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Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

I'm really glad the open triad came back in venture bros season 7 i missed them

# ? Sep 3, 2018 19:37

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# ? Jun 4, 2024 18:01

andrew smash: Jun 26, 2006; smooth soul

CheesyDog posted:

You know now that I think of it the polyglossian slang seems perfectly suited for describing the terrible messes that are teenage relationships

I�m either old or boring (both, real) because my teenage relationships were serial, monogamous, and awkward as gently caress rather than whatever this poo poo is

# ? Sep 3, 2018 19:38

Adar: Jul 27, 2001

andrew smash posted:

I�m either old or boring (both, real) because my teenage relationships were serial, monogamous, and awkward as gently caress rather than whatever this poo poo is

pretty sure two of the three are well covered in that post, and given their ages there might not even be any sex involved either

# ? Sep 3, 2018 19:40

SniperWoreConverse: Mar 20, 2010; Gun Saliva

Danaru posted:

Holy gently caress what a perfect time for spoiler tags

# ? Sep 3, 2018 19:42

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

CheesyDog posted:

You know now that I think of it the polyglossian slang seems perfectly suited for describing the terrible messes that are teenage relationships

all is for the best in this the best of all possible relationships

# ? Sep 3, 2018 19:43

SniperWoreConverse: Mar 20, 2010; Gun Saliva

Pick posted:

Actually, I think if a kid is testing really well in school, and appears to be really smart, they should be required to take special classes to ensure they are morally on the up and up

everyone should have ethics, regardless of brainularity.

actually education is hot garbage for an insane amount of people it's real bad

# ? Sep 3, 2018 19:53

Milotic: Mar 4, 2009; 9CL apologist; Slippery Tilde

This woman is the opposite of Petrella on the previous page

Just found out my [27F] boyfriend [29M] is a registered sex offender

quote:

u/sweatpantspoptarts
I started dating this guy a couple months ago, great connection, really sweet and funny. We both have hectic work schedules so we only see each other about once a week. I would like to preface with saying I normal �stalk� people online pretty hard at the beginning of a relationship, but I work 80 hours a week with one day off. I honestly just forgot. So to yesterday, he mentions he doesn�t have a Facebook. Fine, lots of people don�t. He claims because he was spending too much time on it. Then he says he has no social media. Like literally none. That just felt weird to me. So later that night I googled his name, and he�s a registered sex offender. It�s definitely him, picture and everything.

I call him and he explains that this girl added him on Facebook. Her Facebook said she was 19, she claimed she was 19. He was 24 at the time. They talk for a week online, she asks him to pick her up from her job at the mall. They end up having sex. At some point later he gets a call from the police. Apparently that girl was 15, and her mom overheard her telling a friend what had went down. He screenshotted their conversations and her Facebook with her lying about her age. The DA advised the mom to just let this go, as they could charge the daughter with distribution of child pornography for sending nudes, but the mom was adamant about him going to jail. He did 8 months, and has to register for a total of 10 years, 6 more years.

So that�s the story. I asked him to bring me all his court documents so I can verify his story. Assuming his side of things is true, that he really didn�t know her age, what should I do? I feel a little bad breaking up with someone who got played and made a bad choice, but also idk how I feel about having that baggage for the next 6 years.

TL;DR: my boyfriend is a registered sex offender, didn�t know the girl was underage and will be providing me evidence of that. What do I do now?

Yep, that�s definitely what happened.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 20:38

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

I think that lady is understandably upset about being cut out of the spa days but she should not be expecting to go on vacations. Also it is lovely on her dad's part to say that she is not part of the family anymore. It's super traditional though.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 20:40

CharlestheHammer: Jun 26, 2011; YOU SAY MY POSTS ARE THE RAVINGS OF THE DUMBEST PERSON ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH BUT YOU YOURSELF ARE READING THEM. CURIOUS!

Milotic posted:

This woman is the opposite of Petrella on the previous page

Just found out my [27F] boyfriend [29M] is a registered sex offender

Yep, that�s definitely what happened.

drat wily 15 year olds.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 20:42

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Milotic posted:

From the post history possibly not a troll. Or at least dedicated to laying out a backstory

A date for 5.

I agree with the OP that they shouldnt have an orgy. The amount of alpha and beta relationship particles that will be released when this load of poly-235* fizzles is going to kill the sex drive of anyone in a several mile radius and make the area uninhabitable for generations.

*Gonna point out this story is two triads meeting to make five people

# ? Sep 3, 2018 20:45

Taima: Dec 31, 2006; tfw you're peeing next to someone in the lineup and they don't know

therobit posted:

I think that lady is understandably upset about being cut out of the spa days but she should not be expecting to go on vacations. Also it is lovely on her dad's part to say that she is not part of the family anymore. It's super traditional though.

