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DeeplyConcerned posted:I'm a little confused about what this dude gets out of having the same conversation which is basically him just bitching with several different people in a row. A captive audience. Oh god a terrible snipe! (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST) Crocobile fucked around with this message at 22:47 on Apr 23, 2024 |
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CoffeeBoofer posted:AITA for "mansplaining" to my sister about a movie? Not only is OP the rear end in a top hat, OP is something far worse: wrong about M. Night Shyamalan, one of the greatest genre directors to come out of the past 30 years
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quote:My team found her quietness and her ability to develop sales presentations and connect with each client was very show-off-like. When she asked for help, we didn’t take it seriously because we thought she acted like she knew everything and she was making us look bad by always going above and beyond for no reason. My team and I had worked together for 5-6 years so I knew them, their work and their personalities better than anyone else so I took what they said with more seriousness. I also thought that her years of experience were irrelevant; she didn’t have anything beyond a bachelor’s degree (most of us were smart and dedicated enough to get a masters) and her experience was in a different subset of insurance. I like that she both knows how to do the job well enough that just casually working she's "show-off-like" but that her years of experience were irrelevant even though her experience is obviously what let her be show-off-like. And isn't developing sales presentations to connect with each client the whole basis for that kind of job? Like "she does the thing we hired her to do pretty well, what a show-off" is just a weird thing to say. Invisible Clergy posted:He likes to hear himself whine about mass media, has a cadre of doormats/people who will set their phone down while folding laundry and allow this to happen, and no friends or outlets to inflict his screeds on. From the description, I doubt the other members of his family do much talking during these calls. I wouldn't be surprised if they take the call, let him start, then set the phone to the side where they can't hear it and throw in a 'hmm' or 'OK' so he thinks they're listening.
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Okay, I'll play your bad manager game. It's a long one. The link has occasional formatting and such that I can't be assed to replicate here. https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/vwexvs/the_saga_of_the_niceguy_boss_who_thought_his/ Original: Me [32M] with my coworker/friend [24/F] of one year, how do I let her know she is in an abusive relationship with her bf[24m] - 12 July 2017 quote:So a little background to start off with: ---------------- UPDATE 1 (July 12, 2017): OP posts a modified version of the story to a new sub, r/relationships on the same day. This post was deleted and I cannot find an archive copy, but since this post went live a helpful redditor (who asked not be cited as a source) has contacted me with a transcription of the post Me [32M] with my good friend [24F] duration, want to help her get out of abusive relationship quote:Edit: The other post had a lot of irrelevant information that caused people to troll and locked. I am seriously looking for advice to help a friend. Please only give advice based on information on this post. IF YOU DO NOT HAVE ANY ADVICE REGARDING THIS POST AND THIS POST ONLY PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT. Here are some top comments and OP's responses. quote:(top comment) Funny, the last time you posted this, you had a lot more details which made you look like a creepy, controlling "nice guy" who is massively overstepping his professional relationship with a coworker by trying to save her from an imaginary abusive relationship based on your own twisted conclusions. Luckily, it's still in your post history so everyone should take a look. She told you to leave her alone. Do that. quote:(another comment) Her wanting to spend the little time she has with her boyfriend, with her boyfriend, does not mean she is an abusive relationship. It means she is in a normal relationship. To be completely honest, you seem like an entitled narcissist. You can't imagine that a coworker would rather spend time with her boyfriend than you, so you create a fantasy where she is a damsel in distress and you are the hero. The only abusive relationship she is in, is with you. quote:(OP's reply to above, via profile) Nope again twisting my words. You are saying I am upset that she wants to spend time with her boyfriend and that is not the case. I am upset because a good friend is being abused by her boyfriend. ---------------- On the same day OP also posts the following on r/legaladvice UPDATE 2 (July 12, 2017): NEW YORK, NEW YORK: Is it possible for an employer to get a restraining order for a friend on her behalf? quote:Let's say I have friend who is currently in an extremely abusive relationship to the point where it is affecting her work. I am also her supervisor. Would it be possible for me to