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MarcusSA posted:Good god travel lady is insufferable. Yet another man being crucified for not being able to read minds smh
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"I don't really KNOW him" is one of those vague, platitudinous statements that seems to have nothing to do with the person in question and more with travel lady having weird concepts of what that actually means Also if you don't make your wishes known to your partner you have absolutely no right to throw a fit over them picking the wrong restaurant, much less the wrong foreign countries they're taking your goldbricking rear end to for an all-expenses-paid trip
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Jun 27, 2018 18:14
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Just out of curiosity, what more should she have told him? She told him she wanted to be alone together talking and getting to know each other. She told him the timeframe and her budget (because she was planning to pay for it). She told him she wanted to spend the trip swimming and relaxing. That seems like a lot of clarity imo.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:19
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i like nice words
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Anne Whateley posted:Just out of curiosity, what more should she have told him? She told him she wanted to be alone together talking and getting to know each other. She told him the timeframe and her budget (because she was planning to pay for it). She told him she wanted to spend the trip swimming and relaxing. That seems like a lot of clarity imo. "I'm breaking up with you"
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Jun 27, 2018 18:24
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Anne Whateley posted:Just out of curiosity, what more should she have told him? She told him she wanted to be alone together talking and getting to know each other. She told him the timeframe and her budget (because she was planning to pay for it). She told him she wanted to spend the trip swimming and relaxing. That seems like a lot of clarity imo. I have no idea but how can you be with someone for so long and not know them? I'm still blown away at that.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:31
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Anne Whateley posted:Just out of curiosity, what more should she have told him? She told him she wanted to be alone together talking and getting to know each other. She told him the timeframe and her budget (because she was planning to pay for it). She told him she wanted to spend the trip swimming and relaxing. That seems like a lot of clarity imo. in normal Earth parlance this request would be interpreted to mean exactly what she got, not literally 336 hours of uninterrupted interrogation in a pool in Paris
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Jun 27, 2018 18:37
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Apparently he's like one of those guys in the movies where the guy is constantly trying to avoid a conversation through whatever means but for like 5 years instead of 5 minutes.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:38
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Anne Whateley posted:Just out of curiosity, what more should she have told him? She told him she wanted to be alone together talking and getting to know each other. She told him the timeframe and her budget (because she was planning to pay for it). She told him she wanted to spend the trip swimming and relaxing. That seems like a lot of clarity imo. If you can't get along on vacation, then how will you get along in day to day life? Also, did you know that Ursula is Ariel's aunt and King Triton's sister? They cut the scene in the movie showing this, but I believe it is still canon.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:38
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is Anne Whateley an anagram for Amelia Bedelia somehow
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Jun 27, 2018 18:39
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:in normal Earth parlance this request would be interpreted to mean exactly what she got, not literally 336 hours of uninterrupted interrogation in a pool in Paris yeah their vacation actually sounded kickin rad to me and my gf and I would love to take a trip like that.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:40
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She should've stood her ground in terms of saying "I want to pay my fair share of the trip and be directly involved in the decision-making, even if it means that it's more modest." It sounds like she caved when he said he was going to book a "nice trip" under the fantasy that it was going to be all the stuff she wanted to do. And, in his mind, he probably thought he checked off the "sun and swimming" requirement in Bulgaria. Anyway, it sounds like they have different philosophies in terms of what they want out of a vacation, and even though he could be more attentive, she could also be more persistent in negotiating compromise for what she actually wants instead of taking her hands off the wheel, and then complaining bitterly about a trip that she might've enjoyed if she was just a little open-minded.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:44
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Sorry honey but I can only engage in one action per day and talking is a verb. So is sleeping.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:47
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My shtick isn't blaming the guy, it's blaming people who don't bother reading the original post in a thread that's all about reading the original post. I find it weird that people prefer to make up stuff with absolutely no basis instead of just reading what's said clearly in the post.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:47
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Anne Whateley posted:My shtick isn't blaming the guy, it's blaming people who don't bother reading posts in a thread that's all about reading posts. I find it weird that people prefer to make up stuff with absolutely no basis instead of just reading what's said clearly in the post. And what was clearly said in the post is that she did get what she literally asked for it just wasn't the ideal that she didn't bother to tell him about. They had plenty of time to talk on the trip and he did arrange a portion of it specifically for chilling in the sun and swimming. That she wanted the entire vacation to be just at a poolside resort in paris is not something he could have possibly predicted from her request. For a lot of people traveling is the perfect time to get to intimately know people and the plans he laid out seem perfectly reasonable for that, all things considered.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:51
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Anne Whateley posted:My shtick isn't blaming the guy, it's blaming people who don't bother reading the original post in a thread that's all about reading the original post. I find it weird that people prefer to make up stuff with absolutely no basis instead of just reading what's said clearly in the post. Maybe you should read what I posted and answer my question. Again, what about the trip made it impossible to talk or relax? I'm pretty sure you can relax and talk in pretty much any city in the world, barring extreme circumstances.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:53
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Anne Whateley posted:My shtick isn't blaming the guy, it's blaming people who don't bother reading the original post in a thread that's all about reading the original post. I find it weird that people prefer to make up stuff with absolutely no basis instead of just reading what's said clearly in the post. Except she got all those things. She told him she wanted things, and she got those.Like, maybe you are the one who needs to read the OP? And yes she could have said much more. If she wanted nothing but those things, she should have said that. If she expected the bulk of the trip to be spent swimming, she should have said that. She could have actually been involved in planning it at all, in any way, beyond saying some of the most generic responses to "what do you want to do for our vacation?" she could come up with.
