ArbitraryC posted:

I had this exact thing, like several solid relationships of mine ended entirely because I had no roots and so when one of us graduated or found a job it was like "well do we try to make this work or do we just part ways?" and the latter was so much easier.

Panfilo posted:

People are risk averse because they're so afraid to make a commitment they might regret later that they'll pass up many potentially positive experiences along the way. The people I know that are really happy and self actualized took a risk at some point in their life, none of them knew their future was going to be a sure thing. The job Ive had for over a decade I applied on a whim and now look forward to a far higher paying and secure job compared to bouncing around doing different things.

putrid aidsman posted:

putrid aidsman posted:

Improbable Lobster posted:

Applying to a job isn't a risk

quote:

I never thought I'd have to write something like this but I'm freaking out. I never would've thought things like this happen at work but clearly I'm wrong and need strong advice on where to go.

I started at my company three months ago. I was brought on as part of a college recruitment program. Since the day I started at work there's a creepy guy (Steven) that decided he had an interest in me and would bother me constantly. Calling me at my desk, offering to take to me lunch, bringing me lunch, anonymous little trinkets were left on my desk, standing at my desk talking for way too long or staring in awkward silence, things like that. I'm really shy and introverted so I tried to just accept the items and be gracious but I only went to lunch a couple of times. The rest of the time I politely told Steven that I wanted to use lunch as time to study since I attend law school at night. Steven told me that I didn't need to go to advanced schooling because I already had my "Mrs" degree and that and once we got married I wouldn't have to worry about money. I didn't know what to say but I laughed him off and began trying to actively avoid him. I began returning the things he'd leave on my desk and he began to pester me constantly. I snapped several weeks ago and told him that in I was not interested in a relationship, that I didn't believe in dating at work, and to please stop speaking to me unless it was professional. He sent me an angry e-mail to my personal address (I don't know how he got it) telling me to take the stick out of my behind and he was only trying to show me how kind and thoughtful he could be. I did not respond but I pointedly ignored him for the next several weeks and deleted any e-mails he sent me. I mentioned the problem to my supervisor and she said to ignore him and that he's been around for a very long time but is harmless.

I come to work early because my class starts in the evening so I get to flex my hours. My class was cancelled today because my professor was stranded on the East coast thanks to the blizzard so I decided to sleep in and work a regular shift for once. The second I arrived at the office I was pulled aside by my manager and informed that Steven had been found, at 6:15 in the morning, naked and laying in front of my cubicle. He was found by a co-worker an older lady that I work with, who began screaming her head off. Other early morning people came running to see what had happened, and Steven tried to cover his tracks by saying that he had been exercising in the gym and had passed out, somehow ended up in front of my cubicle. He was sent home for the day by HR.

I burst into tears. My manager told me that Steven would likely be allowed back to work in another branch of the office pending an HR investigation. I told her that I didn't feel safe AT ALL, and she told me to be understanding because Steven has a mental disability and is not a threat to me. I don't think I can be understanding at all anymore. I'm freaking out and my manager is practically telling me I shouldn't be. I don't have any close family or friends save for one or two and I don't really know where to turn. I never thought I'd ever have to deal with something like this. Please tell me if there's something I can do legal wise to protect myself while HR investigates or do I just leave it all up to them?

maskenfreiheit posted:

Another legaladvice gem:

[AR] New at work. My co-worker who has an inappropriate crush on me was found this morning, naked, in front of my cubicle.

Pick posted:

all right, which one of you goons was this

Barudak posted:

So HR agreed in writing that naked guy was there but that "hes not a threat"? Does HR just really hate the company or are they trying to let this girl retire early.

Barudak posted:

So HR agreed in writing that naked guy was there but that "hes not a threat"? Does HR just really hate the company or are they trying to let this girl retire early.

quote:

Every time I have gone to the Mcdonalds drive thru near my house, they have messed up my order. Every. Single. Time. It isn't something small like forgetting, the ketchup packets but something big like including onions when I say no onions.

This could be extremely problematic if I were allergic to onions. It is endangering the customers. I tried calling the police, but they said it wasn't a criminal matter. Is there legal recourse to sue?

Edit: forgot to mention that because they always botch my order, I have to walk inside to complain. I have a chronic injury that makes this difficult. Can I sue for this?

Edit 2: I am unable to find a new McDnalds as I live in a small town and this is the only one with a drive thru.

Edit 3: does anyone have any actual LEGAL ADVICE instead of being condescending rear end monkeys.

Edit 4: all the FPH posters here is hilarious. You guys are so dumb.

Edit 5: I will be quitting my job soon so I will be able to cook some meals. However, I still think McDonalds is in the wrong and plan to pursue a legal suit. Thanks for all your advice!!!!

dudeness posted:

Legaladvice seems too easy but it's getting hard to find good relationship ones.

McDonald's served potentially hazardous food. (IL)

dudeness posted:

Legaladvice seems too easy but it's getting hard to find good relationship ones.

McDonald's served potentially hazardous food. (IL)

ArbitraryC posted:

can you even be actually allergic to onions?

Batterypowered7 posted:

They give a friend of mine extreme flatulence, so maybe?

dudeness posted:

People who ask for no onions are the worst. Taco bell makes you ask for the onions to be added like i'm the one in the wrong.

quote:

Hey guys, I'm not sure what to do in this situation and need some advice.