ask for a restraining order from her boyfriend? Let's say she is in such a bad state the she cannot ask herself, is being forced not to. But me, along with a few other people see how bad it is and want to get her out. Therefore if we have several people that can attest to this, could this make a difference? Like can we make an argument that she has been abused so badly she cannot make this decision for herself? If this is not technically possible, what is my next best course of action? ---------------- It appears OP is feeling a lot of anger towards his coworker, posting the following updates in r/offmychest UPDATE 3 (July 12, 2017): And you think you're better off now? laughable quote:I tried to help you and you gave me a giant middle finger. Hope you enjoy the hell you got waiting for you in the future. But you probably think you're better off. This cracks me up. Just wait when you come running back and asking for forgiveness and I will just laugh at you as I am doing now. ---------------- UPDATE 4 (July 13, 2017): She is a walking contradiction and I'm the only one that sees it quote:You care about refugees soooo much right? You want to help immigrants? You like social justice and want to keep working at non profits? Yeah looks great in a loving resume doesn't it? ---------------- UPDATE 5 (July 13, 2017): Comment on r/askreddit on 'What gets you hopping mad?' quote:When people ignore all the warning signs and then complain when things end up bad. Like hey, everyone warned you but nooo you don't want to listen. UPDATE 6 (July 20, 2017): Comment on r/askreddit on 'Who is the most delusional person you've known?' quote:A friend whose delusion is slowly ruining her life. But at a certain point, there's only so much you can do. Things turn ugly, fast, on r/offmychest Update 7 (August 3, 2017): Why did I even try? quote:loving bitch. I've been in this profession a decade longer than you. I COULD HAVE HELPED YOU MOVE FORWARD IN YOUR CAREER. ---------------- OP gets reflective on r/offmychest and r/UnsentLetters Update 8 (September 26, 2017):When you finally see the light, I won't be at the end of the tunnel anymore. quote:Dear friend, ---------------- One last, snarky comment that may or may not have been about 'Jennifer'. Recovered from OP's user profile. Update 9 (October 7 2017): comment on r/AskReddit What was the worst case of computer illiteracy you have ever witnessed? quote:An employee of mine (younger btw, 20s) didn't know how to turn a word document into a pdf. On the application she wrote "proficient at microsoft word and excel." Lol, yeah okay. And last but not least, a twist! A response from 'Jennifer's' boyfriend after OP's first post appeared in r/niceguys on July 13. May or may not be bullshit, but adding all the same. Comment from throawaya0101: quote:I'm a little late but I'm pretty sure I'm the evil boyfriend this guy is referring to.
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Wow, that boyfriend does sound abusive. HE COULD'VE HELPED HER CAREER!!!!!DFSF
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DeeplyConcerned posted:I'm a little confused about what this dude gets out of having the same conversation which is basically him just bitching with several different people in a row. If you tell a ten minute story to ten people at once, that's ten minutes of attention, but if you tell that same story to those same ten people individually, that's almost two hours of attention!
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started getting boring and yucky but yikes was it obvious from the very start that he was in fact, romantically interested in some way despite very loudly insisting he wasn't
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:I wouldn't be surprised if they take the call, let him start, then set the phone to the side where they can't hear it and throw in a 'hmm' or 'OK' so he thinks they're listening. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ljTsipNSEg0
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oh jay posted:Okay, I'll play your bad manager game. It's a long one. The link has occasional formatting and such that I can't be assed to replicate here. My "TO CLARIFY I DO NOT HAVE ANY ROMANTIC INTERESTS AND DO NOT CARE THAT SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND" shirt is raising a lot of questions that are answered by my shirt. "We could have built an empire." goddamn
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Mordiceius posted:
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You need to tell him you have a boyfriend, and it’s me!
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Pope Corky the IX posted:You need to tell him you have a boyfriend, and it’s me! brb filing for a restraining order
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Captain Hygiene posted:On the other hand, I now have a mental soundtrack for all reddit relationship issues I prefer the acoustic version, frankly:
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You can tell he’s built for business because he keeps pressing forward despite receiving overwhelmingly negative feedback about how he’s acting like a freak. “You stupid bitch we could have built an empire” is actually a quote from Henry Ford.
