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Albino Broccoli
Aug 5, 2022
She didn't even publicly embarrass her, she responded in Chinese lol

Only the other Chinese students would have understood her and they didn't seem to even have a reaction

Oh no how dare you mildly stand up for yourself you should have taken the bully's feelings into account and baaaaarrrrf

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Captain Hygiene
Sep 17, 2007

You mess with the crabbo...



Kenshin posted:

I mean poo poo I'd mock him too, wife sounds hot

Unfortunately, they used asterisks to censor porn and sex, so they summarily receive a YTA judgment.

Mordiceius
Nov 10, 2007

If you think calling me names is gonna get a rise out me, think again. I like my life as an idiot!
AITA/AITAH need a subreddit-wide rule that if you are going to list a big post about how everything between you and your partner is terrible, you need to list a few positive reasons why the relationship is beneficial to you.

Albino Broccoli
Aug 5, 2022
Pros: Wipes own rear end

Pope Corky the IX
Dec 18, 2006

What are you looking at?
Cons: With the hand towels

John Wick of Dogs
Mar 4, 2017

A real hellraiser


I wonder how much porn the guy actually watches. Sounds like a variety at the least, which does indicate a lot.

Shanghaied
Oct 12, 2004

BIG PAD

quote:

He has a certain type he prefers. Short, skinny, with a massive rack.

Huh, a bit of an unusual combo, I wonder where he-

quote:

or read thirst trap manga.

Ah okay, I see.

mystes
May 31, 2006

I guess what's funny is that the situation is kind of weird in that the husband appears to have zero interest in having actual sex and was okay opening the marriage and OP was okay staying married and being in a platonic relationship with him if the marriage was opened, but OP's husband only now has an issue with the situation because he stupidly told other people and they're making fun of him?

Like if he hadn't told his friends it seems like there would be no problem?

limp_cheese
Sep 10, 2007


Nothing to see here. Move along.

TBLALV posted:

Pros: Wipes own rear end

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Cons: With the hand towels

Con: Just uses bare hand when there are no more hand towels.

kdrudy
Sep 19, 2009

Like why tell others, "I'm so lucky guys, we opened up the marriage so my wife won't nag me away from my porn for loving! I've really got it made now, don't I fellas!"

Elblanco
May 26, 2008
With his taste in porn im surprised he wants her to act like an adult.

AKA Pseudonym
May 16, 2004

A dashing and sophisticated young man
Doctor Rope

I laughed hard because I fell for that poo poo hook line and sinker at my first job. I was so goddamn proud of myself. Jesus Christ.

Shanghaied
Oct 12, 2004

BIG PAD

kdrudy posted:

Like why tell others, "I'm so lucky guys, we opened up the marriage so my wife won't nag me away from my porn for loving! I've really got it made now, don't I fellas!"

Maybe he and his buddies were having one of those heteropessimist gripe-sessions about the missuses, and he was like "what I really can't stand is her coming home from the gym, all flushed and newly showered and begging for sex, when all I wanna do after a long day is to jerk it to some anime, amirite guys? G- guys?"

deported to Canada
Jun 1, 2006

AKA Pseudonym posted:

I laughed hard because I fell for that poo poo hook line and sinker at my first job. I was so goddamn proud of myself. Jesus Christ.

It took me far too loving long to realise that being good at your job means gently caress all; you are just more difficult to replace. So by the same logic it's easier to train this new person who knows nothing to be your boss that it is to train someone to replace you.

The Bramble
Mar 16, 2004

limp_cheese posted:

Con: Just uses bare hand when there are no more hand towels.

If his wife isn’t doing the laundry often enough that he has to resort to that then she’s the real problem imo

Technocrat
Jan 30, 2011

I always finish what I sta
brb, marrying intofeudal institution just so that even the managers have to call me "your grace".

edgeman83
Jul 13, 2003

deported to Canada posted:

It took me far too loving long to realise that being good at your job means gently caress all; you are just more difficult to replace. So by the same logic it's easier to train this new person who knows nothing to be your boss that it is to train someone to replace you.

Being competent and pleasant to work with is a major boon for any job and can get you promoted, but being the lynchpin at your workplace is the death of being able to leave that position while staying in the company. At the very most it can get you favorable references later on.

Halloween Jack
Sep 12, 2003
I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

mystes posted:

Why are they married?

Rent, probably.

Batterypowered7
Aug 8, 2009

The mist that chills you keeps me warm.

