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Galaxy Brain: Dec 13, 2017; by Lowtax

Heavy neutrino posted:

Is this in the US? I have to assume it is; where else would a wopping 1.2 paid vacation weeks a year be seen as amazing?

Oh yeah and also she should start taking 52 weeks per year of vacation from her idiot boyfriend.

Yes, in the US it's most common to have zero paid vacation, and second most common to have a career max of two weeks per year, non-accumulative. I have a pretty sweet job and I still felt a tinge of jealousy at her post. I don't think I've taken six weeks of vacation, paid or unpaid, total in my entire working life.

My current job surprised with a week of vacation for everybody between Christmas and New Year's, which we found out in January was in lieu of bonuses.

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Bobby Digital: Sep 4, 2009

rear end cobra posted:

My (20F) boyfriend (20M) of three weeks deleted the majority of my old photos.

delete him by

Why the gently caress was he able to get into her Dropbox?

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:11

Galaxy Brain: Dec 13, 2017; by Lowtax

gently caress, buried in the comments: Hoarder guy's even worse than I thought

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:12

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Galaxy Brain posted:

gently caress, buried in the comments: Hoarder guy's even worse than I thought

Good news is that she's only responsible for four! :v:

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:13

13Pandora13: Nov 5, 2008; I've got tiiits that swingle dangle dingle

Bobby Digital posted:

Why the gently caress was he able to get into her Dropbox?

Because she made the mistake of trusting him with passwords/a logged in browser

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:13

almightyerin: Apr 16, 2007; The one the only. Accept no substitutes.

I'd happily pay $200/mo for cable/high speed internet at this point. Cable doesn't come to this neck of the woods and probably never will unless some things change. You can't even get the higher tier speed DSL down here.

gently caress you Comcast.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:23

Ham Sandwiches: Jul 7, 2000

You could try moving where civilizations exist and have infrastructure / services, or you can stay in your hut and complain about how bad it is I guess

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:24

The Ferret King: Nov 23, 2003; cluck cluck

Ham Sandwiches posted:

You could try moving where civilizations exist and have infrastructure / services, or you can stay in your hut and complain about how bad it is I guess

Ham Sandwiches taking a stand ladies and gentlemen.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:28

Ham Sandwiches: Jul 7, 2000

The Ferret King posted:

Ham Sandwiches taking a stand ladies and gentlemen.

I genuinely hope that person is able to resolve their Internet Dilemma in way that works for them, and wish them the best

look you see a lot of brutal poo poo here in the relationships thread.. it's always rough when it's happening to a goon

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:29

Batterypowered7: Aug 8, 2009; The mist that chills you keeps me warm.

Galaxy Brain posted:

Yes, in the US it's most common to have zero paid vacation, and second most common to have a career max of two weeks per year, non-accumulative. I have a pretty sweet job and I still felt a tinge of jealousy at her post. I don't think I've taken six weeks of vacation, paid or unpaid, total in my entire working life.

My current job surprised with a week of vacation for everybody between Christmas and New Year's, which we found out in January was in lieu of bonuses.

I've only been at my job for two years now, I work in the US, and I get four weeks of paid vacation at the start of the year to be used whenever I please, and I get Christmas week off (paid) on top of that. Hell, even at my old job renting apartments, we accrued 10 hours of PTO a month. Where the hell do you work?

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:40

The Ferret King: Nov 23, 2003; cluck cluck

Batterypowered7 posted:

Where the hell do you work?

"Because I get these benefits, everyone else does too."

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:44

Gumbel2Gumbel: Apr 28, 2010

Batterypowered7 posted:

I've only been at my job for two years now, I work in the US, and I get four weeks of paid vacation at the start of the year to be used whenever I please, and I get Christmas week off (paid) on top of that. Hell, even at my old job renting apartments, we accrued 10 hours of PTO a month. Where the hell do you work?

I was offered 1 week of vacation and 1 week sick time at my new job. I "negotiated" up to 2 vacation weeks and said "I don't think a week off every 6 months is out of line".

