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Saint Freak posted:The entire point of the cookie table is that family and guests bring the cookies, so that you have an entire display of various cookies. It's like a buffet of cookies. Sure, but do any of the guests know that? Is it up to the MIL to explain it when she is confused about the tradition herself? Hell, does the DIL even know what cookie table tradition she is asking for? No one knows anything in that story and for whatever reason talking makes everyone more confused.
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captainOrbital posted:this is of what it made me think +1
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Ominous Jazz posted:she didn't research hard enough because the first google result is explaining that it's not a one person affair lol I don't know, maybe if you're asking someone to help you with a thing that's a regional tradition for you and completely new for them, explain it thoroughly and don't just tell them to "Do your own research!"
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# ? May 1, 2024 19:10 |
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Is it fair for my partner (M27) to ask me (F25) to pay for half of his broken laptop?quote:I've been dating this guy for the past three months. Early on in dating, we had a mishap during sex where he fell on his work laptop which he had left on the floor next to the bed. He fell due to me pushing him over in the middle of things. Whilst he was without a laptop I actually lent him my own work laptop for over a month so that he was able to work. Wonder how guy who broke his work laptop by leaving it on the floor next to the bed could possibly have broken his first work laptop
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TehRedWheelbarrow posted:if you ask me to get you something from the store, please specify what and what store please. we still have a pink flamingo toilet plunger because of that request and it is now a cherished family heirloom about how communication is important. I can't focus on cookie chat when there's a goon on the loose that needs to be given a product number when sent out to buy a goddamn toilet plunger
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artsy fartsy posted:I can't focus on cookie chat when there's a goon on the loose that needs to be given a product number when sent out to buy a goddamn toilet plunger beep boop incompetence: weaponized
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limp_cheese posted:Sure, but do any of the guests know that? Is it up to the MIL to explain it when she is confused about the tradition herself? Hell, does the DIL even know what cookie table tradition she is asking for? quote:I don’t know, she is from there and my son moved up there. So if they're in a place where the tradition is for the guests to provide the cookies and the fiance was just asking for OP to coordinate it might be more reasonable. But the other things OP said the fiance said seem to contradict this.
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# ? May 1, 2024 19:12 |
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I guess you could use a plunger as a weapon
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Ominous Jazz posted:she's not being asked to bake a thousand cookies Consider this: both are poo poo.
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Saint Freak posted:The entire point of the cookie table is that family and guests bring the cookies, so that you have an entire display of various cookies. It's like a buffet of cookies. When I google "wedding cookie table" this is what pops up: "prepared by family members" does make it feel like it should be homemade though I could see people interpreting it as "well we bought a bunch of cookies and 'prepared' them on the table." 1000+ homemade cookies is absolutely too much for one person to do. That is completely unreasonable, but we also don't know that it is directly what the future DIL asks. The post reads like this woman already has a bit of a grudge toward daughter in law for trying to get close to her and would be uncharitable toward anything DIL says/asks. Edit: One of the top comments sums up my feelings: quote:There seems to be a huge empathy gap here from you towards your future DIL. It sounds like she has little to no family support. She's likely hoping to be close to her in-laws. It may also mean that her eagerness is causing her to display poor social skills. It also sounds like you and your daughters are only seeing that as an imposition to you, and not offering any grace. You may reflect on what you've done to establish better boundaries with your DIL and to acknowledge her own experiences. Because from the tone of your writing it sounds like you've decided she's annoying and you and your daughters are mean girling the hell out of someone who wants to be close to you without having adult conversations about boundaries. Mordiceius fucked around with this message at 19:17 on May 1, 2024 |
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Shanghaied posted:lol I don't know, maybe if you're asking someone to help you with a thing that's a regional tradition for you and completely new for them, explain it thoroughly and don't just tell them to "Do your own research!" you ain't from michigan unless you've backed ten thousand and one cookies for your least favorite daughter in law
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ApplesandOranges posted:I can't believe people are having an argument about cookies and it's not even a fun one, like whether double chocolate chip is better than triple chocolate chip. Half chocolate chip
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I like my cookies like I like my women, baked.
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Mordiceius posted:When I google "wedding cookie table" this is what pops up: Yep, I'm from northeastern Ohio and we did the homemade cookie thing at weddings. It has probably changed, but my boomer parents and their siblings definitely participated in the tradition.
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3D Megadoodoo posted:Consider this: both are poo poo. But what if you're from Eastern OH/Western PA, what then?
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I would want to see the guest list and do my own cookie math, because 1000 cookies is a lot of fuckin cookies. maybe the DIL is just dogshit at conceptualizing how many cookies each guest will eat
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Shanghaied posted:But what if you're from Eastern OH/Western PA, what then?
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Mordiceius posted:The post reads like this woman already has a bit of a grudge toward daughter in law for trying to get close to her and would be uncharitable toward anything DIL says/asks.
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hawowanlawow posted:I would want to see the guest list and do my own cookie math, because 1000 cookies is a lot of fuckin cookies. maybe the DIL is just dogshit at conceptualizing how many cookies each guest will eat Ah Mr. And Mrs. 6 Foot Party Sub Guy, so glad you could make it.
