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therobit posted:And she hasn't hosed her husband in a year, regards him with open disdain, and does not appear to appreciate his 10-12 hour workdays after which he comes home to more work and an angry wife. His feelings are totally understandable, as are hers. But you can't say he's a bad guy for being disappointed that his wife has taken a vow of angry celibacy. I can say he's a bad guy for groping his wife repeatedly despite protest. That's generally illegal, much less okay. I don't get the "open disdain" thing you're somehow seeing. She keeps saying how great he is and how she SHOULD want to gently caress him. The only place I see disdain whatsoever can be implied in that she doesn't want to gently caress him... but it's not an angry vow of celibacy, she's exhausted after having to wake up multiple times throughout the night and take care of three not-kids all day. And she says she has no help with the kids, so it doesn't sound like he's coming home to more work either. She's doing it. I don't get how you say she doesn't appreciate the workload unless you literally mean she should just suck it up and gently caress him as appreciation. Her workload is slowly killing her. She says more than once extremely positive things about him and his work, only that it has also destroyed their relationship is a negative. quote:At times it does feel like he is sex crazed. He doesn't say hello, he gropes my knee and says "you must be happy to see me." quote:Thank you for this. It is a very helpful scaffold to consider. I gotta stop looking at her comments, this is depressing. Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 05:14 on Dec 11, 2019 |
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datajugend posted:I only horde "clean" garbage like greasy take out containers and old soup. Imma side with the daughter over the poly side piece dad brings over on the weekend
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Yeah that one is a major oof. That's five people's lives being actively ruined and there's not really anybody at fault. It's the kind of situation that social services are supposed to help address -- in this case, they need at least one full-time caregiver to help with the nonverbal twins at least. In America you're just totally hosed. like those parents' lives would actually probably be improved if they robbed a bank and went to jail.
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Dec 11, 2019 05:20
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Lol. I knew that story would draw one out by the time I was two sentences in. Edit: Sad mom, not poly whatever.
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Dec 11, 2019 05:51
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DemoneeHo posted:My mum ran away to Turkey to be with a con artist and has lost all her money. Am I evil for cutting her out? drat mom has some heavy duty Cedar Fever.
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Dec 11, 2019 06:06
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Sagebrush posted:Yeah that one is a major oof. That's five people's lives being actively ruined and there's not really anybody at fault. It's the kind of situation that social services are supposed to help address -- in this case, they need at least one full-time caregiver to help with the nonverbal twins at least. I feel like their best option is to shake hands, abscond in the night - separately - and make an anonymous call to CPS. Or move to Canada where more help would be available.
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Dec 11, 2019 06:25
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Uncle Enzo posted:Not only is he an rear end in a top hat, but she is old enough to deserve a proper grown-up explanation and apology. He needs to sit down and honestly explain why he did what he did, how it was wrong, how he's going to make it right, and assure her it won't happen again. What's this Toddlers and Tiaras poo poo No, a tiny baby 11yo should not have a loving full face of makeup, she's not even a teen yet. The girlfriend is loving gross, young girls don't need any help getting complexes from a society that already tries to shove those values on girls every day
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mllaneza posted:I feel like their best option is to shake hands, abscond in the night - separately - and make an anonymous call to CPS. Hopefully Canada isn't like Australia where we allow citizenship based on projected healthcare costs. We are a messed up country with no compassion*. * exceptions made if white.
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Miserable Maid posted:What's this Toddlers and Tiaras poo poo vs Women should be able to decorate themselves for fun without gross men making everything sexual and weird. Let her have innocent fun without trying to control expression you sexist pig. I agree with you, and him, but the particular way he expressed it does have controlling undertones and if his concerns are about what makeup represents he should talk about that and take the angle that it's unnecessary not that it's shameful.
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Inceltown posted:Hopefully Canada isn't like Australia where we allow citizenship based on projected healthcare costs. We are a messed up country with no compassion*. ** definitions of white still based on 1950's parameters of rest of Anglo-Sphere
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Grape posted:** definitions of white still based on 1950's parameters of rest of Anglo-Sphere Nah, we let the Italians in fine. The mob gives a lot of money to politicians. That's not a hyperbole.
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Ymmv but I think at that age, it's fine to do stuff like that within the family if you want to experiment, but it's not a good idea to take it in public. Girlfriend put glamour makeup on her once for fun? Okay whatever, have fun, make faces in the mirror. But wearing that makeup out to a restaurant is going to get the kid way more horrible attention that an 11-year-old can't/shouldn't deal with. Corollary: parents should try manage that without letting their kid know that's what's up, because that'll also freak her out. So instead of being like "we're going out, go scrub your face so you don't look like a child prostitute," that means going "hey guys I feel like staying in tonight, who wants pizza?"
