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quote:I'm straight but I keep getting drunk at parties and loving men. I want to get with women but they're not interested. Also, thinking about it, I hardly meet any women around now and I'm wondering where the heck are they? Anyway... at these parties where women aren't interested: before you know it some gay man at the party is chatting with me and we're getting flirtatious. Now if someone's flirting with me and I'm a little tipsy I'm going to take the compliment. I'm maybe even going to pay it back. Also when it comes to these guys I'm not gay but sometimes I can appreciate on an academic level that maybe there's some attractiveness to this person. it's like if I were gay I could have done much worse. Lotta layers to this one At first I was like "I don't think you're actually straight" but then I got to the part where you actually can't perform with dudes because you have no interest in them so then I'm like "ok what would I tell a guy who only gets interest from women he has no interest in" and the answer is "you should take better care of yourself and girls who do likewise will start actually responding to you" but that doesn't really apply here because by all accounts gay dudes tend to have higher standards for attractiveness than straight women (offset by lower inhibitions w/r/t loving strangers of course) so basically what I think the problem is is that you're too easily discouraged by women not immediately being way into you the way a dude who wants to bone you would be. Culturally you're supposed to take more initiative with them and this is what they're used to, so give that a shot. Alternately, try methods of meeting them that don't involve parties (online dating maybe). also I guess you set off a lot of gaydar??? Try butching up a little bit??? I dunno man quote:My dad was always abusive growing up. He never really crossed the line into anything major, though once he left a big welt on my face and I called the cops. But mostly he'd stand in the doorway and scream at me, shoving me if I tried to leave, and threaten to call the cops and have me sent to the local juvie (famous for kids getting raped) if I "assaulted" him by pushing past. Man, it's kind of hosed-up that apparently in whatever part of Canada this is you can beat your kids until they are adults who not only are a physical match for you but are not dependent on you for survival, in which case it is illegal
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At what point do you go into the bedroom with someone you have no interest in? I feel like Loquacious has hit it on the head with this guy having a lack of initiative, and I want to take that further: it's not just a lack of initiative toward women, it's a lack of initiative all around. This guy won't even say "nah dude I'm not gay let's not have sex." I know masculinity is seen as toxic these days and so on, but I feel like the correct response here is "grow a pair". Or alternatively get yourself on fetlife and seek out dominant women. Azza Bamboo fucked around with this message at 16:30 on Aug 24, 2018 |
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Aug 24, 2018 16:21
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I feel this is the kind of situation where the thread title applies. You won't have to think about either flavour of sex anymore, win-win! But seriously, I agree with loq that you should try something other than parties, god knows I tried that and it did not work for me (I didn't get to attract any men though, so I can say I accomplished even less!...I think?), but I managed to enter a relationship with a woman I love thanks to the internet. Plus, whatever is attracting gay dudes to you may not appear through chat, so that could help both give you confidence with women and avoid men.
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Aug 24, 2018 16:37
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HugeGrossBurrito posted:I've been thinking about doing a big horror movie post, wife and I have been watching so many recently there are a surprising number of good ones between Netflix and Amazon Prime. I would dig this, it is hard to sift through the garbage.
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Aug 24, 2018 16:45
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Applesnots posted:I would dig this, it is hard to sift through the garbage. Some of them are very entertaining garbage. I just watched a Dolph Lundgren horror movie called Dont Kill It, it was terrible but super fun. If you kill the monster you become the monster.
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Aug 24, 2018 16:50
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HugeGrossBurrito posted:Some of them are very entertaining garbage. I just watched a Dolph Lundgren horror movie called Dont Kill It, it was terrible but super fun. If you kill the monster you become the monster. That sounds awesome! I am a fan of fun low budget films, recently there seems to be so many flooding the genre due to cheap cameras and they all take themselves too seriously. There is a TON of good Troma movies on Amazon prime.
