Quackles posted:

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AITA for showing my son how to shave?

Hughlander posted:

AITAH for sleeping with a guy after the man I thought was my bf said we were not a couple?

There’s a reading of this where he made a joke that didn’t land and she torched her relationship for it. But I don’t think that’s what happened.

AceClown posted:

you mods, IK, whoever

Can I get a 6er with this picture of BIG JOHN



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Hughlander posted:

AITAH for sleeping with a guy after the man I thought was my bf said we were not a couple?

There’s a reading of this where he made a joke that didn’t land and she torched her relationship for it. But I don’t think that’s what happened.

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

Thanks to this thread for inspiration on how not to be a stupid newbie anymore!

I'm voting ESH on this one - dude sounds like he told his girlfriend she wasn't his girlfriend and torched things, but she didn't make sure before burning things to the ground. She would have been way better off talking to him to be sure 'nah, we're not BF-GF, we're really just FWB' was really what he was saying. Maybe he hates the term 'boyfriend', maybe he has some weird plan in mind to surprise her, maybe he just hadn't realized that's what they were and putting a name on it scared him, there's lots of ways it could be some dumb misunderstanding or weird hangup. Her high-drama ending is more entertaining, but...

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I felt literally sick but I tried to be calm and I asked so what are we, he said I don’t know. Really great FWB?

Midnight Voyager posted:

Wii Spawn Camper posted:

You can be FWB and still be exclusive, he could have meant that.

Tomfoolery posted:

If she just let him speak she would've learned that by benefits he meant a retirement plan (together)

Desert Bus posted:

It's fun to have fun pictures in your rap sheet. All it costs you is 6 hours of not posting which is something any vaguely functional human should be able to handle.

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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

Thanks to this thread for inspiration on how not to be a stupid newbie anymore!

I'm voting ESH on this one - dude sounds like he told his girlfriend she wasn't his girlfriend and torched things, but she didn't make sure before burning things to the ground. She would have been way better off talking to him to be sure 'nah, we're not BF-GF, we're really just FWB' was really what he was saying. Maybe he hates the term 'boyfriend', maybe he has some weird plan in mind to surprise her, maybe he just hadn't realized that's what they were and putting a name on it scared him, there's lots of ways it could be some dumb misunderstanding or weird hangup. Her high-drama ending is more entertaining, but...

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My (39F) ex-husband (38M) has been dating this women for 3 years. My ex and I were married for 12 years, and have been divorced for 5 years, we have three kids together who are now teenagers.

My ex and I got divorced because we were young when we met and got married and we grew apart as people. It was a mutual decision, and we agreed our kids came first and have always coparented very well.

This has been the case up until the last year when his girlfriend moved in with him. Previously we would do holidays and kids birthdays together, now when she is present they won’t even sit near me at our kids sporting events. I have always been nice to this women, despite my kids expressing they do not like her and they feel their dad acts differently when she is around. My ex told me early on she wasn’t a fan of me and felt I intimidated her. When I asked him for examples of how intimidated her, he said it’s my face, that I have resting bitch face and it makes her uncomfortable.

My ex and her got engaged over Christmas and my kids were less than thrilled, my daughter especially. She feels her dad made a major life decision without even talking to them about it first.

My ex called me yesterday saying he is giving me a heads up that I have a year to change my last name back to my maiden name as his finance is expressing her distaste and concern for her and I to have the same last name when they get married. I told him we agreed in our divorce that I could keep his last name until I felt the need to change it, and that is what is listed in our paperwork. I also told him I don’t want to have a different last name than our kids. He said I’m being unreasonable and refusing to see how this would make his finance uncomfortable. I told him I can’t see it from her side because I am a grown up, and not an immature child like she is.

He told me I could ask anyone about this situation, and everyone would agree with her. So, AITAH for refusing to change my last name to make her happy?

Runcible Cat posted:

Long but the Spirit of Pete blesses many in the updates:

My, 28f, fiancee 29m, wants me to put his family before mine, even at the expense of my families health

He then started saying I couldn't be serious, we'd been together for 7 years and I was throwing it all away, I could never find another guy like him. I responded to the last comment with, I dont want a guy like you that's why I'm ending it.

Mx. posted:

AITAH? My (39F) Ex husband (37M) is insisting I change my last name back to my maiden name because his new fiancé (24F) feels it will be awkward for her and I to have the same last name. AITAH for refusing to change it?

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Yes, I told him how my daughter felt after they got engaged and his response was “their opinion doesn’t matter, they will be grown and out of the house in a few years so I’m not going to put my life on hold for their opinion.

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I did offer that as a solution and he completely lost it saying he is their dad and they deserve to have his last name. Yet when I said I wanted the same last name as our kids, he told me that wasn’t a legitimate reason to not change it.

Mx. posted:

AITAH? My (39F) Ex husband (37M) is insisting I change my last name back to my maiden name because his new fiancé (24F) feels it will be awkward for her and I to have the same last name. AITAH for refusing to change it?

Obnoxipus posted:

I would love a horrible puppet probe to be the first mark on my rap sheet.

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Mx. posted:

AITAH? My (39F) Ex husband (37M) is insisting I change my last name back to my maiden name because his new fiancé (24F) feels it will be awkward for her and I to have the same last name. AITAH for refusing to change it?

