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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for leaving the pizza guy a small tip? Someone asked him why he didn't just go pick up the pizza himself if he didn't want to/couldn't afford the tip. quote:I can totally see what you mean by that, but had i not tipped at all i would have been called an rear end in a top hat for that too =( So he probably made some poor sap take a 10+ mile round trip to get there, drat that's cold.
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Drunk Nerds posted:I'm not a particularly sexual guy, but I'm really saddened by the realization that there are people out there who can't just imagine a sexual fantasy visually in their minds I feel like if closing your eyes and "seeing" what you imagine was a regular thing porn wouldn't be like the first thing to pop up on every visual medium. I can picture a beach in my head and describe it to you or try to badly paint it but I'm not really seeing it, and I know for sure I have a visual memory because when recalling notes I can picture what the page they were on looks like and where on the page they're located, or help you find something in a cabinet while "picturing" the contents and being able to tell you it's 3 tea boxes from the left or w/e. Closing my eyes doesn't help my "visual" memory because I still just see blackness, when I picture something mentally I can do it with my eyes open while just sorta zoning out and if anything it's easier. Like I'm sure everyone's different with how they do it but visual media wouldn't be so popular if people could just close their eyes and watch whatever they wanted. Maybe there's some niche artists or w/e that it really works that way for I have a better visual memory than most people I know and I still wouldn't really describe it as if I were looking at a picture in my mind, that seems like a bit of a stretch. ArbitraryC fucked around with this message at 02:01 on Jun 25, 2019 |
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I’m posting from the past, as I try to read this thread but it moves so fast. I used to read it every day but look life happens and next thing you know I’m posting in June 2019 reading posts from June 2017. Christ. All I want to know is the following 1. Does mirthless still post in this thread 2. Does he still think every story is about him or has happened to him 3. Does pick still post in this thread 4. Did she ever get back with Hugh or at least gently caress him Thanks all
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AITA for delaying an urgent blood donation because I didn't like the free shirt?quote:I’m a frequent blood donor. About 6 times a year, I walk down to the major hospital near my workplace and donate. I donate platelets. If you aren’t familiar, they suck in more ways than one. They stick both arms, they take 2 hours to complete, and you spend your day planning around being hydrated enough to donate, but not so much that you have to go pee.
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The Bramble posted:AITA for delaying an urgent blood donation because I didn't like the free shirt? I saw this on friends once 
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I used to donate blood until I realized the blood donation places loving sell it to hospitals. Also because the loving bloodbank would call my house the day before I could donate again, asking me to come and donate. But they had closed down the three closest donation centers and the next closest was about 15 miles from those. They would call every loving week, usually Tuesday, until I finally told them I got a tattoo and to piss off and take me off the loving call list. It was really cool when it lasted, when they had a donation truck by the local Cabela's. Lying back, clenching the PVC pipe thing, and watching people armed like they were going to war head into a loving shopping center. edit: I hope the pizza tip dude's girlfriend cuts him off sex for a while, because clearly he shouldn't expect special treatment for 'just doing his job.' Would also be nice if she called and left the dude a tip later.
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teacup posted:I’m posting from the past, as I try to read this thread but it moves so fast. I used to read it every day but look life happens and next thing you know I’m posting in June 2019 reading posts from June 2017. Christ. 1. no 2. yes 3. yes 4. no
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Doc Hawkins posted:Really? Right now? Apparently.
