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christmas boots posted:Why even enlist then?? poverty and no future
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christmas boots posted:Why even enlist then?? To get cheated on
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Baronjutter posted:One weird trick to avoid name drama: just don't change your name when you get married. It's one less form to fill out. Or actually if you have a ton of degrees and paperwork and are moving countries is a hell of a lot less paperwork. OTOH having a common last name also has advantages; for instance when you go visit your dying spouse in the hospital you don't have to bring a marriage certificate to prove that you're related, you just flash your driver's license.
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jobson groeth posted:To get cheated on 
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christmas boots posted:Why even enlist then?? so they could be cheateFUCK
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Me [28 M] dating woman [24F] with a colourful past who seems to be reluctant to open up fully about her work etc. So I have been dating a woman, let’s call her Jane. We met on tinder around two months ago. Jane (24/F) is an interesting character, left school at 13, ran away from home, became a hostess (currently in Japan, she is native Japanese, also if you don’t know what a hostess is there are tons of articles if you slap it into google) and has pretty extensive tattoos, a rarity for Japan (and no she isn’t Yakuza). She took her sisters passport as you legally aren’t allowed to hostess until you are 18. Her English isn’t great so communication is sometimes difficult, but I do genuinely like her a lot. She even ran a “health girl” business which is pretty much a prostitution business when she was 21. So I feel she has been in the shady underbelly of Japanese society for some time. The other day we had a discussion about her work and her life. I had some questions about the work she has been involved in, and rather than let it stew I wanted to be upfront about it. So I decided to ask her more about her work, her past etc. Please be aware that I would never ask her to stop doing what she does, whatever it entailed, but it was out of my own curiosity/some insecurities that I wanted to know. She opened up about running this “health girl business” but assured me she never did it herself, even though oddly, I wouldn’t have cared if she did. We all make money selling ourselves, who am I to judge if someone uses their body. Basically she made more money hostessing so her logic was: why would she bother to sell her body when she can make more money drinking and pretending to find men interesting. Note, the first time we met she said she did office work (she does as well), but didn’t admit to being a hostess. It’s not something that is often admitted to in Japan and I think she is used to feeling ashamed about her work, which is something I never want her to feel when she talks to me. Getting to the crux of the point, I’m not sure if she is being 100% honest with me, which of course is her right. Yet I feel if I want to keep dating this girl honesty is something I hold in high regard. When she was showing me some old pictures of her, there were some of her semi-naked with her hostess name at the bottom. Note they looked pretty homemade, ie I think maybe it was just her and a friend doing it, but it was reminisce of the more shady massage parlors you see in the red light districts. Should I just leave it? Maybe it’s a part of her life she doesn’t want to really open up about, and what right do I have to know about it, especially as we aren’t “officially” together. As a self-professed feminist I am trying to balance my own curiosity/worries with my opinion that she doesn’t have to tell me jack poo poo. I suppose for me it’s just about the knowing, I hate feeling that I’m being lied to/in the dark. Should I just stop worrying about it and just take solace in the fact I know she really likes me, maybe even loves me, or try and get her to be open about it? I know she really likes me, for example surprising me for my birthday with a cake, present, probably spending like $500 over the space of a week on meals, drinks etc. Its new territory for me, dating someone with such a colourful past, and who works in what is considered a pretty shady business practice and I’m not quite sure how to tackle it. TL;DR cool girl, really like her, works as hostess, pretty intense past, do I have any right to know about it? Thanks https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7gzFBnfRfo
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I'm not yakuza I just like their tattoos and run prostitution parlors for fun 
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Baronjutter posted:One weird trick to avoid name drama: just don't change your name when you get married. It's one less form to fill out. Or actually if you have a ton of degrees and paperwork and are moving countries is a hell of a lot less paperwork. But not changing your name can also cause drama. The real solution is to only marry someone who already has the same last name.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Jane (24/F) is an interesting character, left school at 13, ran away from home, became a hostess (currently in Japan, she is native Japanese, also if you don’t know what a hostess is there are tons of articles if you slap it into google) and has pretty extensive tattoos, a rarity for Japan (and no she isn’t Yakuza). lol Marry her and leave the country. She'll say yes, that 25th birthday is breathing down her neck and you're her ticket away from a lifetime of poo poo.
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QuarkJets posted:I'm not yakuza I just like their tattoos and run prostitution parlors for fun AFAIK women aren't allowed to become members of the Yakuza.
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EightDeer posted:AFAIK women aren't allowed to become members of the Yakuza. That’s sexist.
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MarcusSA posted:That’s sexist. Yakuza isn't a gender. As their lawyers frequently explain, they are a persecuted ethnosocial minority group.
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That girl sounds cool and he sounds like a dork he should totally blow up his relationship with the badass Japanese survivor girl.
