. It'd get old real fast having someone like that around constantly complaining about disability access, especially in places where it's not feasible.
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She was also trying to use the language of social justice to resolve a personal issue, which in this case was really not helpful and actually hindered communication.
She agreed to do something else for one day but changed her mind. But she tried to frame it as a disability rights issue, even though I honestly don't believe she actually thought it would be a good idea to build a cable car to the top of an active volcano. What she actually wanted was for her friends to change their plans for her, even though she had agreed to the plan previously. It's better to be honest with her friends and herself, and discuss her wants and needs on their own terms, instead of framing it in terms of a larger social issue that no one can reasonably object to.
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- Bifner McDoogle
- Mar 31, 2006
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"Life unworthy of life" (German: Lebensunwertes Leben) is a pragmatic liberal designation for the segments of the populace which they view as having no right to continue existing, due to the expense of extending them basic human dignity.
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Well I suppose I just have a hard time understanding the sexual harasser mentality.
That's super normal and you should be proud of it! The only way to get experience is by being a victim or by helping one out, otherwise the mentality is genuinely impossible to even imagine because of how bizarre it is. But think of something like the old Deviantart thread before it was gassed - it is actually difficult to credibly explain how hosed that thread was without evidence because the content was so unbelievable.
Fwiw, I had some doubts on the story myself until the reveal that the guy was recovering from a suicide attempt. It both killed any sense of horniness from the story and explained why this guy is so bad at handling himself emotionally.
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Can you spare a little cheddar?
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That's super normal and you should be proud of it! The only way to get experience is by being a victim or by helping one out
I don't think we should be helping people do SA...
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This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.
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There's a nice update for the "don't say uterus" dad. People talked to each other!
quote: it’s been less than 24 hours and I can’t thank you all enough for your comments and support. I have an appointment Wednesday with my doctor to make sure nothing serious is going on.
This morning I confronted my mom and showed her the posts and comments. I was overly defensive, waiting for an argument if I’m being honest, but she just started crying. She said she was sorry and she knew she shouldn’t have said those things to me, she was wrong. We hugged it out. Please note I love both my parents, they are great parents but we have had some serious scares with my health.
Mom mentioned how my brain tumor misdiagnosis, and my constant battle with reproductive issues, makes her sad, scared and upset. She struggles to deal with it and apologized for it. We talked about my dad’s up bringing and how he’s always been like this, how it’s not an excuse, but I’m accepting it is what it is.
He loves me and she does too, they want me healthy but I’ve battled with health issues all my life. Dad doesn’t really want to hear any of it anymore unless I’m dying, and it’s not because he doesn’t love me, it’s because he struggles to cope. I’m an adult, and I love the little boy in my father who still needs to grow. It’s okay. Mom will be here for me as long as she can, and said she loved seeing the men supporting me. She prays I find a good one someday soon who can support me the way I should be. That brought me to tears. Thank you guys.
Thank you everyone, your validation has healed a part of me and helped me heal a part of my relationship with my parents. ❤️🙏🏻 Reddit really did something good for me. I appreciate you all
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Mar 15, 2024 18:50
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That's super normal and you should be proud of it! The only way to get experience is by being a victim or by helping one out, otherwise the mentality is genuinely impossible to even imagine because of how bizarre it is. But think of something like the old Deviantart thread before it was gassed - it is actually difficult to credibly explain how hosed that thread was without evidence because the content was so unbelievable.
Fwiw, I had some doubts on the story myself until the reveal that the guy was recovering from a suicide attempt. It both killed any sense of horniness from the story and explained why this guy is so bad at handling himself emotionally.
For what it's worth, I have been, uh, rather aggressively propositioned by the same person multiple times over the last couple of years. She has since stopped and we're still on relatively good terms. She was drunk, depressed, over-worked, and frustrated with her on-again-off-again relationship. While she definitely violated my boundaries, at least she kept her clothes on, I'll give her that. I don't know if I want to call it sexual harassment, even though objectively it most definitely was. And I don't know if I want to call myself a victim. It was very inappropriate and uncomfortable, but I never felt unsafe, which I suppose it's a pretty important difference between men and women in these types of situations. Nor do I feel shame. Mostly I just thought how embarrassing it was for her.
