Ouhei posted:

Jesus tap dancing christ. This is really simple.

- Girl likes guy
- Guy also likes girl
- Guy asks girl out, she can't because a game is on at that time. Guy accepts this. [doesn't ask for a later time]
- Guy asks girl out again, she declines again because a game is on. Guy accepts this. [doesn't ask for a later time]
- Guy asks girl out a third time and is denied again. Girl hasn't proposed an alternative time to hang out and even has the balls to suggest I need to download the schedule and figure out another time. [girl texts and goes "well hey the game is over wanna hang still?" guy says no]
[guy assumes total rejection although he never actually made any effort to give a poo poo about her time/schedule/hobbies/activities]

Moridin920 posted:

zakharov posted:

Do you guys think a hot dog is a sandwich?

boner confessor posted:

its p sad that you admit you think it's normal to relentlessly pursue a woman despite her clear disinterest and that her lack of interest is just a sign that you're not putting in enough effort


a pizza slice becomes a sandwich if you fold it

Moridin920 posted:

Generally when I ask someone out and they say "oh I'm busy then" I immediately follow up with an alternate time instead of assuming I'm being shot down entirely like a sadbrained goon.

Generally when someone says "this is my favorite activity to do" I then work around that when asking for their time/company esp if I am a near total stranger bc I'm not assuming I should be their highest priority.

Moridin920 posted:

K well I'm assuming they are English and watching your fav football club play isn't really just "watching TV doing nothing" over there.

food court bailiff posted:

This is the dumbest poo poo. I know that soccer is like a religion there, but guess what? Other sports are followed just as closely around the world! More people per overall population watch the Super Bowl in America than watch the World Cup in the UK. Anyone prioritizing sports to the degree that they're blowing off other people is a moron, and I say that as someone who follows three teams across three sports nearly every game.

CharlestheHammer posted:

Just ignore Mordin and his hosed up views of interaction, Jesus.

WoodrowSkillson posted:

The real simple answer is if it was a dude watching the NFL, no one would support him at all.

WoodrowSkillson posted:

The real simple answer is if it was a dude watching the NFL, no one would support him at all.

CharlestheHammer posted:

Just ignore Mordin and his hosed up views of interaction, Jesus.

Moridin920 posted:

lol you dudes are so bitter and hate filled and you're trying to tell me that you're better at interacting with people?

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Shuuuuuut the gently caress Uuuuuuuuppppp

quote:

My boyfriend was gone for a few weeks and just got back on Friday. I got home from work at 7am this morning, just as my boyfriend was leaving for work. I noticed that he still hadn't unpacked his suitcase and I figured I could give him a hand because I still had some energy left after my shift.

As I was sorting items into laundry and dry cleaning, I case across a bag and opened it. It was filled with anal sex toys. At first I was thinking that maybe he was into some stuff that he didn't feel comfortable telling me about so I just closed the bag and left it in his suitcase. Then I was going through some different compartments in his suitcase and came across a a ton of condoms. There were no used condoms in the bag, but you can clearly see where some condoms had been ripped off from the pack.

Now to rewind a bit. Over the weekend I was teasing my boyfriend because he works with this cute little Russian girl named Irina. I was saying...ooohh, so did Irina come back to your hotel room? I was just joking around. I know he has a little office crush on her but nothing serious. Well, he said yes, she had gone to his room. He claims she just stepped in for a minute while he picked up his laptop because they were working on a project together. I thought this was a little strange, but up until now I've had no reason to doubt him.

Should I directly question my boyfriend about the sex toys and condoms or should I wait for him to see that I unpacked his luggage. Also, do you consider this definitive proof that he is cheating? I was thinking maybe he had condoms left in his bag from a trip that we had taken together and never bothered to take them out. The anal sex toys seems out of place, but maybe he wanted to try some new stuff?

We've been together for 10 years and we've never kept secret from each other. If he is into anal play I honestly feel like he would have told me so we could try it.

TL;DR: Boyfriend went on a business trip. Admits to bringing female co-worker back to his hotel room but states that nothing happened. Then I find anal sex toys and loads of condoms in his luggage. Is this proof that he is cheating?

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Been dating this beautiful, wonderful girl since March of last year, so that's one year now. She's seriously beautiful and has a really funny, adorable personality.
Umm but last night I kind of "caught" her looking at some hosed up poo poo on the Internet. Like hosed up gory, bloody videos, that kind of site. She was just watching this video on her phone of a guy being tortured and beheaded, some kind of gang video, and had NO reaction to it whatsoever. I, on the other hand, started freaking out and I couldn't watch it or even listen to the noises coming from it and I made her turn it off. And then she showed me some of the other pictures on that site, which was just all murder and gore and nasty poo poo. She just said she's super interested in those kinds of things and it doesn't really shock her or scare her since she's seen those things online since she was like in middle school??