This is a professional office job as well.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:44

Galaxy Brain: Dec 13, 2017; by Lowtax

Batterypowered7 posted:

I've only been at my job for two years now, I work in the US, and I get four weeks of paid vacation at the start of the year to be used whenever I please, and I get Christmas week off (paid) on top of that. Hell, even at my old job renting apartments, we accrued 10 hours of PTO a month. Where the hell do you work?

In an incredibly competitive, demanding field that only a couple hundred people in the whole world get to do. (Not bragging, I am obviously a very small cog as you can see from my shitposting schedule). But I really posted that more on behalf of all the regular job-havers in America, suffering under hourly wages with no hope of vacation in sight.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:45

wizardofloneliness: Dec 30, 2008

Yeah, my last job only offered paid vacation to people who stayed multiple years. Everyone else just had to use PTO, which would frequently be declined around the holidays. Or the office would just claim they never got the request even if you sent it in three times.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 01:56

wak: May 8, 2017; D U C K F A L E S .; Pillbug

rear end cobra posted:

My (20F) boyfriend (20M) of three weeks deleted the majority of my old photos.

delete him by

There�s a typo in that title, I�m sure she meant to write �EX-boyfriend�.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 02:24

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Ham Sandwiches posted:

You could try moving where civilizations exist and have infrastructure / services, or you can stay in your hut and complain about how bad it is I guess

Because people aren't allowed to have things if they don't live directly inside a city.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 02:25

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

six no substitute posted:

There�s a typo in that title, I�m sure she meant to write �late boyfriend�.

ftfy

# ? Feb 20, 2018 02:26

Three Olives: Apr 10, 2005; Don't forget Hitler's contributions to medicine.

Midnight Voyager posted:

Because people aren't allowed to have things if they don't live directly inside a city.

Nope, at least not expensive to deploy infrastructure. Rural people always brag about how cheap it is and how they don�t have to deal with blah blah blah of the city, well my 1GB symmetrical fiber connection costs $70 a month.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 02:34

DominoKitten: Aug 7, 2012

Pick posted:

Catholic Jesus says not only should you do your own laundry but it should hurt the whole time. And it does

I thought Catholic Jesus scooped up "fallen" women and girls to do laundry in institutions. It definitely hurt.

Here, let's have a post about laundry that could really use some bleach:

[19/F] I'm renting in a basement and my landlord [35?/M] is doing perverted things to my laundry

quote:

I'm a first year university student and I live near my campus in a house, the landlord was renting rooms in the basement for cheap and the location was close to the uni so I took the offer.

Things were okay the first few months, but I have been noticing that my landlord is being very creepy. First of all we share a washing machine and dryer and I put my dirty laundry in the basket provided, at first I didn't really know but now I would notice that my landlord would take his time in the laundry room. In addition, after washing a few pairs of my thongs would for some reason be stretched or were bigger than usual, which I thought was just because of incorrect washing. I got very suspicious because of this.

Before whenever I'd wash my clothes I would just dump them into the washing machine directly, but because of my landlord I became more and more conscious of him. I found out what he was doing when I went to check my thongs and other undergarments after he left the laundry room. They were slightly wet and I suspect he might have had his fun with them, which was very creepy and considering that they were dirty, the areas with a lot of discharge on my thongs were considerably slimy and I was disgusted.

I'm kind of freaked out but I am in the middle of my midterms and don't need this type of distraction, I want to continue living here at least until the end of my first year but I don't really know how to deal with this...

tl;dr: I share a laundry room with my landlord who I suspect has been having fun with my dirty thongs and other undergarments

# ? Feb 20, 2018 02:44

RoboRodent: Sep 19, 2012

I work in a grocery store while I go to school. We're unionized. We get a week of vacation a year, paid if you've been there for longer than a year. Breaks are mandated every two hours, and strictly monitored if you're on till because because standing still without moving around much for eight hours is incredibly hard on the body. It's not as good as it used to be, but the CEO split the union some years back, and while people who've worked there fifteen years can make a comfortable living, I and my peers never can. Even with that, though, this is by far the best job I've ever had. I was always pro-union, but man, what a difference.