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Aug 24, 2018 16:53
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I hate horror movies I also scare easily and jump through the roof
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Aug 24, 2018 16:54
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HugeGrossBurrito posted:Some of them are very entertaining garbage. I just watched a Dolph Lundgren horror movie called Dont Kill It, it was terrible but super fun. If you kill the monster you become the monster. Dolph Lundgren, in: FINAL FANTASY X
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Aug 24, 2018 16:58
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Nissin Cup Nudist posted:I hate horror movies My understanding is that there is more to the genre than torture porn(?) but the various horror movie trailers I've seen over my life of terrified women being hurt and killed upset me so much that I've literally never watched a horror or slasher movie.
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Aug 24, 2018 17:02
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I hate all the torture stuff its not fun to watch imo.
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The Goosebumps book I can never forget was the one where the school photographer trapped everyone in the photo in a monochrome hellscape when he took the photo and it was very surreal and upsetting and there was a class who had been in there for like... decades because it'd happened once before. And one of the kids in the current class had actually been from that class but escaped and used makeup to hide that she had no color at all. The people who'd been in there a long time had lost a lot of their humanity and snapped under the horror and you had to use color to escape but as soon as you were in it'd start to drain from you... they escaped using the lipstick tube the escaped girl had on her to cut a hole in the world, or something?
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Aug 24, 2018 17:10
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Torture porn is bad, Troma is...well it is just stupid. But fun. Like the toxic avenger. Or Class of Nukem High.
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Secretly not-gay-virginwithgirls-butnotguys goon: I hear ya pal. I have sex with men too, every day, all day, but I'm not actually gay either. I don't even have to say "no homo" as a dick gets shoved inside me to prove that I'm not, I just know that I'm straight as gently caress yo! You should try some viagra or something so you can get a boner and please the dudes you selfish prick.
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Aug 24, 2018 17:39
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having sex with guys but not gay goon: try cutting off your dick. If you don't have a dick, most gay men (i've been told?) are generally not that interested as they're into those. This will solve that problem right away. Now the women you can just perform oral sex on and say you're just into getting them off, ezpz my dude good luck!
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Aug 24, 2018 18:47
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The best horror movies are campy horror movies. Putting Jason Voorhees on a space ship was a brilliant move and everyone who hated it are philistines. This is not an ironic post.
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Aug 24, 2018 18:52
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Danaru posted:The best horror movies are campy horror movies. Putting Jason Voorhees on a space ship was a brilliant move and everyone who hated it are philistines. This is not an ironic post. It was a great end to the series. Much better than 8 and 9.
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sugar free jazz posted:having sex with guys but not gay goon: try cutting off your dick. If you don't have a dick, most gay men (i've been told?) are generally not that interested as they're into those. This will solve that problem right away. Now the women you can just perform oral sex on and say you're just into getting them off, ezpz my dude good luck! To be really sure he'd have to cut off his butt too
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Danaru posted:The best horror movies are campy horror movies. Putting Jason Voorhees on a space ship was a brilliant move and everyone who hated it are philistines. This is not an ironic post. This but unironically
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Freddy vs Jason is one of the best slasher movies of all time. And it's shot way more beautifully than it had any right to be. It's basically the Skyfall of slasher movies.
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Solice Kirsk posted:Freddy vs Jason is one of the best slasher movies of all time. And it's shot way more beautifully than it had any right to be. It's basically the Skyfall of slasher movies. Anyone else getted hyped as gently caress at the end of "Jason Goes to Hell" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Oqcgs6J9EU
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The buried lede in not-gay fesh is “I’ve never even seen a vagina” so like you’ve been sexually intimate with only men ever? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm forever
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Aug 24, 2018 20:09
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Wamdoodle posted:Anyone else getted hyped as gently caress at the end of "Jason Goes to Hell" I still choose to believe Jason Goes To Hell ends shortly after Jason's vapourized by mortar fire. The director very openly wanted to make an Evil Dead movie, which would be fine and all if he weren't making an F13 movie.  Jason's got enough going on without the body snatcher stuff. Just stitch the clip of Freddy grabbing his mask after the part where the FBI are all cheering since that part loving rulesWith that said, I always wanted the developers of the game to add Kane Hodder as his FBI character as a hero you can play as instead of Tommy. Instead of slamming a machete into his face, Kane would call in the mortar strike from the movie 
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loquacius posted:To be really sure he'd have to cut off his butt too Eeeeeh don’t you think that’s a little extreme though?
