Ensign Expendable posted:

She should send him a sex list.

1) get hosed

Ensign Expendable posted:

She should send him a sex list.

1) Wrath of the raging demon
1) die 1000 deaths

mom and dad fight a lot posted:

I refuse to believe it's real because I don't want to lose my faith in humanity today.

But that list reads like it could be summarized by "be like porn", which is pathetic.

Breetai posted:

Yeah, I think I saw this one on the twoXchromosomes subreddit and gently caress me running if every other post there isn't a variation of "my boyfriend did <legal textbook definition of violent sexual assault> to me, should I feel bad about maybe overreacting?"

Maybe post less stories like this please. Stuff that's just on the 'relentlessly awful' side of the scale without registering on the 'particularly funny or interesting' side is just misery pornography.

mom and dad fight a lot posted:

I refuse to believe it's real because I don't want to lose my faith in humanity today.

But that list reads like it could be summarized by "be like porn", which is pathetic.

DoctorTristan posted:

Not gonna lie I went to the grauniad website to see if this was from there

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i (25 female) and my boyfriend (28) have been together for six years. over this past year our intimate life has severely declined. The main issue I’m having is his hygiene. I personally am an extremely hygienic person. I shower every single morning and every single night and I have a strategic body care and skin care routine. (Not saying i wash my hair twice a day- im talking about a quick rinse off in the shower)

My boyfriend showers maybe once every other day and really only brushes his teeth for a quick minute before bed without flossing or using mouth wash. I also often find his poop stained underwear on the floor of our bedroom and bathroom.

I believe I might even have a little bit of OCD when it comes to personal hygiene as I really overthink about germs and what not. (I work in medical so i hygiene is extremely important) I’m finding it really difficult to be intimate with him when I’m worried about his bad hygiene affecting mine (poop getting on me) and it’s also really hard to be attracted to someone when there are odors.

I love him to death and he’s such a good man, but it’s really starting to bother me. I haven’t really brought it up because I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I need some advice on how to kindly bring this up without making him feel bad.



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More information/ answering some questions:

I notice the poop stains on probably 8/10 pairs of his underwear

I just ordered a bidet. im hoping when it arrives that will spark up a conversation . I have put baby wipes on top of the toilet paper roll several times but he doesn’t use them.

I’ve noticed the poor hygiene this past year when we moved in together. He isn’t a big guy but he is very hairy. I dont think hair should be an excuse for not wiping properly though.

I dont do his laundry at all. He just leaves the underwear on the floor until he’s ready to do his laundry and thats why i see them

To the few people suggesting getting him black underwear??? That would just hide the problem?


To the person that said i am over the top— How is practicing good hygiene over the top? I never said my routine was 1 hour. Id say i spend about 20 minutes morning and night cleaning myself ( shower, oral care and skin care) Oral care should be done morning and night definitely not every now and then. I work in medical so i am constantly exposed to germs and find it really important to stay hygienic.

Ensign Expendable posted:

She should send him a sex list.

1) get hosed

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I, 35F, have been with my husband, 38m, since 2017. In 2020 we bought a house, 3 bed/2 bath for us to live in. We had a baby in July 2023.

My husband, who is Puerto Rican, said he was compromising and never wanted children. In September he drove to Florida to pick some things up from his mom's house. I returned to work in October. He is a disabled vet on 100%.

In the October I found out that from 2017 to 2021 he was texting other women, sharing sexual photos/videos, and talking very sexual. A lot of these photos/videos he sent were in our home. I confronted him about it and he doesn't believe it was cheating and it was done for the "thrill of the hunt."

Well, our relationship mildly improved and appeared like we were working through it. December, he went to Puerto Rico to clean out his childhood home for sale. His mom, who is a 72YO Puerto Rican woman, had not seen the baby yet and is scared to fly by herself. We agreed she could come for 2 weeks and fly back with him.

I was expecting her to leave by January 15th, since that's when she had a doctor's appointment scheduled with her neurologist, but she never did. She lived in Florida with her boyfriend and he normally takes care of all her flight plans. He had apparently asked my MIL when she wanted to return home and she never gave him a date. As of today, he won't respond to her texts and calls.

