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purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Dudes have PC muscles too mang

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purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

I'm going to ignore your hilarious username/post combo and just answer your question.

I think if it's your first time you should just get something small and just go for it. Slide it on up there, use some lube if you need to and just sort of wiggle it around until you find something that feels pretty pleasant. If you're sitting down, poke it sort of upward, towards your junk. I'm sure you can look up a medical diagram and learn exactly where the prostate is but I say just go for it and see what works for you. Some guys can climax solely from prostate stimulation but in my case it's not that dramatic. It's just a nice treat sometimes. You can do it while you're jerkin' it and it makes the whole experience a bit more intense. I've never tried to like, hold something up there and have sex at the same time. That seems like a more advanced maneuver.

As far as what to use I got my start when I was a teenager jerkin' it to Cinemax with a Sharpie marker. I wouldn't recommend that to anybody now but something of that diameter would probably be a good start.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

As long as it's one of those long rear end novelty pens because you gots to make sure you can get that out with minimal effort.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Vasectomies rule. Not conceiving is the literal best thing in the world. The recovery is a bit gnarly. You can come blood the first time after (I didn't, thank gently caress) and its common for all the skin on your dick to slough off. Doctor didn't warn me about that ahead of time so that was pretty startling but it's actually totally normal.

I think your dude might have jumped back into jackin' it a little too quick. I had mine done back in 09 so the memories are a bit hazy but I want to say I was inert for a weekend, had the jock strap for a little bit after that, and then was given the go-ahead to start cleaning out the pipes. I'd say give it some time and Im sure it'll be fine.

Unfortunately though it's not unheard of for people to react differently to the procedure. Some people have pain, aches, etc. I can't imagine that a reversal would fix the problem, since I've never heard of a vasectomy properly done causing something like that. All it's supposed to really do is interrupt the flow of semen into your ejaculate, which is really not a vital component of an orgasm. If the doctor did indeed mess something up down there, just restoring that flow isn't likely to un-gently caress it, without identifying what the actual problem is.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

I would think it's one of those things where unless both parties are 100% into it it could cause some real problems. It's definitely not something I'd want to go into with the attitude of, "sure, maybe."

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Don't tell anybody but most of the time, when a woman does climax from PIV without any additional finger action, its because something about your/her movements is stimulating her clit at the same time. Keep that one under your hat.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

yikes

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Well the obvious answer is, licking a butthole is not a thing that people do to achieve orgasm. It's foreplay, it feels nice and gets people excited to do other things. Like say stimulation of the testicles or nipples, most people are not going to orgasm from that (although some people can) but it is arousing.

It's not always about what's more productive. The goal is to enjoy the experience, not rush to the endgame.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Otterman absolutely stops to smell the flowers. He posted a thread full of lovely pictures of his trip to an aquarium. He's actually got a really good eye. He's just kinda ignorant of sexual things.

I choose to engage with Otterman assuming he is not a gimmick because whether he is fakeposting or not he is immensely entertaining and nothing is gained by thirty goons shouting "gimmick" every time he posts.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Just get it real clean. If she's into it Im sure she's seen some hairy buttholes before. I feel like looking into a place to get it waxed is a great way to end up on some kind of list.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Jedit posted:

I was given to understand that you're supposed to have a few orgasms as soon as you're healed enough, to purge any lingering sperm from the system. Is this not right?

No it's definitely right. Dude didn't say he was having unprotected PIV intercourse right off the bat though.

I don't recall anything weird about orgasms after the snip. There's some weird poo poo that can happen during recovery but once the doc says you're clean, it's pretty much party time.

We've got a vasectomy thread somewhere in A/T.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

I had sex for over a decade with hormonal BC before I got vasectomized. Never even had a close call.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Look into state sponsored family planning programs. I live in Oklahoma and was eligible for Sooner Care, since I was poo poo poor and didn't have insurance. It paid for the procedure entirely. This was also pre Obamacare so I don't know if this is more or less common now.

I was 26 or 27 and did not get any trouble from the doctor either. Part of the pushback against younger dudes getting vasectomied might be that the younger you are, up to about 25, increases the risk of the procedure reversing itself. There are a lot of redundancies you can do to make sure the tubes stay severed though so ask your doctor about that stuff.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

KillHour posted:

I'm curious as to why she doesn't get sterilized if she's the one who would have complications having kids. What if you break up and want a kid with someone else?

Is she just going to make all her boyfriends get snipped?

