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This is why I keep turning down a work-from-home setup.
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Hey goons, I found a post of hers offering- here's uh, more context. quote:I appreciate your perspective, however...
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Feb 3, 2017 20:18
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WFH is awesome, you just have to let your partner know it's WFH not "Dick around/do chores all day instead of work". My fiancee is out of the house the whole time I'm working from home (which admittedly is only 1 day sometimes 2 a week) but understands I'm actually working not loving off.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:19
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do you guys have some sort of rear end in a top hat Executive Stockholm syndrome idk why you're so eager to jump on the dude's dick. he's a petty jackass it doesn't matter what he was doing, unless he was on the phone with someone, and he wasn't e: lol loving of course he gets mopey and cranky when she does a more patient version of the same loving thing
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Feb 3, 2017 20:20
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working from home works a lot better if you're just a rank-and-file schlub and not a manager who presumably would be expected to interact with your team multiple times over the course of a workday. especially if you have kids i can go days without talking to my boss, but my boss has like 20 people to manage who are constantly going in and out of his office to ask questions or answer them, etc.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:20
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Fullhouse posted:do you guys have some sort of rear end in a top hat Executive Stockholm syndrome idk why you're so eager to jump on the dude's dick. he's a petty jackass it doesn't matter what he was doing, unless he was on the phone with someone, and he wasn't Yea the thread is really coming to bat for this dude who talked a lot of poo poo to his wife.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:21
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Mirthless posted:he's doing a high stress job from home at the highest level of his profession Dude is acting like Jack Nicholson in The Shining and deserves the same end.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:22
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Fullhouse posted:do you guys have some sort of rear end in a top hat Executive Stockholm syndrome idk why you're so eager to jump on the dude's dick. he's a petty jackass it doesn't matter what he was doing, unless he was on the phone with someone, and he wasn't For me it's because of the Harry Potter poo poo and a raw nerve I have over people "helping" who ask so many questions I might as well just do it. But especially the Harry Potter poo poo.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:23
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Also fwiw, I thought the Harry Potter thing was amusing and there isn't anything indicating she's a fanatic about it beyond the naming scheme and points thing. It looked to me like she was just trying to inject a little humor into what must be a stressful situation.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:23
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TheScott2K posted:For me it's because of the Harry Potter poo poo and a raw nerve I have over people "helping" who ask so many questions I might as well just do it. But especially the Harry Potter poo poo. I counted three questions dude
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Feb 3, 2017 20:26
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I wasn't coming to bat for the guy so much as pointing out that she's kind of a toddler for somebody in her 40s and it's a stressful situation. He's obviously not behaving properly.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:26
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boner confessor posted:working from home works a lot better if you're just a rank-and-file schlub and not a manager who presumably would be expected to interact with your team multiple times over the course of a workday. especially if you have kids There are plenty of places with remote management. A friend of my brothers runs an IT Security firm that literally has no office, everyone works remotely, roughly 50-60 employees all over the US (maybe even some outside the US). It really depends on your work environment and management capabilities. I could literally never see my manager(s) and only talk to my team on conference calls, email and jabber and poo poo would still Get Done because I work hard and don't gently caress off.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:27
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Yawgmoth posted:poo poo like this is why everyone calls you a piece of poo poo, fyi. If you can't stand being "bothered" to tell your wife a code you use every loving day to pick your kid up, you shouldn't have a kid or a wife. Go be Big Important Executive Mans in your office and order a whore once you're done being super important and making loads of money by being the biggest tool imaginable. No, the dude is acting like an executive who just got promoted into an extremely high stress job at literally the most stressful point he will ever have it: quote:James just started a new job this week, and while it’s been a very lucrative move, it’s also been very stressful. He’s a fairly high level executive and is managing a lot of tense transition issues. but no you're right clearly he's crazy for letting the stress of a job he just received three or four days ago get to him
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Feb 3, 2017 20:29
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Mirthless posted:I wasn't coming to bat for the guy so much as pointing out that she's kind of a toddler for somebody in her 40s and it's a stressful situation. you definitely should not be throwing shade on anyone for their posting style
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Feb 3, 2017 20:29
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boner confessor posted:you definitely should not be throwing shade on anyone for their posting style What in the ever loving gently caress are you even talking about right now?
