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quote:She cried and promised me that we were technically engaged, she just needed a few more months to officially accept the proposal.
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:Nah, I'm sticking with ESH and I really don't see how people consider her reaction reasonable. I think it's dumb to completely blow up and burn to the ground a seven year relationship over one comment and one quick follow-up right after. If the relationship has seven years of history, why not wait overnight, then ask for clarification the next day? In a seven month relationship if my partner said something really weird and confusing I'd wait a day for any emotions to cool off, then have a conversation the next day. Not putting in that kind of small effort to rule out any of the weirdness and inconsistency that people do makes no sense to me, it's not like waiting for one day and one potentially-final conversation is a huge investment. I think the result of that conversation would probably be a breakup in this case, but I don't understand not being sure. There's a certain point where I feel that if someone says something that could clearly be expected to blow up the relationship, even if the other person gets mad and does something unnecessary and even if there's a small possibility that there was a misunderstanding, I don't feel like it pushes it into "ESH' territory. It's kind of similar to if he said he wanted to open up the relationship (after all isn't that what friends with benefits implies?) mystes fucked around with this message at 14:41 on Apr 1, 2024 |
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Apr 1, 2024 14:19
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Mitch Hedberg posted:I don't have a girlfriend, I just know a girl who would get really mad if she heard me say that.
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Apr 1, 2024 14:33
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deoju posted:I don't think that's how this kind of thing works. I suppose it could just mean that she has accepted the proposal, but is not ready to tell wear a ring, refer to the OP as her fiancé and talk to friends and families about it at that moment, because it'd be mentally overwhelming or something. What the OP should have done was to remain calm and sit her down and talk about it. But he's still at the stage of mental development where he's "giving consistent hints" and thinks "girl code" is a real thing, so he didn't.
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Apr 1, 2024 14:35
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Yeah I think breaking up because she rejected the proposal would be justified in itself if that's what he really wanted but deciding that it means she's cheating because of "girl code" is insanely dumb.
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Apr 1, 2024 14:37
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Yeah, poor girl dodged a bullet.Shanghaied posted:I suppose it could just mean that she has accepted the proposal, but is not ready to tell wear a ring, refer to the OP as her fiancé and talk to friends and families about it at that moment, because it'd be mentally overwhelming or something. Kinda funny to hear the 'they obviously got my subtle hints' narrative with the genders flipped for once.
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Apr 1, 2024 14:43
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Crocobile posted:Fiancé is correct in the title but “finance” throughout the post and it’s pissing me off. I'm going to start pronouncing finance like fiance now, actually.
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Apr 1, 2024 14:43
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Breaking up after a failed proposal isn't uncommon, nor is it an rear end in a top hat move, but this guy is absolutely a loving monster. The proof is his sister reads a lot of Reddit
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Apr 1, 2024 14:44
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mystes posted:They were together one year, not seven, and he explicitly responded that they were friends with benefits. Maybe ideally she should have confirmed but if you suddenly tell someone you're just friends with benefits and not boyfriend and girlfriend after a year how much benefit of the doubt do you deserve? What's funny to me about the story as presented is it seems pretty obvious that from like an hour after he left he was desperately trying to roll back what he said and get back in contact
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Apr 1, 2024 14:47
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John Wick of Dogs posted:What's funny to me about the story as presented is it seems pretty obvious that from like an hour after he left he was desperately trying to roll back what he said and get back in contact Yeah my impression is that he thought he won the lottery with an attached partner he didn't actually have to commit to. Then he realized she thought they were committed and panicked and squashed that to 'reset'. Then when she pulled back, he further realized the only reason he was getting that attached partner treatment in the first place was because she thought they were committed, and she isn't going to give that same level of care to a FWB situation. He realized too late that he actually enjoyed being her boyfriend, if that was what it was like. Welp. Now you're definitely not dating, buddy. Good job.
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Apr 1, 2024 15:04
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Midnight Voyager posted:Like she should have said what the problem was, but him not getting it after she said that "Since we're not a couple" thing is absolutely stunning, I'm still reeling. I'm not sure he'd understand the words "I am upset because you said we're not together" after that. Yeah that's where I voted NTA - he straight up said they were still FWB, not in a relationship & then got upset that she took it seriously. The whole "you cheated on me" part was laughable, this guy's got 2 brain cells fighting for 3rd place.