TBLALV posted:

Pros: Wipes own rear end

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Cons: With socks

Whorelord
May 1, 2013

Jump into the well...

Biplane posted:

Calling your boss "sir" is some servile anglo thing right? Lmfao

Today I called my boss a word that would get me suspended if I said it here if that helps

Captain Hygiene
Sep 17, 2007

You mess with the crabbo...



Please don't use the Elon word

Remulak
Jun 8, 2001
I can't count to four.
Yams Fan

Desert Bus posted:

Some people just don't possess the proper proprioception to drive a car…
I think it’s still only in his club act, not a special or online, but Adam Conover has an amazing bit about how if he kills someone he wants it to be on purpose, not due to a car oopsie.

Remulak
Jun 8, 2001
I can't count to four.
Yams Fan

Magic Hate Ball posted:

strictly speaking nta but lol at this person for being a slobbering little willy loman at a dead-end AMC job
He worked hard and improved his personal situation at the job he had, then it got shittier again. By all means castigate him for having a lovely job.

mailorder bees
Nov 4, 2011

FLUFFERNUTTER

Whorelord posted:

Today I called my boss a word that would get me suspended if I said it here if that helps

mangosteen?

Magic Hate Ball
May 6, 2007

ha ha ha!
you've already paid for this

Remulak posted:

He worked hard and improved his personal situation at the job he had, then it got shittier again. By all means castigate him for having a lovely job.

I will! Repeatedly!

edit: just to be clear, the part that’s funny to me isn’t that he’s making effort at his job, because that’s a fine thing to do, but that he’s acting like Mr Movie Theatre is going to fly down in a great glass elevator and give him a promotion for being the loyalest and smartiest, rather than the reality, which is that he’s a vigilant peon in a corporate system so big that he basically doesn’t exist. It’s important to be aware of that kind of stuff, especially if you’re not unionized.

That being said, I would love to sit in on his powerpoint presentation to his boss about how the other boss sucked.

Magic Hate Ball fucked around with this message at 00:54 on Apr 27, 2024

RocketMermaid
Mar 30, 2004

My pronouns are She/Heir.


Fil5000 posted:

Not three times in a row though.

Try not to bleach any assholes in the parking lot!

wheatpuppy
Apr 25, 2008

YOU HAVE MY POST!

kdrudy posted:

Like why tell others, "I'm so lucky guys, we opened up the marriage so my wife won't nag me away from my porn for loving! I've really got it made now, don't I fellas!"

Guessing he is not having much luck pulling those short skinny girls with huge breasts. He probably made a failed attempt while he was out with the guys. And/or one of them asked him why his hot wife is out on the town every night with a different bodybuilder while he hasn't logged off his anime discord in 763 hours.

Whorelord
May 1, 2013

Jump into the well...


Nothing so harsh I promise you.

trickybiscuits
Jan 13, 2008

yospos

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Cons: With the hand towels his face

ApplesandOranges
Jun 22, 2012

Thankee kindly.
Man, story about guy with racist mom/sister just makes me so mad. There's not even a satisfying end to that one, what a bummer of a story.

edgeman83
Jul 13, 2003
57M. White male. Attracted to women in their 20's in my teens, attracted to women in their 20's in my 20's, 30's and 40's, STILL attracted to women in their 20's in my 50's. Is this normal?

quote:

57M. White male if that matters. In USA. Married for 30 years. I now even have 3 daughters in their late teen's/ 20's themselves now which makes it all the more weird.

Was attracted to women in their 20's when I was a teen boy. Looked at mostly Playboy magazines etc. As the decades and technology progressed it headed into porn videos, online pictures and videos etc. Attractive women in their 20's have always been the most popular women to look at by men over the decades. I've gotten older and older, they've always stayed the same age LOL.

A few years ago my favorite was Margot Robbie. Now it is Sydney Sweeney. I am sure most men would agree those women are highly attractive, and I am sure I am not the only man my age who has fantasized about them sexually.....

As my daughters approached their 20's I believed somehow my preferences would change, but they have not. My daughters are 19, 22 and 25. But I am still just as attracted to women in their 20's today as I was when I was a teen boy. Even I agree it sounds weird, being attracted to women the same age as my daughters, I would never admit it publicly. Sydney Sweeney is 26!

So is this..... normal for a man of my age?
Slimy "I get older, they keep staying the same age" feeling.