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Feb 3, 2017 20:29
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Look, you're both bad posters, now kiss.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:31
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Mirthless posted:What in the ever loving gently caress are you even talking about right now?
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Feb 3, 2017 20:32
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Browsing the downvoted comments saying she is also at fault and hey:quote:The Gryffindor thing came across wrong, I think, and I was trying to inject a little lightheartedness. She seems reasonable and not awful but  wishing she had named him Voldemort now.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:32
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yeah I find the whole grown-rear end-adult Harry Potter fixation incredibly tiresome in general and that was about as innocuous and reasonable as I'd ever expect a person to be. she didn't do anything at all wrong, it was understandable that given his situation he might be a little shirty in the moment regardless, but then he had the time a non-douchebag would use to realize they'd been a prick and back down some and instead decided to instead escalate his incredibly mild annoyance into a big baby tantrum.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:43
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 Snapping at people due to stress is a pretty big sign of emotional immaturity. I still want to suplex that woman for her obnoxious Harry Potter posting style though.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:54
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Hate Fibration posted:
Yea, you don't have to be a Buddhist monk, but most people can manage their stress in a way where they don't explode at their partner over a trivial thing.
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Feb 3, 2017 20:59
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WampaLord posted:Yea, you don't have to be a Buddhist monk, but most people can manage their stress in a way where they don't explode at their partner over a trivial thing. I think that's the thing though, it's not a trivial thing, because the stress he's under is not a trivial amount. He is very likely the most stressed he has ever been or will ever be. It doesn't forgive his behavior or make it okay, but he is probably not as horrible of a person as he sounds. He should be in therapy because his job is probably always going to be stressful and he clearly needs some help managing the way he responds to that stress. Mirthless fucked around with this message at 21:05 on Feb 3, 2017 |
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Feb 3, 2017 21:03
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most people maturely defuse stress by addressing it more reasonably sometime before the point they're driven completely apeshit. A newly-minted manager trying to impress everybody can't show any of the normal signs anything's bothering him, so if poo poo's coming at him left and right with no opportunity to wind down it's not unexpected that he'd get pushed to the point where he just pops. Still, he's almost certainly wasn't going nuts on his coworkers like this all day, which would imply he's actually perfectly capable of keeping himself under control he just ranks his wife somewhere well below them on the 'need to bother be nice to' scale.
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Feb 3, 2017 21:06
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Going through her comments, this seems to be something he has a habit of doing.quote:While his week has been more stressful than usual, I don't view this as a one-off. Also, quote:He's a really picky eater and frequently orders other things like wings or a sandwich when we order from our pizza place. It varies every time we order. manchild alert
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Feb 3, 2017 21:07
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Dunning Krugerrand posted:Going through her comments, this seems to be something he has a habit of doing. yeah, okay, this guy is definitely a giant idiot
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Feb 3, 2017 21:08
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Yea, I'm on Team Manchild now. Picky eaters are worse than Hitler.
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Feb 3, 2017 21:13
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just a heads up this one's a huge bummer I (F28) kicked my husband out of the house in a fit of rage. Contemplating divorce over revelations about his brother's past. Am I overracting? quote:I'll try to be be brief. I'm still fuming. My husband (M29) comes from a big family, four brothers, two sisters, raised by a single mother for the most part.
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Feb 3, 2017 21:15
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TheScott2K posted:Look, you're both bad posters, now kiss. boner confessor is p funny imho
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Feb 3, 2017 21:19
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J is definitely going to be blamed for the divorce but sucks to have it conclusively shown your spouse's family is toxic and abusive the first time i saw my spouse's abusive family dynamic it was less than fun to deal with, but at least they just keep it to sarcastic backbiting and not like actual physical abuse holy poo poo
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Feb 3, 2017 21:19
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It's good for her to know that about her husband, though. Not what he did, but how he's behaving even into the present.
