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Anne Whateley posted:Has the friend met the boyfriend, because she might wanna do some digging there. For a few years when I was single, I knew an entire circle of friends where the women would brag about how wonderful and healthy their relationships were and how loyal their boyfriends were, and then when they went to go get something, the boyfriends would grab my rear end. Those relationships were trash and it was real hard to fake enthusiasm when the girlfriends were talking about how Tim is The One. Maybe you could have told them that their boyfriends were creeps so they didn't ruin their lives?
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Clark Nova posted:Hahaha he is definitely, definitely misinterpreting everything. The blithering idiot is going to tank his marriage because some poor coworker or acquaintance expressed mild sympathy while he was kvetching. This is how nearly all of the open relationship self-owns get started (for men, at least). the one in the E/N anonymous confessions thread is my favorite open relationships story: quote:I am 33 and I made this has been the worst year of my life. can you believe this bitch? she was just a nice lesbian! can you believe it??? ugh, women, am I right fellas? 
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Dawncloack posted:"Yeah so, my daughter is some magical being shaped like a small child, let's see about marrying her to your small child and make a big deal out of it, how's that?" They didn't really get married though? I love Ponyo. I think it's charming and adorable. I think that mom should get a big set of Miyazaki movies for her daughter.
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Oct 10, 2017 15:42
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Dawncloack posted:"Yeah so, my daughter is some magical being shaped like a small child, let's see about marrying her to your small child and make a big deal out of it, how's that?" For the reason you mentioned and because she was a fish with hair. Lily Tomlin's character freaks out because ponyo has a human face, but nothing is said about her hair.
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Ouhei posted:Maybe you could have told them that their boyfriends were creeps so they didn't ruin their lives?
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[quote="“Mirthless”" post="“477240177”"] the one in the E/N anonymous confessions thread is my favorite open relationships story: can you believe this bitch? she was just a nice lesbian! can you believe it??? ugh, women, am I right fellas? [/quote] And for women, the self-own is usually floating the idea and getting dumped immediately and completely for it. I like the story where OP foisted that on her ~perfect fiancé~ who then packed up and left mid-conversation, blocked her everywhere, and told all their mutual friends, some of whom came around to collect his stuff. I'm friends with a couple I just found out are going through the one-sided open relationship scenario right now. The guy didn't take the Pete option, and I'm not looking forward to watching his life and self-respect implode in slow motion. 
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Bored posted:For the reason you mentioned and because she was a fish with hair. Lily Tomlin's character freaks out because ponyo has a human face, but nothing is said about her hair.
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mirthless posted:the one in the E/N anonymous confessions thread is my favorite open relationships story: Like a fine wine, every time
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tactlessbastard posted:Like a fine wine, every time  it gets better every time i read it
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The Die Hard of open relationship stories. Any time it's posted I'll read it.
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TheScott2K posted:The Die Hard of open relationship stories. Any time it's posted I'll read it. It's pretty much the best self own in the history of the internet.
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Gosh lady, grow a spine. Babysitting exchange arrangement with my coworker's [26m] wife [22f] isn't working out for me [35f]. How do I politely end it without offending over the reasons why? quote:u/peer3peer
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I can't believe that for the second time in a week we've found someone too 'polite' to say no to indentured servitude
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Her kids are really spinelessly polite too. My siblings and I would have bitched up a storm if we kept getting sent to a labor camp instead of daycare.
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Oct 10, 2017 17:43
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My [26F] boyfriend [30M] lost his temper and got aggressive during a fight. Not sure what to do.quote:In hindsight, this whole situations sounds really, really childish, but I'd rather get laughed at here and at least get advice. That... turned really dark really fast. Thankfully everybody in the comments is screaming at her to get the gently caress out of there and tell her father/friends.
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quote:My co-worker continuously expresses his appreciation for the arrangement e: LadyPictureShow posted:My [26F] boyfriend [30M] lost his temper and got aggressive during a fight. Not sure what to do. I [26F] broke up with my boyfriend [30M] of 5 years. Unsure about everything, and feeling insecure quote:I posted last night ish about a fight I had with my boyfriend. I ended up going to my dad's place to spend the night, and shortly after I posted about it here my dad got me to talk about what happened. Long story short, we agreed that I shouldn't be with my boyfriend anymore, because even if the fight never happened the way he was treating me wasn't normal in a relationship (like I've never seen my dad act that way to my mom, so idk why I just thought everything was fine until now). Haifisch fucked around with this message at 17:52 on Oct 10, 2017 |
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To be fair, the main behavior she freaked out on isn't even close to the main red flag. Dude had a temper tantrum and broke all his toys. I honestly expected to read that he came out of his room with just the gun and started waving it around, but if he just took the closed case and all his other poo poo and threw it out, I don't think that's super different than a fat nerd having a poo poo fit and throwing his entire anime figurine collection down the trash chute. "short temper and acting like a child" is one thing, but not a dealbreaker, IMO. The abrupt about-face on the dog is lovely, too. But the real red flags are poo poo like: quote:I made up an excuse to go see my dad, which he said I could do. Then I had to make another excuse to both my boyfriend and my dad to stay over, because boyfriend doesn't really let me sleep over somewhere else Don't get me wrong, the poo poo fit he threw was immature and lovely, but a short temper can be worked on. The real  is poo poo like having to make excuses and ask permission to leave the house and stay over at her parents. That's some pretty scuzzy behavior.