Quackles
Aug 11, 2018

Pixels of Light.


Me [35F] with my BF[41 M] of 3 years; just found out he has been secretly eating hot dogs because I (unknowingly) starve him

quote:

I recognize that this sounds insane from the post title.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. We have what I would describe as a pretty solid relationship. We have enough similar interests to enjoy activities together but enough divergent ones that we also have full, complete lives outside of the relationship. We already spend almost every night together and plan to move in together when his lease is up in the fall.

We work about three miles from each other and on some days carpool depending on schedules. Typically during the work week, I get up and make breakfast and pack our lunches. This has been ongoing since probably six months in. Usually for breakfast I don't do anything crazy: oatmeal, cereal, scrambled eggs and toast. Normal breakfast stuff. For lunch, I pack sandwiches, chips or pretzels, some sort of fruit, and a couple of days a week, a sweet treat. I always make his portions larger than mine and he's never complained before about any of it.

Today we went to lunch and stopped at a nearby park. I was sitting across the picnic table from him when I noticed some yellow on his shirt and made a comment, "You have yellow on you joke."

He looked over and scratched it away. There was a lot of it and I mindlessly said, "Did you take a mustard bath before lunch?" and he just turned bright red.

After some questions as to why he was embarrassed, the truth came out. I don't make him large enough meals, and almost every day for the past two or so years he takes his fifteen-minute morning break and walks to a nearby convenience store, where he purchases what can only be described as a second-breakfast hot dog.

I recognize this sounds ridiculous, but I am so hurt and upset that he has been starving all this time and never wanted to say anything. Of course, now I am embarrassed because he thinks it is all the funniest thing to ever happen, but I am really, really bothered that instead of sharing his discomfort with me like a normal person, he just had a mid-morning hot dog for months on end. The conversation eventually ended up with us both mad: Me for what I feel is deception, him for what he feels is me blowing this all out of proportion. Do I just ignore it, or is this indicative of bigger problems?

tl;dr: I have unknowingly starved my boyfriend for years and instead of talking to me about it, he has developed a second breakfast of almost daily hot dogs. Am I crazy to be upset?

EDIT: He is the one who said he was starving, not me. There's a whole lot of focus on that word choice, so wanted to clarify. I appreciate everyone's thoughts.

trickybiscuits
Jan 13, 2008

yospos

Quackles posted:



AITA for not Saying "Yes Sir" to my Manager?

Get out now and let the place burn.

AKA Pseudonym posted:

I laughed hard because I fell for that poo poo hook line and sinker at my first job. I was so goddamn proud of myself. Jesus Christ.

drat right. I've worked hard at jobs, but I didn't expect much for it most of the time. It was for the my own satisfaction.

mom and dad fight a lot
Sep 21, 2006

If you count them all, this sentence has exactly seventy-two characters.

edgeman83 posted:

57M. White male. Attracted to women in their 20's in my teens, attracted to women in their 20's in my 20's, 30's and 40's, STILL attracted to women in their 20's in my 50's. Is this normal?

Slimy "I get older, they keep staying the same age" feeling.

Ominous Jazz
Jun 15, 2011

Big D is chillin' over here
Wasteland style
skill issue everyone i know keeps getting hotter

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

Quackles posted:

Me [35F] with my BF[41 M] of 3 years; just found out he has been secretly eating hot dogs because I (unknowingly) starve him

It was actually an emotional affair. He was meeting with his ex who worked nearby. (Not a joke there was an update that I'm having trouble recovering but that's the gist from the comments.)

Ensign Expendable
Nov 11, 2008

Lager beer is proof that god loves us
Pillbug
There was a previous post where the OP was a huge muscleman and his partner was really upset that his caloric intake was considerably greater than hers.

mystes
May 31, 2006

Hughlander posted:

It was actually an emotional affair. He was meeting with his ex who worked nearby. (Not a joke there was an update that I'm having trouble recovering but that's the gist from the comments.)
That's a little disappointing because my first reaction to the post was that she's nuts

the holy poopacy
May 16, 2009

hey! check this out
Fun Shoe
Palate cleanser:

My husband turned 40 and suddenly became the man I married again

quote:

Hi, I’m new here. I create this account because something happened to my husband about a year ago and I don’t know what to make of it.

