Smirking_Serpent posted:

speaking of not graduating high school...

My [22M] GF [20F] just started her third attempt at finishing high school, but after two weeks she has yet to go. Do I tell her if she fails again it's over to motivate her, or let her find out the hard way?

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edit it's a bit late to include but she did have a crying breakdown last month about how she feels like a failure.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

speaking of not graduating high school...

My [22M] GF [20F] just started her third attempt at finishing high school, but after two weeks she has yet to go. Do I tell her if she fails again it's over to motivate her, or let her find out the hard way?


edit it's a bit late to include but she did have a crying breakdown last month about how she feels like a failure.

BOOTY-ADE posted:

Hmmm, let's parse that story again and see what we find:


Well that's forgivable...but then:


So there's one piece of missing info, aka "not communicating like a goddamn adult"


He's willing to move his plans to the weekend so she/they can go out to dinner with her mother, fair enough. Now here's the fun part you probably missed or just skimmed over:


Real winner there in the adult maturity and communication department - he's willing to compromise, she won't budge, tells him the birthday won't matter by the weekend...and it's somehow HIS fault?


Yeah, she can take her bullshit somewhere else honestly - the plans for oral/massage/flowers/etc. really has no bearing on the situation at all. She's being a petty bitch and sounds like a manipulator IMHO.

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This isn't a new occurrence. When I was in high school my brothers had me edit and sometimes write their university papers. I didn't want to, but my parents convinced me to "help out the family" and "stop being selfish," so I did it (Asian guilt). They eventually started writing papers on their own, only emailing me occasionally to summarise and edit articles for them.

Recently however, my eldest brother decided to take advance Japanese classes in order to impress his associate. He's took Japanese for a year when he was 14, right now he can barely read script. I have taken Japanese for the last 5 years and am good at it, but nowhere near fluent. He asked me to tutor him Japanese over Skype, which I'm more than willing to do. Unexpectedly though, the lessons haven't consisted of me teaching him.

He gives me his coursework, and I go through it before the lesson. Because it's advanced, I spend a couple of hours researching to make sure I have it right. Then we read through it together, and I teach him the sentence structures through Skype. At the end there are some questions he has to answer in his actual Japanese class.

In the first Skype session, I told him that he could write it the answers himself, and I would correct his mistakes. He said that he wasn't fluent enough, so we went through it together. I let him know then that this stuff was too hard since he was just beginning and that he should switch to an easier class. He said that he would ask the teacher about it (then he never mentioned it again for the weeks to come). The lessons gradually became less of us doing it together, and more of me doing all the work for him. He gives me what he wants to say in his class in English, and basically expects me to write a script for him, which I then help him memorise before class. He hasn't learnt anything at all, like the first week he can barely read the script.

Today when we were going through the questions I told him firmly that he should write it himself and could email it to me so we can go through it together, and he can actually learn. Even if what he writes is bad, actually forming sentences together himself will help him. He started making up a bunch of excuses about how this was beneficial for me, and how he doesn't have the time since he's a medical student.

I told him that the classes aren't for me, they're for HIM, and if he didn't have time, he shouldn't have signed up for the classes. He blew up at me and basically told me his time was more valuable than mine since I'm in the summer holidays. This is true, but I'm studying overseas like him, and want to spend as much time as possible with my friends before I leave (I'm going half the world away, and since flights are expensive, I won't or will rarely see them). Also, if I keep helping him like this, did he expect this to continue even when I had to start university?

Preparing the classes, writing the script for him, and going through it takes hours of my days away. That doesn't really matter though, it's the feeling of being completely used since I'm once again covering for his rear end. He got really angry with me when I insisted that he answered the questions himself, even when I said that I can help him go over any mistakes or areas he couldn't understand. He then said he was quitting the class, blamed me for not helping him, and hang up.

I feel really guilty. I hate confrontation so it's usually very difficult for me to say no. This was a few hours ago, and just now he sent me a message saying "I quit the classes, but thanks anyway." Hard to tell if he's being sarcastic or sincere over text, either way I feel terrible now.

Did I make the right choice? Is there some compromise I haven't thought of? How should I respond? I don't want this to ruin our relationship.

tl:dr my brother took up an advanced Japanese class, I've been doing the work for him, finally told him to write it himself (with my help afterwards), he's quit and blames me.

Haifisch posted:

I [18F] had an argument with my brother [27M] about me doing his class work for him, may have ruined our relationship.

Japanese classes ruin lives.

Bogus Adventure posted:

More like she has poo poo brothers.

OP posted:

My dad and I never had much of a relationship, we live apart and I only see him once a year so it's uncomfortable between us. Anyway, it turned out my dad had been cheating on my mum for 16 years. After a very lengthy split, my mum told me specifically that she didn't plan on contacting my brothers and I. During the split she kept trying to get us to ask my dad to "ditch the other girl" which he wouldn't do because he loves her. He wants both the other girl and my mum, as well as that he has a son with her so contact couldn't be split even if he wanted it. My mum blames us for not helping her, and plans on living very far so we have limited contact.

