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ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

blarzgh posted:

This is the mother's fault for not having a will. Look people, if your assets - liabilities is over $20,000.00 (this # is relative to the financial situation and number of your children), and/or you have specific bequests for certain property, you need to get a loving will done, its like $500 just do it, god drat.

The reddit thread is full of people saying the ring is probably worth less than 10k if she actually tries to sell it so he should just have her get some hard offers from stores and then he can buy it cause there's no way it's gonna go over his 30k budget.

The OP then proceeds to never respond to this easy solution (or the thread in general) so I'm guessing it was a creative writing exercise.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 21:49

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# ? Jun 5, 2024 15:48

blarzgh: Apr 14, 2009; SNITCHIN' RANDY; Grimey Drawer

ArbitraryC posted:

The reddit thread is full of people saying the ring is probably worth less than 10k if she actually tries to sell it so he should just have her get some hard offers from stores and then he can buy it cause there's no way it's gonna go over his 30k budget.

The OP then proceeds to never respond to this easy solution (or the thread in general) so I'm guessing it was a creative writing exercise.

Yeah, probably, but it wouldn't surprise me if it was 100% true - people pull this poo poo all the time in probate. The other one is the rogue executor/caretaker (who this dude may very well be) who took care of moms during end of life, and as soon as she dies is like, "yeah all this stuff is mine now because I took care of mom and she gave it to me, and no there was never any money [wink wink] and oh jeez I can't find those papers, and hey, lets just be a good family and not fight over this."

# ? Jul 12, 2017 21:54

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To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
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Barudak posted:

Well yeah, birds might take their kids back.

They had a scheme where they allowed Brazilian Japanese to more easily immigrate to Japan before realizing those people werent Japanese enough, killing the program, and pressuirng everyone who took advantage of it to move back to Brazil.

Also anything involving people of Korean descent, whether born in Japan or not.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 21:58

Kurieg: Jul 19, 2012; RIP Lutri: 5/19/20-4/2/20

fruit on the bottom posted:

Also anything involving people of Korean descent, whether born in Japan or not.

Any media that is considered too japanese is outlawed in Korea, There are specific episodes of Pokemon that are outlawed because someone wears a suit of Samurai armor in them.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 22:01

A Wizard of Goatse: Dec 14, 2014

ArbitraryC posted:

The reddit thread is full of people saying the ring is probably worth less than 10k if she actually tries to sell it so he should just have her get some hard offers from stores and then he can buy it cause there's no way it's gonna go over his 30k budget.

The OP then proceeds to never respond to this easy solution (or the thread in general) so I'm guessing it was a creative writing exercise.

the OPs generally don't respond unless they need to come in to argue with the reddit peanut gallery about how their meth addiction is TOTALLY FINE and UNDER CONTROL and waking up in dumpsters is TOTALLY NORMAL IF YOU'RE NOT SOME NERD

# ? Jul 12, 2017 22:05

Demon Of The Fall: May 1, 2004; Nap Ghost

that girl needs to dump her idiot Max and get with cool liberal Max doppelganger

# ? Jul 12, 2017 22:13

A Wizard of Goatse: Dec 14, 2014

My Girlfriend's Ex Has Pictures of Them Together On Instagram

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I just recently started dating this girl [20] after being friends for years. She recently brought up her ex boyfriend which I did not know about. I followed him on instagram with a fake account of mine to view his protected account and saw that he has 5 or 6 pictures of them together. The pictures of them start back early as 2015 and stop during Christmas 2016. What bothers me about this is that some of the pictures are of him kissing her. There are also some comments from her in the comment section saying "love you" and stuff like that. Ideally I'd want all the pics of them gone. Its kinda awkward for those pics to still be up while Im seriously dating her. Thanks.

Edit: well I thought common curtesy is to delete pictures you have with your exes once you break up. I guess all you guys like to show off that you guys have been around lmao

# ? Jul 12, 2017 22:39

Blue Train: Jun 17, 2012

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My Girlfriend's Ex Has Pictures of Them Together On Instagram

Lol nerd

# ? Jul 12, 2017 22:40

Gumbel2Gumbel: Apr 28, 2010

He probably doesn't remember any of those fuckin' photos are up.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 22:41

curufinor: Apr 4, 2016; by Smythe

Kurieg posted:

Any media that is considered too japanese is outlawed in Korea, There are specific episodes of Pokemon that are outlawed because someone wears a suit of Samurai armor in them.

