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Why the gently caress didn't the fucko go in, explain the situation, and ask them to sell him some crab cakes to go?
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Apr 13, 2024 17:15
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I need to get me a man who will take me on a cheesecake factory date and get me the american girl crab cakes /s From r/amiwrong, is op wrong: For telling the girl I'm seeing that she's less mature than me for caring this much about age? quote:So here's the deal. I (23M) started seeing this girl (24F) for five weeks. We met at the gym in the summer and after a few months of short but very obviously tense (in a good way) interactions between sets and workouts I finally made the first move. On the very first date she found out my age and started slightly freaking out. She had never dated anyone younger than her. I understand it. I've only dated my age and younger as a guy so I feel like it's the opposite for women. But at the same time we're only 1.5 years apart. I guess she came to the realization that it's really not a big loving deal at all. Well at least temporarily
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Apr 13, 2024 17:18
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DemoneeHo posted:From r/amiwrong, is op wrong: OP is not wrong, his GF is way too hung up on Y2K line.
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Apr 13, 2024 17:21
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I took my daughters to an AGD store for Christmas and I consoled myself with finding out about these crab cakes AND THEY WERE NOT ON THE MENU
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Apr 13, 2024 17:32
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Olanphonia posted:She could just ask her daughter if she'd like to go with her aunt, and if the OP is uncomfortable with her daughter going solo she can go with her. This doesn't have to be a big deal. Or maybe just maybe the mother wants to be with her kids on mother’s day. Why should she have to check with others to see if that’s ok? It’s not let’s do this on some random Sunday. It’s let me take your daughter on Mothers Day
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Apr 13, 2024 17:33
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Cloacamazing! posted:I googled to see if the recipe for those amazing crab cakes was online and found this from r/bestoflegaladvice: lmao that's the exact same guy isn't it
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Apr 13, 2024 17:35
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DemoneeHo posted:From r/amiwrong, is op wrong: 14 months != 1.5 years tactlessbastard posted:I took my daughters to an AGD store for Christmas and I consoled myself with finding out about these crab cakes AND THEY WERE NOT ON THE MENU After the incident with that guy, they had to remove the Creep Special from the menu.
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Apr 13, 2024 17:49
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I'm pretty sure when the American Doll story came up people pointed out they were probably mass produced crab cakes that are the same as any other chain restaurant. Yet for some reason he HAD to have the ones at the American doll store. Why? 
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Apr 13, 2024 17:55
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Lieutenant Dan posted:Amazing start tbh I don't know, some people think there's a rule like that. There was a guy who worked his way into some social circles of mine, and was pretty popular, he also got himself a job as a manager at a bar in charge of coordinating some events that people I know liked. Then one day out of the blue everyone said they wanted nothing to do with him (don't come to my party, you're not welcome at trivia night, no I don't want to hang out) and he got fired from his public-facing job - because it came out that he had been convicted of trading in child porn a few years previously while he was working as a teacher and was actually a registered sex offender. It didn't really help that he was trying to date some single mothers in the friend group. Part of his defense against the unfairness was that he never said that he wasn't a pedo, so it was completely unreasonable for people to assume that he wasn't, and that if they were concerned that the guy they were hanging out with (in some cases with kids in tow) was one they should have asked beforehand. Surprisingly, this take did not make anyone want to be around him. So this guy declaring that he's 31 and not a pedophile may just be following the rule that guy thought was in play, that if you want to be treated as not-a-pedophile you declare it at the outset of any social interaction.
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Apr 13, 2024 17:55
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mllaneza posted:OP is not wrong, his GF is way too hung up on Y2K line.
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Apr 13, 2024 18:00
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limp_cheese posted:I'm pretty sure when the American Doll story came up people pointed out they were probably mass produced crab cakes that are the same as any other chain restaurant. My theory: he's a pædo! I mean he never said he wasn't!
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Apr 13, 2024 18:01
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dervival posted:lmao that's the exact same guy isn't it That post got removed from the legaladvice sub for being fake so I think it was stolen posting valor.
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Apr 13, 2024 18:16
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Hughlander posted:Or maybe just maybe the mother wants to be with her kids on mother’s day. Why should she have to check with others to see if that’s ok? It’s not let’s do this on some random Sunday. It’s let me take your daughter on Mothers Day Yeah and that's fine and good. She could just say, not this weekend but maybe next (again, assuming that the daughter is ok with it and everything). There is a space for compromise where aunt can get some time with the niece so long as everyone is on board. E: alternatively aunt can just use the time her husband takes the sons fishing or whatever and have brunch with her friends instead of needing a daughter figure since it sounds like she's either parenting or sitting at home alone. Olanphonia fucked around with this message at 18:38 on Apr 13, 2024 |
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Apr 13, 2024 18:35
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I think the aunt should take that daughter to the American girl doll cafe with her new boyfriend and order a lot of crab cakes
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Apr 13, 2024 18:55
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John Wick of Dogs posted:I think the aunt should take that daughter to the American girl doll cafe with her new boyfriend and order a lot of crab cakes And milk!