Americans need to get over their anti-union sentiments so y'all can have vacations.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 02:48

almightyerin: Apr 16, 2007; The one the only. Accept no substitutes.

Ham Sandwiches posted:

You could try moving where civilizations exist and have infrastructure / services, or you can stay in your hut and complain about how bad it is I guess

Oh no no. Heres the best part. IT ALL STOPS LESS THAN HALF A MILE UP THE ROAD!

Also, I live less than thirty minutes from the state capitol which is a fairly big city. It's not like a 40 minute drive to the nearest gas station kind of deal.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 02:52

Virigoth: Apr 28, 2009; Corona rules everything around me
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almightyerin posted:

Oh no no. Heres the best part. IT ALL STOPS LESS THAN HALF A MILE UP THE ROAD!

Also, I live less than thirty minutes from the state capitol which is a fairly big city. It's not like a 40 minute drive to the nearest gas station kind of deal.

I would call this a suburb in most places but you make me think Kentucky immediately for some reason.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:04

girl pants: Sep 21, 2006; I feel a great disturbance in my pants

Virigoth posted:

I would call this a suburb in most places but you make me think Kentucky immediately for some reason.

This is actually very similar to my parents' and they do not live in Kentucky. I think it's pretty common.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:12

Skutter: Apr 8, 2007; Well you can fuck that sky high!

My [22F] boyfriend [24M] turned out to be a metal head completely obsessed with Dio

quote:

So I recently started dating this guy about a two months ago, met him at a music club from my uni and we hit it off really well. He was really relaxed, was smart, and opinionated and I really liked discussing things with him.
So we eventually started dating and when I saw his room it was normal.
Now that I think about it he was buttering me up to metal and Dio from the start, like he'd put down hints he likes it and I'd occasionally see him listening to it, then he'd talk to me about it more often and the great bands and have me listen to some stuff. Until about two weeks ago.

I go into his room and it is just filled with Dio, like the walls are covered in posters, there's boxes of CDs, he has an electric guitar on the wall. It hit me like a god drat. It was like a shrine dedicated to this guy, honestly I was a bit freaked out but I tried to ignore it.
But I swear it's like the only thing he thinks about when he has free time, he always has Dio playing on a speaker, he's always singing (loudly) to some CD, he's constantly telling me about the history of some song or it's meanings. Granted I like him but it's driving me insane! He was a completely different guy to me two months, he still acts his old way when we're around people but as soon as he's in his room BAM it's instant!
Please advise, I'm just so awestruck I don't even know how I'm supposed to react.

tl;dr: bf is completely obsessed with Dio, and it's driving me nuts!

Spoilered because it's hilarious who he's obsessed with, there could be worse bands I guess? v :shobon:

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:18

Bobby Digital: Sep 4, 2009

Skutter posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [24M] turned out to be a metal head completely obsessed with Dio

Spoilered because it's hilarious who he's obsessed with, there could be worse bands I guess? vv

I had a college roommate obsessed with DMB and it was far worse

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:22

Virigoth: Apr 28, 2009; Corona rules everything around me
C.R.E.A.M. get the virus
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Bobby Digital posted:

I had a college roommate obsessed with DMB and it was far worse

I bet they drove a sweet Jeep though.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:27

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Skutter posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [24M] turned out to be a metal head completely obsessed with Dio

Spoilered because it's hilarious who he's obsessed with, there could be worse bands I guess? vv

I mean, your boyfriend is a marine biologist, I bet that offsets how distant he is

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:30

Lonely Virgil: Oct 9, 2012

RoboRodent posted:

I work in a grocery store while I go to school. We're unionized. We get a week of vacation a year, paid if you've been there for longer than a year. Breaks are mandated every two hours, and strictly monitored if you're on till because because standing still without moving around much for eight hours is incredibly hard on the body. It's not as good as it used to be, but the CEO split the union some years back, and while people who've worked there fifteen years can make a comfortable living, I and my peers never can. Even with that, though, this is by far the best job I've ever had. I was always pro-union, but man, what a difference.

Americans need to get over their anti-union sentiments so y'all can have vacations.