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Jun 27, 2018 18:55
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Leon Einstein posted:Maybe you should read what I posted and answer my question. Again, what about the trip made it impossible to talk or relax? I'm pretty sure you can relax and talk in pretty much any city in the world, barring extreme circumstances. Unfortunately, the cities he chose were so "dirty and uncivilized" that they had to share a bed with an entire roma family who wouldn't stop grinding their drat organs long enough to have even one real heart-to-heart
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Jun 27, 2018 18:57
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Also lmao that she's going on about how she won't be able to take another vacation for forever, and he should understand that. For one, he probably thought he planned a great vacation for her, based on the limited feedback she gave him. Maybe instead of wanting to cross things off his list, he wanted to experience going to places neither one of them had been to together. For another, they've been dating for four and a half years. He probably assumes that at some point in the near future finances are going to start to commingle and once that happens of course she'll be traveling with him. Her allowing him to take her on vacation at all probably cemented that idea in his head. He probably saw this as the first of many, many vacations to come.
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Jun 27, 2018 19:01
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I've been dating my boyfriend for 4.5 years and I'm only starting to figure out that he's just a suit with pillows stuffed into it. Someone's drawn a face on the head pillow with a sharpie. I really don't know anything about him.
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Jun 27, 2018 19:10
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I wouldn't be surprised if her tight budget was a factor in him picking Eastern Europe. 600 dollars will not get you two weeks on a French/Spanish/Italian beach unless you're traveling really cheap in a way I'm not sure she would have been satisfied with either. But regardless of whose fault it is they clearly have severe communication issues and the solution is to actually explicitly make time to talk, not hope that a vacation will suddenly allow for a different type of communication than the pattern established over 4 years.
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Jun 27, 2018 19:11
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I legit don't understand people who need their vacations to be a solid week and a half of paying a lot to do nothing Like, you wanna get in a little R&R time, sure, but that should be one activity of many. If you wanna just sit by a pool and read for a week, go to your local YMCA or whatever.
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Jun 27, 2018 19:14
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Terrific Accident posted:I've been dating my boyfriend for 4.5 years and I'm only starting to figure out that he's just a suit with pillows stuffed into it. Someone's drawn a face on the head pillow with a sharpie. I really don't know anything about him. Sounds like a good cuddler though, things can't be all that bad.
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Anne Whateley posted:My shtick isn't blaming the guy, 
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As somebody guilty of starting this derail before, let's not start this derail again imo
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Jun 27, 2018 19:33
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My [27/F] girlfriend is a human lie detector [33/M]quote:I met "D" through mutual friends who all described her as "Nice but really sensitive" which I figured meant she was highly susceptible to her own emotions but it turned out it was more the emotions of the people around her that influence her mood. I've always been a little detatched from my own feelings (what can I say, my parents were in the army) so I'm not sure how much of this is normal behavior but I wanted to list a few examples... she can smell your fear OP
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Terrific Accident posted:I've been dating my boyfriend for 4.5 years and I'm only starting to figure out that he's just a suit with pillows stuffed into it. Someone's drawn a face on the head pillow with a sharpie. I really don't know anything about him. Well, I hear he loves the Iberian peninsula and hates the Baltic so keep that in mind when he says 'take me somewhere with a coast'
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Jun 27, 2018 19:38
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All of the authors of the thread content are completely unreliable. The notion of relying on textual evidence here is just silly. Truth doesn't exist in /r/relationships, so just post the most entertaining, hottest takes you got
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:My [27/F] girlfriend is a human lie detector [33/M] This guy is dating the world's greatest detective
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Jun 27, 2018 19:45
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99% of thread controversies come from reading an inscrutable Rorschach test of an OP like "My parents are abusing me! They make brussels sprouts for dinner all the time, even though I don't like them, and won't let me have dessert until I've finished my dinner!" and splitting furiously down the lines of "Oh my god! The child's parents are abusing them! They said!" and "lol having to eat your veggies is not abuse kid" The remaining 1% is the like two posters that keep insisting that everyone's family is secretly in a Nazi incest cult, that's really normal but nobody else has the balls to admit it.