On January 18th, I found out that the reason my husband turned off his location when driving back from his mom's house in Florida, was so he could crash the night at his ex-girlfriend's house in Georgia. I have talked to his ex and both parties state that they did not have intimate relationships but I feel like if she felt enough guilt to tell me he reached out to see her, then something did happen.

I want to work through our relationship issues but it's very hard with his mom there. She can hear our conversations through the vents in our home and we also have kitty passes on the doors too so that doesn't help.

I also do not like the way my MIL interacts with my son. She carries him around everywhere and he severely regressed to the point where his pediatrician made a comment on it. Because my MIL is small and has essential tremors, she would often lay him down on the bed. This caused my baby to have a bald spot in the back of his head. My husband enjoys having her here because it allows him to stay up all night playing video games and he gets to have someone else care for the baby.

Now that my MIL is homeless, my husband wants to build an extension onto our home for her. I am against it. She is financially well off and could afford to live by herself. My husband said I was "his enemy" and was "wasting his mom's money" by saying that I wanted her to find her own place.

I want this relationship to work out but I don't want to live with another person. What do I do? Am I the rear end in a top hat here since my husband says "grandparents raise grandchildren and that's how it works in Puerto Rico?"

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I confronted him about it and he doesn't believe it was cheating and it was done for the "thrill of the hunt."

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I found out that the reason my husband turned off his location when driving back from his mom's house in Florida, was so he could crash the night at his ex-girlfriend's house in Georgia

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My husband said I was "his enemy" and was "wasting his mom's money" by saying that I wanted her to find her own place.

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I want this relationship to work out

Mordiceius posted:

When the title definitely tells you everything you need to know about the post:

AITA for telling my husband I won't live with his mom?

keep punching joe posted:

mystes posted:

It's so much worse than just the title though. It's at least 3 posts' worth of bad stuff. I don't understand why she hasn't already divorced him.

Mordiceius posted:

It baffles me how people can write up stuff like that up and then say "I want this relationship to work out" without a single moment of reflection.

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35F, have been with my husband, 38m, since 2017

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I divorced my ex husband when my son was 11 years old. We had 50/50 custody. I remarried to my current husband two years after that. My current husband and my son didn't get along to say the least. Even when I was dating him they remained aloof with each other. My son was anxious in interacting but was still respectful towards. My husband saw dealing with my son something he signed up for if he was going to continue to be in a relationship with him. My husband still kept his distance from my son. Things got worse after we got married My husband would avoid my son when he came to visit. He soon started criticizing him and became harsh with him. It could be occasismally getting a snack from the fridge without asking or sometimes forgetting the lights on of his room. He said I should cut down my visitations with my son. I asked him why does he hate him. He said he doesn't hate but dislikes him. He hates the fact that he's introverted and awkward. My husband said he it's already enough that he tolerates him. He kept antagonizing my son. He would say things like he should he get a job during high school cause he is going to be out of the house at 20 at best. I always stood for my son and admonished my husband in private and told my son not to take it seriously in the heat of the moment. My husband laid off my son when I got pregnant with our daughter five years ago. By that time my son felt alienated. I admit I always prioritized my relationship with my husband over my son. I made more effort in spending time with my husband than my son. Whether it be doing our daily Friday date nights going out as a couple only every other weekends. We did more couples only vacations in a year than family vacation la not including the occasional weekend getaways. I understood this made my son feel second place. But my son didn't understand that eventually start a life of his own but my partner is still going to be with me. Yes, I could have spent more time with him but no parent is perfect and it's always a struggle to keep a balance. My son was became distant from me and focused on his studies more. That paid off at least since he got a huge scholarship for our flagship state university. He relied on student loans to pay the rest of tuition. He cut me off the day he was supposed cone back from winter break. He cut me off by email. He wrote this:

"Dear mom,

I don't want a relationship with you anymore. Your love holds little to no value to me anymore. I don't resent you for divorcing dad. I don't resent you for finding love again and wanting to get remarried However, these past years I've learned a important lesson. I've learned that the relationships one holds onto plays a role in their identity. You can't say you love me more than anything in the world yet love a man who treats me like an unwanted burden. I resent you for making him my stepfather. I resent you for making me treat someone who hates me being around like an authority/parental figure even though he hasn't earned it. I resent you for always choosing him over me. Don't call me anymore. Don't visit me. I have a great life in college with new friends. I guess I am not the "weirdo with no friends " that the shitstain of a human being who you call your husband anymore. And I still have dad who loves me'."Goodbye forever.