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Apr 1, 2024 15:12
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:Nah, I'm sticking with ESH and I really don't see how people consider her reaction reasonable. I think it's dumb to completely blow up and burn to the ground a seven year relationship over one comment and one quick follow-up right after. If the relationship has seven years of history, why not wait overnight, then ask for clarification the next day? In a seven month relationship if my partner said something really weird and confusing I'd wait a day for any emotions to cool off, then have a conversation the next day. Not putting in that kind of small effort to rule out any of the weirdness and inconsistency that people do makes no sense to me, it's not like waiting for one day and one potentially-final conversation is a huge investment. I think the result of that conversation would probably be a breakup in this case, but I don't understand not being sure. Iunno, maybe words have meaning  If you say something hurtful and repeatedly insist that you're serious then it doesn't particularly matter what your motivation is.I do agree it would probably have been healthier on her part to rip the bandaid off and be done with it, but she did just take him at his literal word that they were FWB.
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Apr 1, 2024 15:37
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if you turn down a proposal the onus is on you to repair/maintain the relationship. his specific reasoning is dumb but it kinda doesn't matter - she broke the relationship when she rejected him and did nothing to provide alternative assurance
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Apr 1, 2024 15:51
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It sounded like she was providing assurances by the dudes own words
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Apr 1, 2024 15:55
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Rat Patrol posted:I mean it's pretty normal to break up after a failed proposal. There's no more obvious sign you're just at different points in your life and have vastly different ideas for what the relationship is, which is a real good reason to end things. It's pretty silly to get all paranoid and invent a reason beyond that. 
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Apr 1, 2024 15:58
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Really wonder how strong the dudes “hints” were if his gf of 4 years froze up like a deer in the headlights. It’s 2024, it’s ok to ask your committed partner “so, hey, uh, getting married what do you think” and have a conversation. It’s been said in this thread before but the proposal shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone. The time and place can absolutely be a surprise (and I’m sure people will still gently caress this up by proposing to their introverted partners on the jumbotron, etc), but “do you want to marry me y/n” should not be a question
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Apr 1, 2024 16:24
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AITA for not bringing 40 raw eggs on a plane?quote:Okay I know that this post sounds really silly but I swear its all true.
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Apr 1, 2024 16:37
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ApplesandOranges posted:AITA for not bringing 40 raw eggs on a plane? About how many ounces of liquid are in an average egg?
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Apr 1, 2024 16:39
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ApplesandOranges posted:AITA for not bringing 40 raw eggs on a plane? Surprisingly, raw eggs in carry on luggage is ok.
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Apr 1, 2024 16:43
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Surprisingly enough, you can being raw eggs onto a plane: https://www.tsa.gov/travel/security-screening/whatcanibring/items/fresh-eggs But gently caress travelling with 40 raw eggs though.
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Apr 1, 2024 16:44
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ApplesandOranges posted:AITA for not bringing 40 raw eggs on a plane? I got a laugh out of that one, it's so odd. I would've assumed up front that you couldn't carry on raw eggs, but I saw that OP looked it up, and they're allowed? Maybe nobody in the TSA thought to ban them because who would carry them in the first place. I've talked about how much I love fresh eggs from a home flock before, but I wouldn't even consider doing that. Air travel's already a pain, and that feels like you're just asking for an extra accident to deal with.
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Apr 1, 2024 16:45
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Captain Hygiene posted:I got a laugh out of that one, it's so odd. I would've assumed up front that you couldn't carry on raw eggs, but I saw that OP looked it up, and they're allowed? Maybe nobody in the TSA thought to ban them because who would carry them in the first place. I've talked about how much I love fresh eggs from a home flock before, but I wouldn't even consider doing that. Air travel's already a pain, and that feels like you're just asking for an extra accident to deal with.
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Apr 1, 2024 16:47
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People also said in the comments that if the dad washed the eggs, they're already probably on the way to spoiling.