NO gently caress YOU DAD posted:

If your girl wants to make beer money by selling her turds, who cares? Do you want her turds? So long as she's smart and only ever does the "drop" in a public place with lots of witnesses, fine. Manipulating perverts pays better than McDonald's.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:

My boyfriend is obsessed with watching couple pranks on youtube and loves to recreate some

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My [19F] boyfriend [20M] of three years cut my hair in my sleep as a “prank”

Okay, so a little backstory. My boyfriend is obsessed with watching couple pranks on youtube and loves to recreate some. Here are some of the “pranks” he has pulled on me in the last few months.

He’s locked the bathroom door in our apartment so I couldn’t go in (this lasted for hours until I found the key to unlock it)

He’s pretended that his car broke down so I drove two hours to pick him up.

He’s switched out our nondairy milk for dairy although I’m lactose intolerant.

And now, he’s cut 4 inches of my hair off in my sleep. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to immediately break up with him, I want to work through this, but I don’t know how. I don’t know how to convince him that most youtube pranks are fake, and he’s taking these very real, and too far.

TL;DR: my boyfriend is obsessed with youtube pranks and is taking them too far.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My [19F] boyfriend [20M] of three years cut my hair in my sleep as a “prank”

Okay, so a little backstory. My boyfriend is obsessed with watching couple pranks on youtube and loves to recreate some. Here are some of the “pranks” he has pulled on me in the last few months.

He’s locked the bathroom door in our apartment so I couldn’t go in (this lasted for hours until I found the key to unlock it)

He’s pretended that his car broke down so I drove two hours to pick him up.

He’s switched out our nondairy milk for dairy although I’m lactose intolerant.

And now, he’s cut 4 inches of my hair off in my sleep. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to immediately break up with him, I want to work through this, but I don’t know how. I don’t know how to convince him that most youtube pranks are fake, and he’s taking these very real, and too far.

TL;DR: my boyfriend is obsessed with youtube pranks and is taking them too far.

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Me and Andy have been together 4 years

He still lives with his parents and I live on my own now. We live relatively close to each other and it is ok.

Even if he theoretically lives with his parents, around 5-6 days/week every week he stays at my place. I have nothing against it, I even invited him.

I cook for both everyday and I give him even food for work. He comes home around 6 pm very tired and here comes the problem.

He basically started to do NOTHING in the house unless I beg him and he does it being moody telling me I always work 'at night' (aka after 6-7 pm) but this is only because that's when we come home and I do house work. I also went under a surgery and i am physically limited. Can't lift any weights and can't do a lot of things - like carrying loundry, taking trash out (we have to walk a bit - the big trashcan is a bit far)

However I still do this and I put my health at risk again. He gets mad when he sees me doing work because he tells me to just ask him. But I got tired to ask him and only hear complaints, see moody faces and a bad tantrum. It is exhausting for me.

It's been weeks since he did anything at my place. Today I had some cosmetic appointment but i canceled everything to make his meal for when he comes home. Yesterday at midnight Right after shower I spent 1 hour in the kitchen cooking for him to give him lunch at work

I love to take care of him even though he doesn't ask but this way we both save money and eat healthy.

However today after we ate I asked him to take out the trash before we left (we went at some friends)

Again the usual moody atitude commenting and bluffing that gets me exhausted. After that he said ' why don't you take out the trash in smaller packages so that you can carry it? '

I told him angry that he hasn't done anything in this house for weeks

He just yelled ' I AM NOT YOUR loving MAID '

I felt really like poo poo and heartbroken

Even if he apologized I still feel like poo poo. HE SAID HE DIDN't mean this but he is tired of doing my housework.I never put him pay rent, buy groceries, pay utilities. I pay everything and i don't expect anything until we fully move together (even though we kinda stay togeher). But I felt like poo poo hearing this just for asking him take out the trash

I started to cry and he told me to 'stop this poo poo and hurry up because we are late '.

He then apologized in the car many times but I know he ment what he said deep down.

I feel really really sad... he helped me in my recovery but I always wanted to hire a maid and he refused categorically saying he can do this (he only used the vaccum cleaner and washed the floors. It's a tiny space).

I'm crying alone in my car and I feel like poo poo

Tl;dr: bf refused to help me clean the house. He mostly stays at my place but not 'officially'. I cn't do much physycal work because of a surgery recovery. he got mad cuz i asked him to take out trash. The most details are in the text above

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Every prank post is so absurdly stupid I want to yell. I feel like I could be a prank counselor at this point - if you're gonna pull that obnoxious poo poo at least be a unified front and focus your pranks on the rest of the world. I thought everyone on okcupid wanted a "partner in crime" not a "crime victim".

