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the holy poopacy posted:This one is especially egregious because his logic is that she was lying about not being interested in a massage... because she already had had one and therefore had to be interested in massages, which could only mean she was up to something shady by pretending she didn't want a massage! But I guess it's like what StrangersInTheNight said.
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The 'I hate massages' (but not really) sounds like a sitcom plot.
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AITA for telling my dad I judge his actions more harshly now that I'm a widowered parent too?quote:I (26m) lost my wife, Annie, over a year ago when our two children were only 18 months and 4 years old. She was only 25. I lost my own mom when I was 5 so I have been where my children are and my heart aches for them as well as for myself and for Annie, who so desperately wanted to be here for our kids. She lost her own dad when she was 6 so the reality of history repeating hit her incredibly hard before the end. I vowed to her, to myself and to our children that I would not make the same mistakes my dad and her mom made in the aftermath.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:What kind of café is it? Crab Cakes n' Brut
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Kurieg posted:AITA for telling my dad I judge his actions more harshly now that I'm a widowered parent too?
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AceClown posted:AITA for using my family’s Montana ranch for a corporate retreat without asking? quote:In my defense, I argued that the ranch was being underutilized and that this retreat could help with its upkeep costs.
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# ? Apr 16, 2024 16:18 |
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*seeing my DIL died on Facebook* I’m about to own my son so hard
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AITA for telling my dad that I'm not his replacememt wife?quote:
Sitcom dad accidentally finds a portal into the wrong genre More info in the comments: Dad is unemployed, does zero chores, won’t allow his kids to go to therapy because they need to “grieve naturally.” Butter Activities fucked around with this message at 16:29 on Apr 16, 2024 |
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:AITA for telling my dad that I'm not his replacememt wife? well, he wasn't wrong when he said "we're doomed"
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# ? Apr 16, 2024 16:34 |
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Okay, so what's funny or entertaining about that one? He's pulling his sixteen year old daughter out of school to replace his dead wife and then inviting his fourteen year old son to join in on the emotional abuse, in addition to denying them both therapy.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Okay, so what's funny or entertaining about that one? He's pulling his sixteen year old daughter out of school to replace his dead wife and then inviting his fourteen year old son to join in on the emotional abuse, in addition to denying them both therapy.
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It's not, I'm just trying to figure out if there's anything in that one other than child abuse. I could be overreacting.
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# ? Apr 16, 2024 17:19 |
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Okay, so what's funny or entertaining about that one? He's pulling his sixteen year old daughter out of school to replace his dead wife and then inviting his fourteen year old son to join in on the emotional abuse, in addition to denying them both therapy. Since when does a story need to be funny? Other emotions being evoked are valid and can be therapeutic. Obviously there's a line where nobody wants to read horror stories about abuse or violence, but in this case it seems like the writer has a good understanding of the bad situation and is going to get support and advice from people
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mystes posted:Is it a requirement that stuff posted in this thread has to be "funny" rather than interestingly horrifying or something?
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# ? Apr 16, 2024 17:23 |
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It is pretty outrageous
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# ? Apr 16, 2024 17:26 |
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There's a guy in my city who lives "off grid" and doesn't use money. Local paper even did this fluff piece on what a cool off grid anti-capitalist he is and he's just so cool and down to earth for living his life purely off barter and never using money, not having a bank account, and not working a regular job. Turns out the reason he doesn't use money is that he's a deadbeat dad who's one weird trick to avoiding child support wage garnishment is to simply never have money. He's also an outspoken holocaust denier and general alt-right piece of poo poo.
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# ? Apr 16, 2024 17:28 |
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Pope Corky the IX posted:It's not, I'm just trying to figure out if there's anything in that one other than child abuse. I could be overreacting. If you want excuses to enforce unwritten and ever shifting rules based on vague interpretations you could just be a mod on Reddit directly. I was wondering why the thread was dead compared to a few years ago.