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The Bramble posted:AITA for delaying an urgent blood donation because I didn't like the free shirt? found larry david's reddit account
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AITA for not including a bridesmaid in photographs because she wore a suit? I chose my best friends as my bridesmaids. One of them is an out lesbian which I didn't think was relevant as we all planned our dresses matching. She sent me photos of the dress she was going to wear, made no mention of wearing a suit and to be honest, we were blindsided. She basically told us for months she'd be wearing a specific dress, showed us photos, even tried it on with the other bridesmaids to show us, but then on the wedding day without warning, wore a black suit and blue tie. We still kept her as bridesmaid but excluded her from photos at the altar, photos of the group of bridesmaids, etc. Random photos of the wedding she is in, we kept those but basically told our photographer to discard ones where her attire clashed with the rest of the bridesmaids. We made sure our photographer framed things to exclude her in altar photos, etc. She asked for photos of the bridesmaids together and we told her there were none, as we found her attire inappropriate and deceptive. She wasn't happy to say the least. We don't even care she wore a suit, it's that it was last minute and deceptive. If we had known she'd be wearing a suit, we'd have tried to coordinate the other bridesmaids or even the groomsmen to match. The colors used for the wedding were pink/salmon dress for bridesmaids, grey suit with orange tie for the groomsmen. Black suit and blue tie matched nothing at the event. Not only that but we helped pay for the dress that's now unused. Are we the assholes? Or rather am I? My husband had no opinion, it was my decision to do all of this.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not including a bridesmaid in photographs because she wore a suit? I will never get tired of AITAs where I read the title and say "Yes" but then read the post and say "Actually, no."
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The Bramble posted:AITA for delaying an urgent blood donation because I didn't like the free shirt? Cowslips Warren posted:I used to donate blood until I realized the blood donation places loving sell it to hospitals.  Collecting and processing donated blood isn't free, and there's no way in hell you could get people to donate enough money to keep the process afloat. It sounds gross but idk what else you expect donor centers to do about it without magically fixing how American healthcare is funded overall. (And they're not selling to make a profit, in case that's what you're thinking. It's to cover operating costs.)SirSamVimes posted:I will never get tired of AITAs where I read the title and say "Yes" but then read the post and say "Actually, no." 
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SirSamVimes posted:I will never get tired of AITAs where I read the title and say "Yes" but then read the post and say "Actually, no." Lol
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Drunk Nerds posted:I'm not a particularly sexual guy, but I'm really saddened by the realization that there are people out there who can't just imagine a sexual fantasy visually in their minds As a woman with complete aphantasia (zero sensory imagination/memory of any kind, visual/audio/taste/etc), I can reassure you that are worrying over nothing. I have plenty of sexual fantasies, and I don't actually think they'd be improved by visuals. It's honestly really wild what people reveal about themselves and their assumptions of how they think when discussing aphantasia. I remember posting about it in GBS years ago, and someone asked what my writing style was like, and some guy cut in before I could respond and was all "I'd assume it's all very robotic and doesn't use many adjectives" when actually it's 100% the opposite and creative writing was one of my strongest skills in highschool and the only criticism I ever got was that sometimes I got a bit overwrought in the descriptions 
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Haifisch posted:How many free blood donation shirts do you even need? I'm glad my local donor center only hands them out every once in a while because otherwise I'd be drowning in them. "Operating costs" can include salaries high enough to make some of the higher ups millionaires though. Them not being "for profit" doesn't mean yachts aren't being bought with literal blood money.
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ArbitraryC posted:I feel like if closing your eyes and "seeing" what you imagine was a regular thing porn wouldn't be like the first thing to pop up on every visual medium. I can picture a beach in my head and describe it to you or try to badly paint it but I'm not really seeing it, and I know for sure I have a visual memory because when recalling notes I can picture what the page they were on looks like and where on the page they're located, or help you find something in a cabinet while "picturing" the contents and being able to tell you it's 3 tea boxes from the left or w/e. Closing my eyes doesn't help my "visual" memory because I still just see blackness, when I picture something mentally I can do it with my eyes open while just sorta zoning out and if anything it's easier. Aphantasia isn’t like making yourself hallucinate or anything. It’s just the inability to picture what something looks like. Like think of a celebrity or family member that you would instantly recognize upon seeing them. Can you immediately picture their appearance in your head? Then you’re normally. You have aphantasia if you can’t even do that. You’d still recognize them upon seeing them, but you literally can’t envision their appearance. This has effects elsewhere in life too. Someone with aphantasia can have trouble navigating by memory because they can’t envision the route in their head before they take it.
