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The Bramble posted:Is that saying there is a 99% chance a male relative is the child’s father? I am definitely having trouble following that statement. To me it looks like. "It is possible you are the father. It is possible your male relative is the father. One of those possibilities is 99% likely." Which ... Yeah, that's confusing.
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But don't DNA tests have a hard time distinguishing between siblings in general?!
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May 15, 2024 23:25
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the only thing i remember from band of brothers is when that one dude finds a flower and then i think he gives it to a nurse and they get married after the war iirc
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May 15, 2024 23:27
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DreamingofRoses posted:Lol, someone else about to blow up their family: Man, those results contain some anodyne phrasing. I can almost hear somebody chewing their lip as they block out a neutral way of phrasing "one of your immediate family has cucked you".
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May 15, 2024 23:29
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DreamingofRoses posted:Lol, someone else about to blow up their family: OP posted:I will call them to get clarity. Just never seen results with that last half of the verbiage about another potential relative… You have to wonder just how many paternity test results this guy has read
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May 15, 2024 23:30
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Well like it or not he did the test to get clarity and, it doesn't seem like he has it yet.
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May 15, 2024 23:35
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I feel like whatever way you slice it “The possibility exists that a direct relative of the alleged father could not be excluded” is redundant phrasing
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May 15, 2024 23:36
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Modal Auxiliary posted:Band of Brothers is an incredibly moving, powerful piece of media and I will never, ever watch it again. Someone upthread said that people who like war films are sociopaths, but I think BoB is pretty much the antithesis of that.
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TACD posted:I feel like whatever way you slice it “The possibility exists that a direct relative of the alleged father could not be excluded” is redundant phrasing But on TV when they say "you're the father" they don't heavily caveat the statement with the possible implication that your dirty cheating brother could still considered due to DNA familiarity. Dude just needs to know when he can start throwing the furniture around before security stop him.
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May 15, 2024 23:55
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TACD posted:I feel like whatever way you slice it “The possibility exists that a direct relative of the alleged father could not be excluded” is redundant phrasing It reads like somebody screwed up when they were trying to edit their boilerplate text into a final document
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May 16, 2024 00:14
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Somebody reported me as being in emotional trouble on Reddit (got this saccharine message about how help is available, call this hotline). The message has a button to click if you believe you received this message in error. It leads to a page with absolutely no way to report the message being in error. Sigh. Reddit has r/AskHistorians, r/Sewing, r/HistoricCostuming, and a couple of other pages I find useful, to fend off the inevitable "Why are you posting on Reddit?" questions.
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May 16, 2024 00:54
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Somebody reported me as being in emotional trouble on Reddit (got this saccharine message about how help is available, call this hotline). The message has a button to click if you believe you received this message in error. It leads to a page with absolutely no way to report the message being in error. I'm pretty sure if you just hit the generic "report" button on the DM, then Reddit admins should come down on whoever weaponized the "REDDIT CARES" system against you. It's apparently been an increasing problem on the site lately.
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May 16, 2024 01:08
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Chewbecca posted:
The entire town is a set piece in Hollywood. You can tell whenever they zoom out enough, you'll see golden rocky hills in the background. And certain other scenes when they're traveling there will be oak trees and dead grass and socal foliage. They said all the winter scenes were done with instant mashed potatoes standing in for snow, so they're really wearing big coats in 80 degree weather stamping around in dehydrated potatoes
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AITA for being snarky with my MIL after she made rude comments about my name and saying she didn't want her grandchild named like me?quote:My husband and I are expecting a baby. We have not announced the name or the sex of our baby yet. This will be announced after our baby is here. After we are positive the name will be going on the birth certificate and when most people will hopefully know it's extra rude to make negative comments about names. We do expect negative thoughts. It feels like my ILs, especially, have very weird ideas on names. The name Alexander is fine but Alex or Alec are horrific. Jacob is a great name but Joshua is awful. Ava is so sweet but Ada is cruel to give to a child. You get the idea. My husband's brother and his wife have a little girl called Lily and the comments because they announced during the pregnancy were awful.
