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Oh hey, food and covid chat. My 4yo did the eat everything to eat very little. It could be worse, we do go through a lot of cheese and yogurt, and he's acceptable about eating at daycare. Definitely a lot of "OH NO It's broken!" and a very tired Dad convincing him it all tastes the same. It's working enough that he does finish eating the horribly broken banana/pretzel/cheese slice. Good milestone: Started actually pooping in the potty. Bad milestone: Got covid over his birthday. From daycare, where no other kids tested positive, somehow. Wife and I tested negative, luckily the baby never got any symptoms. I still had paternity time left so my holiday vacation turned into a long, not very restful "vacation". Kid never lost any speed or energy. Yikes. 6mo is doing well, she's had a rough few days from the 6mo vaccination regimen, but is pretty perky. Hair continues to stand straight up. Current favorite activity is to get one parent to hold you so you can watch the other parent. PPD sucks though. Trying to keep everything in motion and support my wife is exhausting. I know she appreciates it though, and the kids are super affectionate, so there's some golden payoff moments in there. Allergy chat - he's allergic to shrimp, eggs, oats, and rye. Shrimp has sent us to the ER twice now, so we're a little gunshy about testing out of anything while covid is rampaging the hospitals. Makes breakfast pretty rough. Hash browns from Dunkin or Manhattan Bagel have been pretty useful when we're getting other things.
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We have a 4yo and a 7mo, and the frustrating part of the first few months was having issues getting our son potty trained, and between two kids in diapers and two cats I'm pretty sure our trash bin was 50% poop by volume. Otherwise it's been fine? He has some allergies that make some meals challenging, but 4yo gonna 4yo. My wife and her brother are 4 years apart, and she felt like that was pushing it in terms of being close to each other. Our son loves helping with his sister, and she watches him constantly. Pretty big step from when we told him he was going to have a baby sister and he said "No thank you!" I'm an only child, so when my wife kept talking about her and her brother, and wanting slightly closer ages, I'm like "sib...ling?"  I also had to have a conversation with my Mom about the difference between advice and telling me what to do. It didn't go great, but it did make a difference. Parenting up is rough, I can tell she's getting older.
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Feb 9, 2022 17:24
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Sivart13 posted:Dang, I hadn't heard of any place with that severe of restrictions. Daughter was born in July, I was just barely allowed in. Right before this I could have gone in, but without re entry privileges, that would have been awful for my son. I think for a while they had no partners prior to that? We ended up there for a week and my MIL was allowed to come in, there was some confusion around that. Great planning there. This is outside of Philly.
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Feb 14, 2022 04:33
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We do a lot of yogurt and toast. He's allergic to egg, oat, and rye.  He loves fruit, we just don't usually do it for breakfast. Recent challenges include deciding not to listen to daycare teachers, yelling at them you don't have to listen, then being surprised when Dad shows up grumpy to take you home to nap. I know four is hard kid, but cut me a break.
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Feb 14, 2022 21:26
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Hippie Hedgehog posted:Is he grumpy about the unreasonable grownups making him lie down like a little kid, by any chance? Yeah. Not many of them sleep during nap/quiet time, but I know he didn't sleep much last night, so he needed it. It's been a recurring problem because he won't stay on his cot, so he ends up bothering the other kids, then won't listen because toddler sunk cost fallacy, and so on.
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Feb 14, 2022 22:50
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Alterian posted:My 3 year old's new favorite phrase is "It's Mine!" My 4 year old will declare something his favorite, even (especially?) if he's never had it, in an attempt to get whatever it is.
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Feb 16, 2022 21:53
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I don't have any advice to give other than keep trying to explain again and again, but, uh, if you figure out how to help a 4yo listen at school, I'm all ears.
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Feb 18, 2022 16:14
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Mind_Taker posted:Does anyone have recommendations for masks for toddlers? Our twins just turned 2 and we've never really tried masks with them, but we're hoping to get them into daycare soon and they'll need to wear masks. We have a couple of small masks at home but even they are way too big for their heads/faces. If you want reusable, they Crayola ones are pretty good - https://smile.amazon.com/Crayola-Kids-Face-Mask-Reusable/dp/B08B2K8PJQ/ For N95/surgical, Project N95 has some choices - https://shop.projectn95.org/masks/child-masks I made a bunch of my own cloth ones at the start, but had a really annoying time getting them sized for the then two, now four, year old. The Crayola ones have a little strap adjuster, which is huge in terms of fit (and a metal nose bridge). Monitor chat: We still use it for the 4yo to tell him to stop doing handstands and settle down. Got a second one for the baby instead of an addon camera that way we can each take a monitor as needed. Will probably stop using it for my son soon, it's less worry and more please settle down.
