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Subjunctive
Sep 12, 2006

✨sparkle and shine✨

Improbable Lobster posted:

Desperation in 647 words

I heard a pitch the other day from a startup purporting to do personality analysis based on 500 words of writing. Get real, I thought, how could you possibly learn enough? And yet here we are.

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Oct 15, 2012

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Biscuit Hider
If I've learned anything from this thread (and I try not to) it's that 500 words is ~*PLENTY*~ of space to see all the red flags in someone's head.

Uhhlive
Jun 18, 2004

I'm not the public.
I'm the President

Cthulu Carl posted:

poo poo, it worked so well in my early years, it's been my go-to strategy well into adulthood.

Problems are made to be ignored not addressed.

Pvt.Scott
Feb 16, 2007

What God wants, God gets, God help us all
There should be enough material in my posts in this thread alone to convince anyone that I should not be allowed near other human beings.

Sisal Two-Step
May 29, 2006

mom without jaw
dad without wife


i'm taking all the Ls now, sorry

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

My [37M] wife [37F] of 11 years refuses to have sex yet forbids me from watching porn and masturbating


That's pretty much it and there's no reasoning with her. My wife and I used to have sex twice a day, morning and night, even after she had our 3 children. For about 4 months now my wife has been turning down sex with for all kinds of reasons (though some are definitely fake excuses)-headaches, stomach aches, feeling gross (once she said this 10 minutes after showering lmao), stress with work, stress with the kids, etc.

Ok, if she's stressed out with work and taking care of the kids and doesn't want to have sex for the time being, fine whatever. But I have a high libido and I couldn't take it anymore after 2 weeks so I started watching porn and masturbating. She found out a few days later and blew up, claiming that I betrayed her, that she's not ok with it and if I want to keep up my marriage I have to stop.

I looked at her with the most aghast face, in disbelief that she could pretty much hit me with an orgasm ban. I just told her clearly that I'm using porn and jerking it because she won't have sex anymore, and I'll stop when she resumes our previously incredible sex life.

She said I was being manipulating and abusive. Life hasn't really changed all that much since then. We still sleep in the same bed and parent our children normally, but she's just a bit cold now and keeps vowing to leave me if I continue watching porn but she just won't have sex anymore and I see no reason to agree to her ridiculous controlling bullshit so I keep hitting up the hub. Now I'm wondering if I'm doomed to just jack off forever or if she's actually going to make good on her threats and divorce me.

tl;dr: Wife won't gently caress, forbids me from watching porn and masturbating but idgaf and do it anyway

speculation: wife has the ol depresh and her husband failed to notice all the other signs (unless she specifically brings them up as an excuse not to gently caress him, i.e. stress at work, stress over their loving 3 kids, feeling gross, etc). orgasm ban + abuse accusation is brutal, though. she needs help from a supportive partner and not a husband cranking it in secret and bitching on reddit.

54 40 or fuck
Jan 4, 2012

No Yanda's allowed

Sisal Two-Step posted:

speculation: wife has the ol depresh and her husband failed to notice all the other signs (unless she specifically brings them up as an excuse not to gently caress him, i.e. stress at work, stress over their loving 3 kids, feeling gross, etc). orgasm ban + abuse accusation is brutal, though. she needs help from a supportive partner and not a husband cranking it in secret and bitching on reddit.

I lose a lot of sympathy of him when he writes

quote:

feeling gross (once she said this 10 minutes after showering lmao),
That's nasty, not being able to realize that 'feeling gross' can be more than "I don't feel clean hygienically".

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost
when i consider the abstract of his situation i feel for him but when i read the way he describes it i want to punch him in the teeth

he's 37 years old and this is what his internal monologue sounds like

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

Depression doesn't make you into the cock jailor, it just makes you unhappy. It's your lovely personality that makes you translate being miserable into randomly accusing those around you of abuse for innocuous behaviors and forbidding them to cum

she needs therapy but it sounds like at the best of times they're both mildly awful people who're better off making each other miserable than being inflicted on somebody else

Subjunctive
Sep 12, 2006

✨sparkle and shine✨

Mirthless posted:

when i consider the abstract of his situation i feel for him but when i read the way he describes it i want to punch him in the teeth

Take a moment and reflect on this post. There may be wisdom within.

Subjunctive
Sep 12, 2006

✨sparkle and shine✨

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Depression doesn't make you into the cock jailor, it just stresses you out.

Depression is a mental illness. It makes your brain sick. It can have profound effects on personality, even if it doesn't come along with any comorbid friends.

Bubblyblubber
Nov 17, 2014

54 40 or gently caress posted:

'feeling gross' can be more than "I don't feel clean hygienically".

