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He's gay and he wants guilt free gay sex. That's the only thing i can think of
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speculation here, but you gotta figure he just does not want to be married to his wife and is finding a petty bullshit reason because "i wanna bang more women and marry someone else eventually" would make him look like an even bigger rear end in a top hat
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quote:I [27F] want to sedate mentally & physically handicapped future-SIL [25F] at our wedding. Advice? Opinions? Alternatives?◉ Locked Post ◉
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Pick posted:scar It is real weird after a 7 year good marriage. Finding people you are actually compatible with sucks and takes time, because most people you date for more than a few weeks seem compatible for 4-30 months. If the marriage is otherwise good this guy is a literal idiot. I seriously suspect there is more to it. Mismatched sex drives, midlife crisis, sick of her personality, who knows. I also kind of don't get why the wife won't do anything about the scar. I mean in my case I have a scar that's about 8" long and 1" wide so getting it removed wouldn't be very practical. There are some other minor things I suppose I'd get a minor operation for in that situation, but at the same time I'd probably want to end a relationship with someone who cares so drat much about a 2" scar on my stomach that they'd terminate a long rear end good? relationship over it. Khorne fucked around with this message at 08:21 on Jan 10, 2017 |
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Jan 10, 2017 08:12
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She fully accepts that the sister will be dependant on her and does not baulk, should she not be allowed one day without this burden?
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Jeff Sichoe posted:She fully accepts that the sister will be dependant on her and does not baulk, should she not be allowed one day without this burden? yeah i really dont see anything at all wrong with wanting to sedate the sister so she doesnt ruin her wedding. she;'ll prob have abetter time if shes barred out anyways
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Jan 10, 2017 08:16
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What if it's a really rad, tough scar and the husband feels emasculated? Like the kind you could make some crazy bullshit up about at the bar and people would buy it? "Oh, this? I caught a kukri slash while fighting three off-duty Gurkhas in an opium den in Jakarta. After the fight, a blind bodhisattva blessed the wound and it closed right up." It could totally be killing his boner.
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Tolkien minority posted:yeah i really dont see anything at all wrong with wanting to sedate the sister so she doesnt ruin her wedding. she;'ll prob have abetter time if shes barred out anyways Sedated may be an overreaction but having one special day without having to worry the sister - regardless of mental capacity - not cause a scene?
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The post says that her husband agrees bout her behavior so I'm going to go on faith that it is an issue. But gently caress no you don't drug her. You ask the parents to keep an eye on her and escort her out should the need arise.
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I think sedating her is fine but lol because yikes there's no way to make yourself sound good there
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I dunno, it just feels gross to drug a handicapped person just for some peace. There has to better better solution.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:The post says that her husband agrees bout her behavior so I'm going to go on faith that it is an issue. But gently caress no you don't drug her. You ask the parents to keep an eye on her and escort her out should the need arise. Hahahahaha. Drug her. Ativan. The parents deserve to witness this moment in their children's lives and they probably need a break from the chick who vomits on herself. Those people need 24/7 care and even saints can't put up with them that much. Ride The Gravitron posted:I dunno, it just feels gross to drug a handicapped person just for some peace. There has to better better solution. That's literally how they deal with the profoundly disabled in hospitals. This woman, as unlucky as she is, is lucky enough to have a family that will love her and care for her even when her parents die. She won't spend her life in one of those institutions. She can take a day of sedation, especially considering ativan is the sedative she probably has. Chichevache fucked around with this message at 08:43 on Jan 10, 2017 |
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Pick posted:I think sedating her is fine but lol because yikes there's no way to make yourself sound good there This is what the paid assistant is for. She should be in charge of the SIL, tend to her and help keep her calm. Also--give the SIL some flowers, just for her, so she doesn't feel completely abandoned and start the vomiting routine.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:You ask the parents to keep an eye on her and escort her out should the need arise. quote:I don't want MIL to spend her time at the ceremony in the back with SIL trying to keep her from acting out. At Evan's cousin's college graduation we attended, that's all my MIL did the whole time. She didn't get to enjoy it. And seeing as this will most likely be the only wedding she gets to go to where one of her kids is getting married, I'd like for her to be able to participate without having to feel like she needs to chaperone in the back. OP doesn't want that either. I don't really see why she can't be taken cared of by a caretaker, she seems to have one according to the post.
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Khorne posted:Lmao. This kind of things happens with scars or any physical "defect". I've been on the receiving end of this from a woman before. I mean, she only knew me for a very short period of time so it was completely acceptable to find something like repulsive. My dad has a really cool scar from one of his wipeouts at the mt hood skibowl slide. He got bandaged up and went right back on it again and got a different less-cool scar from a second wipeout. Despite going there every summer, I've managed to never eat poo poo that hard on the slide but imho it's a badge of honor
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I Found a Bag of Weed in my Basement u/weedinmybasement8h I live in New York State, outside Rochester. I bought my house six years ago, and just this weekend I started renovating the half-assed job the previous owner did of finishing the basement. I tore out a bunch of crappy fake wood paneling and I found a hidden alcove that contained a bunch of porn magazines and a ziploc bag of weed. I didn't touch any of it (I was wearing work gloves anyhow) and I put that panel back for now. There's enough dust on the stuff that I'm sure no one has been in the alcove in years. Call me naive, but I don't think it's going to go well if I call 911 and say "I found the previous homeowner's stash." Even just reading that back, it sounds like bullshit. Could an attorney (criminal defense, I guess?) arrange for me to surrender the weed for disposal?