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Feb 3, 2017 21:22
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yeah, if the husband was willing to admit his horrible behavior and change then the marriage might be salvagable. you can't really be blamed for being abusive as a kid if you grow up in an abusive household, as joining in on the abuse can be a survival tactic as a grown man though you really should know better and that's inexcusable
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Feb 3, 2017 21:26
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And lying about where we was when J was kicked out and other such things, and believing J just has to "get over it" when "it" exists into the present.
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Feb 3, 2017 21:27
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boner confessor posted:J is definitely going to be blamed for the divorce but sucks to have it conclusively shown your spouse's family is toxic and abusive The fact that he is a willing participant and enabler of the abuse is what really gets me He knows it's wrong, he knows his wife is absolutely disgusted by it, but he still engages in it. What an awful person. What an awful family.
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Update on that wonderful story:quote:I filed for divorce after a few conversations with my husband. He blames J for our divorce and became very threatening. At one point he said he would turn walk away from me and our two kids if I didn't stop the divorce process. I called his bluff and told him "good, go, we would be better off." In my state it takes six months to finalize divorce with children involved. I have sole custody and he never filed for joint custody which is good. apparently the abuse was extensive and severe judging by some of the comments she made quote:Honestly, I spared you the horrible details because if you hear them you'll never be the same again. It will break something inside you. I wanted to spare everyone who read this the agony of knowing how tragic this was for J. quote:Honestly I think even when the abuse began my husband was about 13 and that's just too old to do the things they did. I would never even at six years old have done those disgusting things to another human being. also somebody did the math and apparently he was actively abusing his brother for the entire first year they were dating. he was going home from dates and abusing his brother.  I'm glad she's getting full custody, this dude is disgustingquote:See, I thought that, too. But then I did the math. OP's husband is 29. J is 19. OP's husband said the beatings stopped when J was about 13. That means that from age 13 or 14 until he was 23 OP was still participating in this vile behavior. quote:Yes, he was an adult when the abuse stopped quote:So, when you started dating your husband, he'd take you out on a date, then come home and beat up his little brother who was 13 at the time, just for shits and giggles? Wow, you got a real winner there! quote:Yes I thought about that. I'm ashamed Mirthless fucked around with this message at 21:39 on Feb 3, 2017 |
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Feb 3, 2017 21:34
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Mirthless posted:Update on that wonderful story: bonus update: i dumped a jar of spiders down her soon to be ex-husband's rear end in a top hat 
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Feb 3, 2017 21:36
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honestly I just feel like the executive story is atextbook case of hearing one side of the story But I didn't read any of the followup material and I never will because it's sandwiched between a Mirthless - whoever argument
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Feb 3, 2017 21:39
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loving christ, if eye for an eye was ever deserved, this situation is it. Obviously I'm not that extreme  and all that, but man would it make me feel good to know they got beaten for years on end for what they've all done.
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Zelder posted:honestly I just feel like the executive story is atextbook case of hearing one side of the story You should read the followups for clarification, and you can see how the bane of picky eaters united us all eventually.  Here's a textbook case of  I‘m [25 F] seriously considering breaking up with my boyfriend [25 M] of a year over a video game quote:I've been in a relationship with this guy for about a year now. He was my first everything (I‘m a late bloomer) and I was his first real relationship. After about 6 months after we got together he suddenly broke up with me, saying he was too tired of always feeling obligated to me, though I‘m not sude what he ment, I never was a needy girlfriend. I took it hard, I was devastated, I felt like I couldn't breathe sometimes. I loved him and because I had a smal hope that eventually we will get back together, I even let him use me as a booty call for couple of months and during that time he was very nasty to me (said I was too ugly and too useless to date and stuff like that). I want to break up but I can't. What do?
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MF_James posted:loving christ, if eye for an eye was ever deserved, this situation is it. Obviously I'm not that extreme judging by the update they are almost certainly all going to jail
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Things this thread has taught me: don't date autistics, gamers, picky eaters or fatties
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