Crocobile posted:

Fiancé is correct in the title but “finance” throughout the post and it’s pissing me off.

Ravenfood posted:

So, this poor woman was in her third trimester, was not on any kind of maternity leave and so presumably also still working, cooking all the meals dor her MIL and FIL, and also physically lifting her FIL. What in the gently caress are this guy and his entire extended family bringing to the table? She's being a full-time caregiver, working a job that's probably full-time, and in her third trimester.

mystes posted:

My first thought in response to him saying he wasn't her boyfriend was to think maybe he meant something else, like maybe he was going to propose and be like "see i"m not your boyfriend I'm your fiance". But reading the whole thing... no. If he just objected to the term boyfriend he had plenty of opportunity to clarify, and if he couldn't understand that she was upset I don't think their relationship was going to work anyway.

If it was somehow a misunderstanding then it was still his fault for loving it up so bad but maybe he can learn from it.

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

Nah, I'm sticking with ESH and I really don't see how people consider her reaction reasonable. I think it's dumb to completely blow up and burn to the ground a seven year relationship over one comment and one quick follow-up right after. If the relationship has seven years of history, why not wait overnight, then ask for clarification the next day? In a seven month relationship if my partner said something really weird and confusing I'd wait a day for any emotions to cool off, then have a conversation the next day. Not putting in that kind of small effort to rule out any of the weirdness and inconsistency that people do makes no sense to me, it's not like waiting for one day and one potentially-final conversation is a huge investment. I think the result of that conversation would probably be a breakup in this case, but I don't understand not being sure.

And if you do think the thing is over, why not just say that on Saturday and be done with it instead of obsessing over it, then implementing a complex plan to bang someone else and entice the other person to ask questions that let you drop the 'I spent the night with another man' bomb on him in response? I'm not a fan of RL drama so maybe I just don't get it.

Hughlander posted:

AITAH for sleeping with a guy after the man I thought was my bf said we were not a couple?

wizardofloneliness posted:

Where are you getting seven years from, she said they were together for nearly one year. Or not together, I guess.

Pantaloon Pontiff posted:

maybe he has some weird plan in mind to surprise her,

Midnight Voyager posted:

I'm not sure he'd understand the words "I am upset because you said we're not together" after that.

Midnight Voyager posted:

Why not go back to your maiden name and have the kids, who don't seem to much like him anymore, to change theirs?

aha.

Midnight Voyager posted:

Why not go back to your maiden name and have the kids, who don't seem to much like him anymore, to change theirs?

aha.

A HUNGRY MOUTH posted:

Seven year relationship was in the Rob Blows Up His Whole Life For Misogyny story posted on the same page as I'm Not Your Boyfriend (Wait, Why Aren't You My Girlfriend?)

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I was in a relationship with my girlfriend for 4 years. We really loved each other, my family loved her, her family loved me. We had discussions of marriage, we made plans for the future, how many kids we wanted. My girlfriend was always extremely excited about it. Over the last few months, I was giving her consistent hints that I was going to propose to her, and last weekend I booked a nice resort, where I would plan to propose to her at a private place.

Well when I did propose to her, she somehow seemed shocked about it, and asked if she could have a few more months. That just completely stunned me and was one of the most heartbreaking moments of my life. My girlfriend kept apologizing, saying she just needed to be in the right mental space, and that right then, she wasn’t. She cried and promised me that we were technically engaged, she just needed a few more months to officially accept the proposal. I felt empty, sad, embarrassed. I felt horrible. When we returned back to our apartment, she was apologizing a lot, and there was also a lot of crying. The whole situation for me was so heartbreaking and embarrassing, that I could not talk about it with any of my friends or even my parents. I could only consult my siblings.

My siblings had completely contrasting opinions. My brother told me maybe she got cold feet, and a lot of people get cold feet, and to just give her time because she seemed like a genuine person. However, my sister told me what my girlfriend did was girl code for cheating and that my girlfriend was probably ashamed about accepting about my proposal, given that she most likely was having an affair. My sister told me that my girlfriend would probably call off the affair in the next couple of months, after which she would be comfortable accepting the proposal.

Completely contrasting opinions, but I sided with my sister because my brother gets a bit naïve at times. The more I thought about, the more what my sister said made logical sense, and that just shattered my heart even more.

So a couple of days ago, after my girlfriend came home from work, I told her we were done and that she had a couple of hours to pack up and leave. I gave her no heads up about it. I gave no reasons. She was shocked and talking a lot, asking why, but at this point, I just didn’t trust her anymore. She obviously cried but I was over it. A couple hours later, her friend came to pick her up, and I blocked her number so I didn’t get any more texts. I am still suffering a lot, and it will take a lot of time to heal through this. AITAH?

Sex Farm posted:

Nobody reads the actual posts

t-.-t posted:

My (27M) girlfriend (26F) of 4 years rejected my proposal because she wanted more time. AITAH for breaking up with her and kicking her out of my apartment?

t-.-t posted:

However, my sister told me what my girlfriend did was girl code for cheating and that my girlfriend was probably ashamed about accepting about my proposal,

The more I thought about, the more what my sister said made logical sense,