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mystes posted:Oh come on what's the point of this thread if we aren't going to get into arguments about cookies? i'm a fat man but idk why the dude can't live without it to the point where he hides it and gets weird about it
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Ominous Jazz posted:i'm a fat man but idk why the dude can't live without it to the point where he hides it and gets weird about it
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StrangersInTheNight posted:one of the more annoying parts of my quick marriage in nyc was that I couldn't just go get the certificate and be done with it, you legally have to have a ceremony of some type where someone ordained to do so marries you & you sign the certificate in front of the world/god - basically, your witness StrangersInTheNight posted:yeah it sure does but StrangersInTheNight posted:nope - to officiate weddings in nyc, you have to register with the office of the city clerk to officiate weddings and pay a fee, and then you are granted a govt officiant number. granted, the fee is only $15, it's more that it's a hassle and obviously, it's not an immediate process like the on-line ones. have you considered that given how much a marriage can change the power dynamic between two people, maybe it's not something that needs to be setup such that two people can run off and just do on a whim? especially considering how long it can take to do a divorce? like i'm not saying you and your partner were doing it on a whim but i'm really failing to see the grievous inconvenience perpetrated on you by the government also why did this marriage need to be done so quickly anyway that you had to pay some rando dipshit $200 rather than wait however long for one of your friends to get registered for $15?
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marriage is a bullshit concept (legally) and a pretty cool one outside of that. edit: i do photography and shooting weddings sucks so much. so goddamn much.
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I used to get constant emails at work asking if our students would shoot their wedding for free.
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oh jay posted:Missing the math that shows they started dating when she was in high school. That's a Seinfeld joke
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This one is mostly notable for sounding like it was written by the main character from Sling Blade AITAH for telling my cheating ex wife's parents that i don't give a gently caress about her anymore and she is not my problem? quote:Me and my ex wife (Mary) have been together for 7 years and married for 2. We waited to have babies cause we wanted first to be financially stable and after 2 years we started trying to have a baby. So a few months passed by when i caught her cheating on me. I immediatly told her that i wanted divorce and she went crazy trying to suggest couple therapy, to forgive her, to think wisely cause "everyone make mistakes" (her words) and all this type of bs but i was adamant on my decision and never forgave anyone for cheating in my life and never would. Our divorce was quick (thanks to a prenup) but unfortunetly very drammatic cause during the separation and even in court Mary wouldn't stop crying and begging me to think back at my decision. Fortunetly like i said it was quick and i always thank god for the idea of the prenup cause it avoided a lot of other drama and discussion. I still have everything and since she cheated on me i didn't have to pay her anything. The thing is that after i caught her cheating i tried my best to cut all contacts with her and to talk with her only through my lawyer and when finally the divorce was finalized i changed my number and house to avoid any unnecesary and useless drama.
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Halloween Jack posted:I used to get constant emails at work asking if our students would shoot their wedding for free. But think of the exposure they would get!
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The_Franz posted:But think of the exposure they would get! Think of the exposure these negatives are gonna get if you don't pay me
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Hughlander posted:AITA for giving my fiance my ring back because he closed on a house without telling me? Setting aside everything else in that post she is absolutely pissed he took the ring because she wanted to pawn it. FMguru posted:AITAH for telling my cheating ex wife's parents that i don't give a gently caress about her anymore and she is not my problem? They just happened to be there. Total coincidence. Just a one of s kind cosmic accident. Edit: quote:They reached out to my parents and told them what happened and now my father and my sisters agrees with me while my mother is insisting that i was a huge rear end in a top hat cause Mary for how bad hurted me was always my ex-wife so a quick visit wouldn't change anything for me. I'll bet  the ex in-laws knew where he was because his mom told them.
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The_Franz posted:But think of the exposure they would get!
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Ominous Jazz posted:i'm a fat man but idk why the dude can't live without it to the point where he hides it and gets weird about it
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My wife and I eloped to NY - went on holiday there from the UK; I planned it out, researched the licence bit, proposed on top of the Rockefeller building, then a few days later (during which we bought a ring and wedding apparel) we got married in the Shakespeare Garden in Central Park, just us, the officiant and photographer (who doubled as a witness). Getting the licence was an adventure, as they had just legalised gay marriage, so the queue in City Hall was vast. It was fun though. We got interviewed about what we thought of the new law - obviously we thought it was fantastic - and chatted to some excited couples who could finally get married to each other.  We also ate in Ellen's Stardust Diner on the day, in our wedding gear. Got a round of applause from the whole restaurant when we left, which was cute. We did then go and change (and consumate, if you must know). Then we went and watched Captain America: The First Avenger in the cinema, because we are very cool.
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limp_cheese posted:They just happened to be there. Total coincidence. Just a one of s kind cosmic accident. Do you think OP's mom knows exactly when they're going to be at the supermarket? Does YOUR mom know when you're at the supermarket?