Walmart (the largest employers in retail) straight up shuts down locations when workers try to unionize.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:32

La Brea Carpet: Nov 22, 2007; I have no mouth and I must post

Bobby Digital posted:

Why the gently caress was he able to get into her Dropbox?

Same, but for all these terrible dudes who manage to find someone to date.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:32

almightyerin: Apr 16, 2007; The one the only. Accept no substitutes.

Virigoth posted:

I would call this a suburb in most places but you make me think Kentucky immediately for some reason.

Close. TN. I had to move out to this god forsaken area because nobody can afford to live in Nashville anymore.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:36

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

My husband (37M) and I (36F) are disagreeing about pornography. Am I a prude or is this creepy?

quote:

A married couple(41M, 37F) that me (36F) and my husband(37M) know is having a rough time. Because of this couple's struggles, I'm learning about some things I didn't know before.

The male friend of the couple is cheating. He recently sent my husband a bunch of nude women snaps, including a naked snap of the woman he's cheating with. I'm creeped out. I think it's inappropriate men of this age to share porn or sexting snaps.

My husband says 100% of men do this. And that I�m acting like I�m �on a high horse� and �out of touch.� I�m not against nudity or pornography, I just don�t understand why grown men are sharing it with each other, especially the mistress. I'd prefer my husband went online to find his own pics or vids. Am I a prude?

Do 100% of men share porn instead of having their own stash? Do 100% of men share sexting snaps with their friends? Is the Male Friend a creep? Thanks for any feedback.

tldr: Husband gets porn messaged to him by friends. He says every guys does this. I think it�s weird at this age (near 40). I�d rather he find his own porn on his own. He�s angry with me and calling me a prude. Am I as naive as he says I am?

Way to bury the lede. Dump this rear end in a top hat, and try to tell this woman that this guy is sharing her nude pictures with his buddy.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:39

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Three Olives posted:

Nope, at least not expensive to deploy infrastructure. Rural people always brag about how cheap it is and how they don�t have to deal with blah blah blah of the city, well my 1GB symmetrical fiber connection costs $70 a month.

The US's internet is poo poo, and it's been through this before. Namely, it's been through this thing before with telephones. Some people only got telephone service period when the government forced AT&T to run lines. There's no competition because providers agree to stay out of each other's way so they can charge you high prices for poo poo service. And for people who do get service, even goddamn South Korea has better internet than we do. For cheaper. And internet is basically a necessity for school and job-hunting these days.

You're welcome to be really mad at rural people because... some people brag about cheap things, I guess? But it's kinda silly.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:56

Lonely Virgil: Oct 9, 2012

Absurd Alhazred posted:

My husband (37M) and I (36F) are disagreeing about pornography. Am I a prude or is this creepy?

Way to bury the lede. Dump this rear end in a top hat, and try to tell this woman that this guy is sharing her nude pictures with his buddy.

OP said that she's done with him in the thread, she also says that she has no nudes when asked if he had shared some of hers but there can always be creepshots.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:56

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Galaxy Brain posted:

gently caress, buried in the comments: Hoarder guy's even worse than I thought

quote:

[�]mondayisforwhining
[S] [score hidden] 3 hours ago
Honestly, the more I respond to this thread the more angry I get.

You�re right. This is complete and utter bullshit and I�m an idiot for continuing to put up with it. I try really hard to be a good wife and mother and this is garbage.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 03:56

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Midnight Voyager posted:

The US's internet is poo poo, and it's been through this before. Namely, it's been through this thing before with telephones. Some people only got telephone service period when the government forced AT&T to run lines. There's no competition because providers agree to stay out of each other's way so they can charge you high prices for poo poo service. And for people who do get service, even goddamn South Korea has better internet than we do. For cheaper. And internet is basically a necessity for school and job-hunting these days.

You're welcome to be really mad at rural people because... some people brag about cheap things, I guess? But it's kinda silly.

Oh, no, you're summoning a horrible derailer into this thread. :ohdear:

# ? Feb 20, 2018 04:03

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

$200 a month for cable and Net here. My mom refuses to get rid of cable because she had 220+ hours of shows on the DVR.