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I Found a Bag of Weed in my Basement Dispose of it in a series of small contained fires
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JFairfax posted:Dispose of it in a series of small contained fires This is really the best option.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I Found a Bag of Weed in my Basement what a loving weenie
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I Found a Bag of Weed in my Basement Oh my God I hope he calls the police and when they roll up to his house they take one look at his dweeby little face and believe him when he swears it's not his, officer, honest.
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Tiny Deer posted:Oh my God I hope he calls the police and when they roll up to his house they take one look at his dweeby little face and believe him when he swears it's not his, officer, honest. I mean in fairness why the gently caress would you call the cops on yourself if it was yours? I'd probably believe it too.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I Found a Bag of Weed in my Basement Just smoke the hell out of that stuff or burn it or flush it down the toilet. What a maroon. Who posts online about this?
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What if its old and spoiled, the weed runs man.
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Pick posted:My (29M) fiancee (29F) likes cuddling with her stuffed animals more than me Dude really needs to take his fiancee on an extended vacation to Hawaii or Italy or somewhere really nice and different as an escape from her mundane life because that is exactly what she is doing with her elaborate stuffed animal fantasies. Alternatively, it's not really that bad since she pays attention to him again and they're both huge rear end nerds with an otherwise functional relationship. Could be so much worse like comic book rear end in a top hat guy. Still super weird but it doesn't register much.
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La Brea Carpet posted:Here's the plot of an 80s teen movie from the perspective of the mother From a while ago, but there's no way this was written by a 50-something year old woman, or a woman at all for that matter.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I dunno, it just feels gross to drug a handicapped person just for some peace. There has to better better solution. Asking my bro to take his klonopin so he's not a goddamn mess from the social anxiety wouldn't be uncouth. If you end up in a mental ward they dope you up if you're a hassle. poo poo sucks, but it is what it is.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Dude really needs to take his fiancee on an extended vacation to Hawaii or Italy or somewhere really nice and different as an escape That can do wonders, but it's not within the means of most people.
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My "traditional" wife (27) and I (28) are having some serious issues in our finances. Please read and share your insight. Looking for some helpful suggestionsquote:This is a throwaway account to remain anonymous. My wife and I have always struggled to see eye-to-eye over finances. I've always been a 50/50 person with bills and joint expenses, and she's more "traditional" where the man must cover the larger portion no matter what. This is what's causing us to fight. We have separate finances and do not plan on combing our income. This is a mutual decision. I realize that we should have discussed this before marriage, but it's too late. So please don't point out the obvious. We are still here and trying to work it out.
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Take out a large life insurance plan on your wife and anytime she mentions that you don't make enough money/contribute enough over her, mention the plan and use phrases like "there's more than one way to skin a cat"
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Money fights are usually the worse ones so that relationship is doomed and he should get out now. "Traditional" my rear end she just wants to be a free loader
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Dial-a-Dog posted:Take out a large life insurance plan on your wife and anytime she mentions that you don't make enough money/contribute enough over her, mention the plan and use phrases like "there's more than one way to skin a cat" Alfred Hitchcock's The Door, I like it
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It amazes me that people get married before having conversations about finances. That poo poo is right up there with sexual compatibility and position on having kids as far as "know before getting married" concerns go.
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I don't understand why some married people have money issues. I make around 65k and my wife, 35k. All of our money goes into one account which is used to pay bills and cover daily expenses. Some of that is automatically sent to different savings accounts to use for investments/rainy days/oh-poo poo-this-happened kind of things. If either of us wants a big ticket item we just say, "I would like to purchase X for $xxx. Do we have enough to cover that?" As long as bills are paid, food is on the table, and we keep ourselves entertained, what else is there? We're not roommates.
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Meridian posted:It amazes me that people get married before having conversations about finances. That poo poo is right up there with sexual compatibility and position on having kids as far as "know before getting married" concerns go. Same, in my mind there are three major incompatibilities that will kill a relationship dead every time. Those are being sexually incompatible, having different ideas on finances, and mismatched desire to have kids. Not at least having a conversation about these things before getting married is insane. Either this guy was a complete dummy, or he knew without talking about it that his wife had very different ideas about money than he did, and just chose to bury his head in the sand and hope for the best, rather than face the difficult conversation and possibility of being alone
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Meridian posted:It amazes me that people get married before having conversations about finances. That poo poo is right up there with sexual compatibility and position on having kids as far as "know before getting married" concerns go. Before I moved in with a guy for the first time, my mom told me to make sure we were on the same page with regards to sex and money and if we weren't to wait on moving in together until we were. It's good advice.
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Dial-a-Dog posted:Same, in my mind there are three major incompatibilities that will kill a relationship dead every time. Those are being sexually incompatible, having different ideas on finances, and mismatched desire to have kids. Not at least having a conversation about these things before getting married is insane. All not talking about issues like that does is bury a landmine. If it is never actually talked about it will cause resentment, and who knows, maybe one day it will explode.
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If she's so in to traditional gender roles, why can't he just command her to pay her fair share and have her meekly obey?
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My [25F] dogs [5F German Sheppard & 3M Rottweiler] has started to growl at my boyfriend [27M] anytime he comes near my son [4M] (Non-Romantic)quote:Earlier in my relationship my dogs loved my boyfriend, he would play with them, he would take them for walks but recently they hate him. It's like if he comes near my son they are fully prepared to take a chunk out of him. My dogs have never had a problem with anyone, people always comment how gentle they are. lassie lives!!
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Hug in a Can posted:My [25F] dogs [5F German Sheppard & 3M Rottweiler] has started to growl at my boyfriend [27M] anytime he comes near my son [4M] (Non-Romantic) A /r/relationships success story! 
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