I guess it's kind of like internet rubbernecking but it was really disturbing to me and I just couldn't stomach it. Maybe that makes me a weaker man than she is lol. But she just said it's a "hobby" and also mentioned how watching those things kind of numbs and desensitizes her to her own first world problems, or if anything like that happens, she'll be less affected by it.

Man, I am not the type of person who faints at the sight of blood but that sort of thing just makes my stomach churn. It's total nightmare fuel. Should I be worried about her in any way? It's not that I'm worried she's a serial killer or anything, but that is kind of a hosed up hobby. At the same time I am also kind of amazed by her steel nerves. It's weird because she can watch that sort of thing while I'm dry-heaving next to her.. but then she'll start bawling because she met a kitten at an animal shelter that she can't adopt because she's allergic. I mean, man.

Is she okay? Should I encourage her to not look at those things or is it not a big deal?

tl;dr My girlfriend is super interested in gore and murder type videos and photos online.. should I be concerned or is this just one of her quirks to leave alone?

Moridin920 posted:

Yeah well you're not supreme arbiter of what everyone must prioritize lol. She very clearly told him 2x that she wants to watch Arsenal play and he asked her out a third time during an Arsenal game like a dumbo.

zakharov posted:

I would not have picked that particular story as one to spawn a 5 page derail.

food court bailiff posted:

Shifting your priorities is a very important part of entering into a relationship, and people failing to do so is the cause of a hell of a lot of the posts in this thread.

Moridin920 posted:

She told him to dl the schedule bc she is obv confused as to why he keeps asking her out during game time. She's 19 and could have communicated better herself but it isn't entirely her fault is all I'm saying.

WampaLord posted:

Here is a story to hopefully move the thread on:

Unpacked my [30F] boyfriend's [27M] suitcase and found a few strange things


I'm 50/50 on either he's cheating or he secretly loves butt stuff and they're all his toys.

WampaLord posted:

Here is a story to hopefully move the thread on:

Unpacked my [30F] boyfriend's [27M] suitcase and found a few strange things


I'm 50/50 on either he's cheating or he secretly loves butt stuff and they're all his toys.

quote:

A simple "I can't then, the game is on but I'd like to hang out after if you're free" probably would have saved her chances, but she didn't. Live and learn.

Ouhei posted:

The guy has made 3 loving ATTEMPTS at scheduling a date, the fact that they were all on game days is irrelevant since they play several games a week at different times and he clearly isn't a big enough fan to know when they are. It shouldn't be on him to know when she's unavailable to go on their first date, it's actually insulting to suggest to tell someone who's tried to ask you out three times to download a schedule of a football team to make sure you're free to go on a date, after the second time she should have checked the schedule her drat self and suggested a day or a few that would work for her.

As far as he's concerned he's now asked her out 3 times at different times of the day/week and has been rejected 3 times without proposing an alternative option. Keep in mind she texted him after the game was over if he still wanted to hang out, not before the game when she turned him down. A simple "I can't then, the game is on but I'd like to hang out after if you're free" probably would have saved her chances, but she didn't. Live and learn.

Pick posted:

Why are people always cheating? Like I seriously don't get it.

Play posted:

Seems a bit generous to me. I like the little pathetic half truth "yeah, she did come to my room (in case gf finds out somehow) but we did ummm like computer work stuff yeah

Oh those massive anal dildos and used condoms? Well.... uhhhh... didn't wanna get HIV from the dildo, yeah that's it

Moridin920 posted:

Look I'ma say this and then I'll drop it.

If I ask a girl out and she says "no I'm watching my fav team play then sorry" then a) I would say "oh dang what about after the game?" and b) I would take literally 5 seconds to check their schedule before asking her out again.

It's not like he has to conjure advanced majicks to scry their schedule.

WampaLord posted:

If you're going to cheat, you really have to bring along all the toys too? Knowing that your only cover story if caught is "I love butt stuff?"

Moridin920 posted:

Dude is prolly cheating but I will say that if you're doing anal stuff w/ dildos putting a condom on the thing first is common.

Play posted:

Didn't know this, in fact my knowledge of ramming myself in the rear end with a piece of cock-shaped rubber is apparently woefully undeveloped

Time to do some research