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Standard Measure posted:OP and her husband should get a loving job Camming is their job  So technically, they do have a loving job. 
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Sep 16, 2018 16:39
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video game design husband needs to put up or shut up. you dont need an amazing computer to run unity and he could be learning basic programming on codeacademy.
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Sep 16, 2018 16:42
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Camming is their job Hahaha this is a good twist. Neighbor is a nosy nelly but soundproofing is a good idea if you play an instrument or gently caress for a living.
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Sep 16, 2018 17:11
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My [M22] mom [56] is dating my great uncle [M72]quote:M[22] my mom [F56] Is dating my dads uncle [72] and I am not sure how to feel about it. My parents have been divorced for 14 years and were friends until my dad got remarried. My mom has had trouble finding a consistent part because of what I perceive to be restlessness in calm relationships or with calm people. My Great-Uncle has been visiting my dads house from Holland every year during the summers for the last few years and it has been really great to see him again. But, the last time he came and invited my mom and I to a different party that wasn't at my dads. At this party they flirted a lot and it made me feel pretty uncomfortable. I have no issue with my mom dating but when it comes to family members I just assumed that it wasn't something I had to worry about. A week ago my mom told me that she booked a plane-ticket to Holland and that they "really like each other". I am not a huge fan of this seeing as my mom is dating my great uncle but they don't seam to understand how it is weird .She thinks it is unreasonable that if he comes here for Christmas I might go to my dads while he is here (I live with my mom while I attend university). My mom also thinks it is unreasonable that my dad doesn't want his uncle to stay with him anymore since he is dating his ex-wife, this seams pretty normal to me. My main issue is that I want to be happy for my mom, but, I am uncomfortable because I would be my own first cousin cousin once removed if they got married. Any Advice? 
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Sep 16, 2018 17:27
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CheesyDog posted:Neighbour complained to my mother about my sex. I am 27(f), married and living in my own house. (self.sex) Introduce power tools into the bedroom. Or, like, gunfire.
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Sep 16, 2018 17:51
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Introduce power tools into the bedroom. Or, like, gunfire. Don't clipshame.
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Sep 16, 2018 17:52
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Introduce power tools into the bedroom. Or, like, gunfire. in many ways my sex life is a gritty hard R remake of gerald mcboing-boing
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Sep 16, 2018 18:01
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My [M22] mom [56] is dating my great uncle [M72] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VsMcdEswK8k
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Sep 16, 2018 21:12
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My [M22] mom [56] is dating my great uncle [M72] Doesn't seem like such a great uncle to me
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Sep 16, 2018 21:22
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A girl friend [19F] casually got naked in front of me [19M]. Does she like me? u/cgigeek1st quote:I know it sounds a bit ridiculous, but bear with me. I've known her since we were little, and we're really close. We talk to each other about relationships, set each other up, all that good stuff. But I have to admit, after 14 (partly because of her growing up, party because i became a teen), I started thinking she was hot. I didn't really think she repepricated, so I never acted on it.  e: Guys, she ignored his obvious erection.
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Sep 16, 2018 21:32
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burial posted:A girl friend [19F] casually got naked in front of me [19M]. Does she like me? I've had a relationship start when someone sent me a picture of what she was wearing to a date and I told her she looked delicious in it. On the other hand, sometimes even women might just want relationship and fashion advice from a man friend. As for the erection, it might not have been obvious to her.  Point is: he should tell her how he feels and go from there.
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Sep 16, 2018 21:36
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My boyfriend [25] broke up with me [24] because of a trip I'm going on quote:Our relationship always seemed great up until now. Loving, no trust issues or anything like that. Together almost 2 years now and never have I done anything that will make him question my faithfulness.
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Sep 16, 2018 21:37
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I've had a relationship start when someone sent me a picture of what she was wearing to a date and I told her she looked delicious in it. On the other hand, sometimes even women might just want relationship and fashion advice from a man friend. As for the erection, it might not have been obvious to her. Yeah, and I’m maybe just old at heart, but changing in front of a dude and getting fashion advice in real time really seems pretty much like it’s gotta be either “I don’t see you as a sexual being at all” or, well. I don’t even know. It’d be different if she was just showing him the results in between changing. Sort of.
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Sep 16, 2018 21:42
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The next step is to try on clothes in front of her and see if she gets an obvious erection.