But yeah, whoever said that it knocks you off balance is right. Because my first reaction was always "what the hell is happening," even on subsequent occasions. I don't know, there's just this inherent unbelievability to it all, if you know what I mean, even when it's happening to you personally. Hence why I had trouble believing the story. It didn't help that it was posted on reddit. I think it would be different in real life, because I've actually reported a colleague for sexual harassment (of someone else) in the past. Plus I thought the idea that he would sleep with the sister was rather flippant.
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- Kurieg
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RIP Lutri: 5/19/20-4/2/20
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AITA for not giving my house to my SIL?
quote:Throw away for obvious reasons. This happened 2 nights ago, and I'm still feeling some type of way about it.
Background: My (30f) husband (32m) has a younger sister (SIL 25f), SIL is currently going through a divorce with 4 children. My husband and I also have 4 children. My husband and I live on a very quiet country back road in our little town, us and his family being the only residences on the road. So both his sisters and their families, and his parents, live within walking distance of our house.
My husband and I have been married for 7 years and have 4 young children. My husband bought the land we live on from his parents when he was 18, and when we got married, we built a house on it. We designed our house with a big family in mind and designed it to be our forever home. It has never been a thought to move or look elsewhere.
My SIL is going through a divorce. She is struggling, to say the least. She was in a very toxic relationship with her ex, with her contributing just as much as he was, and he filed for divorce and moved out, leaving the 4 kids with her.
My mother in law called my husband 2 nights ago and asked if we would come over for a chat. We get there, and my In-Laws and SIL are sitting on the couch like they were staging some kind of intervention, it was just really strange.
My MIL didn't beat around the bush at all. She explained how SIL's ex was getting the house in the divorce and they would be homeless within the month if we didn't give her our home. It honestly took me a second to comprehend what she even said, because it was so out of left field.
Husband didn't need that second and looked them dead in the eyes and said "No."
In-Laws started telling us things like, "You guys don't need all that house" "You guys can move into one of the new neighborhoods in town" "You guys can just built a new house".
I offered to open up our playroom and guest bedroom to them until they could find somewhere to live, we have air mattresses and the guest room has a full bath, but that was not good enough apparently. That's when we got up and left.
They began yelling after us, saying we don't care about the children, family helps family, we're being greedy and selfish, etc etc. I'm Honestly so proud of how we reacted, because my first instinct was to go off and say some hurtful things, but we went just home, to OUR home.
We love SIL's kids, and obviously do not want them to be homeless, but they don't need MY house at the expense of my own children and family. I don't see why SIL's family deserves my home, what about my kids?
Now the In-Laws are calling/texting, saying we don't care about the kids, we're selfish and greedy, we're making her homeless, and I'm wondering if maybe we were too quick to say no. So AITA for not giving my home to my SIL?
quote:My husband has been dealing with his parents and sister, I've been ignoring all the texts and calls, but from what they're saying, their house is too small (only two bedrooms) and they need something bigger "for the kids to be able to thrive", so obviously that means my own kids have to be moved out of the home they've all lived in for their whole lives and just go somewhere else, while my husband and I still pay for them to live in our house because SIL doesn't work and has no plans to quote:I don't have details of their agreement, but I think she gave him the house in exchange for more child support, thinking that she could get the house situation settled through the family
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Mar 15, 2024 19:29
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- Shanghaied
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AITA for not giving my house to my SIL?
Your family of six doesn't need all that house, clearly your sister's family of five does instead.
Honestly wants to hear the in-laws' reasoning here, other than maybe they just like their daughter more.