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Apr 13, 2024 18:57
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John Wick of Dogs posted:I think the aunt should take that daughter to the American girl doll cafe with her new boyfriend and order a lot of crab cakes You know what they say, give a girl an American Doll crab cake and she’s crabbed for the day, but teach a girl to sneak her way into the American Doll Cafe using someone else’s daughter and she’s crabby for life
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Apr 13, 2024 19:09
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3D Megadoodoo posted:Why the gently caress didn't the fucko go in, explain the situation, and ask them to sell him some crab cakes to go? Probably because the bars in the area don't allow outside food and he can't enjoy his crab cakes without getting smashed on sparkling brut at the same time.
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Apr 13, 2024 19:18
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It sounds like to me that this might have been a specific Mother's Day event to me, and if so - gently caress that aunt. If it were just a random day, I could understand maybe, but she should accept that the OP's daughters aren't dolls too be played with when she needs a break.
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Apr 13, 2024 19:25
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DemoneeHo posted:From r/amiwrong, is op wrong: I used to date a girl who's birthday was like a week after mine. It would drive her insane every time I was like "you'll understand when you're my age" but it never occurred to me there are people who are serious about that poo poo lol
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Apr 13, 2024 19:32
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The Diddler posted:I used to date a girl who's birthday was like a week after mine. It would drive her insane every time I was like "you'll understand when you're my age" but it never occurred to me there are people who are serious about that poo poo lol I would absolutely pull 'when you get to be my age on him' if I had a twin who was twenty minutes younger than me.
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Apr 13, 2024 19:36
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atomicdream posted:It sounds like to me that this might have been a specific Mother's Day event to me, and if so - gently caress that aunt. If it were just a random day, I could understand maybe, but she should accept that the OP's daughters aren't dolls too be played with when she needs a break. OP didn't have any plans to go to it. So it's not like she's hijacking it or anything. Somebody should probably try just asking the daughter what she wants. She might want to spend time with her aunt.
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Apr 13, 2024 19:44
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atomicdream posted:It sounds like to me that this might have been a specific Mother's Day event to me, and if so - gently caress that aunt. If it were just a random day, I could understand maybe, but she should accept that the OP's daughters aren't dolls too be played with when she needs a break. Pro-tip for people hung up on the Mother’s Day thing: it’s still hosed up on not-mothers-day lol I think we’re at the point where everyone agrees that parentifying kids is a bad thing, right? So why is reverse-parentifying your kid any better?
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Apr 13, 2024 19:50
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:Why not just get takeout? I don't know if this story is recent, but even pre-2020 pretty much every restaurant (and especially chain restaurants) had some option for takeaway food, and that seems to entirely solve the problem for him. The part about “not a lot of people are going out right now” suggests that this was roughly mid/late-2020, which would have been an exceptional time to get takeout/delivery instead of dining in. Double YTA for being a plague monster
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Apr 13, 2024 20:09
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The Diddler posted:I used to date a girl who's birthday was like a week after mine. It would drive her insane every time I was like "you'll understand when you're my age" but it never occurred to me there are people who are serious about that poo poo lol my wife is three months older than me and does this poo poo every year.
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Apr 13, 2024 20:18
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idiotsavant posted:Pro-tip for people hung up on the Mother’s Day thing: it’s still hosed up on not-mothers-day lol You think it's hosed up for someone to invite their niece/nephew out to lunch? Didn't realize I was supposed to be treating my relatives with such open contempt. Next time my uncle is in the area and asks if I want to get coffee, I'll be sure to tell him he's a monster, I guess.
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Apr 13, 2024 20:21
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WIBTA for breaking up with my girlfriend because she "asked for a date night"?quote:Last night I(25M) got into a big argument with my girlfriend(25F), she's accusing me of being a bad boyfriend because "I got so upset about her wanting to just spend a romantic evening out" and I heard her saying that to one of her friends this morning, and now I'm thinking about breaking up with her. would i be the rear end in a top hat if the second my partner needed a little support after supporting me through an absolute ton of poo poo if i just cut and run
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Apr 13, 2024 20:26
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AKA Pseudonym posted:OP didn't have any plans to go to it. So it's not like she's hijacking it or anything. Somebody should probably try just asking the daughter what she wants. She might want to spend time with her aunt. I'd be pretty pissed if my sister wanted to spend time with my kid instead of their own on Mother's Day. Why does she get dibs on OP's kid on a day meant to celebrate mothers when she has her own kids? I respect that raising two sons with special needs is difficult, but you don't get to hijack someone else's kids because you don't want to celebrate with your own.