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You can't cut off your butthole in the conventional way. You have to "cut it off" from the source using a colostomy.
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Azza Bamboo posted:You can't cut off your butthole in the conventional way. You have to "cut it off" from the source using a colostomy. 
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Vacancy is one of my favorite suspense/horror movies of the last decade, the tension and pacing is v. good.HugeGrossBurrito posted:I've been thinking about doing a big horror movie post, wife and I have been watching so many recently there are a surprising number of good ones between Netflix and Amazon Prime. Yes please.
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Danaru posted:I still choose to believe Jason Goes To Hell ends shortly after Jason's vapourized by mortar fire. The director very openly wanted to make an Evil Dead movie, which would be fine and all if he weren't making an F13 movie. There's something funny about horror movie monsters coming up against people with actual guns and getting completely wrecked because they're used to preying on distracted teenagers. Like if Silence of the Lambs ended with Hannibal getting filled with bullets by a SWAT team. Or the Joker. (also reminded that The Dark Knight probably, and apparently canonically according to Nolan or someone, getting sent to Gitmo or a Supermax for the rest of his life for being a goddamn terrorist) And then on the other hand, Predator has a horror movie monster that specifically preys ON heavily armed badasses. Cabin in the Woods was weird but kind of makes sense in a 'commercialisation of the fantastic' way where all the monsters and killers are basically kept in a zoo and used as circus performers to appease an audience who could tear the whole thing down if dissatisfied. (the Ancients are a metaphor for the film audience)
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Applesnots posted:Torture porn is bad, Troma is...well it is just stupid. But fun. Like the toxic avenger. Or Class of Nukem High. The great thing about Troma is that they know they're stupid, low-budget schlock and they just run with it. Chopper Chicks in Zombie Town is the one of the most entertaining movies I've ever seen. It knows it's trashy and awful and boy howdy does it have fun with it.
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stroke dad goon owns, dad sounds like a real piece of poo poo
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HugeGrossBurrito posted:I've been thinking about doing a big horror movie post, wife and I have been watching so many recently there are a surprising number of good ones between Netflix and Amazon Prime. I would be interested in this. I have a lot of horror movie opinions and nowhere to put them. My life goal is to watch every syfy original movie (which tend more toward horror than scifi) but there are so many. I think last time I checked I was around 60% through, which is far too many bad horror movies for one lifetime, but i can't stop now.
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Android Blues posted:Yes, and I should make the caveat that there's a lot of good horror out there, and I'm a huge horror fan. Just that as a kid, you kinda figured, "ah, horror is about psychologically upsetting things, not just people getting exploded so their guts fly everywhere," when actually there are a million and one terrible adult horror novels out there that are entirely about people getting exploded so their guts fly everywhere, written at a sub-Goosebumps reading level. I remember reading a book like that but can’t for the life of me remember what it was called Things I remember; Some guy swimming in the poo poo tank of a roadside toilet, is discovered by his daughter who happens to stop there- you think he’s a ghoul or something but turns out he just went crazy The big bad is powerless against Jade rear end eating (incredibly descriptive) The book had like a spooky house behind iron wrought fence type cover Heads in an oven But hey I was deployed and there was gently caress all else to read by the end of it alpaca diseases fucked around with this message at 12:32 on Aug 25, 2018 |
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Please make a horror movie thread in Blockbuster Video and link it here. That sub needs more love.
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Horror seems like a genre that thrives on restraint, otherwise it's going to be basically nothing but teenagers having sex and getting their sexy bits chopped off forever.