I was at IHOP this morning having a nice breakfast. Everything was delicious and I was content. As I went to pay for my meal I was told that the credit card machine was broken and that I need to pay cash.

Not having any cash on my person, I informed that I would need to leave and go to an ATM. They were not OK with this. The cashier said I could not leave and needed to wait until the machine started working or call someone to bring me cash.

I told him that this was absolutely unacceptable and I would not be held hostage over $12.

(Now, I want to preface this with the fact that have a valid CPL and was carrying at the time.)

At this point the manager comes over and invades my personal space. He steps in front of me and tells me I'm not leaving until I pay for my meal. I told him that he could not force me to stay.

As I stepped towards the door her grabbed my arm, at which point I drew my Glock 23 and asked to remove his hands from me.

He immediately let go and said he was calling the cops.

I got in my car and left. I'm currently sitting at home and I'm not sure what I should do. I doubt they could identify me or find me.

Any advice is appreciated.

Edit - I called the station and they said they had not received any reports of brandishing. Looks like I'm in the clear.

Edit 2 - A detective from the department left me a voicemail saying he wanted to ask me some questions. I blocked my number so I'm sure how they got it. I made an appointment to meet with a Second Amendment attorney on Monday.

EDIT 3 - The police just left. I'm not sure how they found me or my address.

They took my ALL my firearms and made me let them search my house and safe. They issued my a citation for brandishing and assault. I have a court date.

This is bullshit so hopefully the lawyer I talk to on Monday can help me sue the department AND IHOP.

They also found some pills I have for my mom and a glass pipe that they said had methamphetamine residue in it. I have never seen that pipe before and am sure they planted it. I received a ticket for this as well.

Hopefully I can get everything dismissed considering I was assaulted and they have it on camera.

ArbitraryC posted:

can you even be actually allergic to onions?

fruit on the bottom posted:

[WA] Drew firearm because I was in fear for my safety. (self.legaladvice)

Khazar-khum posted:

I am legitimately allergic to them. Not quite as bad as peas, but it's still bad.

ArbitraryC posted:

this one has been posted before and tbh I almost feel bad for the guy cause assuming it was not a meth filled dreamsequence then I legit feel like he was mostly in the right in the encounter itself.

Tacky-rear end Rococco posted:

Lol what?

ArbitraryC posted:

I feel like I was already clear? If he wasn't making poo poo up they tried to forcefully detain him over their own mistake, people using unlawful force against you is like literally the one clear case of it being okay to escalate force yourself.

fruit on the bottom posted:

[WA] Drew firearm because I was in fear for my safety. (self.legaladvice)

ArbitraryC posted:

this one has been posted before and tbh I almost feel bad for the guy cause assuming it was not a meth filled dreamsequence then I legit feel like he was mostly in the right in the encounter itself. Not his fault their cc readers were down and an "average person" would assume they were able to pay with cards if it said so at the establishment, most people don't really carry cash nowadays so it would be p unreasonable for them to try and detain him when he was offering valid payment over something that was entirely their fault.

otoh I believe most companies have backup systems where they just take the numbers of your cc and charge later so the story is either fake or the dude waving around a gun at ihop is lying about the events.

surebet posted:

[update] Hostage at IHOP.
So the last fees days have been interesting. I will try to keep this as concise as possible.
After the police left on Saturday I was super upset and felt like my rights had really been violated. I was also upset that I could not carry a firearm as mine had been taken as evidence.
After talking to my friend about how I felt unsafe since I was unarmed he let me a borrow his .38 until I could get my guns back. I know now that this was a mistake.
On Sunday, I woke up and decided I would try to fix things myself. I went back to the IHOP in hopes that I could talk to the manager and apologize / pay for my meal.
The manager from the incise wasn't there but the cashier was the same. Before I could even get in the door he was yelling at me to leave and telling me how I was not allowed in IHOP anymore. I told him I wanted to talk to the manager and try to clear things up. Before I could even talk to the manager or make things right the police we pulling in.
I decided now would be a good time to leave except before I could step outside they draw their loving guns on ME.
They tell that I am trespassing (which is bullshit because I go to this IHOP everyday and never been trespassed.) and they are going to arrest me.
They take me down the PCDC and tell me I'm getting charged with trespassing and unlawful possession of a firearm, which is also bullshit because I still have a valid CPL.
I bailed out this morning and they've now stolen my friends gun. They would not return it to me with my other items. (Another thing they will be sued for.)
I spoke with a 2A attorney today but he refused to represent in my criminal charges and my suit. He said I would need a different attorney for my lawsuits.
I've spoken to several local attorneys but none will take my case and suit without payment upfront.
I have sent emails to a couple second amendment advocacy groups and the ACLU hoping that my story would get some traction. I'm also going to down to the local news station tomorrow and try to talk to someone.
I'll keep everyone updated on how that goes.

ArbitraryC posted:

otoh I believe most companies have backup systems where they just take the numbers of your cc and charge later so the story is either fake or the dude waving around a gun at ihop is lying about the events.

Tacky-rear end Rococco posted:

Jesus Christ. No, it is not OK to threaten lethal force in response to someone grabbing your arm. But you're probably just trolling, nobody could possibly be that stupid.

maskenfreiheit posted:

if he'd killed the manager he'd probably have had a better chance of getting off, rookie mistake - DON'T LEAVE WITNESSES