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Feb 22, 2022 15:17
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It's lax now, but people here were pretty good about masking. Daycare's approach for 2yo was "please send them in with a mask, have a spare here, and we'll hope for the best". They knew it would be hard but wanted a mask for each kid in case they got inspected. By this point those kids are pretty good, new two year olds are iffy. It has cut down on colds, though this round I picked up won't go away. Infant room colds are harsh.
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Feb 23, 2022 01:41
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We only had to say it once, but my wife definitely said "Please don't chase the cat with your penis!"
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Mar 2, 2022 18:05
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Hadlock posted:Oh ho ho, no they've been amazing at letting me put family first, and given me a raise in the last quarter Is care.com still a thing? We hired babysitters from there for our wedding (years ago), if they're still doing background checks that might be an option?
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Apr 13, 2022 05:18
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Weak, your boss should have just said let it go.
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Apr 23, 2022 04:26
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External Organs posted:My daughter has started asking for pop despite never being given it before. What? Mine does that appended with "It's my faaaaaavorite!" Kid, you've never had it before.
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Apr 26, 2022 14:08
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nwin posted:gently caress man. My son wasn't aggressive to other kids, but would scream at teachers and refuse to do whatever it was they asked, just being super contrary. Then would scream and flail during naptime. So I'd have to get him from daycare. To make it clear it wasn't a treat, he'd get naptime at home, and I started taking things away from him - playing in the basement, then TV, then his stuffed animals. It took a while but it got the point across. Still some challenges, but by and large much better behaved at daycare. D34THROW posted:The not normal part was when I started talking to her. She punched the transducer and then her heartbeat started getting faster and louder. Lil' girl got excited hearing Daddy talk to her 
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Apr 28, 2022 15:52
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Academician Nomad posted:Man this formula shortage is nervous-making. We have enough for a few weeks maybe, thanks to some stocking up a while back. Sure hope we can get some more within that time frame. Walmart's website is bad about updating stock. Target and CVS so far have been okay. I think I'm about at the "go find another can" stage too. At least my daughter is almost 1, so we can start cutting it with milk and work on weaning her off of it. Eating people food isn't a problem, she yells if she doesn't have ~real~ food like mom and dad, and she's not fond of water. The four year old doesn't care about real food, just snacks, and he looooooves water. Kids are weird man.
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May 12, 2022 17:40
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That sounds like a direct path to getting silly putty instead? I mean, you're not wrong though.
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May 15, 2022 16:41
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Yeah, my son got it at the start of the year, which was a GREAT 4th birthday gift. He had a 101 fever all week but didn't slow down and didn't care. He did want to be in the cool finished basement, but otherwise it was normal. I was worn the gently caress out at the end of that week, holy poo poo. He definitely got it from daycare, we didn't take him anywhere, and we went minimal places and were always masked, and my wife and I are vaxxed and boosted. But yet he was the only one out, and no one else reported it. And because I got him tested on Monday, it had been long enough since he was in daycare that they didn't have to close anything. :| He had the fever all weekend, it came from there. People don't care, and schools/daycares are having a hard enough time getting staff that isolating rooms would probably make them close whole rooms for an exposure. A neighbor quit her job running a (different) daycare because she couldn't deal with the stress and blame shifting.
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May 24, 2022 19:21
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I clearly forgot how awful colds are from daycare. With masks and keeping the rooms separate during the height of the pandemic, I really stopped getting sick from my son. My daughter is making up for it in spades from the infant room, jfc. At least their pink eye has been gone a week and my drops end today? Oh and the water softener drain line popped out and saturate part of the finished basement. You know, the part my son loves playing in. At least all the fans are great white noise? I had taken the week as PTO to have some time to get things done I wanted to do. I did none of them.
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May 29, 2022 23:02
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Koivunen posted:If you are watching love death and robots, and you also have kids, do yourself a favor and skip “Pop Squad.” It is hosed up and made me cry. Do they have a discount rate for not present? Ours does half rate if you're not there for the week for vacation or whatever, and that applied to covid. If it's not policy, maybe ask? When the closed the whole thing for 2 weeks in 2020, we argued into zero cost for those two weeks, no idea if all the parents got that or not though. Definitely sucks a lot though. The baby definitely gave me something wicked, test came back negative though.