I wonder if they paid a dowry

# ? Sep 3, 2018 20:47

30 Goddamned Dicks: Sep 8, 2010; I will leave you to flounder in your cesspool of primeval soup, you sad, lonely, little cowards.; Fun Shoe

therobit posted:

I think that lady is understandably upset about being cut out of the spa days but she should not be expecting to go on vacations. Also it is lovely on her dad's part to say that she is not part of the family anymore. It's super traditional though.

Yeah I understand where the family is coming from, however if everyone was really that close I think a conversation should have been had before "whelp, guess she's her husband's problem now, won't have to invite her to anything ever again!"

# ? Sep 3, 2018 20:52

ClamdestineBoyster: Aug 15, 2015; Can't post for 10 years!

therobit posted:

I think that lady is understandably upset about being cut out of the spa days but she should not be expecting to go on vacations. Also it is lovely on her dad's part to say that she is not part of the family anymore. It's super traditional though.

Yeah that�s the funny part, it means absolutely nothing.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 20:52

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

Milotic posted:

This woman is the opposite of Petrella on the previous page

Just found out my [27F] boyfriend [29M] is a registered sex offender

Yep, that�s definitely what happened.

Lol why would you date anyone with something like that hanging over their career and living situation regardless of whether or not it was them just getting railroaded by the law (it wasn't). Just date someone not on the sex offender registry.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 20:53

Milotic: Mar 4, 2009; 9CL apologist; Slippery Tilde

Barudak posted:

I agree with the OP that they shouldnt have an orgy. The amount of alpha and beta relationship particles that will be released when this load of poly-235* fizzles is going to kill the sex drive of anyone in a several mile radius and make the area uninhabitable for generations.

*Gonna point out this story is two triads meeting to make five people

It�s a spoke and hub network. They tried a token ring but it didn�t work. A generation is raising themselves to be really good at graph theory

My (23F) parents (56F + 67M) are separated but still living in the same house. It's taking a toll on me

quote:

u/chickenburger95
My parents were married for over 30 years. Then around 4 years ago my mum told him she wanted a divorce. He didn't want to, so she ended up moving to a hostel for a few months whilst my dad stayed at home. Me and my siblings (2M/1F all in thirties) were left to act as mediators between the two. (Also worth mentioning that my family are British Pakistani, so separation/living in separate houses is a bit more frowned upon in our culture)

Somehow it was agreed that my mum will return to the house and won't apply for divorce, if my dad stays upstairs. Thus he doesn't have access to the kitchen, living room etc. Only his bedroom and bathroom that's upstairs. It has been like this for the past three years now. He has a mini fridge etc in his room. I am aware of how unfair this situation is for my dad, especially given as he's the only one who has a job. I protested against it repeatedly but as I'm the youngest sibling my opinion wasn't really considered. They don't speak to each other at all now, unless my dad is giving my mum money for food supplies for the week.

Fast forward to the past few days and my mum is still not happy with the living conditions. She has contacted a solicitor and wants to know how much money she is entitled to if they divorce. She would like to sell the house and get half the money, so that both her and my dad can get separate flats. The problem again is that my dad does not want to do this, he wants to keep the house house so that me and my siblings have it for the future. He is very hesitant about taking any action, and keeps delaying the process which is extremely frustrating because no final conclusion is being reached.

Naturally this makes the house atmosphere quite tense, it's making me miserable knowing that neither parent is in a happy living environment. There is also a divide between the siblings opinions about whether he should keep the house. Not sure how to deal with the situation, I'm moving out next September for a masters hopefully but I feel like the next few months are really going to take a toll on my mental state. Especially as I have a history of depression and anxiety,

Tl;dr: parents separated but live in same house, dad wants to keep house but mum wants to split financial assets and buy her own flat, it's having a bad impact on my mental health.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 21:06

Betazoid: Aug 3, 2010; Hallo. Ik ben een leeuw.

therobit posted:

I think that lady is understandably upset about being cut out of the spa days but she should not be expecting to go on vacations. Also it is lovely on her dad's part to say that she is not part of the family anymore. It's super traditional though.