I solve that problem by never showering :grin:

So all my feelings of grossness are from my dirty outsides matching my horrible insides :grin::grin:

The loneliness is outshined only by the scent of boiled ham :grin::grin::grin:

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost

Subjunctive posted:

Take a moment and reflect on this post. There may be wisdom within.

it was hyperbole, c'mon :rolleyes:

Sisal Two-Step
May 29, 2006

mom without jaw
dad without wife


i'm taking all the Ls now, sorry

Subjunctive posted:

Depression is a mental illness. It makes your brain sick. It can have profound effects on personality, even if it doesn't come along with any comorbid friends.

it also tanks your libido. that's like one of the major symptoms and if he bothered to care about her wellbeing beyond how willing she is to let him stick it in, he might've noticed. but yeah, she's probably also terrible and needs help.

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

Depression isn't schizophrenia and writing off anyone with any form of mental illness as totally lacking agency is repulsive; the exact same mental state that is produced by a depressed person's neurotransmitter imbalance can be found in a healthy brain deprived of positive stimuli, which is something that will happen in your life.

If you're a perfectly pleasant person when you're happy and turn into a domineering monster when you're unhappy, that doesn't mean you're really a nice person who just needs to be kept from ever being sad. The sadness can be treated but you'll still be a piece of poo poo who never learned to treat the people around you decently when you don't particularly feel like it. I come from a whole family of depressives, some medicated, some not, and while it significantly affects peoples' behavior and outlook it has no bearing on who pulls abusive crap on their spouses.

A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 23:04 on Feb 23, 2017

Subjunctive
Sep 12, 2006

✨sparkle and shine✨

Oh, I know the effects it can have, having been hospitalized for it twice. It is not just being "stressed out", as you put it.

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.
I may be going out on a limb here, but totally shutting down your partner's sexuality may in fact be a really lovely thing to do, even if you suffer from depression.

Ride The Gravitron
May 2, 2008

by FactsAreUseless
If anything she's actually abusing him. Playing the victim is a common tactic abusers use

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.
These situations usually end up with the guy blowing a load all over the woman's face while she's sleeping. I literally saw a Dear Abby about that, and the woman couldn't figure out why he did that.

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

Leon Einstein posted:

These situations usually end up with the guy blowing a load all over the woman's face while she's sleeping. I literally saw a Dear Abby about that, and the woman couldn't figure out why he did that.

hell, I can't figure out why he did that

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
my wife is a cock jailor



she got me drunk then slapped a chastity cage on me and refuses to tell me where the key is send help

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

hell, I can't figure out why he did that

frustrated revenge anger lol

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

Moridin920 posted:

my wife is a cock jailor



she got me drunk then slapped a chastity cage on me and refuses to tell me where the key is send help

have you considered that maybe she suffers from seasonal affective disorder

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

hell, I can't figure out why he did that
Frustration and anger, duh. To be fair, it was on her leg in the Dear Abbey letter, but close enough.

Subjunctive
Sep 12, 2006

✨sparkle and shine✨

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

have you considered that maybe she suffers from seasonal affective disorder

Nah, she's just stressed.

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

a perfectly normal reaction for people who are fine once they take some wellbutrin

54 40 or fuck
Jan 4, 2012

No Yanda's allowed

Leon Einstein posted:

These situations usually end up with the guy blowing a load all over the woman's face while she's sleeping. I literally saw a Dear Abby about that, and the woman couldn't figure out why he did that.

My brain read that as Downton Abbey and I was extremely confused

the bitcoin of weed
Nov 1, 2014

come on guys I'm pretty sure this is why we even have :cumpolice:

that said "I feel gross" in my experience means "I feel unattractive" every time so there's definitely something else going on there and he's oblivious to it

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

a perfectly normal reaction for people who are fine once they take some wellbutrin

Man have you ever even heard of treatment resistant depression?

I'm not saying she's right but your take seems to be 'the only way mental illness presents is how it presents for me' and I hate to break it to you dawg but some people can't be fixed with pills

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Some people cant be fixed in general, either, which is why ive got a shotgun and a stain resistant paint on the back of my shed.

LethalGeek
Nov 4, 2009

Barudak posted:

Some people cant be fixed in general, either...
Learning this was a very important milestone in my dumb life

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost

Barudak posted:

Some people cant be fixed in general, either, which is why ive got a shotgun and a stain resistant paint on the back of my shed.

well maybe when you've been married to somebody for 11 years and they just suddenly developed these problems, it's at least worth trying to fix them instead of writing them off as a fundamentally and permanently broken person?

WampaLord
Jan 14, 2010

I've suffered from depression and I totally get how it can kill a sex drive.

I do not understand how it leads to an orgasm ban and getting mad at your husband for jerking off. That part is super nuts.