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Jun 27, 2018 19:46
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The stories where people have different takes on day to day stuff are the interesting ones, the abuse and horrific stuff is dull as poo poo, to me.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:99% of thread controversies come from reading an inscrutable Rorschach test of an OP like "My parents are abusing me! They make brussels sprouts for dinner all the time, even though I don't like them, and won't let me have dessert until I've finished my dinner!" and splitting furiously down the lines of "Oh my god! The child's parents are abusing them! They said!" and "lol having to eat your veggies is not abuse kid" All of human history is an eternal struggle between people who are obviously right, who agree with me, and people who are obviously wrong, who do not
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Guy (maybe BF?, dating 3 weeks--26m) just walked in on me (28f) in the shower while I was loudly singing "today I met the boy I'm gonna marry." I'm so embarrassed and I don't know if I should just let it be or address it with him.quote:Background: For about six months I've had a very flirty relationship with a guy who works in the same office complex I do. He's the most adorably shy guy I've ever seen so finally I asked him out about 3 weeks ago. Our first "date" was a very casual lunch but I knew within two minutes of sitting down with him that I was going to be with him forever. He's staggeringly handsome, he's super respectful, he's sweetly shy but can floor me with his wit and humor when appropriate, he's got a great job, he's good with money, he owns his own house, we have similar hobbies and life goals and he is everything I could have asked for in a guy (just to allay the common concerns, we aren't moving in together, we aren't setting up joint bank accounts, we aren't altering life plans or buying a dog...I'm taking this step by step but I know for certain he's the one). It's...been 3 weeks.
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Ham Sandwiches posted:The stories where people have different takes on day to day stuff are the interesting ones, the abuse and horrific stuff is dull as poo poo, to me. Yeah this thread is better when the stories are ones that are selected for being funny or at least fascinating. Horrific yet boring relationships stories aren't something I really need in my life even if they've been....educational.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:My [27/F] girlfriend is a human lie detector [33/M]
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chitoryu12 posted:Guy (maybe BF?, dating 3 weeks--26m) just walked in on me (28f) in the shower while I was loudly singing "today I met the boy I'm gonna marry." I'm so embarrassed and I don't know if I should just let it be or address it with him. She's super nervous and it's understandable, but we really need to know whether the guy is actually weirded out by this before we address the question of Whether She Should Make A Big Deal Out Of It and upon reread he's definitely not sooooo
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Ham Sandwiches posted:The stories where people have different takes on day to day stuff are the interesting ones, the abuse and horrific stuff is dull as poo poo, to me. Disagree strongly. The heart and soul of the megathread is not the Takes, nor the Misery, but rather the Freaks I [18 F] am being harassed, alienated, and vilified in school by peers and several teachers because I drew a picture of Jesus [2018 M] as an anime character quote:'m in my junior year, and I go to school in the rust belt, in a really religious area. I don't want to go into it as a career, but I'm really into drawing and art and spend a large amount of time drawing. I like to draw mostly in a very anime-inspired style (I know, don't say anything, I don't take myself too seriously). I have a DA page and a Tumblr that I share with a few friends.
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loquacius posted:This guy is dating the world's greatest detective Colomba.
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loquacius posted:She's super nervous and it's understandable, but we really need to know whether the guy is actually weirded out by this before we address the question of Whether She Should Make A Big Deal Out Of It I thought it was really cute and quirky until I noticed that after only 3 weeks of dating (and 6 months total of knowing him) she's already got wedding bells in her head.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Disagree strongly. The heart and soul of the megathread is not the Takes, nor the Misery, but rather the Freaks she has a golden opportunity to goad some moron into getting expelled during senior year, it's like bullfighting
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chitoryu12 posted:Guy (maybe BF?, dating 3 weeks--26m) just walked in on me (28f) in the shower while I was loudly singing "today I met the boy I'm gonna marry." I'm so embarrassed and I don't know if I should just let it be or address it with him. That is a drat lot of words for such a small issue. A Wizard of Goatse posted:Disagree strongly. The heart and soul of the megathread is not the Takes, nor the Misery, but rather the Freaks Anime is always a mistake.
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