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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My girlfriend [27F] says that she can't stay with me [25M] if I don't study Philosophy lmao
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Feb 17, 2017 16:22
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My girlfriend [27F] says that she can't stay with me [25M] if I don't study Philosophy 
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Feb 17, 2017 16:46
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:Me [24 F] with my good friend [30 M] of a year, I feel uncomfortable with compliments and comments all the time Why the gently caress did he sleep in the bed and not on the couch? If it was her place and he was already in the bed, you ask him to go to the couch and if he gets really weird about it you kick his rear end out. Don't sleep on the couch so some creeper can sleep in your bed. Also, she needs to sit the guy down and have a real talk about boundaries and let him know if he continues to violate those she will no longer be his friend.
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Feb 17, 2017 17:10
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:Me [24 F] with my good friend [30 M] of a year, I feel uncomfortable with compliments and comments all the time This chicks drownin in an Egyptian river
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Feb 17, 2017 17:13
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Realistically if she cared about boundaries he already wouldn't be her friend. Do you think she goes and gets hammered every week with a dude who loves to stoke her ego because she doesn't like it?
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Feb 17, 2017 17:19
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Psycho Society posted:Realistically if she cared about boundaries he already wouldn't be her friend. Do you think she goes and gets hammered every week with a dude who loves to stoke her ego because she doesn't like it? Then why bother with the reddit post? It seems like she was okay to brush it off, but he's recently crossed some serious lines and she isn't sure how to fix it and keep him as a friend. The obvious advice is to sever, but if they've been good friends for a while she probably would like to resolve it without losing him as a friend.
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Feb 17, 2017 17:28
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Ouhei posted:Then why bother with the reddit post? It seems like she was okay to brush it off, but he's recently crossed some serious lines and she isn't sure how to fix it and keep him as a friend. The obvious advice is to sever, but if they've been good friends for a while she probably would like to resolve it without losing him as a friend. because, as you'd find out quickly if you went into reddit proper instead of skimming the drama high points off here, she's a spineless no-self-esteem dorkamungus like 98% of people there and loved the validation but genuinely never considered that the guy had his own motivations and would escalate instead of just showering her with praise and attention forever, and she'll never resolve any interpersonal issue because she'd chew a limb off to put off having an awkward but necessary confrontation. What on earth is my boyfriend [28 M] doing in the bathroom on our dates? Am I [26 F] being paranoid? quote:My boyfriend is a stoner, he currently smokes around 6 joints a day (probably more at the weekends) and has admitted to doing opium, LSD and cocaine in the past. He also uses MDMA semi-regularly. I'm not a drug user at all. quote:He kind of always looks like he's on drugs so its hard for me to tell because he's permanently high. A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 17:46 on Feb 17, 2017 |
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Feb 17, 2017 17:39
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:because, as you'd find out quickly if you went into reddit proper instead of skimming the drama high points off here, she's a spineless no-self-esteem dorkamungus like 98% of people there and loved the validation but genuinely never considered that the guy had his own motivations and would escalate instead of just showering her with praise and attention forever, and she'd chew an arm off to escape an awkward but necessary confrontation. I've actually had some trouble finding some of these stories. Googling the text doesn't seem to help, and a lot of them don't come up on searches of r/relationships.
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Feb 17, 2017 17:41
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chitoryu12 posted:I've actually had some trouble finding some of these stories. Googling the text doesn't seem to help, and a lot of them don't come up on searches of r/relationships. that one's here https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/5umb0b/me_24_f_with_my_good_friend_30_m_of_a_year_i_feel/ some of em are archived, or on other subreddits, sometimes e: i don't mean there's much more to that specific story, per se, just that easily 98% of posts there are really loving boring and boil down to 'i am terrified of ever saying anything someone else does not want to hear' A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 17:51 on Feb 17, 2017 |
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Feb 17, 2017 17:44
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2 joints in the morning, 2 joints at night, 2 joints in the afternoon As prescribed!!!!
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Feb 17, 2017 17:47
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:because, as you'd find out quickly if you went into reddit proper instead of skimming the drama high points off here, she's a spineless no-self-esteem dorkamungus like 98% of people there and loved the validation but genuinely never considered that the guy had his own motivations and would escalate instead of just showering her with praise and attention forever, and she'll never resolve any interpersonal issue because she'd chew a limb off to put off having an awkward but necessary confrontation.