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Followup from coma dad goon mostly in response to me:quote:I changed "state" to "province" in a half assed attempt an anonymization. I think it's a question of "what will get you literally arrested and taken to jail" vs "what will get your kids taken away if the right people find out about it" because my wife is a school counselor and she's had to contact DCF over less severe situations than "kid comes into school with unexplained black eye" but then again we do live in one of the only good US states so quote:So the am-i-gay-or-just-loving-a-lot-of-guys goon piqued my interest I'm not sure how great of advice a lot of this is Like, I don't think the problem with the guy who has tried to have sex with guys but physically cannot perform from lack of interest is that he's never heard of bisexuality (and also you'd probably need a little higher than a 1/6 on the Kinsey scale to let a guy suck your dick, that's more "I'm straight but I occasionally catch myself checking out guys on the street if they're well-dressed enough" territory) And also I don't think the guy who has never seen a vagina is having a problem where he doesn't eat pussy enough (if anything he could end up being TOO eager to please and come off as a puppy-dog doormat), and giving off "I want casual sex" vibes when he's only trying at parties shouldn't be enough of a death sentence that they never show any interest at all (if he were giving off those vibes at, like, bookstores or speed dating, that'd be a different story). Sticking with my too-easily-discouraged diagnosis.
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The Kinsey Scale is an extremely useful but very dated tool. It doesn’t reflect the impact of psychological and emotional attraction as a component of physiological attraction. The new hotness is the Red//Purple scale:  So I put myself as an E2, meaning I’m mostly straight but will be incidentally attracted or aroused by same sex people as me in the right conditions, and while sex isn’t the only thing that matters to me in a relationship, it’s very important and of my partner doesn’t have the same sex drive then we definitely won’t work out. Bust Rodd fucked around with this message at 15:30 on Aug 25, 2018 |
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I put myself at... ...not needing to navel gaze about this stuff. I don't mean that to say this scale sucks or anything. I just feel like it's missing a trick when it comes to the weird mess that is relationships. I feel like deciding what I do in any given situation is more important than figuring out what it means or possibly who I am. When I'm attracted to someone "do I try to take this anywhere?" is a much bigger concern than "on a fundamental level am I primarily romantic as a person?" When it comes down to you, another person, some awkward feelings and attempting a conversation what is the use in knowing the latter? Like maybe if this guy decided to not have sex with men it'd be a lot less awkward. Azza Bamboo fucked around with this message at 16:02 on Aug 25, 2018 |
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Aug 25, 2018 15:44
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what's the difference between "aesthetic" attraction and regular style?
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Azza Bamboo posted:I put myself at... I think it's kind of silly to try and put a label on things that are inherently fluid. Like those personality type tests. Your personality changes. The people you are attracted to can also change. Even if they didn't, what good is knowing what label you are beyond just curiosity? Just be yourself.
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yeah I eat rear end posted:I think it's kind of silly to try and put a label on things that are inherently fluid. Like those personality type tests. Your personality changes. The people you are attracted to can also change. Even if they didn't, what good is knowing what label you are beyond just curiosity? Just be yourself. People desperately what some kind of context and guide through which they can better navigate a complex and hostile world where the basics of social interaction present ever-growing barriers.
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The best guide is a friend who you do stupid poo poo with when you're together and you don't quite know why. I don't mean sexual, I mean keeping it real. There's this guy I know and every time we're near each other we just beatbox and make up ad hoc rhymes even though we're the whitest people ever. Someone behind us once said "can you stop that" and we just sampled that poo poo using our voice. If you're willing to just keep it real, beautiful things can happen. Stuff like this isn't planned. I would never in a million years have planned to beatbox nor would I think of myself as someone who is fundamentally into beatboxing but it's just what happens when this guy and I are together, you know? It's like an unspoken competition where we're trying to up the ante on how cringey we can be as white people. Azza Bamboo fucked around with this message at 16:46 on Aug 25, 2018 |
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