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Doc Hawkins posted:Yakuza isn't a gender. As their lawyers frequently explain, they are a persecuted ethnosocial minority group. sounds legit
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Bust Rodd said I could cross-post this:Bust Rodd posted:I may have told this story before in the thread but my High School sweetheart moved to the same city as I did after she graduated and we stayed in touch. 3 years in she started dating one of the adjunct profs, like a 52 year old guy to her 21-22. Nissin Cup Nudist posted:So what was real dad's reaction? Bust Rodd posted:Let’s just say dinner was quiet
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Splicer posted:Bust Rodd said I could cross-post this: here's hoping his field was literary, it's great writing material at least
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Antivehicular posted:I "like" that the dude was 100% okay in that relationship until he was faced with visual evidence he was sleeping with someone young enough to be his daughter Age is just a number, but he realized he was her doppeldadder. e: dadderganger?
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Doc Hawkins posted:Age is just a number, but he realized he was her doppeldadder. Pop-poppleganger. e: sorry that's for a granpappy, I guess it would just be regular poppleganger.
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AITA for making Gargoyle noises while my overtly loud roommates have sex late into the night after repeatedly asking them to quiet down? So, I've been having this problem for a while now with my roommate. But basically, his girlfriend makes ridiculously loud moans and screams during sex late into the night on weekdays that keeps me awake. I've asked him numerous times to just have his gf not do that since it is something he can control and me and my gf are quiet when it's late on a weeknight out of common courtesy. Well, it didn't stop. Anyway, since I'm at my wit's end for him not respecting my wishes, I've decided that whenever it happens to make grotesque, gargoyle noises beneath them and scream it out of my window until I kill their mood as a way to put a stop to it. The noises are kind of, like, SKREEEEEEEOOOOOOOASH! SKREEEEASCCHHHHH! followed by snorts and the like. So far, it has proven about 50% effective, and he is asking me what I'm doing downstairs. I brush it off like it's no big deal and I really don't know what he's talking about, citing it's probably my other roommates playing video games. His audibly loud gf (amazingly) seems able to stop her moaning and screaming during sex whenever the first floor Gargoyle rears its ugly head. AITA for making gargoyle noises to ruin my roommate's mood with his gf because he won't respect my wishes to not have audibly loud sex in the middle of the night on weekdays?
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AITA for not wanting to have anal sex with my boyfriend? I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year. I'm very 'vanilla' and prudish. My boyfriend is, to be frank, kinky. When we started having sex, he asked if I had anything I would refuse to do during sex. I told him that anal was a huge no go, and thought that was it. I've tried anal once, the guy I was with used a lot of lube, it still hurt and when I told him to stop, he didn't. He knows this. Now he's started begging me to have anal sex with him. I've told him that it was a firm no, that there's a lot I might be willing to do during sex, but anal is a boundary I don't want to cross. Now he won't stop bothering me about it. We should try this or that, "it doesn't hurt if you use lube", "pleassee", "I promise it won't hurt" and his favourite, "But you've never tried it with me!' I don't care that I've never tried it with you, I don't enjoy it, have a bad history with it and I've tried compromising with you, but you refuse. He's called me an rear end in a top hat and asked me why I'm such a prude. I'm seriously considering ending the relationship. So Reddit, who's the rear end in a top hat?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for making Gargoyle noises while my overtly loud roommates have sex late into the night after repeatedly asking them to quiet down? That's not what Keith David sounds like at all!
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not wanting to have anal sex with my boyfriend? The rear end in a top hat is the rear end in a top hat, would've thought that'd be obvious. Oh also your boyfriend's a huge jerk
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AITA For standing up at a concert while the people behind us keep asking us to sit down? So this happened last week and I’m still bewildered by it. We went to the Elton John concert at Madison Square Garden. It was a pretty large concert, and we were able to get seats on the floor. We were in one of the back sections on the floor, which consisted of chairs set up on risers to create a sloped seating arrangement. We’re sitting in our seats and the show starts. Everyone in front of us stands up and starts jamming with the music, and we join them. After the second song, the people sitting two rows behind us ask us to sit down. We turn around and see they’re an older couple, surrounded by a bunch of younger couples. I was trying to be respectful of their situation, so during one of Elton’s slower songs, we sit down, and politely ask the people in front of us to sit down as well. Enough rows sit down in front of us so that we can see the stage. Well, the song eventually ends and he starts playing Tiny Dancer, we stand back up along with all the people in front of us and next to us. The people behind us ask is to sit down, and we refuse. Eventually, the young couple in the row directly behind us, taps me on the back and asks if we could sit down because the people behind them keep asking. At this point, Philadelphia Freedom is on, and I flat out refuse. Everyone in front of us is standing and I want to stand up and jam. The older couple starts getting really angry and frustrated, now yelling at us to sit down. We ignore them. When the song finishes, Elton starts playing a slower song, so we sit down along with the people in front of us. The older couple, and the people sitting next to them start clapping sarcastically. I turned around and shot them a dirty look. So, for the rest of the show, we stood up for pretty much every upbeat song. Eventually, the young couple behind us apologized to us, saying they felt pressured by the people behind them. It’s an Elton John concert. True, it’s not the kind of music that you’d have a pit to dance in and they provided chairs, but when pretty much everybody in the arena is standing up to jam, why shouldn’t we be allowed to? AITA for standing up at this concert, despite the people behind me asking me to sit down?