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Apr 13, 2024 20:27
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Twins do that with each other when their age gap is measured in minutes
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Apr 13, 2024 20:27
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atomicdream posted:I'd be pretty pissed if my sister wanted to spend time with my kid instead of their own on Mother's Day. Why does she get dibs on OP's kid on a day meant to celebrate mothers when she has her own kids? I respect that raising two sons with special needs is difficult, but you don't get to hijack someone else's kids because you don't want to celebrate with your own. Not to mention the whole bit about bursting into public tears because her relationship with her own special-needs sons is not "normal.". Auntie is crying out for help that isn't gonna come from playing mommy for a day with a cute toddler.
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Apr 13, 2024 20:40
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AnoHito posted:You think it's hosed up for someone to invite their niece/nephew out to lunch? The issue is not inviting the niece out for lunch. The issue is the super creep factor of the gross aunt wanting to “try on” a “normal child” in a different sex because it’s her preference. The niece is a human being, not a pair of pants. And kids definitely pick up on that sort of objectificational cringe. I get no feeling that aunt gives a poo poo about anything but the sex and neurotipical/abledness of the niece. She wants to borrow an object, not because she thinks her niece will have fun, but because she wants to live her fantasy. They obviously don’t have any type of spontaneous doing things together relationship since mom doesn’t trust her to be alone with the child. TBH I’m kinda jealous of the people ITT arguing on behalf of gross aunt because it sounds like y’all had families that weren’t horrifying in whatever way. This is the sort of behavior that makes victims of it feel insane when they describe it to others with a different life experience and they think it just sounds innocuous. I totally had a step-aunt that put off these vibes and I thought she was a mega super creep when I was 9. Now I’m a grown rear end woman and thinking about her inventing memories of poo poo that didn’t happen and trying to get my cousins and I to agree that we remembered it gives me chills. I even got in a screaming match with her at my grandfather’s funeral because she decided she could mother my teenage self and would not stop clinging to me in the grossest possible way until I snapped and started yelling at her graveside. I wasn’t her niece, I was her prop for her “caring aunt of the year” performance piece. I’m guessing you have a healthy relationship with your uncle and relate to him based of your experience of him being an okay family member to hang out with. That isn’t the case for a lot of people.
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Apr 13, 2024 20:41
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in a normal family if the neice and aunt get along it’s not weird to do a monthly trip to the nail salon and lunch or whatever, that could easily be a thing everyone likes. the neice would of course have to be asked and decide she is interested in girly things time with aunty or whatever. the mom not really liking the aunt and the mothers day ask as a first together time alone thing is mostly what makes it weird.
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Apr 13, 2024 20:54
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The actual request to do this on mother's day is weird enough that it's reasonable for the OP to refuse, so she is not the rear end in a top hat in any case, but beyond that, this is IMO one of those situations where there's not really much point arguing about the OP's sister's motivations or whatever because there isn't much objective information and the OP is trying to create a certain narrative based on stuff that isn't specifically related to the actual situation, but there's no way for someone only reading the post to evaluate whether the OP's judgment is correct or not.
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Apr 13, 2024 20:59
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Halloween Jack posted:As someone who was lent out as a therapy animal as a child, gently caress off into the acid vat. Zoesdare posted:TBH I’m kinda jealous of the people ITT arguing on behalf of gross aunt because it sounds like y’all had families that weren’t horrifying in whatever way. This is the sort of behavior that makes victims of it feel insane when they describe it to others with a different life experience and they think it just sounds innocuous.   These guys know what’s up. SIL isn’t acting like a normal adult who wants to do a nice thing for a kid, she’s projecting her fantasy of the child she wished she had (because she’s unhappy with the kids she has) onto OP’s daughter. OP is right to be creeped out! And there is specific relavent info in the post: quote:Over Easter, Sheila asked if my younger daughter wanted to come to a “mommy and me tea” for Mother’s Day. I said no, because my hubby and I are already planning something for Mothers Day. And I want to spend it with my girls. 
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Apr 13, 2024 21:02
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i (20/f) hooked up with another girl (18) 2 days ago and she is a neo-nazi.quote:hi, this is my first time posting something like this.
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Apr 13, 2024 21:41
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:I would absolutely pull 'when you get to be my age on him' if I had a twin who was twenty minutes younger than me. every single twin I've ever known pulls this and the younger one gets so incredibly mad
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Apr 13, 2024 21:43
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Cythereal posted:i (20/f) hooked up with another girl (18) 2 days ago and she is a neo-nazi.
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Apr 13, 2024 21:45
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Cythereal posted:i (20/f) hooked up with another girl (18) 2 days ago and she is a neo-nazi. Nazis are a problem, sure, but what's also a problem is the sheer number of white people who don't see being a Nazi as a definite deal-breaker in interpersonal relationships.
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Apr 13, 2024 21:51
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Big Bowie Bonanza posted:WIBTA for breaking up with my girlfriend because she "asked for a date night"? Days within becoming a parent because of a death is definitely when a good partner whines "but what about meeeeee??" What the gently caress, dude
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Big Bowie Bonanza posted:
Take away custody.
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