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One of the sublime joys of aging is realizing "the one who got away" was actually a dodged bullet all along. I suppose it's less joyous if you learn by tracking it down and jumping in front of it. Related:
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 13:56 |
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# ? Jun 8, 2024 06:48 |
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FMguru posted:AITAH for exposing my bestfriend's boyfriend to his own mom because he's a chronic cheater? And now his family hates him (actually reads story) Yes, nuke this rear end in a top hat's entire life, you're doing a public service.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 14:51 |
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Snippet from an update to a fairly standard story that wasn't posted here (you can get the gist of it from the title), with one extremely funny detail worth highlighting. Update: AITAH for breaking off my marriage when my ex made out with another woman quote:I contacted my ex regarding the same and he refuted the claims saying she was the one who wanted to hook up with him but he stopped it as he couldn't do that to me. I met him in person to discuss this as I cannot just believe anyone blindly right now. He told me how sorry he is and how bad he feels and would do anything to have me back and gain my forgiveness. We had a conversation for a while and then I asked him if I could check his phone and texts around the same timeline and he refused. I know it was a big shot coz it was long ago and if there were any texts they would have been deleted but he straight up refused for letting me check his phone and said that would be an invasion of his privacy and he is not comfortable with that. In our relationship we never checked each others phones but I wanted to this one time coz he had betrayed my trust. He didn't budge and said I am being unreasonable by trusting a stranger's words rather than him. OP: Can I see your phone? Ex: No. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9X_ViIPA-Gc
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 14:59 |
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mystes posted:The partner is being dumb but reading between the lines I think it's because he's feeling insecure that the OP is the only one bringing in any money and so by OP jumping in and telling him what to do the partner feels like it's undermining the business he's trying to start to change that being his thing ApplesandOranges posted:What about people with genetic issues or can’t afford anything but cheap food that also makes you fat
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 15:34 |
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Mx. posted:I (25M) have the chance to date my old HS crush (25F), but I’m engaged to my fiancee (24F). What do I do?
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 15:36 |
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AITA for telling my brother that he’s going to be a poo poo dadquote:I (30M) was at my brothers (34M) house when my sister in law (31F) went into labour, they live in the countryside so the signal isn’t too great sometimes unless they walk up the lane so my brother was supposed to take her to the hospital instead of calling an ambulance but for some loving reason he decided to freak out and drive off somewhere. I can’t drive so I ran up the lane to call 999 it took forever to get signal and then it took forever for the ambulance to get to the house. I almost had to deliver the baby for fucks sake, she ended up giving birth in huge back of an ambulance. This whole time my brother had just disappeared. He finally turned up at the hospital about 8 bf hours after he disappeared. Apparently he’d gone to our dad’s house until our found out my sil gave birth and made my brother go see her.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 16:04 |
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I always forget the conversion between bf hours and husband hours, I wonder how long he was actually gone
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 16:08 |
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I assumed it was "eight brotherfucking hours"
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 16:20 |
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Mx. posted:I (25M) have the chance to date my old HS crush (25F), but I’m engaged to my fiancee (24F). What do I do?
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 16:31 |
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"son what's up why are you here randomly?" "Oh nm my wife went into labor and I fled into the night"
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 16:40 |
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The thought of his ex-fiancee realizing what a stupid bullet she dodged and how much better her life is going to be now that this dumbass blew up the relationship before it was too late is honestly heartwarming.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 16:45 |
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HopperUK posted:'You'll be chilling in the bedroom right?' could just as easily mean 'I assumed you didn't want to come for some reason not mentioned in the post'. Hard to know, because she didn't say 'haha what, no, I want to play' It definitely feels like anxietybrain talking; reading the worst possible outcome of an ambiguous phrases is, at least for me, a classic anxiety symptom, as is the complete avoidance of any sort of conversation around it.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 16:59 |
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Coca Koala posted:The thought of his ex-fiancee realizing what a stupid bullet she dodged and how much better her life is going to be now that this dumbass blew up the relationship before it was too late is honestly heartwarming. And the way he says "She's the type of girl I usually get" says a lot. The crush was hotter than the current fiancee so he let his dick tell him to get involved in the Hot Crazy Barmaid rather than stay with a woman who was building a bright career.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 17:24 |
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Halloween Jack posted:Yeah, but tough poo poo. If he doesn't understand the concept of an itemized receipt, he's not going to be in business very long. I’m willing to bet if you made him think it’s his idea suddenly it would make perfect sense Neito posted:It definitely feels like anxietybrain talking; reading the worst possible outcome of an ambiguous phrases is, at least for me, a classic anxiety symptom, as is the complete avoidance of any sort of conversation around it. Even the post sounded like an anxiety spiral the yeti fucked around with this message at 17:36 on Apr 11, 2024 |
# ? Apr 11, 2024 17:33 |
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Neito posted:It definitely feels like anxietybrain talking; reading the worst possible outcome of an ambiguous phrases is, at least for me, a classic anxiety symptom, as is the complete avoidance of any sort of conversation around it. She says in comments that what he actually said was, "you'll be chilling in the room yea?" I would hear that as "you'll be hanging out with us even if you're not playing, right?" She saw it as "you'll go into the bedroom and don't come out for any reason, right?"