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Splicer posted:...you're allowed call fake when there's an actual punchline i was blinded by crankiness
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John Wick of Dogs posted:That's a Seinfeld joke We're all making Seinfeld jokes here. 
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limp_cheese posted:Setting aside everything else in that post she is absolutely pissed he took the ring because she wanted to pawn it. this is a weird thing to say about a post that has the podunkiest small town vibes imaginable
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Lone Goat posted:Do you think OP's mom knows exactly when they're going to be at the supermarket? I'm assuming it was more like his mom said where his new house was, but they understood showing up there unannounced would look crazy suspicious so they instead asked where he shopped for groceries and set up an ambush there. Whether they followed him there that day or went there everyday looking for him is anyone's guess. I'll admit I might be reading into it too much but for this thread it's absolutely possible I'm right. Rockman Reserve posted:this is a weird thing to say about a post that has the podunkiest small town vibes imaginable That could be true too. I took his saying he moved to mean he left town.
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FMguru posted:This one is mostly notable for sounding like it was written by the main character from Sling Blade OMG they should be banned from keyboards Also I feel for that other lady bc I also try to avoid buying anything from Nestle; they're a garbage company and it's not just the rainforest. Both Perrier and San Pell are owned by them, but I'm happy that they sold SweeTarts to Ferrara which is apparently a decent company. Though I wouldn't force my wife to go into Oreo-related hiding i mean i'm not crazy
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well Oreos are owned by mondelez not nestle so yeah
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drat what the hell were they even talking about? Newman-Os? Hydrox? Nobody goes into hiding for Hydrox
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captainOrbital posted:drat what the hell were they even talking about? Newman-Os? Hydrox? Oh, they were definitely a kind of Newman-O 
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Shanghaied posted:My read is that the OP insists on being the co-owner of any house they buy. Which is not unreasonable in itself. The problem is that they also need to get a loan to buy a house, and pretty much every single bank is gonna require every single co-owner of a property to co-sign the loan. Except no bank is ever going to want to touch the OP, and her financial situation just continues to worsen. That’s not the case always. Before my wife and I met she lost a house in the financial crisis and had poo poo credit. When we were married with a kid, we went to get a new house. The mortgage is entirely in my name here SSN was never on any paperwork. But because we are married and it is a marital asset. Her name is on the deed. I had asked our mortgage broker about this and it was required as it’s considered a joint asset regardless of the loan.
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hawowanlawow posted:this woman literally doesn't understand what money is, she is like a five year old throwing a tantrum at the toy store. every comment is the same with the same emotional reaction. I was almost ESH on this one until I noticed something in her comments. My initial thought was that keeping your finances so completely separate from the mother of your children that she's taking on debt caring for your kids while you buy a couple houses is pretty reprehensible no matter how bad with money she is. However, her comments seem to indicate that she treats every boyfriend like the Dad du jour. I don't think the fiancee is the father of her kids.
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BrideOfUglycat posted:However, her comments seem to indicate that she treats every boyfriend like the Dad du jour. I don't think the fiancee is the father of her kids.
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BrideOfUglycat posted:I was almost ESH on this one until I noticed something in her comments. My initial thought was that keeping your finances so completely separate from the mother of your children that she's taking on debt caring for your kids while you buy a couple houses is pretty reprehensible no matter how bad with money she is. I don't think she's incurring that debt on shoes and school supplies...
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Farmer Crack-rear end posted:have you considered that given how much a marriage can change the power dynamic between two people, maybe it's not something that needs to be setup such that two people can run off and just do on a whim? especially considering how long it can take to do a divorce? like i'm not saying you and your partner were doing it on a whim but i'm really failing to see the grievous inconvenience perpetrated on you by the government Who gets to judge how quickly a marriage 'needs' to happen? That's just gonna be full of personal bias. You don't know people's circumstances. Farmer Crack-rear end posted:also why did this marriage need to be done so quickly anyway that you had to pay some rando dipshit $200 rather than wait however long for one of your friends to get registered for $15? See, like this. You are already casting aspersions on my situation and you don't know loving poo poo. We were getting married bc he still wasn't a citizen and the US was looking dire, and it in fact helped push his citizenship along such that he got his ceremony in a literal month before Trump got sworn in as president and we narrowly avoided potential exportation strife. I hope your day is full of farts, and your evening too.
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mystes posted:"I (44F) have been with my fiance (46M) for 13 years, and we have been engaged for 4, and have 3 kids (10F, 8F, 3F) together." Then where the hell is she getting the idea that he'll be stuck alone with his money while she and someone else raise the kids. She really makes her future comments sound like whatever new man she finds will slot into the "Daddy" slot instead of THEIR FATHER.