Getting your tubes tied is a much, much bigger deal than a vasectomy. It's way more invasive and potentially dangerous.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Practice peaking and backing off while you jerk it. You know the muscles everybody talks about for sex, where you can like stop yourself in mid pee by flexing? If you can relax those muscles instead you can delay your orgasm for a while. It's not easy especially during actual loving but give it a try.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

black.lion posted:



Ive heard of this backing off thing but specifically, how do you do it, so that its helpful? Stop right before climax, and then what, let go and count to ten? Or just slow down? Is there a youtube video that possibly includes a grapefruit????


You jerk it until youre about to come but not so close that you cant still stop. You either slow it down or if thats still going to push you over you stop entirely. You try to keep the mood going, that sounds lame considering youre just by yourself but the idea is to get your body in the moment of sexy times without being about to bust. You don't want to come but you don't want to lose your boner either. Stroke your nuts or whatever you like. Keep watching the porno if you're watching porno (of course youre watching porno). Once you aren't on the precipice anymore start with a slow jerk and gradually ramp it back up. Repeat once you get close to coming again.

Honestly though if you are loving for 40 mins to an hour already this is probably not your issue. Your problem is the specific action of your girl getting off around you making you bust too fast. My advice to you in this situation is try not to change what you're doing too much. In my experience when you come guys tend to fall off their rhythm which usually torpedoes any potential orgasm in the lady. If she's getting close sometimes feeling that youre also getting close inside her can push her closer but if you're shuddering all weird and stuff it's definitely going to kill her momentum.

Youre mentioning soup in her kitchen, are you not wearing condoms? Im not saying come and keep loving but you don't have to pull out before you come at least. If she's getting close you should try to parlay it into yall coming at the same time. GL

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

If it comes out of the bladder I think it can be rounded up to pee, even if it's not exactly the same as a normal pee.

It is a liquid expelled from the bladder via the exact delivery method that pee is. I think you're splitting hairs here.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Masonity posted:

If it comes through the urethra I think we can round it up to pee. Therefore men ejaculate piss.


No?




Nah because semen isn't stored or produced in the bladder, an organ that pretty much exists to store liquid waste(pee). If you have to specify "very very little urea" you're making allowances for a non-zero amount of urea which is not ever a concern when a dude ejaculates. Sorry if I touched a nerve though. I'm not saying its eww super gross women squirt pee eww.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Hydrolith posted:

There's also this thing: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/doxy/ . Still needs to be plugged in, though.

edit: oh jesus gently caress. Don't read their latest comic unless you have a furry piss fetish. :barf:

what the gently caress happened to erika moen jesus Goddamn gently caress.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

I haven't been reading the sex toy comic. I used to like her autobio stuff though. Christ on a pita.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

If you get hit that means you were talking poo poo, hope this helps

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

gently caress da Mods posted:

Do I have to use lube for anal? My girls trying to tell me my spit isn't enough, personally I'd love to go dry (maximum pleasure).

Any compromise suggestions?

maximum pleasure (of flaying the flesh from your dick)

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

If it wasn't for obvious trolls this thread would get like 1 post a month, it is the only thing keeping it alive

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Yeah here's the thing they are not lying to you unless they're literally specifying an inch size that you know to be untrue. Like if you're at a 5 and they're like "drat boy your dick has got to be at least 8 inches long" they're probably being genuine. Just take the drat compliment you humble bragging goons.

It also can just be shorthand for "Your dick looks good/hot".

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

John Lee posted:

Maybe I'm being too picky here?


Youre being too something that's for sure

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

A 50S RAYGUN posted:

i heard we were subtly bragging about our dicks in here or did that ship already sail?????

If you can work it into a story about how wild and crazy your younger days were you can still get some dick bragging in

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Are you still sleeping on benches in Central Park?

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

He was considering it because apartments in NYC were so expensive. he's a fakeposter

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

I think you have to find that very special combination of a blow-ee who is open to the idea of teeth on their dick and a blow-er who knows juuuuuust how to involve teeth on a dick. It's like threading a needle.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Mad Hamish posted:

My girlfriend has an IUD and I've only felt the strings, like, twice.

Sorry to hear that bro

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

BurntCornMuffin posted:

Or let her on top, less chance of sweat and if you do, it's not stopping in hers. Plus, you get to chill and enjoy while she expresses herself, which is fun in its own right.

This is actually the worst idea for a sweaty butt since he will just leave a huge soaking sweat skidmark on the bed

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Crazyeyes posted:

Thank you everyone for your input. As I am 25 and very much want children someday (5-8 years from now), I will not be getting a vasectomy.