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May 30, 2022 17:17
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I was misled, my son slept through the night pretty well fairly early. My daughter is shooting for the exact opposite.
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Jun 11, 2022 02:01
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I redirected my 4yo into saying what the what, since what the gently caress is my wife's most common phrase for work. Then creature case files turned it into what in the wooly wide world, not sure if that's better.
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Jun 12, 2022 15:14
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At least the rhymes in little blue truck make sense. I hate the Sesame Street books where it was clearly outsourced to someplace where English is a second or third language. Sheep series books are pretty great though. And getting my son to read along with the poems in the Little Master Shakespeare Midsummer Nights Dream is great. Gonna give a copy to daycare and see if they can get a whole room chanting. 
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Jun 23, 2022 17:32
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How does relocating work with shared custody? Assuming that part is okay, basically pick anywhere that aligned with your temperature choices and cost of living choices. North of Philly the great for kids and mediocre for kids can swing from town to town, so it ends up being really specific.
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Jun 24, 2022 00:47
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Apparently or pediatrician's website let you book appointments online without having to deal with the office staff. 4yo and 1yo get it Wednesday.
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Jun 25, 2022 01:36
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Huh. My son is white as hell (definitely takes after me) and he had awful cradle cap. We used mustela shampoo, but had no idea about oil. My daughter has some dandruff but nothing like his was. He ended up just growing out of it. Going to keep these ideas in mind if hers gets worse though.
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Jun 25, 2022 21:57
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sheri posted:No, child care withholding (for the tax-free dependent care FSA anyway) is kept at 5,000 per household. Up to a certain income, then you're sol. Bonus points if your (or your spouse's) employer didn't track this and did a whoopsie mid year. Good times.
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Jul 23, 2022 04:25
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sheri posted:We used something like this as I did not want to deal with scrubbing poop or pee out of (essentially) a bucket. We use this style and a $10 plastic stool from Lowes
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Jul 24, 2022 20:34
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Ouch. Camp out in the living room to stay on the one floor? Play forts in said room that involve you crawling around instead of running? Crayola mess free coloring kit(s)? Sick parent healthy kid is just really rough.
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Jul 26, 2022 12:32
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GoutPatrol posted:My parents got my child a Vermont Teddy Bear day 1. It sat in a corner for 10 months until he noticed it, now he loves it and tried to sleep on it, which is a bit difficult because it is kinda hard and lumpy. Vermont Teddy Bear does make / let you make softer bears, the important part is the lack of articulating joints. They're also an awesome company.
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Jul 27, 2022 12:15
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Mind_Taker posted:drat that’s the longest I’ve heard anyone testing positive for COVID. Sorry to hear that, sounds like a nightmare. Our pediatrician apparently won't retest because this is possible. "She's completed the mandated quarantine period" which is apparently also good enough for our daycare? My wife's work wanted the baby to have a negative test, wait a week, then have my wife produce a negative test. To go to an office with no one on her team. Great move guys. Anyway, after an over night at the children's hospital and about four more days, she's back to normal and making up time on walking and talking oh god.
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Aug 11, 2022 05:38
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A willingness to tell whoever comes in at 3am to run a test on the baby or mom that they should gently caress off until daylight. Seriously, I swear someone came in every goddamn hour every night. We had mom complications, so it was a week of that but jfc.
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Aug 15, 2022 23:57
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Oh yeah, on the push back on staff thing - we used the nursery so I could leave and go check on my son and the MIL. We were told so much bullshit about the nursery, it's not open, only dad can leave/take the baby, only mom can leave/take the baby, only a nurse can leave/take the baby, and the ONE GODDAMN NURSE who just brought the baby back to my wife while I was gone and she was hooked up the mag chloride drip and couldn't care for the baby. gently caress that nurse in particular. Most of the nurses were glad I was there to help, but there were like three who treated me like poo poo. Turns out once they ran out of space in the regular delivery unit and we were wheeled over to the Mom unit for the rest of the stay, the staff was a lot better. Post partum pre eclampsia is no joke.