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost
I agree it's an awfully unreasonable and unusual thing to do

Having said that, they've been married for 11 years, and her sudden about face in mood appears to have happened in the last four months, and he does not really seem to give much of a poo poo about anything in regards to this other than how often he is able to cum, so :shrug:

Maybe we'd know why she was being so drat unreasonable if we had any idea what happened four months ago to completely annihilate her very high sex drive seemingly overnight

Mirthless fucked around with this message at 00:07 on Feb 24, 2017

Bubblyblubber
Nov 17, 2014
WELL I'M GLAD YOU MENTIONED CUM MIRTHLESS

NSFW: Husband [early 30s] won't cum in me [early 30s] (12 yrs together) not because of fear of pregnancy but because it's dirty - even with a condom

quote:

Relationships
submitted 1 year ago * by pm_me_ur_awesome

Original post:

We've been together for 12 years and this whole time he wouldn't cum inside me. I've always tried to talk about birth control so he wouldn't be scared of pregnancy, I'm even willing to tie my tubes.

It's not that I want his sperm inside me, it's about sharing an orgasm and feeling close to each other. I'm even considering divorce because sexual intimacy is really important to me, and also because I feel lied to.

Yesterday he said it's not fear of pregnancy, but he thinks it's dirty/squeamish even with a condom. Edit: we hardly ever wear condoms anymore, it's been maybe 4 years since we've used them. We never cums inside me, that's why we finally decided not to bother anymore.

But he does stuff that's waaay dirtier than that!

We have only cum from intercourse once or twice, and it when he finally didn't pull out. Not only did he orgasm, I did too, and I think it's awful to miss out on that experience.
Is there anything we/I can try before I go?

TL DR:
  • He does all sorts of dirty kinky things, but thinks coming in me is dirty even with a condom.
  • Before, it was "fear of pregnancy". I feel lied to.
  • I need to feel sexual intimacy with him (share our orgasms - his, mine, or both).
  • Considering divorce.

YOU GOTTA NUT IN HER MARTY, IT'S THE ONLY WAY!

quote:

Update
He said it's because he can't clean it inside me. I'm not sure why it matters, but I'm glad he told me.
We're going to use condoms again and work on it.
He also said there was something about the loss of control, but he started stammering so I didn't push him.
I'm thankful (and proud of him) that he's opening up more to me about this sort of stuff.

Awn, everything turned out ok :)

Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
I(19f) pulled a prank on my friend's(19f) boyfriend(20m). Now he wants her to cut contact with me.

quote:

Apologies in advance for formatting and spelling, I'm on mobile.

So yesterday my friend K was over at my place and was taking a shower. She got a text from her boyfriend C and I decided to have a little fun. So I sent a picture of my boyfriend(who was shirtless in the pic) to K's phone then sent it to C with a text that said "this is her boyfriend". IMMEDIATELY her phones is blowing up with calls from C and I put the phone in the bottom of K's bag and she comes out of the shower. She then gets her stuff to leave and I can still here the muffled vibrating of her phone so I tell her she should probably check it. K says she'll check it when she gets home(about a 25 minute drive) and leaves.

So K called me later that evening and was pretty pissed. C was apparently at work and started freaking out when I sent him the pic of my boyfriend and had an anxiety attack. K said C said that he wants K to stop hanging out with me but that it was K's choice. And K said she was going to think about it cause that was a lovely thing to do.

I get that they're both upset but I feel like ending our friendship is a pretty extreme reaction to this. It was just a prank and it's not like anyone was actually cheating. I guess I'm asking if I should just suck it up and apologize or if I theyre overreacting.

Tldr: Played a prank on a friend and her boyfriend, now they want to cut me out of their lives. Not sure how to proceed.

Bubblyblubber
Nov 17, 2014
If you can't get punched in the face while pulling it, it's not a real prank.

Mirthless
Mar 27, 2011

by the sex ghost

Gaunab posted:

I(19f) pulled a prank on my friend's(19f) boyfriend(20m). Now he wants her to cut contact with me.

yep, he's right, you are a person that needs to not be in her life, or anyone's, until you loving grow up

Barudak
May 7, 2007

If a "tale as old as time" is the song lyric for age gap red flag what is the one for prank idiots.

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Oct 15, 2012

To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out
Biscuit Hider
I like how she makes it clear in the last paragraph that she hasn't even apologized.

christmas boots
Oct 15, 2012

To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out
Biscuit Hider
I mean they're probably overreacting.!

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Bubblyblubber
Nov 17, 2014
I did a search for cum hoping for funny, but only found deathgrips. Deathgrips as far as the eye can see.

UPDATE My (22F) boyfriend (24M) does not cum during sex and does not see the issue with this- it's causing major friction in our relationship (7 months).

My (22f) bf (22m) of barely 8 months doesn't want to have sex with me because he doesn't cum?

Me [29F] with my husband [31M] married 5 years, he can only cum using his hand.

It doesn't seem like my boyfriend cums.

I (19F) cannot make new boyfriend (20M) cum?

I [27M] while having sex with my fiance [26F] of 5 years can't cum without fantasizing about her friends

And that's from the first page of results.

Give your dingles a rest, you dingdongs.

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