I am concerned that she has been so traumatized by whatever horrible sex ed program she had in high school that she is absolutely 100% convinced that "no condom = pregnancy" (although these other methods we've discussed have better success rates as far as I can tell online).


The hormonal IUD was also discussed, yes. Doesn't make much difference since she is too squeamish to even discuss alternatives to the pill with her doctor. Also worried what her parents will think because they are nosy assholes. The whole thing is very :confused:

Id say you need to turn yourself in to Chris Hansen because you're obviously dating a fourteen year old but sadly I know there are all too many people out there of sexhaving age who are not of sexhaving maturity. I dont really know what to tell you to do here since acting like you are king brains of sex mountain and 'educating' her will probably just breed resentment in her that you think you're smarter than she is and trying to convince her she's wrong is coming dangerously close to browbeating someone into a sexual situation they're not comfortable with, even though she's uncomfortable with it for ignorant, unrealistic reasons, she's got the final say here.

All you can really do is decide if she's worth a few years of condoms while she learns about her body and the world and gets more comfortable with herself as a sexhaver (this may never happen depending on how messed up and shamed she has been about sex during her development). You are 25, how old is she? If she's younger she's probably still dealing with a bunch of weird baggage she's been handed about sex her whole life. If she's 25 like you are though its possible it's not something she will change her attitude about. Either way I think that level of education and comfort has to be something she achieves on her own, short of supporting her and I guess having access to actual factual facts about BC. You don't want to have to convince and wheedle and wear somebody down til they finally let you stick it in raw. That's not going to be a good scene for anybody.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Rubber band might do it. If it's dark. Youll want to stealthily remove it from your dilz before you gently caress cause you dont want to leave a rubber band inside someone

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

hoobajoo posted:



EDIT: about the pee coming from the vagina thing, maybe these guys think "vagina" means the whole general package, and not the fairly specific part that it is? I want to believe that, at least.

Oh absolutely. Like, we're not really taught the difference between vagina, labia, clitoris, vulva, etc. All of these are words that unless you try to learn, you just sort of lump them together under the heading of 'vagina' and move on with your day. That whole zone is all vagina unless you're a gynecologist.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

John Lee posted:

I actually feel a little bit personally insulted by this, even though it looks like I shouldn't be? It sounds like my experiences weren't typical, but all my male friends know the difference between a vagina, labia, clitoris, and vulva, because they're all clearly very different objects. And though admittedly the subject hasn't been covered much, I know for sure that at minimum a majority know about penis words as well; glans, Cowper's fluid, etc. A lot of this is covered even is adolescent anatomy books: "This is the VULVA. The inside part is called the VAGINA, and it leads to the UTERUS" and so on.My kneejerk reaction is to say you're all idiots who pay no attention, but it seems very unlikely for that to be true, and quite likely that I had the unusual experiences. But that makes me feel... whoo. Like taking to a crazy conspiracy guy on the bus, and then a bunch of other people all corroborate that yeah, EVERYONE know radio waves rot your teeth, man, it's a commonly-known fact, and then I have to reevaluate my entire Accepted View of the World.

I mean I think a lot of guys know that now. I don't think most people are taught that in sex ed, or if they are it's very brief and never repeated past the one class that most people have at age 11-13 or so. I barely remember sex ed class but I know I didn't know what a clitoris was until late high school, and I didn't start making the vulva/vagina distinction until some time in my 20s. I think most people know the clitoris if only because of the joke about guys not being able to find it.

Generally guys have to seek that information out, it's not really presented to people much, and a lot of dudes don't care to make that effort.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Just gently caress and be as loud as you naturally would be, drat. gently caress em, you're a grown rear end adult.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Anorgasmia was my favorite Swedish goth band in the late 90s. Shame they broke up, they'd have concerts but nobody would come.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Yeah you're real young. When I was a teenager my gf didn't climax for a while after we started bangin. You try a few different things. There's ways to stimulate the clit while youre bangin, either with your hands or your own pubic area.

You tried it with her on top? That's a popular one for young ladies trying to make it work from penetrative sex.

Just gently caress a lot. Youll find something that works for you. Even if she never comes with a D in her V that's not weird or unusual at all and you can still have a lot of fun with it.

purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Jerk off better, then.

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purple death ray
Jul 28, 2007

me omw 2 steal ur girl

Have some Goddamn self control and/or turn 30.

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