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# ? Apr 16, 2024 17:29 |
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I dated a guy who was mostly "off-grid" except for his roommate's Hulu account and actually owning a phone. He got paid $9 under the table to dig holes in an old guy's back yard and when he got heatstroke one day, the old guy handed him a Gatorade instead of sending him to the hospital. ...I hope he's doing better now edit: Yes I asked why the guy needed constant holes and the answer was "Gardening" and not "Bodies" unfortunately
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Baronjutter posted:There's a guy in my city who lives "off grid" and doesn't use money. Local paper even did this fluff piece on what a cool off grid anti-capitalist he is and he's just so cool and down to earth for living his life purely off barter and never using money, not having a bank account, and not working a regular job.
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:If you want excuses to enforce unwritten and ever shifting rules based on vague interpretations you could just be a mod on Reddit directly. I was wondering why the thread was dead compared to a few years ago. Did you purposely ignore the second sentence in the post you quoted? Did I probe anyone? That one seemed particularly upsetting, but obviously it's not an opinion held by others. EDIT: Also, the thread was a lot more active a few years ago because half the posts were people arguing with Arbitrary C or Three Olives or Pick. Pope Corky the IX fucked around with this message at 17:37 on Apr 16, 2024 |
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mystes posted:With the concern about photos and stuff I wouldn't be surprised if the person in the reddit post has a warrant out for his arrest and is living under a false identity or something In that’s guys case im sure a sort of registry is involved.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Did you purposely ignore the second sentence in the post you quoted? Did I probe anyone? That one seemed particularly upsetting, but obviously it's not an opinion held by others. I apologize for the snarky tone of my previous post. I think you are overreacting. Butter Activities fucked around with this message at 17:45 on Apr 16, 2024 |
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post cooler things idk,
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:I apologize for the snarky tone of my previous post. Thank you, and I see that and apologize.
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I honestly think a rule that there should be something funny in each post would be good. I dip in and out of this thread because unfunny abuse stories are not particularly interesting to me, nor do they feel good to read.
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why do the people who want to post abuse stories want that? not sarcasm. genuine autism question. is it like "this is a learning experience showing what abuse looks like" or is it fun or what, genuinely
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InediblePenguin posted:why do the people who want to post abuse stories want that? not sarcasm. genuine autism question. is it like "this is a learning experience showing what abuse looks like" or is it fun or what, genuinely Engagement. People pay attention to car wrecks. They say "wow, I thought I knew what a car wreck was like, but the details are compelling to me". People post things because they want response, either "that was useful/edifying/cool", or "that was hosed up, this is what I think". People engage with funny poo poo, people engage with awful poo poo. On the internet, and to a surprising extent in real life, engagement is engagement.
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InediblePenguin posted:why do the people who want to post abuse stories want that? not sarcasm. genuine autism question. is it like "this is a learning experience showing what abuse looks like" or is it fun or what, genuinely I'm gonna be real: I've learned a ton about what is and isn't abuse via this thread. I've never had to deal with most of this stuff. EDIT: that said, i'm not here specifically to learn and this thread isn't here to teach, it's just been a bonus while giggling at the fun stuff
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The Diddler posted:I'm gonna be real: I've learned a ton about what is and isn't abuse via this thread. I've never had to deal with most of this stuff.
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InediblePenguin posted:why do the people who want to post abuse stories want that? not sarcasm. genuine autism question. is it like "this is a learning experience showing what abuse looks like" or is it fun or what, genuinely I at least understand it. Part of it is a kind of "Can you believe this poo poo?" reaction. The internet equivalent of seeing someone doing something stupid on the road and turning to the person you're within and going off about how dumb they are. EDIT: There's also a sense of catharsis and release for me when I see a story like that and everyone chimes in with "Man, gently caress that poo poo" type posts. It reminds me that there's people out there who do understand what is and isn't abuse. (I... may have some experience with a partner who performed abuse-adjacent activities). Neito fucked around with this message at 18:33 on Apr 16, 2024 |
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IMO the rule should be that you can only post abuse stories with a happy ending, not trailing off in “am I the rear end in a top hat for not liking this? I dunno, it feels like my life is a living hell but on the other hand I also have severe stockholm syndrome”
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:I was wondering why the thread was dead compared to a few years ago. Boy I hope this thread doesn't blow up like the last one. It gets discouraging when there's 200+ posts in non-chat threads. This is the first time I've been following it, and it's been fun so far.
