r/relationships: there is only so much frogging a man can take

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FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

Always a good sign when someone kicks off a relationship with a lovely little power play.

AITAH For dumping my date

quote:

I had a first date scheduled with a woman I met on a dating site. We agreed to meet for coffee at 2pm. I arrived on time. At 2:10, she texted me and asked if I was at the cafe. I said yes, and she said she was at home but would leave soon and be there in 20 minutes. Basically, her text implied she was waiting to make sure I was there before she bothered to leave home. I was put off. I took the risk she wouldn't show and came on time. She should have to. Am I wrong?

I finished my coffee and left at 2:30. She still wasn't there. At 2:45, I get a text from her wanting to know where I was. I said, " I finished my coffee and left at 2:30 when you still weren't there as promised." She sent a series of nasty texts telling me how awful I was and how I did everything wrong. I should have texted her and told her I was leaving etc.

AITAH? Do women really expect men to sit and wait 45 minutes for them to arrive late- when the only reason they are late is to make you wait? It sure seemed like it was a game or poo poo test. Either way she failed my tests.

I'd sure like to hear from the women on this one.

Attempted negging backfires, good on OP for stiffening his spine and ghosting her.

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# ? Jun 3, 2024 10:12

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

Steve Vader posted:

Re: surnames. Yesterday was Ed Balls Day.

Ed Balls.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 18:48

kimbo305: Jun 9, 2007; actually, yeah, I am a little mad

Fatty posted:

I'm confused, that guys clearly just reposting stories on his own barely visited subreddit.
https://www.reddit.com/r/BOrelationships/
At no point is he claiming to be the original Pete.

Ohh ok, so that's what BO stands for.

e: I think... this is the original?
https://www.reddit.com/user/temporary_mary/
if so, we're safe hbtn

# ? Apr 29, 2024 18:52

Desert Bus: May 9, 2004; Take 1 tablet by mouth daily.

Fil5000 posted:

I love my dog so much that I will carry what's left of his corpse with me at all times, and not only that I will carry it in the symbol of our marriage. This is normal.

I eat the ashes of my cremated cats so they will always be with me and also I gain their power.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 18:52

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

Ensign Expendable posted:

Lmao @ "slowly starting to get ready" at 5:22 when you have to leave at 5:30.

Yeah, that whole thing is basically an anxiety treasure trove for someone like me who chronically worries about being late for air travel in particular.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 18:54

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

Ensign Expendable posted:

Lmao @ "slowly starting to get ready" at 5:22 when you have to leave at 5:30.

Yeah it's not exactly ESH, it's just that both of them got a hard lesson in scheduling

# ? Apr 29, 2024 18:54

BOOTY-ADE: Aug 30, 2006; BIG KOOL TELLIN' Y'ALL TO KEEP IT TIGHT

FMguru posted:

Always a good sign when someone kicks off a relationship with a lovely little power play.

AITAH For dumping my date

Attempted negging backfires, good on OP for stiffening his spine and ghosting her.

at it being a first date too, it takes a special kind of mental handicap to think that behavior is gonna fly

# ? Apr 29, 2024 18:56

Mr. Lobe: Feb 23, 2007; ... Dry bones...

BOOTY-ADE posted:

at it being a first date too, it takes a special kind of mental handicap to think that behavior is gonna fly

It also might be a low-pass filter for spinelessness in the way of heavily misspelled Nigerian Prince scam emails are for gullibility. She might only be looking for someone she can really push around and this guy didn't pass muster

# ? Apr 29, 2024 18:59

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

BOOTY-ADE posted:

at it being a first date too, it takes a special kind of mental handicap to think that behavior is gonna fly

There was a story late in the previous thread about a guy whose friend badgered him into a double/blind date, and when they arrive to pick their dates up, the gals decided to play the make 'em wait/"we're still getting ready" game. After an hour (and a blown dinner reservation) the guy just got up and left, leaving his would-be date steaming.