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Anne Whateley posted:Ymmv but I think at that age, it's fine to do stuff like that within the family if you want to experiment, but it's not a good idea to take it in public. Girlfriend put glamour makeup on her once for fun? Okay whatever, have fun, make faces in the mirror. But wearing that makeup out to a restaurant is going to get the kid way more horrible attention that an 11-year-old can't/shouldn't deal with. This is a wise take on it.
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Me (19M) asked to pee on this girl (25F) face, and she say yes I met this girl at this party and while I was drunk I was pretty into her i guess but when I sobered up and we met up after I just wasn't feeling anything with her. She was kind of pushy though and really wanted me to go to her place and have sex with her, but I kind of didn't want to, so I just tried to be as cold as possible until she would stop texting me hopefully, but she didn't stop. I decide that it'd be funny to ask if I could pee on her face (after not responding to any of her texts for like a week) since I just wanted her to leave me alone but to my surprise, she agreed. Now I feel really bad because I don't actually want to pee on her, and I don't want to let her disrespect herself like that. How do I let her know that? She's been talking about how she'd like for me to pee on her face now since I think she's latched onto that and thinks that I'm into that, and I don't want to come off as a bigger dick than I am
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Cyks posted:I'm torn on that one because the OP said having her mom out of her life has been good for her mental state but also they had a great relationship before this event and I feel like those two statements paint two conflicting pictures. otoh you can definitely have a great relationship with a person in the years prior to them turning into gullible shitbag
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Power Khan posted:Me (19M) asked to pee on this girl (25F) face, and she say yes Don't do it because thats how you mark your territory and then you are stuck with her.
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Power Khan posted:Me (19M) asked to pee on this girl (25F) face, and she say yes Tell her she has to marry you first. Then when she agrees, insist upon an extravagant destination wedding and also demands a really high dowry. Continue to come up with all sorts of weird conditions. Eventually she will meet all of them, and by that point you will feel obligated to go through with it.
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MarcusSA posted:Don't do it because thats how you mark your territory and then you are stuck with her. Do it in the shower and then use your fap soap to wash it off so that you're free and clear.
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Serephina posted:The title made me expect a parent blaming their children for being spoiled. What we got was... I'm pretty sure that 'marriage' is a mexican stand-off with both of them looking at each other then the door. Whoever gets out the door first wins.
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Miserable Maid posted:What's this Toddlers and Tiaras poo poo it's important that this little girl learn early that she's only allowed to wear makeup when a man says it's okay (hey so the 11 year-old probably only wants to wear makeup because of the adult mystique associated with it, letting her wear some for a few hours will make her happy and it is not going to give her a complex, the burden of patriarchal expectations will not suddenly appear just because she was allowed to wear some eye shadow and blush while walking around a grocery store) QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 08:24 on Dec 11, 2019 |
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It's okay for 11 year old girls to want to try make up on, holy poo poo.
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AITA for not forgiving my husband even after he apologized? Recently married 28f & 33m. My husband is a good guy but He frequently messes up the littlest tasks in everyday life. For instance, I cannot count how many times I have eaten full meals with my hands because he can't be bothered to ask for to go utensils, condiments, napkins or drinks. I try not to get mad because I realize he is trying to be sweet, but its annoying. It's doubly annoying because when I plan stuff for him I make sure everything is accounted for so he can enjoy his day. For contrast, when we went to see Bruno Mars in Vegas he didn't even bother to look up where the concert was. He got an Uber to the wrong freaking venue and we missed the first 30 minutes of the show because we had to walk to the correct venue. Ugh. The recent issue: My absolute favorite movie in life is Moulin Rouge. They recently turned it into a Broadway show and I have been excited to see it for at least the past six months. We finally saved up some money to do a NY weekend trip so he could eat at this famous restaurant and I could see the Broadway show. He booked everything two months ago. Saturday comes around. We eat then head to the theater. I took pictures in front of the marquee. I. Was. Pumped. We finally get to the doors and I ask him where the tickets are. He couldn't remember if he bought them under my email or his so we're both searching through our emails and credit card statements for any sign of the ticket confirmation. The show starts. Thirty or so minutes go by with us frantically searching for the tickets. Eventually he started crying and I just knew. He never bought the tickets. Somehow he searched for the ticket prices, we discussed where we wanted to sit, we picked out our Broadway outfits and everything, but he never finalized the order for tickets. I fully believe it was an honest and incredibly dumb mistake. The show was sold out so we had to leave. I ugly sobbed and snotted all over myself for the entire 30 min Uber to the hotel. We flew back to Dallas without seeing the show. He's apologized multiple times but I really don't care. I haven't talked to him since Saturday. He thinks I'm dragging this out and overreacting. On one hand I feel like the rear end in a top hat for continuing to be this upset but on the other hand I feel like this is a valid reason to be pissed. I know this is first world problems, but I'm extremely disappointed. This was my Christmas present. I told everyone I was seeing the show then had to explain 20+ times that we actually didn't get to see it. It's embarrassing and sad. I'll get over it eventually but right now I'm just not ready to stop being upset. Does that make me the rear end in a top hat? Edit: thanks for all of the replies! We are reading them together over dinner. We acknowledge that we are both assholes in some way. My husband is going to get screened for Adhd or ADD soon. Oh and we have actual tickets to see Moulin Rouge in January. I've confirmed the purchase.