Right wing Japanese people have been known to throw dirt and rocks at zainichi, like southern white people did to interracial couples in the 50s

It's like "everyone's a little bit racist" but s/little bit/whole loving lot/g

Korea's probably one of the only polities on earth where the left wing is more xenophobic than the right wing. Right wing Koreans are neoliberal af

curufinor fucked around with this message at 22:57 on Jul 12, 2017

# ? Jul 12, 2017 22:54

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To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

I [20 F] have reacted in a very moody way towards the guy [24 M] I'm dating. It was hormonal moodswings. I wasn't thinking clear. Now he behaves a lot more distant towards me :-( How can I make it up to him?

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I feel so bad about it :-( I finally found an amazing guy. Sweet, smart, cute, handsome, someone I could have meaningful conversations with, someone that I could take care of, someone who makes me feel protected. Just great potential and great boyfriend material.

Yesterday I had mood swings, behaved very mean then when I was back tot normal I apologized and I told him that I have low self-confidence. I told him about my mood swings.

This morning he sent me : '' look I don't have time for games and to be played with. Let's date and see where it goes ''

I am so upset and scared that I lost him because of my stupid behavior :-( He really made me feel butterflies and I really felt incredible in his presence. He has such a beautiful personality. There only is one guy like him in the world and I don't want to loose him :'(

What can I do to make it up to him?

He is at work now, I sent him a text more than an hour ago but still no reply. I'm just going crazy and I'm a wreck inside :'( I want him so badly :'(

tl;dr: I met an amazing guy, we started dating, I behaved very moody and mean towards him yesterday, told him that I have low self-confidence and now he behaves so distant towards me. So scared that I lost him. I apologized but it didn't seam to make much difference. How can I make it up to him? He's the guy of my dreams :'(

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I am so mad at myself for having behaved mean when I didn't want to :-( I get mean towards the people that I care about the most. I feel so crushed. Waiting for a text message from him. Biting my nails and crying. We had so much in common, we read each others minds. We knew what the other was going to say. He is perfect and I am not :'(

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I told him about how I had low self-confidence, how we should just end it because I don't feel good enough for him. I also told him that I did webcam work in the post ( adult ) , he said that that's the past and that he accepts that , then I told him that I might restart with it in the future and that I won't care about his opinion. I also told him that I saw my ex boyfriend and that he looked great and that I should go drink a coffee and catch up with him. I just bullied him subtly which was a loving lovely move. I wanted him to want me more. That's why I made him jealous.

An half hour later I apologized and told him what a beautiful personality he has and how I don't want to loose him for my idiot moodiness :-(

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To make him jealous :-( because I loving love him and I wanted his attention, he was a little absent that night. I deal with hormonal anxiety disorders and I feel nervous the whole day so there is only a little bit needed to freak out :-(
I'm hosed up. I don't blame him either.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:08

Blue Train: Jun 17, 2012

fruit on the bottom posted:

�I'm hosed up

Yep!

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:11

Haifisch: Nov 13, 2010; Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!; Taco Defender

fruit on the bottom posted:

I [20 F] have reacted in a very moody way towards the guy [24 M] I'm dating. It was hormonal moodswings. I wasn't thinking clear. Now he behaves a lot more distant towards me :-( How can I make it up to him?

I'm sorry ma'am, it's a severe case of emoticon disease. :-( It's terminal. :'(

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:12

Ride The Gravitron: May 2, 2008; by FactsAreUseless

fruit on the bottom posted:

I [20 F] have reacted in a very moody way towards the guy [24 M] I'm dating. It was hormonal moodswings. I wasn't thinking clear. Now he behaves a lot more distant towards me :-( How can I make it up to him?

This dude:

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:12

Demon Of The Fall: May 1, 2004; Nap Ghost

lol holy poo poo, what a mess

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:13

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To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

I didn't post all her comments, just the ones I thought rewally enriched the story.

Other POI:

-her mother is the same way
-she got a prescription the day before for some SSRI meds and she's hoping those will help

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:13

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

Also they've known each other for ages, been dating for a few months, got to the I Love You stage pretty recently, and she's talking about she'd make such a good wife

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:14

A Wizard of Goatse: Dec 14, 2014

fruit on the bottom posted:

I [20 F] have reacted in a very moody way towards the guy [24 M] I'm dating. It was hormonal moodswings. I wasn't thinking clear. Now he behaves a lot more distant towards me :-( How can I make it up to him?

quote:

I know but it's my behavior that's the problem and not my personality.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:16

Viva Miriya: Jan 9, 2007

loving crazies

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:21

monkeytennis: Apr 26, 2007; Toilet Rascal

Kurieg posted:

All the main characters in the book have cancer, and they read a book about a girl who has cancer and they're like "holy poo poo this book could be about me!" so they go to meet the author and he's an impossibly huge rear end in a top hat. Then the boyfriend's cancer relapses and he dies, and the author comes to the funeral and apologizes to the girlfriend.