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Oct 10, 2017 18:09
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Kelp Me! posted:To be fair, the main behavior she freaked out on isn't even close to the main red flag. Dude had a temper tantrum and broke all his toys. I honestly expected to read that he came out of his room with just the gun and started waving it around, but if he just took the closed case and all his other poo poo and threw it out, I don't think that's super different than a fat nerd having a poo poo fit and throwing his entire anime figurine collection down the trash chute. "short temper and acting like a child" is one thing, but not a dealbreaker, IMO. quote:This got him really angry and out of nowhere he started yelling at me, telling me that I was trying to manipulate him and that I needed to stop faking it before he started to really want to hurt me That's a dealbreaker imo, blaming other people for violent outbursts or threats of violence is like textbook abuser
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Oct 10, 2017 18:16
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Kelp Me! posted:To be fair, the main behavior she freaked out on isn't even close to the main red flag. Dude had a temper tantrum and broke all his toys. I honestly expected to read that he came out of his room with just the gun and started waving it around, but if he just took the closed case and all his other poo poo and threw it out, I don't think that's super different than a fat nerd having a poo poo fit and throwing his entire anime figurine collection down the trash chute. "short temper and acting like a child" is one thing, but not a dealbreaker, IMO someone who is willing to freak out and break their expensive toys is also willing to freak out and break a person eventually. i agree with you the other stuff is bad too but this guy is controlling enough to see the op as "his property"
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Oct 10, 2017 18:18
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LadyPictureShow posted:My [26F] boyfriend [30M] lost his temper and got aggressive during a fight. Not sure what to do. he might have said no to the dog because of landlord/rent issues, sometimes you get strict no pets policies or it costs like $600 in deposits but, uh, holy poo poo what a loving baby, definitely get out. that's crazy.
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Draxion posted:That's a dealbreaker imo, blaming other people for violent outbursts or threats of violence is like textbook abuser that's true I was gonna mention that too boner confessor posted:someone who is willing to freak out and break their expensive toys is also willing to freak out and break a person eventually. i agree with you the other stuff is bad too but this guy is controlling enough to see the op as "his property" eh, I mean literally dumping a couple grand's worth of stuff is bad, but breaking stuff in a tantrum is more of an immaturity thing than an abusive thing. I'd never smash one of my guitars but I've definitely done dumb poo poo like spiking a controller or whatever because I've got a short temper and apparently poor impulse control. For sure it's a different story with a dude who apparently doesn't allow the OP to leave the house without permission, though!
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I [25F] sent my bf [25M] a goodbye message and blocked him after he added his ex back on facebook. People are telling me I'm being cruel and unfair.quote:Hi Reddit. It would be nice if I could get some advice and see if my actions were justified.
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He purposely put the BB gun in the case before dumping it down the waste chute, pretty sure he was planning to fish it out later. It's like that scene from the alcoholism episode of Strangers with Candy. When the mom gets called out on her alcoholism she compromises by pouring orange juice down the sink and saying she'll get rid of all of her mixers.
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Inescapable Duck posted:It sounds super fake. Starting with someone who likes that anime having a functional marriage and child. I have been sending this to my married lady coolest buddy cause I like to give her poo poo for watching anime and this is so much more ammo for me. She's not a pedo anime watcher though, she's more Castlevania on netflix was good anime watcher. Much as all anime is trash some of it is plain garbage while this poo poo this woman's husband is watching with their kid is loving nuclear waste. tl;dr  PS She immediately went "WTF? why is that (letting your 12 yo dress sexy) even a discussion??" followed by "yep creeper husband" lol. All she needed was a 3 line summery.