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May 16, 2024 02:14
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AITA for spending my son's university fund on a trip to Europe to drink beer like I always threatened instead of giving it to his step brother after he passed away.quote:
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May 16, 2024 02:18
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Mx. posted:AITA for being snarky with my MIL after she made rude comments about my name and saying she didn't want her grandchild named like me? I would double down on the nature names. "HI grandma! Meet Fern Tsunami!"
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Hughlander posted:AITA for spending my son's university fund on a trip to Europe to drink beer like I always threatened instead of giving it to his step brother after he passed away. Horrific thing to deal with, losing a kid so young.
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May 16, 2024 04:13
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Hughlander posted:AITA for spending my son's university fund on a trip to Europe to drink beer like I always threatened instead of giving it to his step brother after he passed away. Normally I'd think something was off about using your dead kid's savings account on a vacation so soon after the event, but in this case it sounds like a pretty meaningful part of the grieving process.
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May 16, 2024 05:22
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Gnoman posted:Normally I'd think something was off about using your dead kid's savings account on a vacation so soon after the event, but in this case it sounds like a pretty meaningful part of the grieving process. I agree, but I'd add that even if the guy was doing something off and uncool, I'd still cut him a lot of slack as long as he wasn't hurting the surviving members of his family. Step-children of exes are not family members. I think we can all agree on that.
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May 16, 2024 05:30
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I (30F) might've met my husband's (37M) mistress... Are these red flags?quote:For context, I'm giving birth to our second child next month. This pregnancy has been hard and we have definitely drifted apart, or it feels that way to me. He was always very interested in me sexually, even during my last pregnancy and now he isn't interested in being intimate at all unless I initiate. His mood towards me has been completely different as well lately, he just seems constantly annoyed with me although I haven't done anything. He doesn't have the same level of empathy I felt he used to have.
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May 16, 2024 05:37
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Mx. posted:AITA for being snarky with my MIL after she made rude comments about my name and saying she didn't want her grandchild named like me? People get really weird when it comes to names and naming children.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for spending my son's university fund on a trip to Europe to drink beer like I always threatened instead of giving it to his step brother after he passed away. you'll be please to know that Reddit is pretty much unanimous in telling this dude to go have a beer with the cool monks and tell the ex to get hosed
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May 16, 2024 09:35
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wheatpuppy posted:AITA for telling my coworker that her clothes were inappropriate for the office? A few paragraphs earlier: quote:I complained to my manager...I asked her if anyone had talked to the upper management about it.
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May 16, 2024 10:11
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Somebody reported me as being in emotional trouble on Reddit (got this saccharine message about how help is available, call this hotline). The message has a button to click if you believe you received this message in error. It leads to a page with absolutely no way to report the message being in error. There’s apparently a bot reporting a lot of accounts to RedditCares right now
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deoju posted:How dare she complain to management! "Get them in trouble with the adults" is supposed to be MY secret weapon.