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Sep 16, 2018 21:43
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she is either way into you or thinks you're gay and either way i would just lean into & see what happens life is the journey
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Sep 16, 2018 22:00
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CheesyDog posted:Neighbour complained to my mother about my sex. I am 27(f), married and living in my own house. (self.sex) She may not realize that young children need to nap 1-2 times a day (depending on age), and little babies are basically sleeping at random, so it's very possible that having sex in the middle of the day actually does sometimes wake up the kids next door Her neighbor is a passive aggressive piece of poo poo child but probably isn't just making things up, and at the same time the OP is an idiot who hasn't thought of just moving to a different room jesus christ lady this isn't that hard just don't have sex in the room that's right next to the neighbors, this is someone who loves loving but only in a specific bedroom?? It's almost as though she wants to be heard
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Sep 16, 2018 22:08
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moosetoucher posted:My boyfriend [25] broke up with me [24] because of a trip I'm going on lol this is so sad and pathetic
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Sep 16, 2018 22:13
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My boyfriend [29M] intentionally tries to make me [26F] upset for his own amusement.quote:We've been together just over four years now. About two years ago he started to act differently. He likes saying horrible things to me such as racist/homophobic comments. He'll belittle me or say "sorry I wasn't listening" whenever I try to talk to him about something serious. He'll often grab me inappropriately after I ask him not to. He also likes making scenes in public and act like a toddler. Top comment: quote:Leaving him would send the message pretty clearly.
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Sep 16, 2018 22:16
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Nonvalueadded User posted:My boyfriend [29M] intentionally tries to make me [26F] upset for his own amusement. Holy gently caress, don't look at the comments for this one. Not because people are making bad ones, they're not really, but because the OP's comments are depressing as hell. She's just going straight through the beaten-into-the-dirt abused girlfriend checklist. And now it's been deleted by moderators, what the gently caress, /r/relationships? Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 22:37 on Sep 16, 2018 |
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Sep 16, 2018 22:33
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moosetoucher posted:My boyfriend [25] broke up with me [24] because of a trip I'm going on tbh I prolly wouldn't want to date someone that wanted to go drunk clubbing in in corfu without me either. Like the phrasing is bad but that's deffo a difference in relationship expectations too.
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Sep 16, 2018 22:43
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ArbitraryC posted:tbh I prolly wouldn't want to date someone that wanted to go drunk clubbing in in corfu without me either. Like the phrasing is bad but that's deffo a difference in relationship expectations too. okay but if she said "I'm sorry, I won't go then" would that be the end of it or would you further shrink into a tiny weeping ball of misery? he could at least be Pete about it and be like "I'm surprised you didn't even invite me, clearly we have different expectations. Good luck in your future relationships *fucks off to save an orphanage or something*" instead of acting like a weepy sack of poo poo
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Sep 16, 2018 22:49
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Maybe I'm thinking of this all wrong, maybe the guy just realized that he doesn't deserve her and the sudden onset of crippling anxiety over the impending jealousy made him realize that, and "please just break up with me" is code for "I'm too pathetic to even tell you that I'm too pathetic to be your partner". That's a kind of strength and I wish him the best of luck in finding a nice amish girlfriend
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Sep 16, 2018 22:54
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I mean that's kind of the OP's phrasing, sounds like the dude just had her spring the trip on him (she doesn't mention any discussion about it before hand) and noped right on out. Didn't give her an ultimatum, just said things were over and she should go enjoy her singles trip with her friends.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:02
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QuarkJets posted:She may not realize that young children need to nap 1-2 times a day (depending on age), and little babies are basically sleeping at random, so it's very possible that having sex in the middle of the day actually does sometimes wake up the kids next door she posted in the comments that all the kids were teenagers or older
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Sep 16, 2018 23:03
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moosetoucher posted:My boyfriend [25] broke up with me [24] because of a trip I'm going on He's cheating and this gave him a convenient out. ArbitraryC posted:tbh I prolly wouldn't want to date someone that wanted to go drunk clubbing in in corfu without me either. Like the phrasing is bad but that's deffo a difference in relationship expectations too. So is your partner not allowed to go out with friends without you anywhere else as well, or...? You either trust the person you're with or you don't, the location they're going out drinking with friends doesn't change anything.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:04
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13Pandora13 posted:So is your partner not allowed to go out with you anywhere else as well, or...? You either trust the person you're with or you don't, the location they're going out drinking with friends doesn't change anything.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:08
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I recall we had a genderswapped version of that post with a gf being uncomfortable with her bf springing a surprise trip she wasn't invited to with his old schoolfriends to Thailand and it was a p common consensus that it was weird.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:11