Haifisch posted:

Boyfriend [23m] had a horrible reaction towards me over a small thing I asked... now i'm crying and i feel heartbroken

Boyfriend useless lump, so what.

Al Borland Corp. posted:

Could just be a non native speaker thing, "the big trashcan" being more or less a direct translation of whatever they call it there.

ArbitraryC posted:

setting everything else aside "the big trashcan". Does a 20 something really not know the word dumpster? It would be applicable here because it's where the boyfriend belongs too.

ArbitraryC posted:

I understand this is gonna sound incredibly racist but when I ask for the background on half the words my girlfriend teaches me in mandarin and they have explanations that sound like a toddler put two simple words together to describe a more complex thing it never gets old.

Like a descriptive language is obviously very practical but I can't help but notice how juvenile the direct translations sound.

AnoHito posted:

That's also like most languages. English is just weird because it got corrupted by Latin.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

speaking of not graduating high school...

My [22M] GF [20F] just started her third attempt at finishing high school, but after two weeks she has yet to go. Do I tell her if she fails again it's over to motivate her, or let her find out the hard way?

quote:

I don't even have bizarre fetishes, just vanilla cowgirl stuff. Almost immediately following orgasm, I can feel these sort of etheric clots, usually in my limbs. Heavy and foggy, like a dark veil. It's not just that, but foreign thoughts are injected into my mind. If I surrender, the flow won't stop and soon my entire body and mind could become engulfed by that dense haze. In the worst of situations, I can feel something expand under my skin and just take control. Effortlessly if I surrender. I'll be watching my hands perform increasingly intense and bizarre symbols and gestures, and have no input in the matter. Then it'll force me to masturbate even more, feeding it so that it's influence grows larger and control tightens.


Excorcism through exercise and listening to Bulgarian folk choir helps so, so much.
One recent thing that tripped me out, was towards the climax of masturbation, an image of an angel woman entered my mind. Beautiful beyond belief, clear as day, volumltious, blonde hair, bouncing ontop of me. The orgasm felt cosmic, but then I saw that ** I EJACULATED BLOOD**. Like, what the gently caress? The face of true evil is beautiful, deceptively beautiful

quote:

...As it was riding me, I had the sudden thought, what if the hag reflected in my cat's eyes is the very thing that I'm having sex with right now? ...

Nckdictator posted:

https://www.reddit.com/r/occult/comments/7ul6fe/orgasms_andor_sexual_thoughts_feed_an_entity/

Not quoting either of the full posts


That’s not healthy

https://www.reddit.com/r/occult/comments/7ul6fe/orgasms_andor_sexual_thoughts_feed_an_entity/dtoa99v/




(Also, this thread really needs a index or table of contents, it sucks trying to find funny older posts)

quote:

listening to Bulgarian folk choir helps so, so much.

therobit posted:

So we are down to making fun of people with schizophrenia now?

Nckdictator posted:

therobit posted:

So we are down to making fun of people with schizophrenia now?

redditor posted:

First, if you ejaculate blood, you need to see a doctor, preferably an urologist as soon as possible. Get it checked out.

Second, you might want to consider the option that you are denying part of yourself and that has formed in to a shadow self, as described by C.G. Jung. Maybe reading his work and finding a therapist who does Jungian psychoanalysis would be a helpful place to start. I would also recommend voice dialogue method and the book "Embracing Ourselves".

Thirdly, you might want to check out the concept of "sexual transmutation" as described by Napoleon Hill in his book Think and Grow Rich. Here's a primer http://www.proctorgallagherinstitute.com/15287/demystifying-sex-transmutation

Otherwise, it's the usual occult recommendation of daily meditation, banishing, grounding and centering.

I hope you will get better soon!

Al Borland Corp. posted:

The first "prank" your boyfriend or anyone else pulls on you you tell them they can have one more chance and if they ever try to pull this poo poo again they're gone. IF the prank is mild.

Nckdictator posted:

https://www.reddit.com/r/occult/comments/7ul6fe/orgasms_andor_sexual_thoughts_feed_an_entity/

Not quoting either of the full posts


That’s not healthy

https://www.reddit.com/r/occult/comments/7ul6fe/orgasms_andor_sexual_thoughts_feed_an_entity/dtoa99v/




(Also, this thread really needs a index or table of contents, it sucks trying to find funny older posts)

mllaneza posted:

/r/relationships: Excorcism and listening to Bulgarian folk choir helps so, so much.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I originally envisioned this as like, a best of thread, but the tap ran out and the thread is thirsty. I kinda feel like some really good old ones should be reposted at least. If someone wants to compile a list of links to them that'd be cool and I could link it or put it in the OP.