Sounds like a barrel of laughs, loving hell.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:24

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To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

You know what other book was bullshit? A Separate Peace.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:26

Blue Train: Jun 17, 2012

fruit on the bottom posted:

You know what other book was bullshit? A Separate Peace.

Is that the one where the main character cripples his more athletic and better overall friend because he is a petty bitch

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:29

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

Blue Train posted:

Is that the one where the main character cripples his more athletic and better overall friend because he is a petty bitch

Yes. Then his friends put him on trial, the cripple falls down a flight of stairs and dies.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:34

Haifisch: Nov 13, 2010; Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!; Taco Defender

I [18M] have some issues with my parents [40sM/50sF]

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I'm really at wit's end about this.

I'm 18 years old, white male, parents of the same persuasion. Throughout most my childhood, I've come to differ greatly from my parents in some areas, politically and religiously. These differences, while minor, are creating a real rift in the past few months before I head off to college. There's also other concerns hurting our relationship.

It started somewhere in last summer. My dad insisted I get a summer job to "teach me a work ethic" and such; I wasn't really interested, and told him so. I don't look down on people working a minimum wage part-time job for the summer, but I felt like it would be deeply dissatisfying and just not something I would like to do. I am generally very frugal and would rather have leisure time than extra money to spend. He never let up, though, and continually pushed me until I agreed to try to get a job next summer. This summer, I didn't get a job again (After some minimal effort...), causing him to relentlessly berate me about it, threaten to take away my personal items, and consistently confront me about it. He himself hasn't had a job for a long stretch of the summer; whenever I bring this up, he just tells me he 'worked for his whole life'.

My parents are religious, and I'm really not. I'm not an atheist, I would consider myself a Christian, but this apparently isn't good enough for them. When I mentioned that I supported the right of the Supreme Court to make the recent gay marriage ruling (Not even the decision itself; just their legal precedence and right to make it), my mother decided to come up at 2 AM into my room and have a long discussion with me about how she doesn't want me to "forget the faith of my ancestors" and "be lost to the world". I found it unsettling and intrusive. My dad insists on talking to me about matters of faith whenever possible.

This issue was exasperated when my father found pornography on my computer. I'm not sure what he saw, exactly, but probably not the worst of it.

Another big thing is politics. My parents are highly Conservative; I'm more of a Libertarian, and they constantly talk about politics and take any chance to challenge me on my beliefs. My support of drug legalization, legal prostitution and pornography, gay marriage, and other socially liberal issues seriously angers them.

I can understand why my dad is acting this way (He lost his job then both of his parents to disease in a matter of months), but I'm sick of these past few months. My issues appear minor to what everyone else is going through on /r/relationships, but the stress is starting to get to me and I don't really have anyone else to turn to. I'm not a bad person, or even hideously lazy; I have roughly 40 hours of AP and dual-college enrollment credits to my name and have been accepted to a University which I'll be attending in a few months.

The situation, as it stands, is I am telling my parents I don't want to talk about religion or politics and only giving brief answers on why this is due to not wanting to start another argument. I feel like any such discussions are tearing my relationship with my parents apart, but they insist that they are my parents and they need to "teach me in the way I should go". The discussion ended with me trying to end it amicably and just leave before things got too hairy; my dad then briefly told me that he had "Given me everything", "Sacrificed a lot for me", and told me that if he found any more pornography on my computer he was going to take it.

Am I just being an edgy teenager, or is there a legitimate issue here?

tl;dr: I feel like my parents are wildly controlling, don't respect my privacy, and don't want me to think for myself. Not sure what to do about their behavior and don't want to lie to them about what I believe.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:34

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

Blue Train posted:

Is that the one where the main character cripples his more athletic and better overall friend because he is a petty bitch

Proto-goon.

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:36

berth ell pup: Mar 20, 2017; I am a business magnet.