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Kelp Me! posted:eh, I mean literally dumping a couple grand's worth of stuff is bad, but breaking stuff in a tantrum is more of an immaturity thing than an abusive thing. I'd never smash one of my guitars but I've definitely done dumb poo poo like spiking a controller or whatever because I've got a short temper and apparently poor impulse control. For sure it's a different story with a dude who apparently doesn't allow the OP to leave the house without permission, though! In the general case, sure, but the whole thing is basically textbook abuse pattern. He wasn't throwing the gun out because he was frustrated, he was throwing it out to punish her. -You want something? OK, you can have a limited version of your thing, with restrictions -Also, I get to have my own thing in return, which is specifically a phobia trigger for you -Also, even though I already got my thing and you did all the footwork to satisfy my demands, you don't get your thing and never will -If you object to me going back on our deal to get everything I want without giving you anything, it's your fault and you deserve to feel bad
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fruit on the bottom posted:I [25F] sent my bf [25M] a goodbye message and blocked him after he added his ex back on facebook. People are telling me I'm being cruel and unfair. 1. Break up before you go to college you idiot, neither of you should be on the hook for six years 2. Why is anybody in that thread taking her side in this?
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from the description it wasn't a bb gun like a child's daisy red ryder or something but more like some tactical nerd airsoft gun which can run hundreds of dollars + hundreds more if he gets all the stupid clothes and belts and accessories lol
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boner confessor posted:from the description it wasn't a bb gun like a child's daisy red ryder or something but more like some tactical nerd airsoft gun which can run hundreds of dollars + hundreds more if he gets all the stupid clothes and belts and accessories lol i like that he apparently bought a gun safe for his gun that shoots plastic pellets
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Mirthless posted:i like that he apparently bought a gun safe for his gun that shoots plastic pellets not a terrible idea on a practical level, these guns are designed to look exactly like the real thing also it's necessary to maintain the fantasy of being a totally cool special forces operator
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LadyPictureShow posted:My [26F] boyfriend [30M] lost his temper and got aggressive during a fight. Not sure what to do. hmmmm nope there's no explanation for somebody who grew up with columbine and every other mass shooting every few days for the last twenty years being afraid of murder tools  i wonder what it could be hmmmmm
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boner confessor posted:from the description it wasn't a bb gun like a child's daisy red ryder or something but more like some tactical nerd airsoft gun which can run hundreds of dollars + hundreds more if he gets all the stupid clothes and belts and accessories lol I'm not really up on airsofts or whatever kind of 'realistic looking BB Gun' she's referring to, but those can do some damage or at least ding you up pretty good if you're hit point-blank/close quarters with a pellet from it, yeah? Even if it would only hurt as much as, say, a paintball gun hit, I can understand someone with a phobia of guns wanting her clearly abusive BF to lock it up, even if only for peace of mind. I'd imagine if she stuck around/got the dog it would only be a matter of time before he starts waving it around and taking potshots at her or the dog with BB pellets for minor misdeeds.
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Don't understand divorce situations where the exes are genuinely friendsquote:When I see a couple of people that used to be married and are now close friends I find it a little bit offensive. I'm not talking about people that are civil or amicable for the kids, but people who genuinely are friendly and hang out 1:1.
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chemtrail huffer posted:Don't understand divorce situations where the exes are genuinely friends I mean they sort of have a point in that people are p prone to nuking relationships rather than trying to soldier on but on a case by case basis it's not like the OP has intimate knowledge of why they broke up. Lot of reasons to end a relationship that don't necessarily boil down to hating each other as a person. Kinda wonder what the OP wants people to tell them or why they personally take it as an insult. Are they in a loveless relationship because "till death do is part" or what.
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Do I [22 F] have the right to be angry with my boyfriends [28 M] parents?quote:We've been dating for almost 2 years now, and long story short his parents still keep in touch with and were liking all of his ex's posts on social media and commenting things like "Oh wow", "You look gorgeous" etc...
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fruit on the bottom posted:Do I [22 F] have the right to be angry with my boyfriends [28 M] parents? Even setting aside that the parents obviously liked the ex more it's kinda weird that the dad's liking her bikini pics. "Hey girl that used to bang my son, lookin fine".
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fruit on the bottom posted:Do I [22 F] have the right to be angry with my boyfriends [28 M] parents? i wish my boyfriend's dad was jacking off to my bikini pics instead ;_;
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Mirthless posted:i like that he apparently bought a gun safe for his gun that shoots plastic pellets It doesn't apply to that dude because he's a shitstain. But a normal person who really really wanted an airsoft gun but had a girlfriend terrified of guns might conceivably buy a gun safe as an extra form of reassurance for her?
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chemtrail huffer posted:Don't understand divorce situations where the exes are genuinely friends  i wish we had the context for this, sometimes posters post exactly enough to get your imagination running but not enough to reach any kind of satisfying conclusion jealous their partner is still friends with their ex maybe?
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chemtrail huffer posted:Don't understand divorce situations where the exes are genuinely friends The OP is dumb for other reasons but that doesn't mean it's not sorta weird to still be intertwined to that extent with an ex, friends sure but several phonecalls a week/spending holidays together is a bit past that.
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