BrigadierSensible posted:

a loud and clear "Pardon me" preceding your flatulence

InediblePenguin posted:

this is loving hilarious. they taught you to say "pardon me" real loud and then fart???

Troublemaker posted:

WIBTA if I named my baby the name I want to despite everyone hating it?

I actually love this name. It was on my short list of baby names, but was too rhymey with my last name.

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My daughter, Tamra, (14) has been going through a terrible phase at home. I (F38) can do nothing right. All she does is argue with me and scream. She will not do her chores and she makes life harder for me and her little brother (12). I was 14 once so I remember what it was like to be that age. I am doing my best to just get her through this. I may not always do the best job or keep my cool with her but I am trying.

My husband is out of town right now. His mom however lives a couple of towns over and has decided to chime in. Tamra called her when I grounded her for skipping school and vaping weed with her degen friends. I took away all her screen privileges except her laptop which she needs for school. I am a dummy because she called her grandmother on it.

My MIL Helen is usually a levelheaded woman so I have no idea why she has decided that her parenting advice is wanted or warranted at this time. She said that I am being cruel to her poor baby girl and that I should not be trying to control her like this. I said that I was punishing my daughter for unacceptable behavior and that how I reprimanded my child was not her problem. She countered with the fact that she raised four children, all boys by the way, that she did not have to punish this way. I know her youngest was out of the house before smartphones so it is different.

My daughter came into the room while I was talking to Helen and started screaming about what a terrible person I am and that she wants to move out as soon as she can. Helen said that none of her kids ever said that so she must be a better mother. I asked her if she was serious and wanted to give it a shot. Tamra jumped at the opportunity and begged her grandmother to take her. Helen agreed. I drove her to Helen's house and said I would come back when my husband gets home and we can talk.

I dropped her off on Saturday, three days ago. Helen started calling me on Sunday. I need to come get my daughter. Sorry I can't my son and I went to visit my folks for the week. I thought it would be a good opportunity to see my parents at their farm since my daughter hates it there away from her friends and the city. My parents are also the last people on earth with dial up internet. My son does not care because he gets to play with the horses. It is a little early yet for foals but who knows.

Helen asked me to please come get Tamra. She even called my husband. He called me and I told him what was going on. He said that if his mom had asked for it then she needed to follow through. I love that guy. I also fielded calls from my two sisters in law. They asked me what was going on. So I told them. They asked if I was really going to leave Tamra with our MIL for another week. I said that is where she was staying unless they wanted to watch her. They both noped out without suggesting I go get her.

Tamra and Helen each have their reasons for thinking I am an rear end in a top hat. I do not think my daughter is.

hawowanlawow posted:

beating around the bush and not just saying what you want does get real fuckin old after a while

FMguru posted:

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her degen friends

Shanghaied posted:

Lewis Carroll didn't invent or popularise the name Alice though. One of Queen Victoria's daughters was named Alice, and that was decades before Alice in Wonderland was published. Carroll may have named Alice after the daughter of an Oxford colleague, whom he frequently photographed as a child.

ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

I think chicken-craving wife and busy husband are encountering the chasm of meaning between "ask culture" and "guess culture." Therapy might help them bridge the gap.

Or both could continue to sulk, that'll definitely fix things.

hawowanlawow posted:

degen as short for degenerate just isn't working for me

Shanghaied posted:

Automatic YTA for calling people degenerates.

Shanghaied posted:

Should I get chicken today on my way home, or can this wait until tomorrow when we do our weekly shopping, please tell me.

babypolis posted:

vaping weed during school hours at 14 does sound pretty degenerate

Shanghaied posted:

Should I get chicken today on my way home, or can this wait until tomorrow when we do our weekly shopping, please tell me.

hawowanlawow posted:

when did degenerate become a no-no word?

Josef bugman posted:

Fallout New Vegas release was 2010, so about then I'd say.

I'm only partially joking, I think there was some sort of direct line between Ceasers Legion and 4chan using the word as a catch all for "people I hate"

Shanghaied posted:

Automatic YTA for calling people degenerates.

Batterypowered7 posted:

Should have called them reprobates.

hawowanlawow posted:

when did degenerate become a no-no word?

Ominous Jazz posted:

i use pervert as an insult but NEVER for anything sexual

DemoneeHo posted:

Degenerate became a loaded word when nazis said it to attack jewish people and other minorities. Most of the unironic uses of the word that I hear nowadays comes from neo-nazis using it to describe the LGBT or any other things they don't like.

I don't think op was using it in the nazi sense at all. But it is a lovely thing to say about teens.

Ominous Jazz posted:

i use pervert as an insult but NEVER for anything sexual

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Throwaway account bc my friends know my real one.

Me (23M) and my girlfriend (22F) got into it last night and I think our relationship is in a bad place now, based on her reaction to everything. I want to know if I’m the rear end in a top hat and should apologize (I have no problem doing that, if I was wrong) or if she is the rear end in a top hat by overreacting so intensely.

My gf and I live together and mostly split everything 50/50 in terms of household stuff. We also split finances 50/50 since we earn basically the same right now. I think I could get more opportunities at work if my mind was freed to focus more on dedicating myself and excelling at work. Right now there’s a limit with how much I can do with work because I have to come home to dishes, sometimes cook, do laundry, take care of our dog and other things.

It also doesn’t take my gf nearly as long to do some those things as it takes me. I gently suggested she temporarily takes on closer to 80-90% of the household chores for now so that I can focus on work more, and raise my income for both of us as a result, and she literally laughed. I told her I was serious and explained my plan to get promotions, earn more, and she can focus on other stuff so we can be more successful as a couple overall. She called me an rear end in a top hat and eventually even said I was being sexist which honestly pissed me off. If she disagrees that’s one thing, but don’t just call someone sexist for having an opinion or idea that’s not the same as yours, especially when I’m trying to look out for both of us as a couple.

The conversation went on for about 45 minutes before she said she needed space and left for her mom’s house. She hasn’t responded to my texts or calls and I just need to know if I should apologize or wait until she does.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

I feel like I've seen a whole bunch of poo poo attributed to pregnancy hormones lately.

Shanghaied posted:

It's an evolutionary test, you see!

Pope Corky the IX posted:

deety posted:

AITA for suggesting we split chores differently?

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I think I could get more opportunities at work if my mind was freed to focus more on dedicating myself and excelling at work. Right now there’s a limit with how much I can do with work because I have to come home to dishes, sometimes cook, do laundry, take care of our dog and other things.