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christmas boots posted:I don't think either one of them is an rear end in a top hat. It's perfectly fine to spit on a Nazi's grave for any number of reasons, but there are also plenty of reasons why you might not want to and those are perfectly acceptable. Perhaps you don't want any part of your biological material touching a Nazi, or perhaps you feel that spitting on a dead Nazi requires a greater amount of effort than the Nazi warrants. Perhaps someone has even recently pissed on the Nazi's grave and you don't want to dilute it by spitting. All good points. I definitely don't want to dilute the piss that's been pissed on a Nazi.
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The Bramble posted:AITA for delaying an urgent blood donation because I didn't like the free shirt? The guy getting your blood doesn’t give a poo poo what your motive was, he’s just glad the donation was made.
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chitoryu12 posted:Aphantasia isn’t like making yourself hallucinate or anything. It’s just the inability to picture what something looks like. In the second post the redditor was concerned that they couldn't see a "clear picture" and really only saw blackness when their eyes were closed. I feel like that's most people. To me it seems like there's some misunderstanding about what it means to visualize something. When someone tells me to think of a banana I don't just close my eyes and see some sort of high def picture of a banana, it's more like I'm aware of what it might be like if I were looking at one and I can "see" it whether my eyes are open or closed because my eyes are not literally looking at a picture of a banana, it's just a background thought. Sorta like I can replay a song in my head but I'm not really hearing it.
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It's like an image held in the back of your brain. My eyes aren't what I'm seeing with, so of course what I see with my eyes closed is just the back of my eyelids. Occasionally I can make images appear there but it's a pain and easier to imaging them in that mind's-eye area that feels like it's behind me somewhere. I can imagine anything there, eyes opened or closed.
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AITA for laughing at my coworker's breast size? I was washing my hands at the restroom, and my coworkers, let's call them A and B, were happily chatting behind me. Then A suddenly tells me: Wow, XXX, I just realised, your head is so big ! She starts laughing and B joins her. Having a larger head than average has always been an insecurity for me. Before I even realised, I instinctively snapped back at her: Didn't remember to bring your breasts to work, huh? She was very shocked and stopped laughing immediately. Now I feel guilty for saying it, it was just so rude, she's very flat so I've hurt her feelings. But, admittedly, it also wasn't pleasant to hear her comments on my body. A and I were never on very good terms, and now it's even worse. AITA for humiliating her? Should I apologise? Ps: I've noticed some comments saying I'm male, which is not the case, I'm female and we were using the women's restroom. Not that this excuses anything, just stating a fact. Ps2: Ok I see why you guys call me a dudebro. On my other post the title suggested I was a 20M, it was a mistake and should've been 20F me and 20M my boyfriend. Maybe some would consider this a shitpost because of the seemingly inaccurate information, but I guess whatever. Wouldn't make my head any smaller.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for laughing at my coworker's breast size?
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HazCat posted:As a woman with complete aphantasia (zero sensory imagination/memory of any kind, visual/audio/taste/etc), I can reassure you that are worrying over nothing. I have plenty of sexual fantasies, and I don't actually think they'd be improved by visuals. I'm curious, If it dosn't stop you in the ways you'd expect it what does it prevent? Like how does one 'struggle' with aphantasia?
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chitoryu12 posted:TIFU almost eating my cousin out in her office Of all of the things that didn't actually happen in this thread, this one didn't happen the most. Give me a break.
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FilthyImp posted:Considering they're not on good terms, NTA and a pretty awesome snapback. That’s kinda what I was thinking. Play with fire and you are gonna get burned.
