EasternBronze posted:I wonder if this board would be so eager to lay bare the thought processes behind this attack if the killer had been Muslim and his manifesto had included some long winded exhortations about honour? Whats the correlation between being an MRA and violence vs. being Muslim and violence?
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# ¿ May 27, 2014 22:01 |
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# ¿ May 19, 2024 09:42 |
copper rose petal posted:I missed this before. It's good you brought this up, I wanted to tell you that...
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# ¿ May 28, 2014 01:46 |
snorch posted:Something tells me you're being sarcastic, but it rings true either way. The amount of otherization on both sides of the whole thing is staggering and someone's got to be the first to get the gently caress over it and be civil for a moment. Is it because they will die otherwise? Is it because now they have the credible threat of hurting others if they are not treated with such compassion? If you are simply calling for politeness and perhaps the occasional firm but civil refutation of views, possibly even sprinkled with "I reject your views but not your person," that is fair enough. But BOY!
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# ¿ May 31, 2014 17:58 |
SealHammer posted:If I hate women and believe that everyone supporting women is out to destroy me, then telling me that I'm a crazy rear end in a top hat who is a danger to those around him is probably not going to dislodge me from my views. Quite the contrary, I'm probably going to see that as evidence supporting my delusions and further entrench myself in them. Like, this just seems to cast the assholes back in the center of things, you know? I suppose it is better in some sense, since the therapeutic project seems theoretically limited, and has an actual goal rather than just "obey or get punished." To be completely clear, this is not meant to condemn reasoned or civil conversation with avowed misogynists in order to get them off their woman-hating horse and reform them into civilized individuals; I am also not going to condemn someone who was a dumb teenager or even early-twenties-er and got into this stuff but later grew out of it. Pope Fabulous XXIV posted:You just identified stance of the "respectable" reactionary on literally every issue of import.
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# ¿ May 31, 2014 20:09 |
Ungoal posted:lmao D&D is literally the laughing stock on SA now.
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# ¿ May 31, 2014 21:42 |
Judakel posted:A huge part of the reason accusers aren't allowed to confront the victim in the process he highlighted is simply because that was one of the major reasons people did not come foward. I suppose putting it like that implies a presumption of guilt. Rather: Why should you necessarily have the potential opportunity to silence your accuser in such a way?
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 00:55 |
Kiwi Ghost Chips posted:The fundamental right of due process has a cost, yeah.
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 01:46 |
I anticipate ten iterations of "OH SO BUYING SOMEONE A DRINK IS RAPE NOW" in the near future. Excitement! As for the cross-examination thing, I have no issues with that, but I do think this might be an edge case where, perhaps, you get a public defender or your own lawyer and you can't be your own lawyer. I don't know what the statistics are and I suspect they haven't been well tracked, but if significant numbers of rapes are going unreported in fear of having to get screamed at by your rapist in front of an audience, that is a problem. And I'll go ahead and anticipate "so you hate the Constitution and civil trials, good to know, heh" kinds of replies: I don't, not at all. But the justice system is not some received entity that we were handed down from Mt. Vernon through the agency of Lord Washington when Zwarte Piet carried it down and was immediately clapped in irons. Surely there is some modification that can be made, some alternate regulation, which would not leave this problem (if there is one - yes, yes, alarmism, whatever) unaddressed.
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 16:38 |
Omi-Polari posted:Well, that all sounds good. But someone explain to me how any this will stop people like Elliot Rodger? I think it's at least a neighboring branch though.
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 16:46 |
copper rose petal posted:It's not getting screamed at that is the reason rapes go unreported. It's the fact that police don't believe rape victims and are not trained to interview them differently than they interview suspects. It's that rape victims fear no one will believe them if they admit that they kissed the guy after their date and then he pushed his way inside the house and raped her, because kissing is seen as an invitation to further sexual contact no matter how many times you say no after. It's that a judge can tell a woman who's been drugged and raped repeatedly by her own husband that she needed to "forgive her attacker" and then gave him zero jail time. It's that prosecutors know that a victim's sexual history will be brought up during trial and unless they have the Perfect Victim, they won't get a conviction because juries also exist in a culture where victim blaming is the norm, so they don't even bother bringing the case to trial. It's that rape victims commit suicide after being forced to hold up the underwear they were wearing at the time of the rape during a trial after he dragged her into a park and raped her. All that stuff is horrible though... even so, it seems as if we might could possibly address multiple things at once. I suppose this is to some extent the goal of all the "awareness raising," isn't it?
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 16:50 |
Arakan posted:well i learned one thing, if me and my girl go out and get hosed up then have sex we are raping each other, so thanks for that If this sounds ridiculous, you know what else sounds ridiculous? "I bought her two drinks so she obviously wanted it, so please dismiss this rape case."
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 16:57 |
Hodgepodge posted:I'm actually a little wary of the "if drunk, then rape" standard, mostly because both parties are often drunk at the time. And assuming that only men want sex while drunk sends the message that only men want sex, with all the problems which come with that. Also because my experiences with that situation are complicated and confusing. I don't like to feed the narrative of women having sex and then regretting it, but it has happened when the woman in question initiated the encounter with me while we were both drunk (literally pulling me off the couch into bed with her). Sex is kind of confusing for young people. I'm not sure that needs harsh legal penalties making it worse. Or maybe I'm just hypocritical and a rapist. I don't expect D&D to be kind. I do think there is a sort of toxic cultural detail where it becomes "okay" to experience sexual desire and act on it after you've drunk about twenty dollars worth of liquor, because "you're drunk" and that means you're not "bad," but the line between the effects of alcohol and its social and cultural assumptions is a hazy and blurry one.
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 17:16 |
ToastyPotato posted:You haven't adequately explained what happens in the situation where both people are drunk. No rational person would argue that when one person is drunk and the other isn't, that taking advantage of that drunk person isn't wrong. Date rape is wrong. But your wording goes beyond that and offers no exceptions, which is highly unrealistic and oversimplifying adult interaction. 2. Seems fine to me, assuming consent is not withdrawn during the act 3. No problem The corrollary to these is the situation where someone regrets what they did later, but I have never gotten the impression that there is some epidemic of "wow, I regret that one night stand. Oh I know, I'll accuse him of rape!" and I'm not sure where this came from. There are by contrast numerous situations where people have plied others with liquor and other drugs in order to get ''consent'' which was not in their collective right minds, and then went "aha! You said it was OK after that sixteenth shooter! " I guess I would personally note that I don't get the appeal of getting totally shitfaced in order to gently caress, but I guess we have this culture-wide fetish for that which is its own separate ball of wax.
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 18:55 |
rkajdi posted:Again, keep on agreeing with Glen Beck-- that's worked out so well for people in the past. The question would then be how to establish a legal standard which is able to define rape of the intoxicated as rape, without (presumably) also technically outlawing this drunken gently caress-party people seem to crave, even though it would seem as a practical matter that a consensual in-home drunken gently caress-party with your s.o. is effectively no issue, because neither party will press charges.
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 19:10 |
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# ¿ May 19, 2024 09:42 |
GreyjoyBastard posted:In theory, if we had an actual healthy response to rape reports, women would feel comfortable enough with the accusation that a rare few would use it frivolously.
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# ¿ Jun 1, 2014 19:15 |