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Feb 17, 2017 17:53
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:because, as you'd find out quickly if you went into reddit proper instead of skimming the drama high points off here, she's a spineless no-self-esteem dorkamungus like 98% of people there and loved the validation but genuinely never considered that the guy had his own motivations and would escalate instead of just showering her with praise and attention forever, and she'll never resolve any interpersonal issue because she'd chew a limb off to put off having an awkward but necessary confrontation. Jfc, why the hell is she still with this dude. Especially since she doesn't even do drugs herself?
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Feb 17, 2017 17:55
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It sounds like he's doing coke or something but you'd think she'd be able to tell the difference before and after.
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Feb 17, 2017 17:59
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Moridin920 posted:It sounds like he's shooting up but you'd think she'd be able to tell the difference before and after. His secret is that he is always high.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:00
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Maybe he's crying and then washing his face, looking in the mirror, asking himself if he looks normal enough to go back out there.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:02
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Moridin920 posted:It sounds like he's doing coke or something but you'd think she'd be able to tell the difference before and after. I wouldn't count on her observation skills what drugs are the kids taking rectally these days vvv or that
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Feb 17, 2017 18:03
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Maybe he looks uncomfortable because he shits himself regularly, and it takes him a long time to clean up.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:04
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Dude can only think to run to the bathroom when poo poo gets serious and doesn't have the common sense to make fart noises for several minutes? loving amateur...
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Feb 17, 2017 18:06
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How can I [22/F] get over feeling my [22 M] live-in boyfriend is cheating on me, when he clearly isn't.quote:I have bad anxiety over the idea that my boyfriend is cheating on me with some other girl, and I have no proof. I don't go through his phone, or anything like that. I trust him, until I feel out of nowhere, that I shouldn't. I'm tired of feeling this, and we do have open communication before somebody brings it up. I am just getting to the point that I don't want to keep talking about my fear of him cheating because it feels like beating a dead horse. We have had issues in the past, but neither have ever cheated. My BF [22] considers me [22 F] taking my top off at a bar to be cheating. I don't know how for us to move forward. quote:I am currently backpacking Central America with a friend from college, we just graduated. The other night we were drinking & dancing at a bar where they have a sign "Boobs for Drinks!" Without really thinking about it, I joined my friend, and other girls in the activity. Hm...perhaps you shouldn't do things away from your SO that you wouldn't do in front of them..
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Feb 17, 2017 18:08
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In C. America so that drink was probably less than like $1 USD lmao
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Feb 17, 2017 18:11
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Nazzadan posted:My BF [22] considers me [22 F] taking my top off at a bar to be cheating. I don't know how for us to move forward. quote:He ignored me for two days, and now has told me what I did is as good as me actually banging the bartender. Yikes. Maybe she hosed up a bit, but dude is way overreacting. She showed her boobs, big deal.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:12
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I also think he is way overreacting but I didn't want to be the first one to say that lol. Still you can't really tell someone their feelings are wrong and just suck it up; it was still a boundary violation. But yeah  at "literally the same as banging the bartender" c'mon bro lol.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:14
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I mean shes in a different country flashing her tits, he is probably a nervous wreck back at home. If this happened in like another state or something he'd probably be overreacting. Important bit I left out, in the comments she says she hasn't actually talked to him because "it would cost money" so she is communicating all this through text.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:14
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Cthulu Carl posted:Dude can only think to run to the bathroom when poo poo gets serious and doesn't have the common sense to make fart noises for several minutes? I am a 20F with my 24M boyfriend of 1yr. His masturbation is getting on my nerves. quote:I get it. Masturbation is natural and a part of being a healthy human being. What has me concerned, though, are my SO's (male) new formed habits. A little background; we have known each other for a couple years now and moved in together about six months ago. Prior to moving in and in the few months after, we had sex OFTEN. No problems. We were both really open about masturbating and different porn genres we liked. I felt we had a healthy, sexual relationship.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:15
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Idk why a) people can't clean up after themselves wtf man and b) why people masturbate instead of loving their willing SO. I mean with b) ok sometimes you're tired or whatever once in a while I get that but yeesh 2 1/2 months.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:17
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yeah the context in flasher story is 'running around for weeks in a foreign country stripping for dollar beers and sporadically texting home' so lol at her sudden-onset paranoia at her longsuffering boyfriendWampaLord posted:Yikes. Maybe she hosed up a bit, but dude is way overreacting. She showed her boobs, big deal. quote:
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Feb 17, 2017 18:17
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:yeah the context here is 'running around for weeks in a foreign country stripping for dollar beers and sporadically texting home' Oh please, the context could also very well be "on a vacation with friends and did something mildly adventurous they might not have done at home as a result of peer pressure. They are students so they can text/skype but phone calls are prohibitively expensive. She immediately felt guilty and confessed her actions the next morning." 'Sporadically' is just 100% made up lol. From the BF's angle I get that he is nervous and upset bc she might just be giving him a mitigated version of the truth or whatever but c'mon "literally like banging the bartender?" That's just trust issues in the relationship to begin with if you don't believe your SO when the say something. e: "stripping for dollar beers" come the gently caress on look at how you're spinning it Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 18:21 on Feb 17, 2017 |
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Feb 17, 2017 18:19
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idk what to tell you dude she says she'd like totally talk to him about it but that costs money, and also he's upset so she's gonna give him space. you are not going to motivate me to deeply care about precisely ranking the degrees of sexual infidelity in a bad relationship
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Feb 17, 2017 18:21
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Moridin920 posted:Oh please, the context could also very well be "on a vacation with friends and did something mildly adventurous they might not have done at home as a result of peer pressure. They are students so they can text/skype but phone calls are prohibitively expensive. She immediately felt guilty and confessed her actions the next morning." "it's the same as banging the bartender " is overreacting, being suspicious is not.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:21
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Streak posted:i started sweating just reading this - the update tho. what a nutbar. At first, I was like "Oh, she's an socially awkward weirdo overcompensating for it" and then it got really bad, creepy, and depressing. I hope she was fired immediately after they saw that poo poo. 