I need to put a smart tv in her room with Netflix streaming, and Amazon, and see what happens.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 04:14

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Oh, no, you're summoning a horrible derailer into this thread.

it's gotta be better than the oral derail

# ? Feb 20, 2018 04:15

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Midnight Voyager posted:

it's gotta be better than the oral derail

Hey, look, more content!

I [25f] can�t stand my husband [30f] most of the time

quote:

I am from Romania, came to Chicago 4 years ago, met my husband on tinder, fast forward 1 year we are married and moved in together. I was madly in love with him and always loved how smart he is and how much stuff I�m learning from him.

But things started to go South once we started arguing about important or unimportant stuff. I noticed that he almost never stays on topic. He always drifts into saying stuff like �get out of my apartment because you don�t pay rent� (I was making very little money in the beginning so I only took care of the bills), �give me the laptop back because it�s bought on my credit card� (even though I reimbursed him 100%), telling me that I need to lose weight because I have a flabby stomach and so on. I started resenting him more and more for the things he would say on purpose just to hurt me.

Another thing is that he is ALWAYS late. For his job, for his appointments, for meeting friends. ALWAYS. I�m a very punctual person and it drives me insane. The thing that I absolutely despise is that he work for his dad, he is always late and his dad does not tell him anything other that making fun of him about how late he is again. In my own little head I don�t think that is healthy and I secretly wish he would be loving fired just so he could man the gently caress up and show some responsibility.

He comes to bed super late. I�m talking 5-6 AM playing videogames. Then wakes up at 3-4 in the afternoon on weekends when we finally have some time to spend together. I spend monst mornings by myself waiting for him to get up. We spend about 5-6 hours doing nothing and then I go to bed.

He hasn�t been working for about 3 months now - him and his dad are contractors. He doesn�t care, doesn�t hustle to find something to do, sleeps all day while I go to work. He does have an IRA he inherited that is worth 100k. I wish he wouldn�t. I had to tell him a couple of times to at least put the dishes in the dishwasher and pick up around the house a bit since he�s at home all day. His reply was �There were times when you were at home and you didn�t do any of this stuff�. Yes, but I was never at home for 3 months doing loving nothing.

He has been helping me a lot financially, no doubt, but not because I was sitting on my rear end at home. I am hating him more and more because he doesn�t take the initiative to do anything. He�s lazy, he always brings up how much money he spent on me and that he doesn�t feel bad that he�s not working now. I wish he would understand that the fact that he is not making money is NOT the problem. The problem is that he not TRYING to make any money and is incredibily happy with sleeping his life away.

I am thinking about the future and it terifies me. What if we�re going to have children? Am I going to have to wait for him to wake up at 3-4 in the afternoon to give the baby a bottle? Will he miss soccer practice because he wants to sleep in?!?

I work, I come home and cook, I shop - all while he�s on the couch playing videogames. I asked him ONE TIME to get up at 9 in the morning after sleeping in every single day for the past 3 weeks because we had to go do a shitload of laundry at his parents house (i don�t want to wash the clothes in the laundry machines we have in our building), he didn�t want to get up when I said. Woke up at 11 - wasted almost half a day until we actually got there to start doing my laundry.

I am at a loss. Sometimes I fantasize about leaving him so he can man the gently caress up, but I don�t want to be the rear end in a top hat that �leeched� on him and left when things got tough. I really want to fix this but he is just not hearing what I jave to say.

tl;dr - husband is lazy, plays videogames and we are on completely opposite sleeping schedules. It�s driving me insane and I want to fix it but don�t know if it�s worth the while.

Doesn't seem like it is, OP.

# ? Feb 20, 2018 04:18

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Absurd Alhazred posted:

I [25f] can�t stand my husband [30f] most of the time

The life and times of a Snickers Bar and Grill employee

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Gumbel2Gumbel: Apr 28, 2010

She seems like she has her own issues to fix

Edit I reread it and they both suck

Gumbel2Gumbel fucked around with this message at 04:24 on Feb 20, 2018

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