"Tradition" is dumb, though. If she had just kept her name, she would "still" be a Smith even if she's now married to Mr. Jones. I'm not disagreeing with you, but its just silly in an era when a lot of women dont change their names.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 21:31

Bogus Adventure: Jan 11, 2017; More like "Bulges Adventure"

CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

(self.legaladvice)
submitted 6 hours ago * by beingharassed97

Put a deutsche mark in your rear end 'cause you played yourself.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 21:45

MrQwerty: Apr 15, 2003; LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL (づ￣ �￣)づ♥(�∀�●)

Dunning Krugerrand posted:

(probably DMD, which I'll admit would be terrible).

if it's a little girl it can't be DMD

also,

quote:

(brunch is delicious and not at all gay in fact brunch has no sexual preference)

MrQwerty fucked around with this message at 22:04 on Sep 3, 2018

# ? Sep 3, 2018 21:54

Haifisch: Nov 13, 2010; Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!; Taco Defender

My(24M) wife(23F) proposed a long distance relationship

quote:

Obligatory this is a throwaway and this is on my phone. This is just as much getting my words and thoughts written down as it is asking for advice.

A bit of a backstory, we met in middle school, started dating in high school, and have been together since. We were the perfect couple in high school, never really fought(she has a temper, I'm very laid back, so we never got into huge arguments), and other people would come to us for relationship advice. I was her first, and the sex was great and frequent, several times a week.

After dating for 3 years, we decided to get married. She went on birth control about a month before we got married, but her doctor changed it several times, and 4 out of the 5 gave her horrible headaches around the same time every day(#2 was the good one, but they stopped making it), so she got off birth control. I know a side effect of birth control is loss of sex drive, so when it started dropping, it wasn't unexpected. Sex eventually settled around once a month by the time she got off it, but it never went back up. About a month ago she was telling me about a conversation she had with one of her friends who also got recently married, and her husband was complaining about how sex has gone from multiple times a day to once every other week. They both thought it was funny, and their husbands are lucky to have it at all, being that we're now married. She then right out told me that we'd be having sex more often if we hadn't gotten married.

While we were dating, I said often and repeatedly that I wanted to leave the state we grew up in. The people and weather are horrible, and the area around the apartment we moved was going downhill quick. We lived there 2.5 years, within the past year 2 cops have been shot to death within 2 miles, and a family a few streets away were all killed with a pickaxe in their home. We have a mutual single friend who moved several states away, bought a house, and wanted us to come live in it to help them with upkeep, maintenance, etc. We discussed it for several months, then she got a job offer(which is what she was most worried about), so we packed up everything and moved. While we've been here, I've found social events to go meet new people, but she never wants to go. We've lived here about 3-4 months, and during this Labor Day Weekend, she went back to visit everyone (plane tickets were more than I was willing to pay, and I worked this weekend). She now wants to move back. She misses her friends and family, even though she won't go meet anyone new here.

She said one of her older coworkers there(who is like a second mother to her) offered to let her stay in a spare room, and there is a place being built right down the street in her industry that she could get a job at. She said I could stay here, and she'll come visit me every couple months. I've been in a long distance relationship, and it didn't work for me, I don't think a long distance marriage will work any better.

I'm sure someone on the millions of people on the internet has gone through something similar. Advice?

tl;dr Wife and I moved several states away from friends and family, she wants to go back and is ok having a long distance marriage, I do not and am not.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:10

Heliotrope: Aug 17, 2007; You're fucking subhuman

CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

(self.legaladvice)
submitted 6 hours ago * by beingharassed97

Man that ex is such an rear end in a top hat what the gently caress is wrong with peo-

*clicks on spoiler*

:pwn:

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:12

CharlestheHammer: Jun 26, 2011; YOU SAY MY POSTS ARE THE RAVINGS OF THE DUMBEST PERSON ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH BUT YOU YOURSELF ARE READING THEM. CURIOUS!

Heliotrope posted:

Man that ex is such an rear end in a top hat what the gently caress is wrong with peo-

*clicks on spoiler*

I like the low key mention that her friends were banned from the convention for you know obvious reasons.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:14

MrQwerty: Apr 15, 2003; LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL (づ￣ �￣)づ♥(�∀�●)

Haifisch posted:

My(24M) wife(23F) proposed a long distance relationship

divorce your lovely wife dummy

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:16

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Haifisch posted:

My(24M) wife(23F) proposed a long distance relationship

You dont have to try and wear the first set of clothes you ever wore for the rest of your life so why did you put a ring on the first girl you ever dated?

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:19

Milotic: Mar 4, 2009; 9CL apologist; Slippery Tilde

I don�t know if I�m going to regret posting this one

My [20M] grandfather [78M] although fantastic does not like Jews.

quote:

u/TheGenieInsideLamp
My grandfather He is likeable in many ways but he regards Jewish people as competition to be defeated (his attitude his their greed will destroy all others if not). He is a successful businessman and he is proud that he broke what he called the 'Jewish monopoly' in the area.

He said that when he came to the area all of the main businesses were Jewish controlled. However, through skillful business (and thrift) he has acquired certain businesses and the Jewish business control in the area is a fraction of what it was when he came to the area in the 1960's. Some of the Jewish owners were put out of business and the others my grandfather bought out.