That kind of stunt only works on someone who is so desperate to go out with you they'll put up with it, not someone who had to be all-but-dragged into this date, or the first get-to-know-you coffee date after an internet match.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 19:01

selec: Sep 6, 2003

Unless your house was on fire/medical emergency/power outage swept in overnight there are no excuses for adults to miss planes. I say this as someone who missed a flight once! It was because of a stupid assumption I made about how weather delays work, and I still made it to where I was going on time.

My mom worked with somebody who more often than not missed their flight for work trips. Constant need to rebook/show up a day late to on-site meetings, because his personal life was an unmanaged ongoing crisis. Why the gently caress did HR keep approving rescheduling fees and so on? Because that only made the problem continue! It was ridiculous, and I�ve only had this opinion harden as I age.

As a society we have baked in all our regrets, fears and anxious preparation necessary to be on time for flights, and if you�re still loving that up it�s time for remedial training on how to live.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 19:01

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

Magic Hate Ball posted:

edit: just to be clear, the part that�s funny to me isn�t that he�s making effort at his job, because that�s a fine thing to do, but that he�s acting like Mr Movie Theatre is going to fly down in a great glass elevator and give him a promotion for being the loyalest and smartiest, rather than the reality, which is that he�s a vigilant peon in a corporate system so big that he basically doesn�t exist. It�s important to be aware of that kind of stuff, especially if you�re not unionized.

Carwash boss clocks us off if it's quiet? We'll make sure it stays busy

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I'm a Mexican immigrant. I moved to the US a few months ago and have been working at a hand carwash since.

The carwash I work at is staffed with fellow Mexicans. Most of us have limited English and this interferes with our integration into American society.

Our boss is very cheap. He will clock us off when it's quiet and clock us on when it's busy. Sometimes we'll work 25 minutes, then wait 15 minutes unpaid in the staff room. We still have to stay on-site the whole day though.

What did we start to do? We simply started to work slowly and perfectly when it's quiet. We'll work at half speed. We'll wipe down all the windows and tyres, even if they are clean. We'll wash the underbody and engine bay. We'll wash the brakepads. We'll wash the door jambs with a sponge. We'll clay treat all the cars. We'll apply armor all on all surfaces, even non-visible ones like the engine bay. We'll even vacuum the spare tire bay.

All in all, we'll work very thoroughly when it's quiet.

Beforehand -- I would have to stay at the carwash from 8 to 4 and would only usually be clocked on for 3.5 hours. Since we've all started to 'adaptively work'. We can net about 6 hours easily.

This poor guy thinks it's r/MaliciousCompliance to provide excellent customer service while working only 2 hours of unpaid overtime per day.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 19:06

mystes: May 31, 2006

selec posted:

Unless your house was on fire/medical emergency/power outage swept in overnight there are no excuses for adults to miss planes. I say this as someone who missed a flight once! It was because of a stupid assumption I made about how weather delays work, and I still made it to where I was going on time.

My mom worked with somebody who more often than not missed their flight for work trips. Constant need to rebook/show up a day late to on-site meetings, because his personal life was an unmanaged ongoing crisis. Why the gently caress did HR keep approving rescheduling fees and so on? Because that only made the problem continue! It was ridiculous, and I�ve only had this opinion harden as I age.

As a society we have baked in all our regrets, fears and anxious preparation necessary to be on time for flights, and if you�re still loving that up it�s time for remedial training on how to live.

Eh I've somehow never actually missed a flight but at some point there will clearly be trade offs and I'm not sure it makes sense to always get to the airport 3 hours early just to ensure you have a .0001% chance of missing a flight rather than a 1% chance of missing a flight

But if you've decided to get to the airport 1.5 hours before the flight and there's an extra hour of traffic that you didn't account for, don't blame your boyfriend who is being nice enough to drive you.

mystes fucked around with this message at 19:11 on Apr 29, 2024

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idiotsavant: Jun 4, 2000

Kurieg posted:

AITA for not paying hospital bills after my friend tripped over my dog?