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QuarkJets posted:okay but if she said "I'm sorry, I won't go then" would that be the end of it or would you further shrink into a tiny weeping ball of misery? It's definitely a huge weiner thing to freak out this bad over but it sounds like somebody firmly convinced this dude that girls-only road trips exist only for the purposes of cheating, and nobody itt would say boo if the guy has this exact reaction to her proposing to open the relationship The more interesting line of speculation is what exact kind of movies/anime/whatever taught him all about trips to corfu
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Sep 16, 2018 23:13
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ArbitraryC posted:gf goes on long trips all the time for conferences or to visit family or such, don't got an issue with it and I'm generally invited too. Just think this sorta thing should be discussed beforehand and it's kinda weird to be going on what is essentially a singles trip to an exotic location with friends instead of going with your longterm SO and enjoying some romantic memories. This sounds exhausting. Work trips and visiting family are not vacations. "Romantic memories" are not the only relationships and life experiences worth having.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:17
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Nonvalueadded User posted:My boyfriend [29M] intentionally tries to make me [26F] upset for his own amusement.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:22
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ArbitraryC posted:I recall we had a genderswapped version of that post with a gf being uncomfortable with her bf springing a surprise trip she wasn't invited to with his old schoolfriends to Thailand and it was a p common consensus that it was weird. The Thailand trip story was explicitly a mixed gender group where a bunch of the people going were each others' exes. "3 best friends" sounds like a girls' trip, although arguably the fact she doesn't specify any details about the friends may indicate that they are dudes and she knows exactly why the trip looks bad.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:23
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Araenna posted:Could we maybe label posts that are just straight up depressing like the abuse ones so that people can skip them if they don't want to read that sort of thing? Unless I'm the only one who really cares of course. I mean was the literal title not label enough? I just scrolled past it because it looked depressing.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:25
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13Pandora13 posted:This sounds exhausting. Work trips and visiting family are not vacations. Kinda moving the goalposts there bub. You originally asked me if it was simply a trust issue, plenty of people cheat on worktrips or while visiting their family in hometowns. My response was that I trusted my partner well enough that stuff like that wasn't even remotely a concern, just that the context of this trip felt off to me. I don't personally consider it exhausting or a burden to vacation with my SO so I guess I just can't relate to your experience. That's why I said it likely was just a matter of expectations.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:26
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Straight White Shark posted:The Thailand trip story was explicitly a mixed gender group where a bunch of the people going were each others' exes. "3 best friends" sounds like a girls' trip, although arguably the fact she doesn't specify any details about the friends may indicate that they are dudes and she knows exactly why the trip looks bad. There was that one but I remember another that was just a boys vacation and it still landed badly.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:33
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He starts of accusatory but switches to sounding just really defeated and pathetic. Maybe mid-reaction the guy saw how possessive he was being and realised he couldn't handle the relationship anymore because he was overwhelmed with paranoia and insecurity.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:34
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Or maybe we have an unreliable narrator
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Sep 16, 2018 23:36
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MarcusSA posted:Or maybe we have an unreliable narrator On reddit?! No way! My [M22] gf [F22] of four weeks cheated on me with another guy in our small grad program. I have assigned seats next to her in two classes. quote:Thanks to any and all givers of advice, I just found out yesterday and I'm kind of reeling. I know four weeks isn't a long time, and I see that this is better than finding out she's a cheater down the road but I'm still pretty devastated. I'm on an executive board with this dude, and I'm not so much mad at him but as I said I sit next to her in two classes, assigned seating. What should I do? Should I hold my head high and pretend I don't care? Should I ask to change seats and then answer EVERYONE'S questions about why I changed seats? The lesson here, folks, is never date people in your department.
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Sep 16, 2018 23:44
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Absurd Alhazred posted:On reddit?! No way! Why not just nut up stay where you are and ignore her?
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Sep 16, 2018 23:58
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ArbitraryC posted:Kinda moving the goalposts there bub. You originally asked me if it was simply a trust issue, plenty of people cheat on worktrips or while visiting their family in hometowns. My response was that I trusted my partner well enough that stuff like that wasn't even remotely a concern, just that the context of this trip felt off to me. I don't personally consider it exhausting or a burden to vacation with my SO so I guess I just can't relate to your experience. That's why I said it likely was just a matter of expectations. How is it "moving the goalposts" when you brought up that you find it acceptable for your partner to go on work/family trips without you, but not friend trips, as if those things are remotely comparable? You only trust your partner to travel when she's under the guardianship of her employer or family? Your partner deserves to have life experiences without you and vice versa - a trip with friends and a trip with a partner fundamentally carries different expectations, experiences, etc. that have nothing to do with getting some strange, especially for women. If you and your partner have 100% overlapping interests in food, activities, ideal vacation spot, I guess that's great for you, but I think the vast majority of people have things in their life their partner doesn't give a poo poo about or doesnt't like, and being in a relationship doesn't necessitate giving those things up.
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Why especially for women? (Not being a prick, it’s just actually unclear what you mean.)
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