Haifisch posted:

I [18M] have some issues with my parents [40sM/50sF]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pA95aRda9qg

# ? Jul 12, 2017 23:39

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

[26F] Breaking up with my boyfriend [27M] for my best friend [28M]

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I'm with my boyfriend for 7 years but I started to have feelings for my best friend and I'd like to break up with my boyfriend to be with him.

I'm tired of my boyfriend, he isn't abusive or anything and I don't really have a true reason to break up with him other than I'm tired of some things in our relationship and I'm falling for my friend, who wants to be with me. We talk every day but I checked out of the relationship and don't even want to make the effort to build it again.

I think that my boyfriend felt that I'm distancing myself and he's becoming the opposite of what he used to: It was always me who initiated conversations with him, now it's him doing it; It was mostly me trying to solve our problems and now I don't care anymore, so it's him that's been trying to do it. I know this is only temporary and once he feels that I'm back to normal, he will return having the same expectations of me initiating conversations, solving our problems or trying to keep myself calm when he's angry. He's also a really jealous guy. He's been trying to commit more, said he'd buy a house and car so that we live together and I didn't say no but I also didn't say yes, that's not what I want and I feel like he's pressuring me. He's been also pretending that he's not jealous but I know this didn't get "fixed" overnight.

He's working abroad and is going to be back next month, I want to do the break up in person but I'm not sure of how to go about it:

Should I prepare him before he arrives and hint that I'm going to break up? If I prepare him, he might feel anxious; if I don't I'll just drop a bomb out of nowhere
What do I tell him the reason is? I don't have a real reason to break up, it's not like our problems aren't fixable but I just don't feel like being with him anymore, and I'm obviously not gonna tell him about my friend who's a big part of the reason why I want to break up. This is my biggest problem, I don't really know what or how to tell him.
Our families got intertwined after so much time and their parents are friends with mine. They treat him as family. How do I make this transition as best as possible?
I can't ask anyone for help since everyone I could ask for advice has some stake on this.

tl;dr: Fell out of love with my boyfriend, have feelings for my best friend and want to break up

quote:

I have lived at his place for the last 6 years or so, don't you think it's a bit inhumane?

EDIT: Can you please stop downvoting me? That's stupid.

quote:

I kind of did cheat. I've been seeing my friend for the past year so we're going to try to keep it a secret after we break up or people are going to get suspicious something happened.

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Yes, he's abroad for work. I'm a student.

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I obviously care about him, I don't think it's related

On the slow trickle of information via comments.

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There was a purpose: I just wanted to get advice for the 2 situations without having to write the same text with minor changes twice.

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He hosed another good friend with my by the side and tried to gently caress us both on the same time and even though I kissed her and he fingered us both, several times, she's still totally oblivious.

She's the person who's closest to us and she never suspected a thing so I don't think anyone else's gonna suspect.

quote:

We already discussed that, he's not totally ok but he also cheated in his past and we're trying to make it a semi-open relationship (we can gently caress with other people if we authorize)

quote:

Had I put the details in the original post, this would be downvoted to oblivion and I wouldn't get any productive input. The answer I wanted was the same whether I had cheated on him or not.

I only omitted the part where I had already cheated on him and we've been in a relationship for the past year.

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:04

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

My friend (f25) wants to go to a wedding with me (m25), but I have a girlfriend (f25)

In high school, I had a close friend Jess (f25). We hung out all the time and overall, had a good time together. We grew apart a little after college, but she recently moved back into the state to the same city I'm in. It's been nice catching up with.

I have been dating my girlfriend Lily (f25) for the past 2 years. We met in a running group, so we share a ton of common interests and we get along very well. We don't fight a lot and we were friends for a year before we started dating. She's met all my friends and family. My parents and siblings love her. Overall, it's a relationship that I see going far.

My high school friend's wedding is coming up in August. When I saw Jess last, I brought up the wedding thinking she had been invited. She had, but she turned it down before she moved back as she didn't think she would've made it. She's upset that she will miss out on seeing all her high school friends and other people she hasn't seen in years. She then asked if maybe I could take her.

I said that I would have to talk to my girlfriend about it because she was planning to go with me. I don't know if she'd be comfortable with me going to it with another woman, but I know how much Jess wants to see these people and we are just friends.

Would it be okay to ask my girlfriend if Jess could go instead? Or is that something I should avoid doing and tell Jess no? I feel bad letting down a friend, but I don't want to cause problems in my relationship.

tl;dr: My high school friend wants to go to me to a wedding (of someone we knew in high school). I was planning to take my girlfriend, would it be okay to ask her if Jess could go instead or should I avoid this all together?