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Mar 15, 2024 19:42
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- FMguru
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Cheater gets busted, spouse executes some fine psychological revenge
I found a second phone that my husband used to cheat on me with and now he is panicking.
quote:I'm using a throwaway for this. I found the phone 3 months ago. The way i found out he was cheating was by accident. I had recently gotten a new phone because i dropped my old phone and the screen cracked so badly that i couldnt even use it at all. It was hard to get all my contacts so i decided to go on our phone account and just get the contacts from there. My husband is the one who is in charge for paying for the phones so i never look at the account. I went on his computer and he had the password and log in automatically saved so it was easy. I got all my numbers but then i noticed that instead of just two lines on the account, there were three and another phone was listed that neither of us had.
Honestly at the time, i thought nothing of it and thought maybe it was a line for his grandmother because she only has a landline and she had mentioned a couple of times wanting to get a phone and he just forgot to mention it. Cheating never even crossed my mind. I didnt even ask him about it and went on with my day. A few days later, i was hanging out with my best friend and she asked if i was able to get all my information back and i said yea and just mentioned that i even found out his grandmother had a phone and he didnt tell me but it wasnt a big deal.
I dont know what made her ask but she said are you sure its his grandmother's phone and i said, pretty sure. She asked me to double check and i wasnt going to do it but i was curious. I called his mom first to say hi and asked her about his grandmother and if she had found a phone yet and his mom said no, that she decided she didnt really need it. I waited for him to go to work the next day and i looked at the account again. I went to the phone, clicked view usage history and saw that the phone had only texted and called one number hundreds of times, with the history going back 5 months. I also noticed that the times of the calls and texts were only the times when he was at work, never at home.
When i saw that, i honestly tried to rationalize it because there is no way he would cheat on me. So i called my friend and told her what i saw and she bascially told me i needed to find the phone to confirm cheating first. I looked for it all over the house for days and couldnt find it so i knew he must have it on him. I waited for him to go to sleep and searched his car and i found the phone. His passcode was the same passcode on his regular phone and i found everything- text messages, pictures of her, pictures of them together, them saying i love you. She sends him a good morning video message every morning and he has kept every one. I was heartbroken and cried the whole night. My friend told me to take the phone, turn all the location trackers off, and then turn it off.
The morning he left, he was 30 mins late to work because he was looking for it but he couldnt ask me because he would have to reveal he had another phone. I kept asking him what he was looking for and he said a file for work. He eventually left. I went to a park with my friend when he left and turned the phone on and put it on airplane mode and proceeded to go through everything.
Our whole marriage is a lie. He has pretended that he cares about me, that he loves me while building a relationship with this other woman who knows he is married. I cant even describe how i felt when i found everything out. I still havent confronted him about it and thats because Im planning to leave in a few months. There is a benefit to being married to him that i would lose if i filed for divorce now but i wont need that benefit anymore in a couple of months. He knows something is up because i put the phone back 4 days later underneath his car seat, the same seat he checked more than a few times when he was looking for it. I even charged the phone back to the same percentage that i found it at. I got that idea from my friend.
The day he found the phone, he came into the house and hovered over me the whole night and he was just really quiet. He hasnt asked me about it and i think he knows i know but asking would lead to more questions. These past 3 months, my behavior has changed and we havent been intimate since i found out(i have rejected every advance) and he is panicking to the point that when I checked the account in the first month, the third phone line had been removed. He also changed the password a few days later. He keeps asking me whats wrong and i say nothing. He never goes anywhere now and if he isnt at work, he is at home trying to spend time with me. He has recommended couples therapy because in his words, something has changed and i said we dont need it. To be honest, I am finding a weird joy in seeing him panic because he ended our marriage and I think he should suffer through worrying until i leave him.
Edit: i have everything. My friend was able to show me how to get all the texts, video messages, pictures of them together- I only took the ones where they were not nude because my friend said that taking nude pics of a person who hadnt given them to you could be an issue later on. I also got the phone account usage before he locked me out of the account. She is keeping everything for me. In fact it was her idea to let him panic. I also already had an std test. Im on his insurance so i paid for it out of pocket and im fine.