That message still haunts me. I tried calling and blocked my number. When I attempted to visit him he wouldn't let me in his dorm and finally threatened to get a restraining order. That's when I backed off. My mother (his grandmother) is the only connection I have to him and my sister's Facebook. My mother was the one who told me he was double majoring in mechanical engineering/physics and he was currently doing a PhD in physics in an IVY League. My sister allows me to login to her account to see pictures of his life. When I saw his graduation pictures with only his dad invited or pictures of his friends, I just burst into tears. Can still get him back?

limp_cheese posted:

For poop guy the black underwear is a solution I never considered. It's not a good one and is just hiding it, but I thought it was clever.

FMguru posted:

Estranged Parent story from five years ago. Mostly notable for the fact that the Missing Missing Reasons are all there in glowing neon letters, yet the terrible mom refuses to see them. Bonus: includes kid getting ignored while parents have endless date nights and couples' getaways, one of my favorite weasel phrases ("No parent is perfect"), and a zinger of a final sentence.

My son cut contact due to his stepfather.

FMguru posted:

My son cut contact due to his stepfather.
occasismally

mystes posted:

I think my favorite line in there is "I always stood for my son and admonished my husband in private and told my son not to take it seriously in the heat of the moment"

Mordiceius posted:

It baffles me how people can write up stuff like that up and then say "I want this relationship to work out" without a single moment of reflection.

limp_cheese posted:

For poop guy the black underwear is a solution I never considered. It's not a good one and is just hiding it, but I thought it was clever.

mystes posted:

I think my favorite line in there is "I always stood for my son and admonished my husband in private and told my son not to take it seriously in the heat of the moment"

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I live on Alberta. Here strippers / peelers / exotic dancers are allowed to get completely naked when they perform.

They usually do three songs. One "fully" clothed. One topless. And one nude. Then there are stripper games to win posters me magnets and what have you.

Since they are nude for the last song and the stripper games they have a stripper blanket. They are fleece blankets that keep them from leaving a snail trail across the stage. Usually they have an animal or waterfall or some poo poo printed on them. A tiger or a beach. You know.

And they are sold at the side of the road from vans. Like an old Econoline Van will set up a pop up store for knives, pipes, bongs, and stripper blankets.

The thing is they are warm blankets.

I was visiting my brother and his wife had a stripper blanket. And they keep their house cold AF. So she wanders around the house wrapped in it.

I want one but she doesn't have an extra. So I asked her where she got her stripper blanket. She asks me WTF I just said. So I asked where she got the blanket. Nope not good enough. I need to repeat what I said.

I did. She asks me to explain. So I do. Then she throws the blanket at me and starts screaming for my brother.

I guess he got it for her last time he came up for a visit. Because it has a unicorn and a rainbow on it. Her favorite things.

This has all caused a ruckus and I am thinking of cutting my visit short.

My brother thinks I'm an rear end in a top hat for calling it a stripper blanket. She thinks he's an rear end in a top hat for buying her a roadside stripper blanket as a gift. She is yelling at him and he is mad at me.

I just want to leave Missoula with all my parts attached.

AITA?

Tobermory posted:

AITA for asking my Canadian brother's American wife where she got the stripper blanket?

Biplane posted:

ESH except the wife, maybe.

Fil5000 posted:

this fuckwit can't count past six.

CoffeeBoofer posted:

The guy is an idiot who goes to strip clubs too much. I took it to mean it was one of those "Mexican tiger blankets". You'll find them all over, at least, lower-income shops and even people on the streets selling them. Cheap soft blankets usually with images on them like tigers. Amazon says san marcos blankets