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Indecisive posted:started getting boring and yucky but yikes was it obvious from the very start that he was in fact, romantically interested in some way despite very loudly insisting he wasn't reminds me of the guy who could not shut up about how incredibly hot his friend was , not even during his wedding. but dont worry he had zero attraction towards her! the stories were even when the OP is trying to make themselves look as good as possible they still come across as an incredible rear end in a top hat are my favorite genre babypolis fucked around with this message at 23:13 on Apr 23, 2024 |
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What is it with these guys? Can’t they just trust the judgement of the women in their lives and leave well enough alone?
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CannonFodder posted:5 shots of tequila in an hour and a half at lunch before going back to DIAGNOSTIC LAB WORK, nbd This is why we needed Theranos! Which also reminds of one of my favourites from the last thread: AITA for drinking too much at my fiancés family gathering? quote:Me (M29) and my fiancé (F21) have been dating for over 2 years but I have not met her family since they live in another city. My fiancé moved to my home city for university and I met her here, but her hometown is over 1.5 hours away, so I have not met her family until this.
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r/relationships: Hope he find Jesus or something though.
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Shanghaied posted:This is why we needed Theranos! So op is an alcoholic who started dating a girl as soon as she became legal and quickly pressured her into an engagement before she had a chance to live as an independent adult and is already proving himself to be an immature unstable rear end. Cool.
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Shanghaied posted:Which also reminds of one of my favourites from the last thread: quote:1. My fiancé never told me that dinner was going to be so late, so why would I have gotten fast food right before I went over, expecting food at a decent time. #2. The only thing we had was fish and I don’t know how to cook fish but my fiance does so I I didn’t really have an option. 3 and most importantly, I apologize and accept I drank too much. No one’s fault but my own and I admit that. But when I was hungry, low bloody sugar and visibly drunk, I wouldn’t expect people to offer my alcohol, even though now I know to not ever do that I again, I learnt my lesson and will make up for it to her "I Accidentally got too drunk, it happens to everybody from time to time and I feel like she’s overreacting " - whomst among us hasn't made an unconscious vomiting mess of ourselves when meeting important people for the first time? As for the age gap: quote:Nahhhh she was turning 20 in like 2 months when I met her
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The stress of cheating on my wife is making me ill – but I can no longer suppress who I amquote:I’m a 41-year-old man and I have been married to my wife for 10 years. I have always been bisexual, but because I wanted a family (we have two young children) I turned a blind eye to my gay side. I thought I could keep it up for ever, but after hiding it for so long I developed insomnia and other ailments. A year ago I decided to explore my sexuality. After a few meet ups with random men, I met a man who is 20 years my senior and quickly fell in love. I am now in a loving sexual relationship with him. I feel so much more sexually confident and have a happiness I’ve never felt before. However I’m beginning to suffer from gastrointestinal problems due to the stress of cheating on my wife and being disloyal to my kids. The insomnia has got worse and I have begun to use alcohol to get to sleep. I love my wife dearly, but my attraction to her fizzled out soon after our second child was born. I don’t want to break up our family but I can’t live without a man in my life. Should I seek therapy? Moral guidance would be appreciated. quote:Therapy would probably be very helpful. You need a lot of support, although “moral guidance” is not called for at all. You are who you are – a person who is “wired” in a certain way – and that is very unlikely to change, even if you want it to. Only you know if there is a possibility that your wife will accept the truth of who you really are, and I can understand you may not want to risk telling her in case it is unacceptable. But the toll this is taking on you is enormous. Perhaps, after some individual therapeutic help, you could also use a couples therapist to find a way to talk to your wife about your distressing situation in a safe and palatable manner.
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Shanghaied posted:This is why we needed Theranos! - me (M29) - my fiancé (F21) - dating for over 2 years Also "we've been together for over two years, we're engaged, but i've never met her family because they're an unbearable two hours away"
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Yeah, that one is cutting it close, but it looks like she recognized an alcoholic in his twenties blossoming into an alcoholic in his thirties so she’ll do better next time. Also, holy loving poo poo becoming legless within the first few hours of meeting your girlfriend’s family for the first time.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Yeah, that one is cutting it close, but it looks like she recognized an alcoholic in his twenties blossoming into an alcoholic in his thirties so she’ll do better next time. Also, holy loving poo poo becoming legless within the first few hours of meeting your girlfriend’s family for the first time. My immediate guess is that they're from the UK or maybe somewhere else in Europe because everyone I know from the UK acts like if they have to drive more than 30-45 minutes somewhere, it is an impossibly long drive. I just don't get how the gently caress you don't meet any family when they're less than 2 hours away. That's a fuckin day trip that you could have done many times over.