Edit 2: So i spontaneously decided to make this post earlier because i was home and thinking and going over what i have planned and my impending divorce. I ended up on the divorce subreddit and then found the cake eaters subreddit which was not a good choice because it made me so angry. Him cheating on me was, i cant even find the words to describe how painful it is. In a way, me doing this to him is petty but when i started this, it was the only way to make him hurt like how he has hurt me. He absolutely destroyed me with this and i have been with help from my friend trying to heal slowly. I dont know if i ever will. I dont care if he finds this post on here or other social media. He knows i know he cheated or he wouldnt be trying to prove to me he is where he says he is all the time. I'm done and thankfully, i have a friend who is helping me through this, including looking for lawyers. He can be with whoever he wants. I dont care. The hurt is too much for me to ever care about him again, to love him again. Im only staying because i need something. I have a few more months left to go. I dont know if i will update because i have a long road ahead of me but thanks for the comments.
Charging the phone to the exact percentage it was when she first grabbed it was a nice touch.
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- Midnight Voyager
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Honestly wants to hear the in-laws' reasoning here, other than maybe they just like their daughter more.
Well their daughter is a mess, so she needs extra help. You guys, you're good at life, so you can just get another house. But she sucks and is useless, so she can't, she needs to be given what you have to live!
It's how lovely boomers think welfare works.
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Mar 15, 2024 19:46
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- Shanghaied
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Well their daughter is a mess, so she needs extra help. You guys, you're good at life, so you can just get another house. But she sucks and is useless, so she can't, she needs to be given what you have to live!
It's how lovely boomers think welfare works.
File a petition for conservatorship for the in-laws, because they're clearly too loving stupid to manage their own affairs.
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- FMguru
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This one has a great twist at the midpoint
AITA For “Excluding My Sister” From My Wedding?
quote:Okay strap in, because this has been nothing but nonesense for me.
I (24F) got engaged a few months ago. I’m in the early planning stages, and my mother (50F) has been trying to make herself a part of the wedding planning. I’ve tried to let her be involved, but we’ve reached an issue we can’t agree on and I need some help.
My mom and I have a complicated relationship. She spent most of my life abusing hard drugs and finally became clean after going through her third or fourth rehab program. She got out when I was 15, and I felt like I finally had my mom back. Then one of her roomies from the rehab called her up, saying her dog had puppies. That’s when my mom adopted Bella, who is now 8. Everything she did became centered around that dog and not her real children (I have a younger half sibling through her). She cared more about what the dog ate and if the dog was alone and she takes it literally everywhere, even businesses and other places she isn’t supposed to, falsely claiming it’s either an ESA or service animal. That dog basically became her new baby.
Now, if you’re wondering where my sister comes into all this, it’s not my half sibling. He’s a guy. My sister is the dog. The loving dog. My mom showed me pictures of little doggy dresses a couple weeks ago because she wanted my opinion on which one Bella should wear to be in my wedding. I told her Bella won’t be in my wedding, and she literally said “but she’s your sister.” I lost my patience a little at this point and I told my mom, as nicely as I could, that her dog is not my sister and that animals are not welcome at my wedding and will not be welcome on the premises of my venue at any time during set-up, ceremony, reception, or clean-up, and that if she brings Bella, I will make her turn around and take her back home. My mother threw a fit. Cussing and crying about how I’m being a terrible daughter and a terrible sister, about how I am “excluding my sister from the wedding” and that I don’t have to be so difficult about one little dog.
This has now caused arguments between me, her, my grandma & my two aunts. Then she posted the whole mess to her Facebook page, and random people in our local community are chiming in. I told her she was being childish and that this was incredibly embarrassing and she needed to take the post down, and she just made another post quoting that line from the Bible about obeying your parents.
I am at my wits end. I don’t know if she’s insane or if I’m just out of touch or something. Who is the rear end in a top hat here?