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:07

MF_James: May 8, 2008; I CANNOT HANDLE BEING CALLED OUT ON MY DUMBASS OPINIONS ABOUT ANTI-VIRUS AND SECURITY. I REALLY LIKE TO THINK THAT I KNOW THINGS HERE

INSTEAD I AM GOING TO WHINE ABOUT IT IN OTHER THREADS SO MY OPINION CAN FEEL VALIDATED IN AN ECHO CHAMBER I LIKE

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My friend (f25) wants to go to a wedding with me (m25), but I have a girlfriend (f25)

In high school, I had a close friend Jess (f25). We hung out all the time and overall, had a good time together. We grew apart a little after college, but she recently moved back into the state to the same city I'm in. It's been nice catching up with.

I have been dating my girlfriend Lily (f25) for the past 2 years. We met in a running group, so we share a ton of common interests and we get along very well. We don't fight a lot and we were friends for a year before we started dating. She's met all my friends and family. My parents and siblings love her. Overall, it's a relationship that I see going far.

My high school friend's wedding is coming up in August. When I saw Jess last, I brought up the wedding thinking she had been invited. She had, but she turned it down before she moved back as she didn't think she would've made it. She's upset that she will miss out on seeing all her high school friends and other people she hasn't seen in years. She then asked if maybe I could take her.

I said that I would have to talk to my girlfriend about it because she was planning to go with me. I don't know if she'd be comfortable with me going to it with another woman, but I know how much Jess wants to see these people and we are just friends.

Would it be okay to ask my girlfriend if Jess could go instead? Or is that something I should avoid doing and tell Jess no? I feel bad letting down a friend, but I don't want to cause problems in my relationship.

tl;dr: My high school friend wants to go to me to a wedding (of someone we knew in high school). I was planning to take my girlfriend, would it be okay to ask her if Jess could go instead or should I avoid this all together?

Well at least he didn't charge head-long into it, but god drat dude are you loving stupid. Hopefully he does the smart thing, never mentions any of this to his GF, and goes to the wedding with said GF.

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:10

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My friend (f25) wants to go to a wedding with me (m25), but I have a girlfriend (f25)

In high school, I had a close friend Jess (f25). We hung out all the time and overall, had a good time together. We grew apart a little after college, but she recently moved back into the state to the same city I'm in. It's been nice catching up with.

I have been dating my girlfriend Lily (f25) for the past 2 years. We met in a running group, so we share a ton of common interests and we get along very well. We don't fight a lot and we were friends for a year before we started dating. She's met all my friends and family. My parents and siblings love her. Overall, it's a relationship that I see going far.

My high school friend's wedding is coming up in August. When I saw Jess last, I brought up the wedding thinking she had been invited. She had, but she turned it down before she moved back as she didn't think she would've made it. She's upset that she will miss out on seeing all her high school friends and other people she hasn't seen in years. She then asked if maybe I could take her.

I said that I would have to talk to my girlfriend about it because she was planning to go with me. I don't know if she'd be comfortable with me going to it with another woman, but I know how much Jess wants to see these people and we are just friends.

Would it be okay to ask my girlfriend if Jess could go instead? Or is that something I should avoid doing and tell Jess no? I feel bad letting down a friend, but I don't want to cause problems in my relationship.

tl;dr: My high school friend wants to go to me to a wedding (of someone we knew in high school). I was planning to take my girlfriend, would it be okay to ask her if Jess could go instead or should I avoid this all together?

I feel like this could be remedied by contacting the people getting married. Even if they have strict place-settings or whatever, I bet if they already invited her and she turned them down but can now go, they probably wouldn't mind her crashing if she let them know ahead of time. She may not get to eat or whatever, but if seeing everyone is her goal she could probably make it happen.

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:13

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

That wouldn't solve the friends problem of wanting to bone op though

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:14

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

I [23 M] decided to break up with my GF [18 F] of almost three years, due to black magic concerns

quote:

(Sorry beforehand, I had to use google translator for this)

Hello everyone. First of all I want to thank you for paying attention to my concern. I needed opinions about the decision I made, because unfortunately I am someone who judges himself too harshly. I begin by clarifying that I am 23 years old, and she is 18.

The story begins about 3 years ago, when I meet the girl who is now my ex-girlfriend. Everything began well, she was good, a little innocent and with childish attitudes (she loves minions, often sleeps between parents, or in the same room as them with her mattress, she wants to be treated as a baby many times, she had problems with Sexual issues, is too jealous, etc.) but all this did not matter to me, I accepted it as it is and none of those things were what triggered the chaos that followed.