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Motherfucker posted:I'm curious, If it dosn't stop you in the ways you'd expect it what does it prevent? Like how does one 'struggle' with aphantasia? by people asking you questions, it seems i get the same thing from being anosmatic but with the added frisson of being more easily gassed to death
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chitoryu12 posted:Can you immediately picture their appearance in your head? Then you’re normally. You have aphantasia if you can’t even do that. You’d still recognize them upon seeing them, but you literally can’t envision their appearance. I have no navigational problems because I can make a mental chain of patterns. It's not really accurate to call it a list of facts because there's a "sense" of a visual component to it, but there's no actual visual component to it. I can't focus in on any piece of it or remember something better. I either know which way to go or some fact about how something looks, or I don't. This is not the same as how other aspects of memory work for me where I can strain to try to remember something or think about it and recall more pieces. Do I have aphantasia? I have no idea. When I read accounts of aphantasia I can relate to a lot of things, but often they go way further in what they're unable to do (like no dreams, bad at directions, bad memory, lack of detail in descriptions) to the point that I don't think it applies to me. But then I read the responses to those posts and the way people talk about visualization is pretty drat literal, even in the face of direct questions, in ways that I would never be able to relate to. ArbitraryC posted:In the second post the redditor was concerned that they couldn't see a "clear picture" and really only saw blackness when their eyes were closed. I feel like that's most people. To me it seems like there's some misunderstanding about what it means to visualize something. When someone tells me to think of a banana I don't just close my eyes and see some sort of high def picture of a banana, it's more like I'm aware of what it might be like if I were looking at one and I can "see" it whether my eyes are open or closed because my eyes are not literally looking at a picture of a banana, it's just a background thought. Sorta like I can replay a song in my head but I'm not really hearing it. These are some questions on the Vividness of Visual Imagery Questionnaire quote:Conjure up an image of a familiar friend or relative. How clearly can you see the contours of their face, head, shoulders and body? Regardless of whether the way I (and maybe you) think is aphantasia or just somewhere on the spectrum of how people visualize it seems clear that a significant number of people do visualize in meaningfully more literal ways than I do.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not wanting to share my son? Nta, Aunt is being unreasonable. It would be a better idea to give her a photo of the son or something that she can keep as a memento, but if she’s really a relative than she should have those already. I’ve got lots of photos of my nieces and nephews. The fact that she skipped the funeral for a concert is disgusting. Seems like the Aunt is just trying to get a literal piece of the son for some twisted reason when she couldn’t even be arsed to attend his final farewell. God this is gross, kick the Aunt out of your life forever.
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teacup posted:I’m posting from the past, as I try to read this thread but it moves so fast. I used to read it every day but look life happens and next thing you know I’m posting in June 2019 reading posts from June 2017. Christ. It's June 2019 and all the bad posters have been replaced by the best poster, the one and only, gay superstar "cumshitter".
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There's a part of seeing which isn't looking; you can look at a trompe l'oeil without seeing it. In the same way, most people can have part of the experience of seeing things even even they aren't looking at them. It's extremely noticeable: there's a part of the experience of watching a person's face which I also feel when I look away but imagine it, like it's hovering invisibly in my field of vision. Doc Hawkins fucked around with this message at 03:51 on Jun 25, 2019 |
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:All these words are very vague. What does "picture their appearance in your head" mean? Is it visual or metaphorical? When I think of Person who I see every day I absolutely have no actual image, eyes closed or open, of them. I can think of my memory of them and I can describe some general physical features and but I can't "envision" anything. I have a vague sense of them which might be like what ArbitraryC is describing, which is what I call "visualizing" but I can't make any actual visual analogy of it. It's not blurry or faded or fleeting because it's not an image, it's a mental structure of details an impression of what I remember about them. It's perfectly constant, but has absolutely no precision. It's like what I remember is the impression left by the experience. That impression can have a lot of detail or not, like any memory, but there's nothing to examine in it. All those questions make sense to me except the whole vividness aspect of it. Like I dunno what they mean by how clear is it. I can picture friends/family/loved ones, and even "visualize" their gate, but again it's not like I'm watching a movie and I don't think that's the case for most people otherwise grainy camcorders and washed out Polaroids wouldn't have been a thing that wowed people. It feels like a lot of people in those comment threads just have the normal human experience and have somehow convinced themselves that eidetic memory is like the norm. I straight up get compliments on my visual memory when I'm looking for some old notes or page with someone and can tell them the table they want is on the bottom directly after a page that has a side blurb with a picture of a politician gesturing or something but I can't just close my eyes and feel like I'm literally looking at the page. It's just a concept on the back of my mind like a sneeze that won't fully come out.