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- Hughlander
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Cheater gets busted, spouse executes some fine psychological revenge
I found a second phone that my husband used to cheat on me with and now he is panicking.
Not quite a Spirit Of Pete story (for that, she would have packed her stuff and moved out when she found out) but very satisfying nonetheless.
Charging the phone to the exact percentage it was when she first grabbed it was a nice touch.
I'm pretty sure that benefit is citizenship, so no she almost certainly can't leave now without loving her life up.
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- Shanghaied
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This one has a great twist at the midpoint
AITA For “Excluding My Sister” From My Wedding?
quote: and she just made another post quoting that line from the Bible about obeying your parents.
"Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you."
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I've gotta try just asking someone for their house. Maybe I could get a house that way. I never imagined it was possible, but a lot of people seem to think that's a thing.... is that a thing? Can I get a house by asking for it?
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HOLY BOOBS, BATMAN!
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You miss 100% of the shots you don't take
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- Shanghaied
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It would probably work in a "weird uncle Ed died and his rotting hoarder house in the ghetto with no functioning bathrooms, holes in the roof, and dangerously old wiring is a liability we just want to be rid of" situation. In other words, not a house you would actually want to live in.
There have been a lot of rural Italian/Spanish/Japanese/whatever towns giving away abandoned houses for free or selling them for €1 or whatever recently. But it's like okay, you own a dilapidated house in the middle of nowhere that you have to pay property tax on, now what? Are you gonna spend your own money to renovate it and then move into a village whose population consists of a dozen farmers over 80, and is hours away from the nearest services?
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- trickybiscuits
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You miss 100% of the shots you don't take
That's what I put down on my application to get an AR-15 and it didn't work 
From AAM:
there’s nothing I can do about my nightmare workload … right?
quote:I’m in a rough spot at work. When I started nearly two years ago, this was a six-person company: two owners and four staff. One staff member, who split a workload with me, moved away a few months later. They posted his position immediately, but nobody from the first wave of applicants worked out, things got hectic, and by the time the dust settled I had been handling the full workload for so long that they never replaced him.
A few months ago, my de facto supervisor took a job elsewhere. Three weeks later, my last remaining coworker did the same. (The timing was coincidental even if the root causes were similar.) During her notice period, one of the two owners went on maternity leave. The remaining owner is a few years from retirement and largely focused on client relationships and big-picture decisions. This left me as the only person around with any operational know-how, in an industry where regulations require us to stay in operation. We hired someone who’s been fantastic, but training is another thing on my plate and there’s only so fast I can do it, particularly since we have no written procedures. It’s slow going and hugely time-consuming to create them, but I know in the long run it saves me time over the “figure it out, and then I’ll look it over and tell you all the things you couldn’t have known you were missing” way of doing things.
We’re slowly easing down from having 100% of all tasks involve me in some way, but we’re still upwards of 90%. (There’s client-specific variation even between comparable work items, so it takes a while for someone new to be able to fly solo.) We’re supposed to get another new hire after the maternity leave is over, but that’ll be another situation where it’ll mean more work for me in the beginning. Having the other owner back will be helpful in some sorely-needed ways, but it’ll also be a net negative because the business will start ramping up for a busy spring.
We’re probably 4-5 months out from my job not being a complete nightmare, and a month and a half out from me being able to take a week off without this place collapsing. I have a retention bonus coming in April, and my plan is to quit if things aren’t really and truly good by July. The remaining owner means well and panics at any sign of me being unhappy, but I can’t think of anything they can do to meaningfully improve my situation that wouldn’t involve them going back in time and making better decisions about staffing, compensation, cross-training, and documentation.
Here’s my question: Am I right that in situations like this, there’s not really anything to be done except power through it while new hires are trained up? My outlook is basically, “This is miserable, but they’re throwing money at me to get them through it, so it is what it is.”
quote:Yes and no.