It all started when I met her parents. At the beginning I liked them, but over time the mother began to be a bit obsessive with me: she talked to me all the time, without rest, and always the same things every time I went to the house. I stayed until late at night every time I visited my ex-girlfriend's house, sitting at a table listening to my ex-mother-in-law speak and speak and speak, and since it was 9 o'clock at night (I already had to go to my house) I told her about it but made up excuses to make me remain in there, or kept telling me to stay for dinner.

One day I stayed to sleep in that house and the next morning I had to get up early to attend a family event, a matter which I warned my ex-mother-in-law and my ex-girlfriend about so that they could open the door to me at that time so that I could leave.

When I wake up the next day they were all still sleeping, they did not care (and obviously my girlfriend was sleeping with her parents, not me, not even on the other bed in the same room ...) and not to argue I stayed there waiting for someone to wake up. I ended up falling asleep, and after several hours, they woke up to open the door, and I just left, but this event brought me serious problems with my family (who told me to impose myself, but I did not want to be impolite).

Because of multiple situations like that, I felt very stressed, and I told my girlfriend that I did not want to continue the relationship. As expected, she did not take it at all well, and the next day my ex-mother-in-law calls my house, begging me to please my ex-girlfriend to come and see me at home, because otherwise she "was going to die" ... My mother, feeling sorry for the girl (because she always liked her and treated her like a daughter), agrees and they both come to my house.

My ex-mother-in-law stayed at my house from 6 in the afternoon until 7 in the morning (even preventing my parents from having dinner), with no intention of retiring early. My mother, not to be rude too, did not say anything to her, assuming this was going to happen only once. Despite this I decided to fix the situation temporarily with my ex-girlfriend, thinking that I had exaggerated everything.

The next day the hell breaks loose: my ex-mother-in-law comes to my house, practically without asking if she could, with my ex-father-in-law. As soon as they enter my house, the man sits down and starts watching TV after grabbing the remote, as if it were his house, and to my mother says things like "I know you�re not happy", and my ex-mother tells her stories of how she (my ex-mother-in-law) has "visions" and about black magic and other mystical themes (conversation I know are true because at her home she had told me the same stories), she also indirectly told my mother that she was fat woman. I did not hear this at the time because I was in my room with my ex girlfriend, but I saw the man's attitudes and as I said before my ex-mother-in-law had told me those stories (my ex-girlfriend was present at the time).

Once I get out of the bedroom with my ex-girlfriend and go to the living room, where they were all, the woman tells my mother that "between them she saw me", as if insinuating that she wanted to take over me. Then they left again at 7 in the morning, approximately.

My mother ended up very, very frightened by this situation. Following this is that I decide to terminate the relationship with this girl, because I also ended up very scared by the issues that were talked about and angry about the way they insulted my mother in MY house and the terrible disrespect with regarding the schedule. I did not understand why they behaved like this.

Months passed, and I talked to this girl again because I felt like she is a good girl and I wanted to fix things, I wanted things to be fine and have answers because after all, I do not feel like she is the problem. We meet again, we go out together, and we decide to give ourselves another chance. That's when I talk about what happened in my house, and what she answers to that is that everything is "my point of view", clearly defending her parents and minimizing the situation ... This girl was present whenever her mother told me about these dark themes in her home. Despite that answer we gave ourselves a chance, and we went forward for two years, but my attempts to get answers about that night were in vain.

The girl started to stay less and sleep less in my house, she acted strange at certain times, and in recent times, when I told her that it was for the best that both families had a long overdue talk she told me that she "did not think about that." Obviously I had to keep going to her house, where I was having fear of her parents doing some dark magic poo poo on me, but if I did not go to her house she would not go to mine and the relationship was going to end. Her parents NEVER talked about the issue and did not even apologize or talk to my mother about it, although they know everything I said to my ex-girlfriend about them ... They never confronted me or said anything at all, and my I do not like it at all when things are not talked about.

What this caused is that I started to have anger against my ex-girlfriend, getting mad at the mundane problems that she caused and other things, and every time I felt that we were more and more apart (we were becoming accustomed, and she literally stopped coming over to sleep over at my house) because of the fights.