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AITA For Asking My Partner if She Sits on the Toilet Seat?quote:My (24M) partner (22MtF) have been together for nearly four years and just got our own place. quote:Edit to add:
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Is this transphobia bait? I don’t exactly see it in the post but I really dread the comments.
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Mordiceius posted:My immediate guess is that they're from the UK or maybe somewhere else in Europe because everyone I know from the UK acts like if they have to drive more than 30-45 minutes somewhere, it is an impossibly long drive. that's because a 2 hour drive in the UK is very very different from a 2 hour drive in the US. we don't have straight line interstate highways, it's all A roads and small towns and villages unless you're going in a very specific north south direction and can use the M1 I'd love someone from the US to drive like from Derby to Manchester, a 2 hour journey, and then back up that they'd be happy to do that both ways many times over.
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Mordiceius posted:My immediate guess is that they're from the UK or maybe somewhere else in Europe because everyone I know from the UK acts like if they have to drive more than 30-45 minutes somewhere, it is an impossibly long drive. There's also small town weirdos who have panic attacks when they see unfamiliar street names.
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emSparkly posted:Is this transphobia bait? I don’t exactly see it in the post but I really dread the comments. quote:INFO quote:It's really not a thing. OP clarifies that all the people he has seen doing this were family members, when he was small. I suspect that he comes from a family with some, um, rather odd toileting proclivities, and that this has given him a very mistaken idea of what is common in terms of people's bathroom habits. if this is actually some weird bait then I sincerely apologise, but to me it looks like just a hosed up poop knife situation
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emSparkly posted:Is this transphobia bait? I don’t exactly see it in the post but I really dread the comments. The terlet one? Apparently some people in OP's family sit on the loving rim so he thought it was a normal thing some people do? Lmao
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Siting on the bowl would be so cold though.
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emSparkly posted:Siting on the bowl would be so cold though. Shocks the poo/pee out of you. So chilly!
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Why would you sit on the bowl, that's where all the pubes end up 😬 Oh but here's one we can argue about. Personally, if I was out drinking and got a text from my partner that "I need to go to the hospital because my balls hurt" I would also not take him seriously. Almost any other phrasing would get my attention, but not that WIBTA for dumping my girlfriend after she ignored my calls and messages and went clubbing while I was undergoing emergency surgery. quote:I 22M, and my girlfriend, 22F have been together for 5 years.
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Mordiceius posted:My immediate guess is that they're from the UK or maybe somewhere else in Europe because everyone I know from the UK acts like if they have to drive more than 30-45 minutes somewhere, it is an impossibly long drive. I mean I heard it years ago but it's proven true over and over again, "The biggest difference between the US and Europe is that in the US they think 100 years is a long time, and in Europe they think 100 miles is a long distance."
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emSparkly posted:Siting on the bowl would be so cold though. Maybe the OP is from Arizona or Florida or something, and the coolness of the porcelain is like a pleasant treat.
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Yeah I thought he was asking her if she ever pees standing up not if she shits sitting directly on the rim of the bowl Do morbidly obese people do that? I've seen XXL oversized toilet seats for fat people or someone who just wants to intimidate houseguests but I've never even imagined anyone sitting on the bowl
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I've done it before accidentally when I've been a bit drunk and it is not a pleasant experience not one I'd like to make a regular thing
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op saw all the cool kids talking about "rimming" and thought that's what they meant
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If somebody responded to me saying I needed to go to the hospital with haha reacts and blocking me, that would abso-loving-lutely be grounds to , regardless of the stated reason for the hospital trip
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artsy fartsy posted:Why would you sit on the bowl, that's where all the pubes end up 😬 If it was a single message sure, but I would not completely ignore further attempts to reach me after a single misunderstood text. Don't need a reason to end a relationship and whatnot but in no world is this dude in the wrong.
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