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 17:35 |
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Me when the woman whose only direct insight into my life is how much I spend at the bar says she likes how "driven" I am: hahaha yes!! gently caress yes!! Me when it turns out she only cared about my disposable income: What the gently caress. This sucks
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 17:36 |
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Bonster posted:She says in comments that what he actually said was, "you'll be chilling in the room yea?" I don't think it's possible to determine to what degree she might have misunderstood or what he actually meant based on just reading the OP's comments, but either way she probably needs to communicate with him more.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 17:37 |
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Ominous Jazz posted:genuinely just talk to your almost wife if you share a bed you can share a conversation Absolutely! I kept waiting in that story for him to ask his fiancé what he could do different or if there's anything new she wants to try. Like dude, maybe you learn something about yourself too. But nope, better to just leave because you're an insecurity elemental.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 17:42 |
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Bonster posted:She says in comments that what he actually said was, "you'll be chilling in the room yea?" Tbh if you extend an invitation to your significant other that you think was accepted and instead they stay in their room for 5 hours you should probably pop in at some point to see what's up.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 18:00 |
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t-.-t posted:My fiancee told her friend group that I am not the greatest at sex, but she is with me for the complete package. Am I wrong for calling off the engagement? Talking about your partner's sex life with friends without their consent is instant acid vat
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 18:02 |
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Ensign Expendable posted:Tbh if you extend an invitation to your significant other that you think was accepted and instead they stay in their room for 5 hours you should probably pop in at some point to see what's up. She seems like a downer, probably for the best she stayed up there. How many months rent do you think she'd lose at the poker table, if she's so anxious that she can't even leave a room or speak one sentence to her husband to clarify the situation? Like at least 6 years worth right?? Or maybe she just folds every hand preflop so it's just five hours worth of antes.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 18:08 |
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Neito posted:It definitely feels like anxietybrain talking; reading the worst possible outcome of an ambiguous phrases is, at least for me, a classic anxiety symptom, as is the complete avoidance of any sort of conversation around it.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 18:19 |
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Deified Data posted:Talking about your partner's sex life with friends without their consent is instant acid vat If you’re just gossiping with whoever then sure, but if you’re talking about relationship stuff with a close friend/confidant?? As long as it isn’t the kind of close friend who immediately blabs all your poo poo to everyone I think it’s fine; people should be able to have outlets for that sort of thing.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 19:35 |
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PetraCore posted:Yeah, she says she has BPD, which explains a lot about her reaction, because it can be hard to read any nuance into interactions when you have BPD. This is still basically a situation where her own brain convinced her self-sabotage, though. It seems pretty clear to me her husband only took 5 hours to check on her because when she stayed in the bedroom he assumed she didn't want to participate and was just chilling. Hopefully she can figure out a way to communicate better and participate next time, but I'm also not sure that going to reddit over this is going to help. At all.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 19:40 |
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idiotsavant posted:If you’re just gossiping with whoever then sure, but if you’re talking about relationship stuff with a close friend/confidant?? As long as it isn’t the kind of close friend who immediately blabs all your poo poo to everyone I think it’s fine; people should be able to have outlets for that sort of thing. Saying poo poo about your partner to your confidante, when that same poo poo is unknown to your partner, is an rear end in a top hat move though. If you aren't happy with your sex life, that's something you share with your partner first, or else you stfu and accept that it's bad because you aren't doing anything to improve it.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 19:41 |
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idiotsavant posted:If you’re just gossiping with whoever then sure, but if you’re talking about relationship stuff with a close friend/confidant?? As long as it isn’t the kind of close friend who immediately blabs all your poo poo to everyone I think it’s fine; people should be able to have outlets for that sort of thing. she said it while joking around with her friend group unless your confidant is your therapist then the only person you should be discussing that stuff with is your partner
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 19:42 |
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quote:Husband did come in and ask what happened when he saw my face, but I can't just say that you've isolated and made me uncomfortable in my own house. "I can't just say the exact thing that I should be saying"
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 19:43 |
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you can say it and you must
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 19:50 |
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Troublemaker posted:AITAH for walking away after I discovered my fiancé had intercourse with a douchebag? I keep going back to his "recently my wardrobe broke down" like that's just a thing they do like cars. What do you mean man did you break it or did it collapse? I can't wrap my head around that phrasing.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:18 |
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duck trucker posted:I keep going back to his "recently my wardrobe broke down" like that's just a thing they do like cars. What do you mean man did you break it or did it collapse? I can't wrap my head around that phrasing. Problem with the engine, most likely. Can’t tell you how many people ignore the Check Engine light on their wardrobe until it’s too late.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:22 |
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I (23F) can no longer stand my fiance's (30M) ex (30F) living with us, how do I suggest she moves out?quote:The ex gave birth to twins after they broke up, and fiance's parents built a guest house on their property for her to move in to. My fiance and I also live with his parents. They have a beautiful, large home that allows us all the privacy we need and we get to save a lot of money all while living close to work. It works for us. It would be perfect if the ex would just move out.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:26 |
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If the connection to Narnia is severed, you have to take it into the shop to get it relinked, it's a whole big production and kind of a pain in the rear end
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:26 |
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Halloween Jack posted:I (23F) can no longer stand my fiance's (30M) ex (30F) living with us, how do I suggest she moves out? What in the gently caress.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:28 |
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Halloween Jack posted:I (23F) can no longer stand my fiance's (30M) ex (30F) living with us, how do I suggest she moves out? Why does she say "my ex" a couple times? Did she forget halfway through writing this that she was still dating her fiance, or does she have an ex of her own who keeps chiming in with his opinions but is otherwise irrelevant?