A few days ago I decided to terminate the relationship following an episode in which his mother, because of a supposed flu, forbade her to attend to eat a dessert at my house ... That would not have bothered me but warned me of this an hour before of the scheduled time, and it is not the first time she does something like this. I suspect she may be being influenced by her mother, but I have no concrete evidence. I told her that I no longer loved her because of all the problems we were having, and I ended the relationship. That caused her to block me from all social networks, and began her "contact 0".

I only know that I hate this woman, I hate her, I hate her husband and the cowardice of both of them for not having talked about what happened in my house and about why they insulted and frightened my mother like that. It should be noted that my mother ALWAYS treated my ex-girlfriend as a daughter. The problem always came from my ex in-laws, it was not mainly my ex-girlfriend the problem (although perfect was not because it is human, of course). I tried to build bridges to heal the wounds, look for answers and I did not get them and I knew that if I spoke directly with my ex-in-laws I would have evasive answers and I was afraid that would have consequences (besides that I would get angry when I asked them for answers , which was going to make poo poo hit the fan).

Did I do well to end the relationship? My ex-girlfriend did not give importance to what happened in my house and I did not see a future with her, because I knew that even if we lived alone ex-mother-in-law was going to be a constant presence, and from the things I lived I understand that she was never going to be a positive presence in my life although she appeared to be kind and good. The break up process only lasted about three hours for me, and then I felt strangely released, released to talk to people I love and not have to deal with more problems, but my ex-girlfriend gives me a lot of pain because she is very childish and I know she's going to have trouble walking alone in life. Many will take advantage of her immaturity, and she will suffer a lot, and I do not like to make people who were good with me, and not the root of my problems, suffer.

I feel good right now, feeling like I was taking a load off, but at the same time I feel guilty because I know that my ex-girlfriend must be feeling very bad and I really do not want her to suffer in any way. But I know I could not change her mother, nor was she going to rebel against her (she's very close to her mother). I feel that it went beyond what I could do. I feel that all this was because of a wound that was left open, and was never healed.

Sorry for the length, and this is the short version of the matter. Thank you very much for your comments and attention.

tl;dr: GF's parents came to my house and called my mother "fat" and literally acted like the house was their own for NO reason, and scared the hell out of my own mother. Could never get answers as to why that happened, nor ever got an apology because of that incident. This open wound made me irritable and to not want a future with my ex girlfriend, because her mother would be on top of us all the time (not literally, of course). Fights got worse, I got stressed out and got tired and broke up. Now I feel guilty because I don't want her to suffer, because she's a good girl but she depends too much on her mother. Should I stop feeling guilty about her? She's childish, and I'm afraid she will suffer a lot without me.

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:17

Jeffrey of YOSPOS: Dec 22, 2005; GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS

MF_James posted:

Well at least he didn't charge head-long into it, but god drat dude are you loving stupid. Hopefully he does the smart thing, never mentions any of this to his GF, and goes to the wedding with said GF.

I can see this both ways - have you never gone to a wedding with a friend, just for fun? Like, if it was a guy friend, it would be a win-win - the girlfriend gets to avoid a wedding full of his high school friends that she doesn't give a poo poo about and the other person gets to catch up after a long time gone.

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:17

WampaLord: Jan 14, 2010

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I can see this both ways - have you never gone to a wedding with a friend, just for fun? Like, if it was a guy friend, it would be a win-win - the girlfriend gets to avoid a wedding full of his high school friends that she doesn't give a poo poo about and the other person gets to catch up after a long time gone.

You do not go to a wedding with another date if you're already dating someone. This is one of the firmest unwritten rules I can think of.

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:18

Haifisch: Nov 13, 2010; Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!; Taco Defender

This dude is slowly pupating into a beautiful deadbeat dad:

My mom [40sF] hasn't spoken to me since she found out I got her best friend's daughter [24F] pregnant [24M] because she thinks I'm abusing the daughter. I'm just wondering if I messed up as badly as she thinks.

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From her perspective, I can see how it would be weird. She probably thinks of us as siblings since we grew up together, but the fact is that we're not and my relationship with Amanda was never like that. Since we hit puberty there has always been a mutual attraction. We even had sex a few times in high school and one or two times during college. Obviously my mom is not aware of this, or if she is aware, she never said anything. The point is I don't see this as a weird situation from my perspective.

That said, for most of the past year, Amanda and I have been having sex. We're not really in a relationship. We have done some couplish activities, but mostly things have been very casual. Now Amanda is (2.5 months) pregnant and has decided to keep the baby. I'm mostly fine with that, but I don't have any plans to change the dynamic of our relationship, which I think it part of the reason my mom is so upset. Amanda is okay with that plan, and things are fine between us. It's only my mom that seems to be struggling with the situation.