When the only solution is “go back in time and hire more people months ago” and hiring them now will mean more work for you because you’ll have to train them, you don’t have a ton of options. Depending on the role, you can push to hire people who will need less training … or for someone else to help with the training (although that doesn’t sound possible in your situation) … or for the training to be structured in a way that minimizes the burden on you (for example, the new hires master X first so they can take X fully off your plate and you get a month to focus on Y before you do more training). But when those aren’t feasible or wouldn’t make enough of a difference, then yeah, it is what it is.
On the other hand, you have a lot of leverage in this situation. You can say, “I’m available for X hours a week and no more” and hold firm on that, or “I only have room for three of these six projects” or “there’s no way I cover all this work in the time I have; let me know how you want to prioritize but some of this is going to get dropped because there’s only one of me,” or whatever other boundary you want to set. Sometimes doing that can shift some of the burden off you and back to the business, where it belongs (meaning, for example, that maybe they don’t get to do every single project they want to do, if they haven’t staffed for it).
You can also ask for money! Point to how much extra work you’re doing and the increase in your responsibility level/hours/etc. and tell them what number it would take for you to do it happily. You mentioned a retention bonus and maybe it’s big enough to achieve that … but you’re also still planning to leave in July if things aren’t fixed, so there might be room to think about what number would make you want to stay (if any) and ask for that. Or maybe there are other things you want — more time off, a better title, a promotion. If so, now is the time to ask.
Your employer sounds very, very dependent on you right now, and they’re also making you miserable. You’ve got leverage. Think about how you might use it.
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- CoffeeBoofer
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can i have your dog wheelie shoe company
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- Desert Bus
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Take 1 tablet by mouth daily.
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My brother is going through a bad divorce and lost his job and now he wants my sandwich recipe in order to support himself, my whole family is blowing up my phone over it. If I give him the recipe I'll be out upwards of 4 million dollars, am I the rear end in a top hat?
Does he want the recipe to your ketchup too? Or the plans for your soup tubes?
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- JackSplater
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Metal Coat? It's already active?!
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He wants the beans
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- compshateme85
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Oh you like racoons? Name three of their songs. You dope.
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From AAM:
there’s nothing I can do about my nightmare workload … right?
quote: This left me as the only person around with any operational know-how, in an industry where regulations require us to stay in operation. We hired someone who’s been fantastic, but training is another thing on my plate and there’s only so fast I can do it, particularly since we have no written procedures.
How can you be in an industry where regulations require you to stay in operation, but have no written instructions on how to do the jobs that are required to keep the company in operation? Does anyone know what industry this could be?
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- FMguru
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Ah, now this, this is a proper shitshow.
I (28F) think i caused the end of my engagement with my (28M) fiance, i need advice?
quote:TLDR: i want my father to walk me down the aisle but my fiance is refusing due to my father having an affair with his mother.
Throw away because so far only my fiance and i know about this and i don't want our friends or family involved.
Well i think only the 2 of us knows about our argument but not so sure if he told them or not as they are not answering me.
This is a really messy situation, and i do apologize it i start to ramble my thoughts and emotions are all over the place and i need advice, again going to friends or family is out of the question, because im not sure of how much they know.
Me and my fiance have been together now for 4 years engaged for 2.
About a year ago my father and his mother was caught having an affair.
For some context my mother died when i was 3 years old and my father has never remarried but had a string if girlfriend over the years.
My fiances parents had been married for 30 years untill the affair was exposed. According to what we know the affair lasted for about a year and only started 6 months after we introduced our parents to each other. According to the text messages send to us with a confession my father is the one that persuade his mother, and flirted with her first, compliment, signs if affection untill his mother gave in.
Im am not making an excuse for my fathers behavior he is just as quilty for the affair as his mother is in the end. I do not condone or support what he did but in the end even though he did make a crappy decision to go after a married woman he is still my father and will always be.
This situation almost cost us our relationship but we managed to work through it all. With the help of a therapist. She did explain and made us see that we where not responsible for the actions of 2 grown adults in the end them being our parents or not.