Well this could go either way b

lmao nevermind

Herded By A Corgi Until I Tripped To Death, a harrowing tale full of chills & thrills

# ? Apr 29, 2024 19:11

Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

Mr. Lobe posted:

It also might be a low-pass filter for spinelessness in the way of heavily misspelled Nigerian Prince scam emails are for gullibility. She might only be looking for someone she can really push around and this guy didn't pass muster

It's some goddamn Tiktok trend, I'm sure.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 19:12

selec: Sep 6, 2003

mystes posted:

Eh I've somehow never actually missed a flight but at some points there are trade offs and I'm not sure it makes sense to always get to the airport 3 hours early just to ensure you have a .0001% chance of missing a flight rather than a 1% chance of missing a flight

But if you've decided to get to the airport 1.5 hours before the flight and there's an extra hour of traffic that you didn't account for, don't blame your boyfriend who is being nice enough to drive you.

Totally agree; it�s a standard half hour ride from my front door to the gate at the regional airport I fly out of. I still get in that Uber an hour before doors will shut, just in case, and check road conditions an hour or two before. It�s just astonishing to me when you meet people for whom this is more than a once or twice in a lifetime experience.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 19:12

Shanghaied: Oct 12, 2004; BIG PAD

DemoneeHo posted:

quote:
I said to him that that's true, but he knows the time we want to leave by so if he wanted to take a shower (which I didn't know about) it's up to him to get up and cut the cuddling short if he knows he needs more time getting ready.

lmao it's your flight, lady.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 19:25

Bobstar: Feb 8, 2006; KartooshFace, you are not responding efficiently!

selec posted:

Totally agree; it�s a standard half hour ride from my front door to the gate at the regional airport I fly out of. I still get in that Uber an hour before doors will shut, just in case, and check road conditions an hour or two before. It�s just astonishing to me when you meet people for whom this is more than a once or twice in a lifetime experience.

Also depends on the context - flight to Australia for a funeral? Maybe stay at the airport hotel. Work trip where there's several more flights after yours if you miss it? Don't take the piss, but you also don't need to assume you're going to be stuck on a motorway with no exits for 3 hours because a medical helicopter's had to land on the carriageway ahead of you.

Flying sucks though. Build more trains.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 19:48

Elviscat: Jan 1, 2008; Well don't you know I'm caught in a trap?

mom and dad fight a lot posted:

In a similar vein, Sexstone.

The dude was a 6'4" muscular military zaddy too. I bet he could slam like a jackhammer.

I have a normal last name with a sex word buried in it. Back in the days of Win98 and pop-ups, when I was a teenager, I got an ad for a military-themed porno, 4 sexy beefcake dudes in BDU pants all touching and making out and stuff, 3 of them had ridiculous over the top names like "MAJOR ASSPOUND" "SARGEANT COCKSLAM" and "CAPTAIN HARDPENIS" and the fourth was just "Private *my lastname*".

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:02

Ensign Expendable: Nov 11, 2008; Lager beer is proof that god loves us; Pillbug

Very lazy work. They could have worked Private into a sex thing on its own, not to mention Lance Corporal.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:05

Big Bowie Bonanza: Dec 30, 2007; please tell me where i can date this cute boy

I want to know the airport she missed the flight at to really know if I should be mocking her

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:05

Kurieg: Jul 19, 2012; RIP Lutri: 5/19/20-4/2/20

AITA for kicking my baby�s father out of the hospital room?

quote:

I (19F) just had a baby 1 day ago. His father (21M) and I have not been together since November due to him cheating. He�s had a couple other girlfriends since then and is still with one of them currently, but he still did go to most of my appointments with me.