We told our parents a few weeks ago about the pregnancy, and my mom hasn't really spoken to me since then other than to tell me that she was disappointed in me for the way I treated Amanda. She seems to think I'm taking advantage of her in some way and not supporting her during her pregnancy even though I don't see it. I do what I can, but I have a lot going on in my life right now. She also was upset because she told me that I was inconsiderate for initiating things with Amanda given that I wasn't serious about her and the fact that she was the daughter of her closest friend.

I haven't done much so far to reach out to my mom. I really don't think I did anything wrong. All of the things I've done are things Amanda agree to do. I never forced her to accept anything. I also don't feel like it's fair for my mom to take issue with me having sex with her friend's daughter. I just really don't see how it's any of her business. Amanda is a big girl that can make her own decisions. It would be different if we were still teens, but we're both adults.

I'm tempted to just ignore my mom until she gets this out of her system. I feel like she'll calm down eventually, but then part of me worries that if I also go silent it could turn into a larger issue.

Am I right for thinking my mom is overreacting? Should I just ignore her until she calms down, or do I need to make some sort of effort to fix whatever it is she thinks I've done wrong?

tl;dr: Got the daughter of my mom's friend pregnant. My mom is mad because I knocked the daughter up but also because she thinks I'm abusing the daughter by refusing to commit and ignoring her pregnancy. I disagree. Tempted to ignore my mom until she comes to her senses, but I worry that it might do more damage if I let things go on this way.

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We live together for the most part but have separate places. I meant we need to figure out if it makes sense to consolidate places or keep things as they are.

Amanda would probably be happy as FWB as long as it meant we stayed together but realistically I think that would be a bad dynamic given that we're going to have a child soon. I think it would be healthier to either break up or move towards something more normal, and I'd rather become a couple than leave her.

"I'll become a couple with her, I guess. I still have no idea why my mom is yelling so much about this, though. It's just a baby, it's not that big of a deal. Just take it as it comes."

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:19

Zil: Jun 4, 2011; Satanically Summoned Citrus

fruit on the bottom posted:

If there's one day that my future wife is not allowed to cuck me on it's our wedding day

How do you feel about while on honeymoon?

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:22

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

I'm a 38 year old goon and there's a 22 year old fairly hot girl that goes to the same bar as me on Friday and I think she's DTF. On a score of 1 to Woody Allen, where would I fall if I did this?

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:22

MF_James: May 8, 2008; I CANNOT HANDLE BEING CALLED OUT ON MY DUMBASS OPINIONS ABOUT ANTI-VIRUS AND SECURITY. I REALLY LIKE TO THINK THAT I KNOW THINGS HERE

INSTEAD I AM GOING TO WHINE ABOUT IT IN OTHER THREADS SO MY OPINION CAN FEEL VALIDATED IN AN ECHO CHAMBER I LIKE

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I can see this both ways - have you never gone to a wedding with a friend, just for fun? Like, if it was a guy friend, it would be a win-win - the girlfriend gets to avoid a wedding full of his high school friends that she doesn't give a poo poo about and the other person gets to catch up after a long time gone.

WampaLord posted:

You do not go to a wedding with another date if you're already dating someone. This is one of the firmest unwritten rules I can think of.

Yeah this, you do NOT bring another woman to a wedding, it's just bad.

Also, weddings bring out the sex.

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:23

Jeffrey of YOSPOS: Dec 22, 2005; GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS

Haha that black magic story is something else. I'm confused at all parties. He missed a family event because there was no one awake and he didn't want to wake someone up so they could open the door? I get not wanting to wake someone up....but usually the door to the house isn't locked from the insider, couldn't he just leave? If he couldn't just leave, it's justified completely to wake someone up, I'm so confused.

WampaLord posted:

You do not go to a wedding with another date if you're already dating someone. This is one of the firmest unwritten rules I can think of.

I hope one day an SO spares me a wedding I don't give a poo poo about by going with someone else who does. :shrug:

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# ? Jun 5, 2024 15:48

Blue Train: Jun 17, 2012

new phone who dis posted:

I'm a 38 year old goon and there's a 22 year old fairly hot girl that goes to the same bar as me on Friday and I think she's DTF. On a score of 1 to Woody Allen, where would I fall if I did this?

beat it up

# ? Jul 13, 2017 00:23

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