In his words, businesses kept people like chattel before him and the Jewish owners regarded themselves as superior to others. Whereas he has prided himself on being a fair businessman who has given workers a fair deal and looks out for them. He was concerned about employee welfare and pays a higher wage (adjusted for inflation) than the previous owners did.

He is by no means a bad man, he was active in the civil rights for both blacks and gays (he doesn't agree with gay marriage but his attitude is that it is not for him to decide that).

On the one hand, I certainly don't want the area to go back to how it was before him and he acquired the businesses fairly. You don't want one group to hold all of the businesses, that is toxic af (we control several businesses but not all in the area and meet regularly with other businesses in the area to address civic improvement). My father currently runs the business and is perhaps an even better businessman than my grandfather and my older brothers and I will have the business after him.

On the other hand, I think he should see that not all Jews are bad, before he dies. So as to heal relations. Any advice on how to do this?

I am not a Jew and I certainly don't think that the Jews are the 'chosen people'. However, it would be nice for people to get along.

TL;DR My grandfather is a highly skillful businessman but he has a dislike of Jews. I would like him to make peace with the Jewish community before he dies.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:23

Freudian: Mar 23, 2011

Don't you think the Jews have suffered enough without talking to your lovely granddad

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:25

zakharov: Nov 30, 2002; Tater Love

He's not a bad man, he just hates the perfidious Jew!

Cognitive dissonance.txt

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:27

loquacius: Oct 21, 2008

Milotic posted:

I don�t know if I�m going to regret posting this one

My [20M] grandfather [78M] although fantastic does not like Jews.

I keep saying this, but speaking as a Jew the ratio of times I have heard an actual Jewish person use the phrase "chosen people" to times I have heard a racist attribute the phrase to us is roughly zero to a billion

I dunno maybe the Haredi are saying it every day as they plot to destroy all goyim or whatever but also there are basically no Haredi to begin with and overt racists are probably 1% of them, so in conclusion chill the gently caress out

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:27

Veni Vidi Ameche!: Nov 2, 2017; by Fluffdaddy

Heliotrope posted:

Man that ex is such an rear end in a top hat what the gently caress is wrong with peo-

*clicks on spoiler*

I mean, he�s absolutely a poo poo-dipped pus bag, but she�s a Nazi, so...

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:27

loquacius: Oct 21, 2008

Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:

I mean, he�s absolutely a poo poo-dipped pus bag, but she�s a Nazi, so...

My reaction at first was "I don't care what pictures these are, you should be allowed to take any pictures you want without it threatening your livelihood" but yeah once the Nazi bombshell dropped my only reaction was an unironic "what the gently caress did you think was gonna happen"

Like, absolute best case she just has a terrible sense of humor and thinks Nazism is funny; if you're employing security guards that either are Nazis or think Nazism is a big funny laugh riot to make funny jokes about, you have to wonder how long it'll be until you have a brutality lawsuit to deal with

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:31

ClamdestineBoyster: Aug 15, 2015; Can't post for 10 years!

He�s not a total nazi, just a partial nazi. And he doesn�t have total brain damage, only partial.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:33

loquacius: Oct 21, 2008

big ol LOL at the idea that the OP appears to actually think it's progressive and woke for his grandpa to move into a Jewish neighborhood and drive out all the Jewish businesses

"You don't want one group to hold all of the businesses, that is toxic af," the social-justice champion said as he bought up all the land in Chinatown and evicted all the Chinese people

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:36

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Milotic posted:

I don�t know if I�m going to regret posting this one

My [20M] grandfather [78M] although fantastic does not like Jews.

This person has 100% internalized all the crazy poo poo grandpa said about the Jews but some amount of modernity snuck in so his brain is blaring a �not all jews� klaxxon and he doesnt know why and is desparately looking for the off switch.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 22:38

ClamdestineBoyster: Aug 15, 2015; Can't post for 10 years!

Barudak posted:

This person has 100% internalized all the crazy poo poo grandpa said about the Jews but some amount of modernity snuck in so his brain is blaring a �not all jews� klaxxon and he doesnt know why and is desparately looking for the off switch.

Yeah that fuckup is going to make a real good contract killer for the cia as long as he has 40 cops backing him up if anyone says a word to him.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 23:04

emptyspace: Oct 21, 2008

Milotic posted:

This woman is the opposite of Petrella on the previous page

Just found out my [27F] boyfriend [29M] is a registered sex offender

Yep, that�s definitely what happened.

There are always 4 versions of "the truth" in this type of thing.

1. What he was originally charged with, and actually did.
2. What he plead to in court.
3. What really loving happened.
4. Whatever loving story this guy has concocted to justify what he did.

# ? Sep 3, 2018 23:43