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BrideOfUglycat posted:I was almost ESH on this one until I noticed something in her comments. My initial thought was that keeping your finances so completely separate from the mother of your children that she's taking on debt caring for your kids while you buy a couple houses is pretty reprehensible no matter how bad with money she is. He’s not buying a couple houses as an investment. He is buying A House. For the family to live in. While paying most of their rent, and their bills. I really get the impression that he is also supporting the kids. She makes it abundantly obvious why he didn’t include her in the process, because she would absolutely tank any hope of actually owning a home “in the name of love” (which seems to apply pretty exclusively as “ she gets legal rights to things of value”). The verbal affirmation thing he insisted on reads strongly as something he picked up in therapy—I don’t think it’s him being controlling. BrideOfUglycat posted:Then where the hell is she getting the idea that he'll be stuck alone with his money while she and someone else raise the kids. She really makes her future comments sound like whatever new man she finds will slot into the "Daddy" slot instead of THEIR FATHER. Generalized delusion. She thinks she’s going to easily find an even richer and better guy to take care of her, her kids, and her gigantic debt issue.
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BrideOfUglycat posted:I was almost ESH on this one until I noticed something in her comments. My initial thought was that keeping your finances so completely separate from the mother of your children that she's taking on debt caring for your kids while you buy a couple houses is pretty reprehensible no matter how bad with money she is. She describes him as a breadwinner, meaning she's not the one paying all the household expenses. If her secret debts were from buying gas and breakfast cereal, you know she would have said so.
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BrideOfUglycat posted:Then where the hell is she getting the idea that he'll be stuck alone with his money while she and someone else raise the kids. She really makes her future comments sound like whatever new man she finds will slot into the "Daddy" slot instead of THEIR FATHER.
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Mordiceius posted:Part 1 Part 4, motherfuckers! UPDATE 3 AITAH for kicking out my SIL and her family quote:Went to pick up my children, and had to stick around a little longer as a new family is moving to the area. The parents wanted to meet their children's classmates parents. So we had a small meet and greet. Reddit Comment posted:Info: how many kids do SIL and BIL have between them? 4? 6? 8? OP posted:Eight. That's too many children!!!!!!
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mom and dad fight a lot posted:My ex-wife was like this, even with the love trumps finances and I hope your money keeps you company lines. If he's anything like I was I don't make six figs lol, he doesn't have a spine to tell his wife that he's not spending his money on frivolous purchases, or she starts fights when he doesn't spend his money the way she likes, so he just keeps his finances from his wife so he doesn't have to deal with that. But that really means you should separate instead of trying to stay together for the kids or avoid spousal support. i love how it goes from pleading for him to see reason in the first post, to just wailing on his worthless rear end in the update. good for you lady you deffo deserve a lot better
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Mordiceius posted:Part 4, motherfuckers!
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Mordiceius posted:UPDATE 3 AITAH for kicking out my SIL and her family Usually in these stories I feel like  is the correct response, but this looks like one of the rare ones where her husband is dealing properly with his side of the family and it's reasonable for her to stay with him for the ride.the holy poopacy posted:I suspect this is probably getting more and more common as renting a 1br or even a studio becomes a less and less attainable goal for workers in HCOL cities. I knew a guy back in the 90s who managed to achieve that in spite of a well-paying tech job. He got into hardcore anarcho-capitalist Libertarianism, and due to those beliefs said it was immoral for the government to be involved with student loans at all, and because it was immoral for student loans to exist, he didn't have a moral obligation to pay his student loans. When he didn't pay his loans 'on principle', all of the credit reporting companies decided to reduce his credit rating to nothing based on their principles, and his name became toxic to have on a lease. He was stuck always having to have a roommate(s) who earned enough to get a 2+ bedroom apartment solely in their name(s). Truly an example of a self-made man, but also an example of someone who would rent an apartment without the landlord knowing about it or knowing for sure who the landlord was.
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:I knew a guy back in the 90s who managed to achieve that in spite of a well-paying tech job. He got into hardcore anarcho-capitalist Libertarianism, and due to those beliefs said it was immoral for the government to be involved with student loans at all, and because it was immoral for student loans to exist, he didn't have a moral obligation to pay his student loans. When he didn't pay his loans 'on principle', all of the credit reporting companies decided to reduce his credit rating to nothing based on their principles, and his name became toxic to have on a lease. He was stuck always having to have a roommate(s) who earned enough to get a 2+ bedroom apartment solely in their name(s).
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The Alchemist posted:Am I doing my math wrong or did a 27 year old man gently caress a 15 year old girl? Great stuff once again, reddit In the third sentence of the story he says they first met when she was 20.
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FMguru posted:Awfully convenient to come to that realization just after his last student loan check was deposited! Look I'm sure that's just a weird coincidence, there's no way he conveniently decided to just not pay a big batch of student loans. Wicked Them Beats posted:In the third sentence of the story he says they first met when she was 20. And one of the complaints from his mom is that the 15-year-old is not biologically his, so the 15-year-old was either adopted or his current wife had the kid years before meeting him.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Who gets to judge how quickly a marriage 'needs' to happen? That's just gonna be full of personal bias. You don't know people's circumstances. pffffffffffffft lmbo at castigating me for being judgey in the thread about being judgey of others' situations good one. fives all around
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