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The Bramble posted:My (F30) relatives planned my grandmother's funeral for my birthday. She died months ago and my birthday is this Saturday. How do I navigate this painful feeling? To me, this isn't about maintaining a relationship with extended family; I think she should cut her losses there and it shouldn't be part of the equation. it's about continuing the closure process with her grandmother (who she clearly had a conflicted relationship with, but evidently the loss hit her hard) and being there for her dad (who just lost his mom and for whom she seems to have very little empathy). Even if her immediate family is also a  situation, which isn't clear to me, I think she would regret not attending given the nature of her own relationship with her grandmother.Also, the ranking of what life events get priority is wedding > funeral > child's birthday > adult's birthday. In a big family, I could not imagine trying to account for every person's birthday or anniversary or whatever the gently caress while also dealing with all of the inevitable conflicts like "well Jim has his chemo treatment that day!" and "Frank and Beth's cruise they scheduled last year overlaps with that weekend" and "little Johnny's playing in the state championship that Friday" and so on and so on and so on. If whoever planning that funeral did the calculus and found a date where the only conflict is one grandkid's 31st birthday (a grandkid who hasn't been around for 5+ years), they were probably thrilled. FMguru posted:AITA Little sister got a new car and I left the party. is this fanfiction of Daria and Quinn Hughlander posted:AITA for spending my son's university fund on a trip to Europe to drink beer like I always threatened instead of giving it to his step brother after he passed away. Oof, sad. But taking the story at face value, I think what he's doing is fine. Maybe if there was an extra wrinkle like "my son was extremely close with his step-brother who also wants to go to college but doesn't have the money" then the ex's request would make more sense to consider as a better way of grieving/honoring his son, but as it stands, he's got no reason to prioritize charity to this other kid. Troublemaker posted:I (30F) might've met my husband's (37M) mistress... Are these red flags? She's right that it's very weird that her husband's coworker would know so much about them while her husband is claiming that they hardly know each other. I don't know if I would make the leap to "she's his mistress" but I can see why his non-answer would start some conspiratorial thinking.
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surf rock posted:To me, this isn't about maintaining a relationship with extended family; I think she should cut her losses there and it shouldn't be part of the equation. it's about continuing the closure process with her grandmother (who she clearly had a conflicted relationship with, but evidently the loss hit her hard) and being there for her dad (who just lost his mom and for whom she seems to have very little empathy). Even if her immediate family is also a I think part of why she’s so mad about it because her parents made her move her wedding date because it fell on her aunt’s birthday years before.
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This is why I always say families are a waste. Everyone should be born out of a vat of goo and raised in a communal creche 
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Another story on the classic template - A: "If you do [THING], it's over" B: Does [THING] "Whadaya mean, it's over?!?" AITAH for leaving my fiancee after I learned there were strippers at her bachelorette party? quote:I(29M) and my ex-fiancee(29F) were together for 5 years. We should have been married now in the normal conditions but I broke up with her and cancelled the wedding 2 days before it because they invited male strippers to bachelorette party. I am personally not a fan of these parties but reluctantly agreed after both groom & bride side confirmed we would keep it simple. I told my ex-fiancee I am not comfortable with strippers or other kind of crazy things. She agreed. I also told my friends if they were to do a stupid thing without me knowing, we would have problems.
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DreamingofRoses posted:I think part of why she’s so mad about it because her parents made her move her wedding date because it fell on her aunt’s birthday years before. Whoops, missed that. Alright, well, maybe it is a full-on situation.
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AITAH for eliminating a rattle snake after it threatened my niece and nephew?quote:My girlfriend broke up with me over this and had some choice words so I am hoping to get some clarification on my actions because truth be told, before my girlfriend and sister screamed at me, I felt like kind of a hero. Posted by Reddit user "Snakemaster2002"
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Snakemurder guy should get his rear end kicked. Garbage person.
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Whorelord posted:AITAH for eliminating a rattle snake after it threatened my niece and nephew? His "instinct kicked in" what instinct? To kill?
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instinct to look very cool*
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Here's someone pete-ing out from some absolutely monstrous parents. AITA for telling my parents they need to find an alternative solution for long term care for my disabled siblings because I will not be the solution? quote:I (19m) have two older siblings who were both born with severe disabilities. Their disabilities are related to an inheritable gene that both my parents were carriers of, hence both of them having these disabilities. They had me so their disabled children would have someone to take care of them when they were gone. It was a gamble. I could have been disabled like my siblings and had an even higher chance at also being a carrier for the gene. My parents didn't look into that. They initially planned to adopt but they were rejected because of my siblings being disabled and it was decided they could not adequately care for another child on top of them. So they gave in and had me.