My husband has always been a good man, and he’s a wonderful father. He also has a great career and very driven to succeed. But after the kids were born his passion for me had waned. He was once very affectionate and flirty and he couldn’t keep his hands off me. We had date nights and would take weekend trips filled with kissing, hand holding and a lot of sex. But after the kids all of that began to fade and it continued to the point that I felt like we were roommates. I kept myself in shape for him and initiated sex often. He would never turn me down but it was lazy. It was basically get off quick and go to sleep. So after a while I just stopped imitating.

This continued for years and I had just grown used to it. I still loved him, I had no desire to cheat or divorce. I just figured this is what happens after kids and I’ll just deal with it.

Then, about a year ago he got a babysitter and asked me if I wanted to go away for the weekend just the two of us. I was shocked but agreed. And the entire weekend he was affectionate and flirty and just fun. He hadn’t acted this way in years. He was a completely different guy and that included in the bedroom too. This may be TMI but my husband hadn’t performed oral sex on me in 10 years and every time he had before he was kind of terrible at it. But while we were away he just did it without asking and he was amazing at it.

This new attitude continued when we got home and a few months after that I started to notice that he had lost weight. Shortly after that he started to look more toned as well. He had gotten a dad bod but now he looked better than when we got married. I won’t lie, I had difficulty keeping my hands off him.

He’s basically become the perfect husband overnight, I don’t know what happened. He says he just wanted to be a better husband but there was no event that triggered it outside of turning 40. Could that be it?

I’ve read that middle aged men sometimes get in shape because they are looking to cheat. But that’s not the case. He’s never cheated or had any desire too. We have lifestyle 360 for the kids and I see where he is. It’s work and home. I also see all his texts since we share an iPad.

So I’m kind of stumped.

TLDR: My husband suddenly became a perfect husband and I don’t know why

EDIT:

Thank you all for the comments I will answer a few common questions.

I see no testosterone in the house. Unless he’s taking it at work and not telling me then I don’t think that’s what it is.

How did he become so good at oral? He did tell me that before he didn’t like it but now he does. I could tell before he was grossed out by it and that affected how I felt about it. So right there was a change. But that doesn’t explain how the man has become downright intuitive with oral and sex in generally. He has a sense of when to speed up, when to stay consistent, when I’m close and how to get me there. I just don’t know how that happened. That part didn’t happen right away but it didn’t take long.

Like I said above cheating really isn’t possible. I always know where he is and have for years. I can track him and so can the kids. He goes to work and comes home. And when he leaves the house it is to the store or his parents and I can see that too. Also, wouldn’t you get in shape before the affair not after it was over? Because I have been hyper vigilant and there’s nothing.

UPDATE: My husband turned 40 and suddenly became the man I married again

quote:

I wanted to give an update on my post from a few days ago since everyone who commented was so helpful.
I talked to my husband and asked him if he was taking testosterone as many of the commenters thought he was. He said no and was curious why I asked. So we talked a bit and I really pressed him hard on what was going through his mind a year ago to make him change so much and I was able to tease 2 things out of him.

The first was an incident at work. It happened about six months before he made his transformation and I knew about it at the time because he told me. He didn’t make a really big deal about it and barely mentioned it after telling me so I just forgot it even happened until he mentioned it.

My husband is a VP of Finance at a rather large private company and two members of his staff were engaging in an affair. The woman involved in the affair was married and about my age and her husband had started to call the office. So it became a thing he had to deal with since he was their boss. He told me at the time but I guess this saga dragged on for some months and when the woman in question began to open up to others in the office regarding the reason she had the affair, some of those reasons hit home for my husband. Her husband was behaving much like he was. So he said that isn’t going to be me and set out to fix it.

The second thing I teased out of him is that he quit watching porn. Now I do want to say that I don’t care that he watched porn, I do myself on occasion. But when he watched it and obviously finished himself afterward, it drained any desire he had for me. I guess he started when the kids were really young and I was just exhausted all the time and he just kept it up because it was easy. He quit because to fix our marriage he had to get that desire back for me. So he did it.
So after this conversation a lot of things make sense. I also understand why he didn’t want to tell me. He didn’t want me to think that the possibility that I could cheat had entered his mind. And the porn is sort of self explanatory.

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sullat
Jan 9, 2012

the holy poopacy posted:

Palate cleanser:

My husband turned 40 and suddenly became the man I married again

UPDATE: My husband turned 40 and suddenly became the man I married again

Maybe she should check to see if he's been replaced by the fae or a doppelganger. Does she have any silver in the house?

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