2 days ago when I went into labor I called him, he came to pick me up to bring me to the hospital and he had his entire TV and playstation in the backseat, with no car seat for the baby. I told him he is not bringing that to the hospital and he told me if I want him to be there for our son�s birth he needs something to do to pass the time. We argued about it almost the entire ride to the hospital, but he ended up not bringing it in.

I was only in labor for about 2 hours before I gave birth, he was there the entire time. A couple hours after I gave birth, my dad and sister came to visit and he left as the hospital has a 2 visitor only rule. I told him while they�re here visiting for him to go bring his TV back home and install the car seat so when they discharge us we will be all set. After a few hours my family leaves, and I text him to tell him he is welcome to come back if he would like.

Around 20 minutes later he�s walking back into my room, carrying his TV. We start arguing about how I already told him he is not having that in my room and he starts yelling at me saying that I don�t make the rules and that I should be grateful that he wants to be there for our son but instead I�m trying to make him miserable. I told him he can either bring the TV back to his car or he can leave, he said he has a right to spend time with his son.

I called my nurse into the room and told her I want him to leave, so they ended up kicking him out. He yelled at me the entire time he was leaving saying that I�m kicking him out of his son�s life and that he will be going to court for custody. He has texted me since saying that I�m taking his rights away from him and there is no rules that he couldn�t bring his own TV and game system while he spends time at the hospital.

AITA for making him choose between the TV or leaving?

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:11

Bobstar: Feb 8, 2006; KartooshFace, you are not responding efficiently!

Kurieg posted:

AITA for kicking my baby�s father out of the hospital room?

Man: "How dare you try and keep me and my baby apart??"
Nurse: "Look, I know you want to be with your son, but..."
Man: (hugging playstation) "Son?"

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:17

idiotsavant: Jun 4, 2000

Sure, sure, carrying her printer 20 blocks through ice and snow is just fine, but carrying his TV in from the parking lot is verboten?! I see how it is

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:28

Gin: Aug 29, 2004; Can't post for 14 days!

There will be NO play in the Son Station.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:29

oh jay: Oct 15, 2012

Bobstar posted:

Also depends on the context - flight to Australia for a funeral? Maybe stay at the airport hotel. Work trip where there's several more flights after yours if you miss it? Don't take the piss, but you also don't need to assume you're going to be stuck on a motorway with no exits for 3 hours because a medical helicopter's had to land on the carriageway ahead of you.

Flying sucks though. Build more trains.

What the gently caress. This can't possibly be a thing.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:31

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

oh jay posted:

What the gently caress. This can't possibly be a thing.

What? Why wouldn't it be, it beats driving in if you have a 5AM flight or something.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:34

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

A lot of "airport hotels" have a policy where if you stay one night, you can leave your car there for a week. It's usually cheaper than airport parking and they have a shuttle to and from the airport anyway. It's a whole business model.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:36

oh jay: Oct 15, 2012

Captain Hygiene posted:

What? Why wouldn't it be, it beats driving in if you have a 5AM flight or something.

If I'm going to subject myself to being in a sardine can for 12 hours, waking up a little early doesn't even register on the discomfort scale. I'll sleep in my own bed, thank you very much.

Halloween Jack posted:

A lot of "airport hotels" have a policy where if you stay one night, you can leave your car there for a week. It's usually cheaper than airport parking and they have a shuttle to and from the airport anyway. It's a whole business model.

TIL, but I'd still rather Uber.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:37

mystes: May 31, 2006

Halloween Jack posted:

A lot of "airport hotels" have a policy where if you stay one night, you can leave your car there for a week. It's usually cheaper than airport parking and they have a shuttle to and from the airport anyway. It's a whole business model.

Huh interesting

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:40

Indecisive: May 6, 2007

oh jay posted:

If I'm going to subject myself to being in a sardine can for 12 hours, waking up a little early doesn't even register on the discomfort scale. I'll sleep in my own bed, thank you very much.