On to my reason for needing advice.
I have always wanted since i can remember for my father to walk me down the aisle, that has been a dream of mine since i can remember.
His mother is not invited to the wedding as he wants nothing to do with her, her cheating cost his father his life, he had a heart attack after everythingcame out and she confessed, i do mean it when i say my fiance father lived for his wife and children.
My heart broke for my fiance and his family not just for his loss but that my father had a hand in it as well.
The death of his father and him cutting off his mother all happend when we where in therapy and again the therapist helped us to see the action of 2 grown adults wasn't out burden to bare in the end.
Now again i have always wanted my father to walk me down the aisle, i brought it up with my fiance and he looked at me in shock asking me if i was seriously thinking of letting my POS father even attend out wedding, he doesn't want my father near him or any of the other women in his family.
An argument started between us with him saying no way in hell will he let my father even attend let alone walk me down the aisle. I wasn't trying to justify my fathers actions or wanted him to forgive him. I just wanted my father there on one of the biggest days of my life. The argument was just going in circles after 30 minutes.
I again explained to his that this is our wedding day and will be the happiest day of our lives, i want my dream to become a reality and that my father was going to attend my wedding and walk me down the aisle as i have always wanted, i couldn't have my mother their with me so at least i will have my father.
He looked at me again for a couple of seconds and said, okay he will walk you down the aisle but i don't know who he will be handing you over too because i won't be standing at the end of that aisle. He then left our house, i haven't been able to get in touch with him at all.
I think he blocked me, all my calls are going straight to voice mail and my messages are unread. None of his friends knows where he is or they do and is not telling me. I called his brother and he laughed at me over the phone and hung up. I even called his mother but since he cut her off she hasn't heard from him as well. Nobody is giving me answers as to where he is or if he is even safe. I tried to file a missing person report but police told me that is not possible as my fiance informed them that he is fine, not missing and is just leaving.
What am i suppose to do, the wedding is in 3 months and i spiraling, i want him to come back to me, i need him. He is the love of my life.
What can i do know? Do any of you know how i might he able to reach him? I just want to talk to him. If he want me to uninvite my father i will, i will give up on the dream i have, i just want Daniel to come back to me.
What can i do?
Edit whet through my post and see i forget a couple of things, forgive the spelling mistakes and sentence construction nit going to fix it.
TLDR added on top.
I have also tried to get in touch with him through his work but they said he put in an extensive leave request. I have driven to his brother, friend and family that lives close houses and his car is not anywhere to be seen.
He just disappeared and left everything, he didn't take clothes with him, all i know that he has with him for sertain is his wallet that he keeps in the car and the car itself that is it. I have checked his bank statements to see if he rented a hotel room or anything but nothing, not mony withdrawals or payments.
Have access to everything of his as he has access to all of my things as well.
If you need clarification on anything ask in the comments and i will answer to get the needed advice, im to tired, emotional and scared at thos point to remember everything. Even writing thos took a emotional toll and is draining me.
Rereading everything i wrote, iclearly see I'm in the wrong for even just asking him if my father could attend the wedding.
I want to fix this, i need to fix this
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- Fil5000
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HOLD ON GUYS I'M POSTING ABOUT INTERNET ROBOTS
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Does he want the recipe to your ketchup too? Or the plans for your soup tubes?
I mean he could really use the ketchup recipe, the sandwich currently lacks that real tomato flavour.
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- cat botherer
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I am interested in most phases of data processing.
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Ah, now this, this is a proper shitshow.
I (28F) think i caused the end of my engagement with my (28M) fiance, i need advice?
From r/AmITheEx, natch.
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- hawowanlawow
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Ah, now this, this is a proper shitshow.
I (28F) think i caused the end of my engagement with my (28M) fiance, i need advice?
From r/AmITheEx, natch.
quote:I called his brother and he laughed at me over the phone and hung up.
lol indeed brother, lol indeed
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