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AITA for calling off my wedding and telling my fiancé to move back home with mommy?quote:I'm not going to try and swing this in my favor here by leaving out details or sugar coating anything. I was MEAN about it. He was crying. I've been with my fiancé for 7 years and we have been engaged for 3 years. We have gone ahead and tried to do a "save the date" 4 times now and every single time, his mom convinces him to postpone. It's always a "well don't you think you have bigger things to worry about?" Whether it be our living situation (we are renting and she thinks we should buy first because we "aren't stable"), or our money situation (this was her excuse after we loaned HER $8k so she didn't lose her house but we have plenty of money, as my husbands an RN and I'm a lawyer). It's just always something. We planned for a family gathering in my mom's backyard. She has 3 acres and a beautiful pond and it's just perfect. And we are doing a pot luck. So, very low cost wedding. Plus, everyone we know lives within an hour of the location so only giving a month or two notice is perfectly acceptable in our case. With all this said, his mom has zero reason to try and sway us against it. But her newest argument is that we "need" to wait until our daughter is "at least 3" so she can be our flower girl (she's 7 months old).
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:Reddit seems to remove double newline characters I have to admit that makes me laugh. In my early 20s, I had a date with a guy who did something similar because I'd had a few beers while singing karaoke. The same guy had also, a couple weeks earlier, bashfully asked permission to kiss me for the first time. Reader, I married him. That girl is dumb. Get you a man who treats you with dignity and respect for your person. It's super sexy. ilmucche posted:This is a weird one and a bit of a function of being overseas. It's a weird conversation to have but it's possible to acknowledge that logistics means that you might not be there when dying happens but still enjoy the time you have seeing them when you do get across the ocean The weirdness of grief is playing into it too. Husband is grieving the loss of his grandmother, but the cycle is prolonged by the fact that grandma's NOT dead, just almost, so it's that horrible prolonged agony of sadness. Assuming the husband isn't historically a spendthrift, under normal circumstances he would understand the impossibility of overseas travel on a regular basis. He'd probably even agree that one trip to say goodbye and one trip for the funeral would be good and enough. But that sort of logic goes out the window when you're trying to grab just one last moment.
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haveblue posted:IMO the rule should be that you can only post abuse stories with a happy ending, not trailing off in “am I the rear end in a top hat for not liking this? I dunno, it feels like my life is a living hell but on the other hand I also have severe stockholm syndrome” Pope Corky the IX posted:
This is what I currently have, I feel it's fairly similar to what you're proposing. EDIT: r/relationships: no, it's fine, you won. Now you can have your baby boy back full time. Pope Corky the IX fucked around with this message at 18:50 on Apr 16, 2024 |
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haveblue posted:IMO the rule should be that you can only post abuse stories with a happy ending, not trailing off in “am I the rear end in a top hat for not liking this? I dunno, it feels like my life is a living hell but on the other hand I also have severe stockholm syndrome” The only problem here is that by nature like 90% of the stories posted are unresolved
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FMguru posted:AITA for calling off my wedding and telling my fiancé to move back home with mommy? The weirdest thing is that the mom is trying to help win her back! What do you mean she's calling to plead her case?? She clearly got what she wanted, the wedding to never happen. what did she think she wanted??
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FMguru posted:AITA for calling off my wedding and telling my fiancé to move back home with mommy? Also good for her for standing up to him, no notes
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FMguru posted:AITA for calling off my wedding and telling my fiancé to move back home with mommy?
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Midnight Voyager posted:The weirdest thing is that the mom is trying to help win her back! What do you mean she's calling to plead her case?? She clearly got what she wanted, the wedding to never happen. what did she think she wanted?? Possibly someone to lord it over? Like, "see your fiance/husband prefers ME!" "Now you can have your baby boy back full time." is an absolute power move and rules
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