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Feb 17, 2017 18:21
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Moral of the story, it was scummy for her to be constantly paranoid that her boyfriend is cheating on her, and then later that year show your tits for 50cent beer. He overreacted by saying its the same as cheating, but he has every right to be mad, especially after the way she was acting before. Like how do you go from talking to your boyfriend constantly about your fear of him cheating, then later rationalize poppin out the titties at the drop of a sombrero for pisswater? Nazzadan fucked around with this message at 18:23 on Feb 17, 2017 |
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Feb 17, 2017 18:21
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It's not a good move by her, but it's not the same as banging the bartender. Honestly, I'd be mad of my wife was showing her boobs for drinks. Really mad.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:22
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I certainly would not be OK with my girlfriend showing people her tits in exchange for goods and services (unless she was already a stripper when we'd started dating or something) and I can't imagine most people would be either
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Feb 17, 2017 18:22
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WoodrowSkillson posted:"it's the same as banging the bartender " is overreacting, being suspicious is not. Yeah that's fine. All I said was I think he's overreacting a bit, but that nonetheless it's not really for anyone to say what the bf should be feeling 'cuz that's how feelings work. Nazzadan posted:Moral of the story, it was scummy for her to be constantly paranoid that her boyfriend is cheating on her, and then later that year show your tits for 50cent beer. Yeah. I thought the tit flashing came first and that's why she was then paranoid he would cheat but either way yeah.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:23
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I'd think it was a pretty funny drunken story, y'all hung up on nudity or is it the free drink that sets you off?Moridin920 posted:it's not really for anyone to say what the bf should be feeling Literally no one did this.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:23
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WampaLord posted:I'd think it was a pretty funny drunken story, y'all hung up on nudity or is it the free drink that sets you off? Yeah idk what the big huge deal is tbh but whatevs agree to disagree. I'd be more upset I wasn't on that 3-4 week C. American vacation to begin with honestly. WampaLord posted:Literally no one did this. I didn't say they did, I just said that to put "I think he's overreacting" in the context of "but that's just my opinion on it bc obv there's no one true right answer on how to feel about that."
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Feb 17, 2017 18:24
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I am a 20F with my 24M boyfriend of 1yr. His masturbation is getting on my nerves. Dude def needs to get a firm grip on reality or his relationship will explode. 2 1/2 months without sex? Yikes!
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Feb 17, 2017 18:24
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WampaLord posted:I'd think it was a pretty funny drunken story, y'all hung up on nudity or is it the free drink that sets you off? I posted the stories in order, the tit story I would have never posted by itsself other than to laugh at the boyfriend. Based on their history from the first post, boyfriend has every right to be pissed as gently caress at her after dealing with her constant allegations and thoughts of cheating. He still shouldn't have compared it to cheating, unless he was taking a jab at her which in that case he rules.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:25
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I think the problem there is neither of them trust the other, not the tit flash. If they had a good trusting relationship to begin with that would have gone v differently. Just break up.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:26
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tbh the best course there was just not say anything. if that's all that happened, why does he even need to know? All it did was shift her own feelings of guilt over it to him, so she can go back to enjoyed her vacation while he is wondering what else she is doing.
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Feb 17, 2017 18:27
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