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Aug 16, 2022 17:26
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Yeah, ours didn't have any issues with the vaccines, but the 1yo likely had it already when she got dose two. The 4yo had it six months prior and was fine with both vaccines. New CHOP facility in King of Prussia is pretty nice, at least for our one night stay. =/
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Aug 26, 2022 00:20
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My one year old decided that the pro move was to go from hug to biting my bicep. It's lovely shades of red, purple, and green. Glad I had a thicker polo shirt on, I feel lucky I didn't lose any flesh. Son definitely hit me in the dick a few times, probably in the 2yo-3yo range?
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Aug 29, 2022 03:30
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Around here it's lollipop Friday. Were you good enough to earn a lollipop or not?
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Sep 3, 2022 02:18
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redreader posted:I'm trying really hard this week, because normally I get the kids from daycare and it's not a big deal to get them home, give them some food, sit down and start eating. But yesterday, the 4 year old was loving FRANTIC about everything and even if it wasn't a big deal, I'd feel my heart rate go up. E.g. he wanted the last croissant, which I'd been saving for the kids. I say 'great' and since they NEVER eat a whole anything, I reach for the knife to cut it in half. IMMEDIATE tears, frantic, crying, sobbing "NO NO NO DON'T CUT IT IN HAAAALLLLLFFFFFF". I decide to risk the wrath of the 2 year old and just give him the croissant. Of course he only eats half. He asks for grapes later. I start washing them. As I'm washing them he starts crying, full tears, sobbing, etc etc "where are my grapes". Other things he cried about were similarly not a big deal but every time I found my mood matching his 'oh poo poo oh poo poo'. I see his daycare teacher and she remains calm no matter what. I need to get better at doing that, and I definitely am but gently caress it's hard. Oof, that's rough. When my son starting throwing fits of Where's My X I Just Demanded, I asked him to calm down and wait, and on more fit throwing, carried him to his crib and did an immediate ~5 minute time out. After a few rounds of that, we really don't get fits from him anymore. He's also sneaking up on 5, so he understands more now too. My daughter (14mo) is on the same track, but jfc she is remarkably louder than he ever was. This one is going to give me hearing damaged. Hopefully she learns a bit faster by watching him or something. On the sleeping thing - he slept early and easily, no issues turning crib into a day bed, or swapping it for a real bed. She has only just recently stopped demanding a 3am meal. I'm the light sleeper, so I either feed her or migrate to the basement and let her wake up her brother. My wife sleeps through almost anything, so I'm the one who caved all time. Real food has been great for keeping her fuller longer, but it's definitely hard. Also, pretty sure she's going to roam at night with the cats. (I like sleeping in the basement, it's colder, darker, and quieter. Right up until a cat decides I'm clearly lonely.)
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Sep 15, 2022 21:28
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Lead out in cuffs posted:I think it's pretty child-dependent when a kid will drop their daytime nap completely, with the age being anywhere from 3-5, and it not being a sudden thing. So most daycares do "quiet time" in the afternoon, which can be a nap time for kids who do nap. Yeah, our daycare calls it naptime, and tries to have all the kids actually nap. Then complains when my 4.5yo won't stop fidgeting. The pediatrician's office was flabbergasted that they'd try to get kids over 4 to nap.
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Sep 22, 2022 21:56
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It's normal enough in the greater Philly burbs. I think ours is like $25, then once you're more than 15 minutes late it escalates. IIRC a coworker said his daycare on the mainline started at a $50 late fee and went up because people were just abusing it "in for $50, $250's fine" kind of a thing. Way back when I had to commute, I asked our director about it, and she was pretty upfront that if you're stuck on the highway, call asap and she can look for volunteers or figure out how to dodge overtime and she'll work it out rather than huge penalty fees.
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Oct 3, 2022 19:43
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External Organs posted:When I had covid in Dec 2021 I never popped a fever either. I wonder if that's more common if you're vaccinated. My son got covid in January, had a 101 fever all week, didn't lose any energy and had no other symptoms (no vaxx doses). My daughter got covid in July, she already had one dose, and no fever but major respiratory issues involving an overnight stay the children's hospital and enough albuterol to terrify you. I never tested positive then or other times despite my being the parent locked in with the sick kid. She was on my chest breathing in my face for like 12 hours to boot. Who knows.
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Slaan posted:Same, but the aquarium. Otters and jellyfish are apparently the best Can confirm, went to the aquarium recently and the otter was a major showoff my for 16 month old daughter. Little bit of fancy flip for the 4yo, but hammed it up for the baby. My son loved spotting the octopus and figuring out where he was hiding.
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