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FMguru posted:AITAH for leaving my fiancee after I learned there were strippers at her bachelorette party? yeah I don't think I'd feel great starting a new life in a community where I knew everyone had lied and covered over breaking the one major boundary I requested for our bachelor/bachelorette parties because they decided I was being 'too sensitive' about it. I just get a sinking feeling in my stomach for this guy, for the moment he catches the bridesmaid lying. It's not even that anything untoward happened, it's that moment there. They gave him the gift of that 'I've been lied to' moment, and that makes them all assholes. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 15:46 on May 16, 2024 |
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As someone who has killed a lethally poisonous snake before (grandma's orders) you're a loving idiot to A: actively seek out a snake that has fled and hid and is not in immediate view or close to people, and 2: use a rock and not at the very least a shovel or something with a long handle that minimizes risk of the snake biting you, especially one that's found cover and could potentially spring out at you. If you're gonna do something hosed up at least do it properly. Also I still feel bad. That was a pretty snake.
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Whorelord posted:My instincts kicked in and by the time I got to where it had been it was gone so I started looking around in the bushes. I got to about 50 feet off the trail and I found it hiding in a desert bush. "Instinct kicked in" would be reasonable if the snake was near the kids and he killed it thinking he was protecting them, though really the best protection is just to get away from the snake. If he did just kill the snake in the heat of the moment, I'd say the GF was vastly overreacting. But the fact that the snake was at least 50 feet away and he had to go hunt it down means he had plenty of time to think about what he was doing, it wasn't a panic reaction, and GF is right that he did multiple things wrong. A. Rattlesnake is defensive, if it's 50' away it's not going to come track you down and bite you, so there's nothing to defend against and no reason to kill an animal. B. Rattlesnake is deadly, hunting it down with a rock is stupid and risky, a shovel or axe would be a better choice, though again 'don't go antagonize it' is still best. C. He's engaging in a an unnecessary deadly mission while he's the only adult with an 8 and 6 year old in the wilderness, if he had been bitten they'd have to handle the emergency. D. The snake might well be protected and he's risking charges or a fine for killing it. With the way he told the story, I'm sure this isn't the first time he's done some dumb, risky nonsense under an excuse like 'instinct kicked in' and this was just the last straw.
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DreamingofRoses posted:I think part of why she’s so mad about it because her parents made her move her wedding date because it fell on her aunt’s birthday years before. It was in the comments, I went and found it. quote:When I was planning my wedding, my fiancé and I at the time really wanted to get married on June 9. My parents told us that we couldn’t have our wedding that day because it was my aunt’s birthday. Yet my birthday was perfectly acceptable for a funeral… Yeah. The basic gist of "The funeral is on my birthday" by itself is dumb and childish to at least some degree, I agree. But this isn't really about the funeral or the birthday. It's about the OP always being an afterthought at best and her family expecting her to bend over backwards to do everything to support them while not even acknowledging the pain it can cause her to be said afterthought. OP is insufferable about it in the post at least, and I understand feeling like its a super dumb hill to die on. But it's not the birthday funeral that is the problem here. It's the pattern of behavior from the family. Her mother won't even acknowledge that she's hurt and that it's okay to feel hurt by it. Adults can be hurt by things, accept that pain, and then do what needs done anyway, but OP was never taught that, apparently. OP needs to sever and get therapy, because she is not coping well at all. But, she's not the real problem here, and neither is the funeral date. Whorelord posted:AITAH for eliminating a rattle snake after it threatened my niece and nephew? Ominous Jazz posted:instinct to look very cool* Animal abuse isn't cool. I thought we weren't sharing animal murder stories? Or am I genuinely being over-sensitive?
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Baron Zephyrus posted:Animal abuse isn't cool. I thought we weren't sharing animal murder stories? Or am I genuinely being over-sensitive? oh lemme be clear this dude sucks and killed an animal because he wanted to, not because it posed danger. he got to do violence and he's mad he's not being celebrated for it Ominous Jazz fucked around with this message at 16:16 on May 16, 2024 |
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