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:29 |
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duck trucker posted:I keep going back to his "recently my wardrobe broke down" like that's just a thing they do like cars. What do you mean man did you break it or did it collapse? I can't wrap my head around that phrasing. I'm guessing it's one of those really cheap plastic 'hold some clothes in your dorm room' wardrobes and not something made of solid wood. A could see a structural element just breaking on one of those.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:47 |
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If someone told me "my wardrobe broke down" I would think they started wearing ill-fitting clothing, clashing colors, mismatched socks, that sort of thing.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:54 |
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idiotsavant posted:If you’re just gossiping with whoever then sure, but if you’re talking about relationship stuff with a close friend/confidant?? As long as it isn’t the kind of close friend who immediately blabs all your poo poo to everyone I think it’s fine; people should be able to have outlets for that sort of thing. Just no lol I understand op is a little awkward and self-conscious but even if he didn't have those issues he'd still have a fiance who gossips about him behind his back
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:57 |
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an old AITA got an update AITA for "keeping score" with my family and ruining dinner? quote:I (27m) am the 3rd of 4 siblings and have always felt like an afterthought. Laurie (33f), Chuck (29m), and Jade (25f) have always gotten the first and best from my parents and each other. I get the leftovers if I'm lucky. I haven't gotten a birthday present from any of my siblings in about 10 years, but I still get asked to pitch in for group gifts for each of them every year. UPDATE AITA for "keeping score" with my family and ruining dinner? quote:So, update time. About a week after that post my wife and I sat down with my parents and cleared the air. As several people suggested I wrote down my thoughts and compiled (to the best of my knowledge) a listing and full accounting of the disparity in what my siblings were given over the years and what I was given. I did actually sit down and do the math and it turns out that while I was at the Technicum I actually paid my parents more in rent than they ever paid for my tools. But the final reckoning came to between ~$370k on the high end (Jade) to ~$190k on the "low" end (Chuck) for how much my parents directly gave to my siblings that they never gave me. Sitting down and seeing the full amount all spelled out like that is probably the angriest I got during this whole mess. quote:I don’t really have time to address everything but the birthday thing with Jade was addressed in comments on the first post. The short version is she and her husband had been giving Laurie money (and a really size able amount of it it turns out) every year to buy my wife and I tickets to see the Union play. Then, when we inevitably posted pictures of us at games she assumed that at least one of those games was the gift. She even pointed out one of my instagram posts last year explicitly called it a birth gift, I didn’t specify it was my gift from my wife and to be fair the comment Jade left on it at the time in retrospect very much reads like she was glad I was enjoying her gift to me. So the reality is Laurie was just straight up stealing a couple hundred bucks from Jade every year for at least 5 years.
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:58 |
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Lottery of Babylon posted:Why does she say "my ex" a couple times? Did she forget halfway through writing this that she was still dating her fiance, or does she have an ex of her own who keeps chiming in with his opinions but is otherwise irrelevant?
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# ? Apr 11, 2024 20:59 |
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# ? Jun 8, 2024 06:48 |
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Halloween Jack posted:I (23F) can no longer stand my fiance's (30M) ex (30F) living with us, how do I suggest she moves out? drat, I need to find a family that gives me a free house to live in and pays all my expenses indefinitely just because. If allegedly not really being liked by them is the tradeoff, I think I can suffer through that.
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