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ApplesandOranges posted:I can't believe people are having an argument about cookies and it's not even a fun one, like whether double chocolate chip is better than triple chocolate chip. Last month there was a 5 page milk derail, so we knew cookies was coming. Buckle up for June where we argue about straws.
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hawowanlawow posted:I would want to see the guest list and do my own cookie math, because 1000 cookies is a lot of fuckin cookies. maybe the DIL is just dogshit at conceptualizing how many cookies each guest will eat Supposedly there are 250 guests. And, according to OP, "She doesn’t really talked to her family so that gets rid of that whole side" - does that mean that those 250 guests are all from OP/son's side? "my parents are old and in a home. I’m an only child, my daughters don’t have kids or are marrried. My husband has a sister but she is older and I highly doubt she would be interested. His parents are dead" Where the gently caress are these 250 people coming from?
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mom and dad fight a lot posted:Last month there was a 5 page milk derail, so we knew cookies was coming. Buckle up for June where we argue about straws. i like my straws like my lovers. crazy or disposable.
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Anyways, here's some pictures of mine from my own wedding. (Married on Halloween, people didn't randomly just make spiders or whatever). Yes one person brought a bowl of fortune cookies which is the best kind of technicality.
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Barudak posted:Ah Mr. And Mrs. 6 Foot Party Sub Guy, so glad you could make it. It's apparently 250 guests.
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Saint Freak posted:Anyways, here's some pictures of mine from my own wedding. (Married on Halloween, people didn't randomly just make spiders or whatever). Yes one person brought a bowl of fortune cookies which is the best kind of technicality. Buckeyes!
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Bonster posted:It's apparently 250 guests. I'd be makin 500 cookies, tops
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I would buy 100 boxes of e: No actually I'd make a cookie table, not a table for cookies.
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Bonster posted:It's apparently 250 guests. Yeah 248 cookies for 248 guests and 752 cookies for those two.
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3D Megadoodoo posted:I would buy 100 boxes of You are evil.
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ApplesandOranges posted:I can't believe people are having an argument about cookies and it's not even a fun one, like whether double chocolate chip is better than triple chocolate chip. Oatmeal Raisan.
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Mordiceius posted:Supposedly there are 250 guests. And, according to OP, "She doesn’t really talked to her family so that gets rid of that whole side" - does that mean that those 250 guests are all from OP/son's side? "my parents are old and in a home. I’m an only child, my daughters don’t have kids or are marrried. My husband has a sister but she is older and I highly doubt she would be interested. His parents are dead" Where the gently caress are these 250 people coming from? quote:I’m not surprised by the number, they included the family in invites. I know my son invited everyone he was friends with from college and included their family in the count. He is 33, most of his friends are married with kids.
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The important question isn't which flavor of cookie because all flavors are beautiful. The question is: crispy or chewy. The answer is chewy.
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hawowanlawow posted:I would want to see the guest list and do my own cookie math, because 1000 cookies is a lot of fuckin cookies. maybe the DIL is just dogshit at conceptualizing how many cookies each guest will eat She should get in touch with that guy who was asked to make Christmas cookies and invited the whole neighborhood to participate in some kind of massive experimental cookie assembly line.
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limp_cheese posted:Oatmeal Raisan.
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mystes posted:She seems to be saying that the daughter in law is moving too fast in trying to build a relationship with her and violating her boundaries, essentially. There isn't enough information in the post to determine if that is accurate or OP just refuses to build any sort of relationship with the DIL at all, so I think it doesn't make sense to condemn OP on that basis without more information. That's how I read it, especially considering OP's daughters aren't fans either. Sounds like she's going way overboard trying to "replace" her old family & making people uncomfortable whether she realizes it or not. I feel bad for her but at some point you gotta read the room & back off a little.
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Mordiceius posted:The important question isn't which flavor of cookie because all flavors are beautiful. Chewy with crispy edges that have caramelized just a bit.
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My (26m) Girlfriend (22f) thinks I’m “stringing her along” because I haven’t proposed in a short time. What can I do ?quote:My girlfriend is 22 and I’m 26. We’ve been together now for two years since last week. We’ve been living together for a little under a year. We have very little arguments and disagreements. But when we do, they’re resolved without getting nasty, or rude. I love that about her. We both want to have children in the future, and marriage has been something we’ve both always wanted. She’s just a little bit more rigid with it than me. And doesn’t understand what future talk is. When I said I wanted a 3-bedroom, I meant one bedroom for us, one bedroom for my mom, and one to be converted into an art room for my friend.
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I am generally not a fan of crispy cookies if they're normal cookies, like chocolate chip or something, but florentine cookies can be good
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mystes posted:I don't normally like oatmeal raisin cookies that much but trader joes sometimes has these ones that also have shredded coconut that have a really great chewy texture that are fantastic. I also worked out a clone recipe so I can make them myself. I don't believe you! Post the recipe. For proof. Those sound so good
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Mordiceius posted:The question is: crispy or chewy. mystes posted:I don't normally like oatmeal raisin cookies that much but trader joes sometimes has these ones that also have shredded coconut that have a really great chewy texture that are fantastic. I also worked out a clone recipe so I can make them myself. Whole Foods has some good oatmeal raisin. Having some coconut in them sounds incredible though and I'll have to see if the Trader Joes near me has them.
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