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The cute kid glitter and lip gloss she was already putting on was fine. Actual full glamor makeup is weird. And like Anne was saying, it's one thing to play at home, it's quite another to go in public.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not forgiving my husband even after he apologized? OK I'm with this lady but why in the gently caress could she just not go and get the poo poo?? Like it makes zero sense...
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AITA for not wanting to wear the Tom Brady jersey my boyfriend bought for me in public? My boyfriend is a big Tom Brady and New England Patriots fan. He says he doesn’t even know how he became a fan of the Patriots. It happened when he was little. It’s funny because he’s also a big Alabama fan for college football. He has lived in California all his life. He wears a Tom Brady jersey every day he plays even if he doesn’t have time to watch the games. I don’t like or hate football. I don’t care about any team. I don’t really even care about my college team. I watch the Patriots games with him on TV and he likes to teach me about football rules and quiz me on them. Since that makes him happy, I can roll with that. I guess my playing along with him too long has made him think I’m a big Patriots fan too. For my birthday, he bought me a Tom Brady jersey. He put on his jersey on Sunday morning. When we were about to leave for lunch, he told me to put on my jersey too so we can match. I told him I’m not comfortable wearing a jersey with another person’s surname on the back in public and would only wear it at home or at a live Patriots game. He told me to stop being scared of what other people think and to show pride in the things I like. I rolled my eyes and said I’m only a Patriots fan when I watch the games with him and I honestly couldn’t care less any other time. He told me I don’t have to watch the games if I don’t want to, but I said I like spending time with him and it’s just the act of wearing a jersey in public that I dislike. He seemed disappointed at lunch and even more sad after the Patriots lost its second consecutive game. I did put on the jersey to watch the game with him at home though.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not wanting to wear the Tom Brady jersey my boyfriend bought for me in public? NTA the Pats are garbage. Brady is a stupid dick. Pats fans suck. gently caress the Patriots.
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Miserable Maid posted:The cute kid glitter and lip gloss she was already putting on was fine. Actual full glamor makeup is weird. otoh women are allowed to wear makeup for themselves, not just to please men. Father is conveying exactly the wrong message here
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She's not a woman, she's a child Edit: wait you're the moron that thinks handjobs aren't cheating nvm
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not wanting to wear the Tom Brady jersey my boyfriend bought for me in public? Mercy me, a Pats/Bama fan from California.
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Miserable Maid posted:She's not a woman, she's a child Handjobs most definitely are cheating but you clearly have some sort of learning disability that has left you with poor reading comprehension so I won't mock you over it. It's fine and normal for 11 year-olds to want to wear makeup I don't know what else to tell you, they don't need to wear a shitload of makeup every day but if they wear some eye shadow to the mall with their father once it's not going to be the end of childhood innocence 
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MarcusSA posted:NTA the Pats are garbage. Brady is a stupid dick. Pats fans suck.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not wanting to wear the Tom Brady jersey my boyfriend bought for me in public? What the gently caress is wrong with this guy ? Inducting a new fan of a sport/activity/hobby is an honor and a privilege. loving quizzing them about it is being a dick about it. If you can get a novice to the point where they can tell the difference between a field goal and a touchdown and an extra point (all signaled the same way) you're ahead of the game. Busting out quiz questions on the rules ? gently caress you.
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Yeah the only way I learned how to be good with makeup is slathering it on my face as a preteen. As a teen goth...yeah. My mom was cool with me looking like a hot mess at 12-13 with makeup rather than getting into drugs, knocked up, failing classes, yknow? I mean I was a gently caress up later on but going out with smeary raccoon eyes and black lipstick was at the bottom of her worries, if anything, blackmail for embarrassment later. That father is teaching the wrong lessons about makeup as a whole. She isn’t asking for fillers or fat sculpting. This is a non issue.
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My goth phase consisted of wearing huge baggy black Linkin Park shirts... aaand that was about it. I was incredibly boring as a kid.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I feel everyone needs a goth phase, it's very educational. Some of us never leave it. Teen Witch’s Goth Phase: Now in its second decade! 
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Fartbox posted:I basically just let my kids be feral. I gave them guns and some money and locked them out of my house Ah, you too follow the old Texas ways
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Professorjuggalo posted:Imma side with the daughter over the poly side piece dad brings over on the weekend Maybe stepmom needs to cuck her dad because two depressed women don't have enough hot water to take three hour showers each
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