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Once one person on the airplane reclines, everyone behind them has to also, even if they'd prefer to stay sitting up.
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Beachcomber posted:Once one person on the airplane reclines, everyone behind them has to also, even if they'd prefer to stay sitting up. Huh are you saying they shouldn’t have been standing during a concert? I’ve never been to a show that has seating where people just sat in their chairs the whole time. Live music is for standing. E: that probably is not what you are saying
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Tetramin posted:Huh are you saying they shouldn’t have been standing during a concert? I’ve never been to a show that has seating where people just sat in their chairs the whole time. Live music is for standing. You've probably never seen an artist whose heyday was the 70s and whose biggest fans all have one foot in the grave.
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Tetramin posted:Huh are you saying they shouldn’t have been standing during a concert? I’ve never been to a show that has seating where people just sat in their chairs the whole time. Live music is for standing. I think he was saying the reverse, once one person stands up it’s inevitable and so useless to try to get people to sit back down
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I had some fat bitch pull this poo poo while I was at a Queensryche concert. Everyone but her and her friend were standing. When she kept bitching, I turned around and told her to just stand. If I sat down, she still wouldn't see poo poo anyway since everyone in our line of sight was on their feet. I don't know what she did after that since I ignored her.
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Me [28/M] with my girlfriend [26/F] of 10 months. Just found out she writes incest-themed fanfiction about real people. Is this a problem and should I tell her I know?quote:I'm pretty certain my girlfriend doesn't reddit, but I'm using a throwaway and changing minor details anyway because it's such a specific situation.
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PostNouveau posted:You've probably never seen an artist whose heyday was the 70s and whose biggest fans all have one foot in the grave. one of the top voted comments was a guy who was like "it's a generational thing young feller, I saw the Beatles live and we sat for them too" so I think you're into something.
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Papa Emeritus III posted:I had some fat bitch pull this poo poo while I was at a Queensryche concert. Everyone but her and her friend were standing. When she kept bitching, I turned around and told her to just stand. If I sat down, she still wouldn't see poo poo anyway since everyone in our line of sight was on their feet. I don't know what she did after that since I ignored her. Smirking_Serpent posted:one of the top voted comments was a guy who was like "it's a generational thing young feller, I saw the Beatles live and we sat for them too" so I think you're into something. I'm going to my first GZA gig in a few weeks in the middle of bumfuck nowhere, where seats don't exist and never have. Glad I won't have to worry about this poo poo. Only my feet. School Nickname fucked around with this message at 03:36 on Mar 16, 2019 |
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Haifisch posted:Me [28/M] with my girlfriend [26/F] of 10 months. Just found out she writes incest-themed fanfiction about real people. Is this a problem and should I tell her I know? I desperately need to know whom this fanfiction is about, both out of morbid curiosity and because it determines whether this poo poo is just creepy or mega-creepy. (Writing incest fanfiction about celebrities is creepy. Writing incest fanfiction about people you know in person is mega-creepy.)
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School Nickname posted:I'm going to my first GZA gig in a few weeks in the middle of bumfuck nowhere, where seats don't exist and never have. Glad I won't have to worry about this poo poo. Only my feet. Standing general admission or give me death! Fuckin hate seated venues. Haifisch posted:Me [28/M] with my girlfriend [26/F] of 10 months. Just found out she writes incest-themed fanfiction about real people. Is this a problem and should I tell her I know? I was expecting this to be some Supernatural RPing incestuous slashfic but close enough. Since I've been desensitized by the internet, I think reddit peeps' "this is normal" is acceptable. Just wait until he sees the sonic porn on DA. Antivehicular posted:I desperately need to know whom this fanfiction is about, both out of morbid curiosity and because it determines whether this poo poo is just creepy or mega-creepy. (Writing incest fanfiction about celebrities is creepy. Writing incest fanfiction about people you know in person is mega-creepy.)  Curious about that, too.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:one of the top voted comments was a guy who was like "it's a generational thing young feller, I saw the Beatles live and we sat for them too" so I think you're into something. It probably is generational. But once one person stands up, it sets off a chain reaction and that's that; you're standing. (Not you specifically, but you know what I mean.) I'm not *that* old, but I rarely go to concerts anymore. Not because I mind standing, but because I can't loving stand morons and their cell phones. I've never had an issue with people standing. They wanna dance or they're just excited. I get it. I will never understand some dumbfuck who wants to watch a concert on their cell phone because, "hey, someone is TOTALLY gonna want to watch this lovely video of blinding stage lights and indiscernible audio later! I can post it on Instagram and get a a few likes later instead of enjoying the music! Worth it!"
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Antivehicular posted:I desperately need to know whom this fanfiction is about, both out of morbid curiosity and because it determines whether this poo poo is just creepy or mega-creepy. (Writing incest fanfiction about celebrities is creepy. Writing incest fanfiction about people you know in person is mega-creepy.) It says it's about famous people in the tldr, so 99% chance it's about the brothers from Supernatural.
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