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Apr 1, 2024 16:48
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Smash mouth fly the eggs
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ApplesandOranges posted:People also said in the comments that if the dad washed the eggs, they're already probably on the way to spoiling. The reason why commercially produced eggs in north America have to be kept refrigerated is because they wash the cuticle off. Unwashed eggs can last for weeks at room temperature, and is why eggs aren't refrigerated in grocery stores in a large portion of the world. Captain Hygiene posted:I got a laugh out of that one, it's so odd. I would've assumed up front that you couldn't carry on raw eggs, but I saw that OP looked it up, and they're allowed? Maybe nobody in the TSA thought to ban them because who would carry them in the first place. I've talked about how much I love fresh eggs from a home flock before, but I wouldn't even consider doing that. Air travel's already a pain, and that feels like you're just asking for an extra accident to deal with. When masking was still required on flights, I saw a family bring a large tray of fried chicken through security and onto the plane, then nibbled on it the entire flight as an excuse not to wear their masks. Apparently that is allowed, but having slightly too much contact cleaner or mouthwash still makes you a terrorist.
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mystes posted:It seems like they are specifically allowed. If there was just no rule you would have to follow the normal rules for liquids (having them all in one clear bag) and it doesn't sound like that's the case. I'm sure the powerful Senate and House poultry caucuses or whatever have something to do with it. I'm only like 40% joking. The_Franz posted:When masking was still required on flights, I saw a family bring a large tray of fried chicken through security and onto the plane, then nibbled on it the entire flight as an excuse not to wear their masks. Apparently that is allowed, but having slightly too much contact cleaner or mouthwash still makes you a terrorist. At that point you just wanna wear your mask to avoid smelling their eggy farts Shanghaied fucked around with this message at 17:00 on Apr 1, 2024 |
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Apr 1, 2024 16:58
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Only on Joe Biden America you are allowed to fly foreign eggs into the country but you are banned from painting the religious cross on them
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Apr 1, 2024 17:01
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My GF left me because I lost all our savings on my interstate egg arbitrage scheme. She asked me "could you at the very least not fly business???!!!" and I said "bitch, this is my business!!!"
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Apr 1, 2024 17:06
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AITA for kicking out my sister for her emo outfit and telling her she can go to the funeral when she wears respectable clothesquote:Last weekend was my dads funeral. I planned it since my mom has been a reck. My mom and my sister are not close. I am also not close to her and I think she is a dick. So I am probably bias. quote:Info- how old is she? quote:26.
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Apr 1, 2024 17:12
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SpaceViking posted:About how many ounces of liquid are in an average egg? Apparently 2 for a big chicken egg, so raw eggs are TSA friendly in that respect. e: getting pulled out of the xray line with my eggs and asking where the microwave is so I can do an impromptu Smashmoth.
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Apr 1, 2024 17:12
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being too goth for a funeral probably feels like a lifetime achievement
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Apr 1, 2024 17:15
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There's no better place for goth fashion than a funeral.
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Apr 1, 2024 17:17
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though I guess a corset and a frilly skirt would have been more appropriate than a band t-shirt *advice is gender neutral
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Apr 1, 2024 17:25
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Emo is not goth. Goth would be more appropriate for a funeral than emo.
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Apr 1, 2024 17:31
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That depends, if the shirt was Dark Funeral, well funeral is in the name so that has to be okay? Asking Alexandria? Inappropriate.
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Apr 1, 2024 17:32
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Wii Spawn Camper posted:Emo is not goth. Goth would be more appropriate for a funeral than emo.
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Apr 1, 2024 17:33
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How many of the reddit comments are asking for her username
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Apr 1, 2024 17:35
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Emo is not the same as goth though, right? I went to grad school with a girl who only wore long-sleeved black or white lace dresses. She also had peroxide blonde hair and a fringe. If you met her only once you'd think she was dressed pretty normally, but black or white lace dresses were the only thing she wore every day for the two years I knew her. I wondered if there was some work-appropriate goth thing going on, but she was always nice and I was not big enough of a dick to ask. I heard she went to work for PricewaterhouseCoopers. I guess the dresses would work professionally if she threw a blazer on top? Shanghaied fucked around with this message at 17:43 on Apr 1, 2024 |
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Apr 1, 2024 17:39
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Shanghaied posted:Emo is not the same as goth though, right? A ghoul, then. Easy mistake to make.
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Shanghaied posted:I suppose it could just mean that she has accepted the proposal, but is not ready to tell wear a ring, refer to the OP as her fiancé and talk to friends and families about it at that moment, because it'd be mentally overwhelming or something. Her being too anxious/overwhelmed/embarrassed of him/whatever is reason enough to reneg the engagement and end the relationship, way better than whatever nonsense his sister fed him. Kicking her out of the shared living space with a few hours notice is a bit much though.
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