TIL, but I'd still rather Uber.

what if you have to drive 3 hours to get to the airport so you'd have to get up at 2am instead of 5

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:45

oh jay: Oct 15, 2012

Indecisive posted:

what if you have to drive 3 hours to get to the airport so you'd have to get up at 2am instead of 5

yes

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:46

oh jay: Oct 15, 2012

Alternatively, I have booked 6 months ahead of time, so my flight is not at 5.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:47

thepopmonster: Feb 18, 2014

oh jay posted:

What the gently caress. This can't possibly be a thing.

Tell me you've never been stranded in an airport by flight cancellations before deregulation without telling me etc.

Also used by aircrew and by people who feel lucky when booking through priceline.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:47

oh jay: Oct 15, 2012

thepopmonster posted:

Tell me you've never been stranded in an airport by flight cancellations before deregulation without telling me etc.

Also used by aircrew and by people who feel lucky when booking through priceline.

If it's cancelled, how does being closer to the airport help me?

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:48

Kurieg: Jul 19, 2012; RIP Lutri: 5/19/20-4/2/20

oh jay posted:

If it's cancelled, how does being closer to the airport help me?

If you're flying from new york to LA with a stopover in Chicago, where do you expect to sleep when the chicago-->LA flight is cancelled?

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:50

Hopes Fall: Sep 10, 2006; HOLY BOOBS, BATMAN!

oh jay posted:

If it's cancelled, how does being closer to the airport help me?

Possibly the flight is cancelled on the side that is not your home?

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:51

Pantaloon Pontiff: Jun 25, 2023

The Alchemist posted:

Maybe you didnt need to cuddle(is this code for loving?) for 20 minutes in such an important morning

I'm guessing that it is, because that explains why the boyfriend wanted a shower after but hadn't planned on one before.

Mr. Lobe posted:

It also might be a low-pass filter for spinelessness in the way of heavily misspelled Nigerian Prince scam emails are for gullibility. She might only be looking for someone she can really push around and this guy didn't pass muster

I think that's what it is, probably something she came up with unconsciously so doesn't even register it as an outlandish test in her mind, it's just 'what you usually do'.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:51

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

Indecisive posted:

what if you have to drive 3 hours to get to the airport so you'd have to get up at 2am instead of 5

Or you have a flight arriving at 10pm and then taking off on the next leg at 530am. I could easily imagine a businessperson flying from the east coast to SFO, crashing for a night at the SFO Hyatt, and then getting up and on the 540am flight to Shanghai or Tokyo, instead of powering straight through or wrangling baggage, leaving the airport, getting a cab/uber, traveling to a hotel, checking in, and then doing that all in reverse four hours later.

I am told they are also popular for business meetings where people are flying from multiple locations. Need to get three people together to sign a contract? Just all fly to O'Hare, meet up in a conference room or hotel room at the Hilton connected to the terminal, and then all fly out again two hours later. Much lower friction than booking a facility off site and arranging transportation etc.

# ? Apr 29, 2024 20:51

Bobstar: Feb 8, 2006; KartooshFace, you are not responding efficiently!

While I'm baffled that my suggestion was controversial (taking extreme early rising and any risk of missing your flight due to traffic out of the equation, which neither the airline nor your insurance will help you with), I think "oh jay" was objecting to the idea of staying at the airport hotel for the above reasons, not to the concept of airport hotels in general.

Maybe.

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# ? Jun 3, 2024 10:12

oh jay: Oct 15, 2012

Kurieg posted:

If you're flying from new york to LA with a stopover in Chicago, where do you expect to sleep when the chicago-->LA flight is cancelled?

Obviously I'd stay whereever the airline is paying for. This is unrelated to "getting to the airport in time"

Hopes Fall posted:

Possibly the flight is cancelled on the side that is not your home?

This is also largely unrelated to "getting to the airport in time". Depending on if it's cancelled before or after I leave my current guest residence, I would either extend my current place or get 1 night at the airport hotel.

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