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Apparently everyone knows that my (41F) husband (45M) is cheating, but me. I am still at work typing this and I just found out by accident. We have 3 kids together and what I thought was a great life. I get that cheating is not all that uncommon but ya know, you always think it can’t/won’t happen to you. Well it did and I feel like I was punched in the gut with full force. This post contains some TMI/NSFW. My husband and I met in high school, dated all the way through college and married after graduation. We have 3 wonderful children, the oldest is 18, youngest is 13. Please pardon if this is TMI. Our sex life has been alright, we are certainly not having as much sex as we did in our younger years, which I thought was normal for 2 busy adults with full time jobs and kids. We engage in sexual activities probably 3 times per month. Lately, I have been the one initiating, while in the past he would always do this. Did not think much of it since he has a big project going on at work and I pinned it on the crazy schedule and stress. He also had some erection problems in the past 2-3 months, which in the light of this news, might be because he isn’t attracted to me anymore. Today I met with a neighbor who is getting divorced herself. We exchanged the usual pleasantries, then she asked if she could give me some advice even though it is not her place to get involved. I said sure. Turns out my husband has been having his mistress over AT OUR HOUSE when I work nights. WITH OUR KIDS ASLEEP. She went on saying that this vehicle kept coming into our driveway every time I was working night shift. The car would come in the evening and leave at 6-7am, which is right before our kids wake up for school. Neighbor said that other neighbors also noticed and saw my husband kissing this lady out front. I’m gutted and I excused myself, she probably felt bad for breaking the news to me like that. My husband was at work so I went to his laptop (probably shouldn’t have) and did some digging. What I found was even worse. They have videos and pictures of them doing...things that I cannot even describe. I’m so embarrassed. Pardon my French - I saw my husband getting hosed by this lady with a dildo. Him sucking on that object. In addition to all the other debauchery. He never, even when we were younger, expressed any interest in...flipping the table so to speak. When we do have sex, it’s generally vanilla. We tried to spice things up a while ago but we never went anywhere near this sort of kinky. I had to go to work so I put his laptop away and dragged myself to work. I can’t focus on anything. Now I question everything, our whole 25+ relationship. Why would he do this to me and to our family? I’m especially bothered that he invited this lady into our home and bed, with our children in the same house. From the pictures, she seems really young, maybe 25 years old and definitely better looking than me. I don’t know for how long this has been going on, the neighbor only told me she noticed the suspect car 3 months ago. I’m disgusted by what I saw in those pictures, that is not the man I married. I dread going back home after work and I don’t know how to start the conversation or what to say. Some guidance? TL;DR: my husband has been bringing his mistress into our home and our neighbors knew about it
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ArbitraryC posted:All those questions make sense to me except the whole vividness aspect of it. Like I dunno what they mean by how clear is it. I can picture friends/family/loved ones, and even "visualize" their gate, but again it's not like I'm watching a movie and I don't think that's the case for most people otherwise grainy camcorders and washed out Polaroids wouldn't have been a thing that wowed people. It feels like a lot of people in those comment threads just have the normal human experience and have somehow convinced themselves that eidetic memory is like the norm. I agree that language is a part of the barrier and I don't think the way we visualize is as rare as the 2% of people with aphantasia, based on how many people respond to aphantasia posts with "duh of course you see black," but every time this comes up I am curious about where on the spectrum this kind of non visual visualization is.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Apparently everyone knows that my (41F) husband (45M) is cheating, but me. jesus christ  e: i hope he wasn't sucking on the dildo after the pegging goethe.cx fucked around with this message at 04:21 on Jun 25, 2019 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Apparently everyone knows that my (41F) husband (45M) is cheating, but me. Pretty bold to have your side piece come to the family home each night and peg you. Surely the kids knew? At least the eldest one of 18....
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Xik posted:Pretty bold to have your side piece come to the family home each night and peg you.
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christmas boots posted:AITA for not letting my brother, who was recently paralyzed with nothing to do, borrow my PS4
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